Taurus Guy Update..[long]

So i was here before, talking about how there was this t-guy that my friend said i should probably talk to in order to keep my options open because the other 1st t-guy that i was crazy about told me that he wasn't ready for a serious relationship and needed to 'focus on himself.' I said, ok honestly i'm not ready either right now. Kinda said it to give him a taste of his own medicine. He kept saying he was sorry over and over. So ive been cordial with him, but not giving him the attention i did before. Anyway, so t-guy #2 doesn't really catch my attention so i'm not really putting in any effort into texting him or hanging out; more like if it happens, it happens and if it doesn't its not going to bother me..

But, back to t-guy #1 - he just baffles me. After he told he wasn't ready, i stopped contacting him completely. Found out through fb (his best friend and his wife happens to be a friend of mine) that he went on a trip with them that same wk..i saw a pic he was tagged in, and the oddest thing was he just looked so sad. So week 2 goes by, and he texts me. I didn't text him til the next day and i was very short. He said he just wanted to say hi and how i was doing. i said 'im fine.' Then one day he asked to hangout with me (btw we haven't had sex yet) and assuming that's all he wanted i said no i didnt think going to his place was a good idea and he said that's not what he meant but ok. I thought he would just give up, but he kept trying to talk to me after that. I got alittle annoyed cuz he never acted that way except when we first started talking. I mean, he even spies on me on fb and instagram after i deleted him and i know he talks about me to his best friend too..soo odd!!So i said im not into being an option to anyone and that he could find someone else for that crap. He said well thanks for ur honesty and thats all he was trying to be with me. i said, ok. Im thinking hes def going to move on now..NOPE. It's like now that im being distant and not paying so much attention, hes being all nice now and paying attention. I've just been friendly/cordial with him now cuz im just trying to keep my options open to move on. But few wks ago he wanted to see me, i said ok fine. He was acting kinda shy, but he started opening up how he's been planning on moving out of his place, and that hes been working tons of hours lately trying to make more money. I said 'oh'. Then he started teasing me and then he just kissed me..and then he reached to hold my hands. I l

..Then he started teasing me and then he just kissed me..and then he reached to hold my hands. I let go super fast. Then we talked some more and he dropped me off cuz he had to get up at 5am. It was nice to see him but didnt take it serious. Then the next wk he wanted to see me again, but i said i wasnt feeling good. Then i realized he wanted to see me before he went out of town to visit friends in Baltimore. He wrote me a little while he was out there. Then he came back 2days later. Ok so i was drunk one night, and i told him that this time i want to see him and he said that he was sorry and that hes just been really busy and that it would be soon. I said ok. Then a few days ago, he texts me and then he called me an hr later. He rarely ever called, and whenever he did he was so quiet and id feel akward so we wouldnt talk for more than 10min. This time, we talked for an hr and he was asking me what i was doing and that he just left the store and joking/teasing me and just wanted to say hi and he tells me i could ask him anything he wants and then he got home and he started falling asleep. I asked how his band was doing since he was always focused on that and he said that hes over it now..i could tell he was a little upset about it so i left it alone.(Maybe he realizes things need to change?)Anyway, I said wake up and hes like well ur not here to keep me awake and i was like, 'ooooh'..He just wanted to hear my voice until he fell asleep. I kinda thought that was sweet..but my guard is up still. This was the other day....i just don't know what to do with this situation? Do i still keep my options open? He doesnt know i am, but i thought he would of left me alone by now, but he hasn't and i guess it can't be about sex cuz its been a year and he could of went for it aloong time ago. I snooped around to see if maybe theres other chicks, but i cant find any evidence of that either. He just confuses me sometimes with the way he acts. So how do i continue with this? Its been a year now. He said he wasn't ready..so wth? why be nice now? why would u start opening up to me now?

Maybe i should probably cut ties with him, and just completely move on

Posted by tiziani
Well it's been a year, I'm sure he's been through some changes. As have you. If he makes you hate him this much then yeah probably best to avoid a bad romance.

I dont hate him..im actually crazy for him. It's just his behavior mind boggles me. But i guess ill accept that things wont go anywhere at all-and ill still keep my options open until i find someone else.