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Posted by PillowFortBuilderHmm...My Aqua sister has those placements and most of her relationships have been with Leos. (The way you described your relationship is the way I'd describe how they were together.) Her longest relationship now though has been with a Cap Sun with an Aqua Venus.
I'm a leo sun, cap moon, libra mars, and cancer venus.
I haven't met someone like you describe.
My latest relationship was a cancer sun, libra moon, cancer mars, and leo venus. She made me feel appreciated and cared for. I always felt "rested" after spending time with her. The relationship ended cause I felt it was too boring at the end of the day. No excitement or stimulation. I always purred like a kitten though around her.
My best friend and I tried to work take it to another level but that was a disaster. She's a aquarius sun, taurus moon, scorp mars, and cap venus. She gets me better than anyone else. We both know what the other is feeling however we both drive each other crazy. Our personalities clash and we become hypocritical even though we're doing the same thing. Too much alike and different at the same time.
My longest relationship (7 years) was with a cap sun, leo moon, scorp mars, aqua venus. While it started as exciting yet comfortable we both were too immature. I haven't felt comfortable with anyone as I have with her.

Posted by PillowFortBuilderHmm I see your point. As a Libra, I would not be able to deal with that either..
The cancer was a very caring and accommodationing. The problem was she was a bit too much. So if we had a disagreement about something so simple as a movie, I could easily sway her opinion. She had no backbone and I totally got away with anything. Our conversations became bland very quickly to me as she would laugh at my jokes but not come back with anything to contribute.
We would always do what I wanted to do and her idea of fun wasn't something I particularly enjoyed.

Posted by jane84I like boring, I would kill for boring.
I'm a leo su It's funny you describe the relationship with the Cancer as boring even though she made you feel appreciated and cared for... I wondered if anyone would feel as if that type of relationship would be boring...as you did. It makes me think do people need that up and down excitement to stay? I had that with my ex (Taurus) and a Gemini. Too much up and down in the relationship though...not knowing how they felt etc. I left both of those relationships, it threw me off balance too often. My Sag is definitely not boring though...so there is that stimulation there as well.
I hope you find a combination of what you are looking for. It seems like you know what you want in a relationship.>
Posted by rabidtalkerIf you've been through a lot, boring or "calm" is a great feeling. It's not something every sign/person seeks however. Is there a reason why you say that? The only cancer I have in my family is my Dad. And judging from our relationship, I don't think I would be able to make a Cancer feel loved and appreciated. We just don't get each other.Posted by jane84I like boring, I would kill for boring.
I'm a leo su It's funny you describe the relationship with the Cancer as boring even though she made you feel appreciated and cared for... I wondered if anyone would feel as if that type of relationship would be boring...as you did. It makes me think do people need that up and down excitement to stay? I had that with my ex (Taurus) and a Gemini. Too much up and down in the relationship though...not knowing how they felt etc. I left both of those relationships, it threw me off balance too often. My Sag is definitely not boring though...so there is that stimulation there as well.
I hope you find a combination of what you are looking for. It seems like you know what you want in a relationship.>click to expand
Posted by PillowFortBuilderMaybe that's what it is... You are seeking this person who has all that you wish for. Unfortunately that is hard to come by. Having standards is good, expectations are a whole other ballgame. But I understand the waiting. I waited over a year after my relationship/marriage ended with my ex. It's not a good idea to date while you are still having trouble getting over someone. I wish you the best!
Yeah I'm honestly not sure what I want a relationship. I've learned that if i have expectations nobody could live up to them.
I need to date around and see what's out there but first I need to take some time to get the aqua off my mind. I can't date while still wishing the aqua and I would have worked.

Posted by jane84I'm generally a calm and peaceful person so i feel like i draw the crazy.... plus i'm on of those types where if you are sort of sad or crazy it starts to rub off on me and then i feel that way, it's too much and messes with my life.
If you've been through a lot, boring or "calm" is a great feeling. It's not something every sign/person seeks however. Is there a reason why you say that? The only cancer I have in my family is my Dad. And judging from our relationship, I don't think I would be able to make a Cancer feel loved and appreciated. We just don't get each other.
Posted by arose32That's how I was with the Taurus. Inseparable, but never smooth. As I've grown older, I feel like smooth is much better. It's a different kind of relationship. To each their own, but that's just how I feel.
But me and the sag was never smooth... Always something... But we were inseparable ...
Posted by rabidtalkerI often see this combination (sun sign wise). What do you feel kept this relationship going?
me: cancer sun, pisces moon, aries mars, leo venus
her: taurus sun, cap moon, leo mars, taurus venus
Posted by jane84Thanks and you're exactly right. In my head I have the perfect girl. Someone who is fun, slightly manipulative, and adds to my story. It's hard to explain but I guess it's the leo sun in me. It's a selfish view on relationships that I worked thru and now I take each person as a new experience to learn about someone else and learn about myself. This can be kinda hard when pulling a synastry chart cause I catch myself saying "eh air moon or water mars".Posted by PillowFortBuilderMaybe that's what it is... You are seeking this person who has all that you wish for. Unfortunately that is hard to come by. Having standards is good, expectations are a whole other ballgame. But I understand the waiting. I waited over a year after my relationship/marriage ended with my ex. It's not a good idea to date while you are still having trouble getting over someone. I wish you the best!
Yeah I'm honestly not sure what I want a relationship. I've learned that if i have expectations nobody could live up to them.
I need to date around and see what's out there but first I need to take some time to get the aqua off my mind. I can't date while still wishing the aqua and I would have worked.click to expand

Posted by jane84the sex... lol. and we never fought, pretty good combo, really.
I often see this combination (sun sign wise). What do you feel kept this relationship going?
Posted by rabidtalkerDifferent strokes for different folks. Boring and unsatisfying are two different things. Maybe I used the wrong term.Posted by jane84I like boring, I would kill for boring.
I'm a leo su It's funny you describe the relationship with the Cancer as boring even though she made you feel appreciated and cared for... I wondered if anyone would feel as if that type of relationship would be boring...as you did. It makes me think do people need that up and down excitement to stay? I had that with my ex (Taurus) and a Gemini. Too much up and down in the relationship though...not knowing how they felt etc. I left both of those relationships, it threw me off balance too often. My Sag is definitely not boring though...so there is that stimulation there as well.
I hope you find a combination of what you are looking for. It seems like you know what you want in a relationship.>click to expand
Posted by rabidtalkerOh good, so I'm not the only one?? LolPosted by jane84I'm generally a calm and peaceful person so i feel like i draw the crazy.... plus i'm on of those types where if you are sort of sad or crazy it starts to rub off on me and then i feel that way, it's too much and messes with my life.
If you've been through a lot, boring or "calm" is a great feeling. It's not something every sign/person seeks however. Is there a reason why you say that? The only cancer I have in my family is my Dad. And judging from our relationship, I don't think I would be able to make a Cancer feel loved and appreciated. We just don't get each other.
I'm sure you've heard this before that not all crabs are the same, a lot of it is their moon and house placement. Also, feeling like you dont get a crab is normal.... lol
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Posted by PillowFortBuilderYeah definitely hard when you are visiting sites like this and trying NOT to judge according to their chart. Lol But I'm glad you have found a way to just get to know the person.Posted by jane84Thanks and you're exactly right. In my head I have the perfect girl. Someone who is fun, slightly manipulative, and adds to my story. It's hard to explain but I guess it's the leo sun in me. It's a selfish view on relationships that I worked thru and now I take each person as a new experience to learn about someone else and learn about myself. This can be kinda hard when pulling a synastry chart cause I catch myself saying "eh air moon or water mars".Posted by PillowFortBuilderMaybe that's what it is... You are seeking this person who has all that you wish for. Unfortunately that is hard to come by. Having standards is good, expectations are a whole other ballgame. But I understand the waiting. I waited over a year after my relationship/marriage ended with my ex. It's not a good idea to date while you are still having trouble getting over someone. I wish you the best!
Yeah I'm honestly not sure what I want a relationship. I've learned that if i have expectations nobody could live up to them.
I need to date around and see what's out there but first I need to take some time to get the aqua off my mind. I can't date while still wishing the aqua and I would have worked.
I wish I was as smart as you by taking a year off after a divorce. I tried to get back into the game once I was able to stop crying and hid my anger on dates. I had a string of rebounds and hurt some people by letting g them believe I was ready for more than I actually was or I was wrecked when things weren't moving at a pace I wanted.
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Posted by rabidtalkerI see. Lol I know one couple that is going strong. The other my Taurus friend and her ex Cancer husband...not so much.Posted by jane84the sex... lol. and we never fought, pretty good combo, really.
I often see this combination (sun sign wise). What do you feel kept this relationship going?click to expand
Posted by ForeverlovemeAww I truly hope you do!Posted by jane84Still waiting to experience this. Congratulations to you, and hope you enjoy every moment of it and cherish him
What sun sign/moon/venus/mars has been your best connection? (Include yours as well.) I'm not big on the soulmate thing or what relationship was "perfect" because I don't believe in that. All relationships have issues. And I'm not talking sexual relationships here (even though I know that's a big part of it.) I just want to know who has made you feel the most loved and cared about. That feeling when someone truly understood how you felt and did something about it. That relationship that is smooth because you both "get each other." And when you go to sleep at night, you know they love you. No mysteries.
Sun/Moon/Venus/Mars
I'm a Libra/libra/Scorpio/Sag and he is a Sag/Cancer/Cap/Scorpio.
I've been with a Taurus, Gem, and Aqua...none of those relationships felt like this.click to expand
Posted by PillowFortBuilderThis is a prime example of a water/fire sun sign clash. Ive seen this a lot in my fire sign friends (most are female) who date water or earth sun suns. In the beginning the love they love the caring & stability but over time that fire needs to spread. All the cuddling, agreeing & sweetness is wonderful for the ego, but it doesn't feed the fire.
The cancer was a very caring and accommodationing. The problem was she was a bit too much. So if we had a disagreement about something so simple as a movie, I could easily sway her opinion. She had no backbone and I totally got away with anything. Our conversations became bland very quickly to me as she would laugh at my jokes but not come back with anything to contribute.
We would always do what I wanted to do and her idea of fun wasn't something I particularly enjoyed.
Posted by moondustMy Libra friend did the same thing! We went on an Italy trip together and she told me to find a Sag, that it was a great connection. Lol At the time I still was not looking for anything. That was about 7 months before I met my BF. And I didn't know he was a Sag until months after getting to know him, but there was just something different about him and the way I felt when I was around him.
I love Libra-Sag couples!!! a Libra friend of mine just settled down when she met a Sag. They've been together for almost 4 years now.
I'm Aqua Sun/Gemini Moon/Aqua Venus/Gemini Mars
I think my best connection was a Gemini...Gemini Sun/Scorpio Moon/Gemini Venus/Taurus Mars (I have a friend who has almost the same placements...she's a Virgo rising and he's an Aqua rising)
Posted by rabidtalker+1.Posted by jane84I like boring, I would kill for boring.
I'm a leo su It's funny you describe the relationship with the Cancer as boring even though she made you feel appreciated and cared for... I wondered if anyone would feel as if that type of relationship would be boring...as you did. It makes me think do people need that up and down excitement to stay? I had that with my ex (Taurus) and a Gemini. Too much up and down in the relationship though...not knowing how they felt etc. I left both of those relationships, it threw me off balance too often. My Sag is definitely not boring though...so there is that stimulation there as well.
I hope you find a combination of what you are looking for. It seems like you know what you want in a relationship.>click to expand
Posted by jane84Sextiles are far more exciting than the astrology books claim. Everyone says date your own element, I think complimentary elements are more exciting, you learn far more and you grow in interesting ways... especially long term. I think there was a thread some time ago about sextile relationships being ideal.Posted by moondustMy Libra friend did the same thing! We went on an Italy trip together and she told me to find a Sag, that it was a great connection. Lol At the time I still was not looking for anything. That was about 7 months before I met my BF. And I didn't know he was a Sag until months after getting to know him, but there was just something different about him and the way I felt when I was around him.
I love Libra-Sag couples!!! a Libra friend of mine just settled down when she met a Sag. They've been together for almost 4 years now.
I'm Aqua Sun/Gemini Moon/Aqua Venus/Gemini Mars
I think my best connection was a Gemini...Gemini Sun/Scorpio Moon/Gemini Venus/Taurus Mars (I have a friend who has almost the same placements...she's a Virgo rising and he's an Aqua rising)
Btw there are many Aquas in my life. One of who is getting married to a Gemini this summer. They have a connection that I cannot describe. Everyone says they are made for each other. 🙂click to expand
Posted by CocoKatI do believe water and earth go well together..and fire and air go well together.Posted by rabidtalker+1.Posted by jane84I like boring, I would kill for boring.
I'm a leo su It's funny you describe the relationship with the Cancer as boring even though she made you feel appreciated and cared for... I wondered if anyone would feel as if that type of relationship would be boring...as you did. It makes me think do people need that up and down excitement to stay? I had that with my ex (Taurus) and a Gemini. Too much up and down in the relationship though...not knowing how they felt etc. I left both of those relationships, it threw me off balance too often. My Sag is definitely not boring though...so there is that stimulation there as well.
I hope you find a combination of what you are looking for. It seems like you know what you want in a relationship.>
This is why I prefer water or earth SUNS for relationships. We value harmony & day to day easiness, we don't need constant fights for passion. I stir mine up from bottom of my deep earth... my partner from the depths of his ocean.click to expand
Posted by CocoKatYes! Definitely something about that sextile relationship. It's exciting, yet you have some things in common as well. The Sag and I have an optimistic outlook on life. That "get over it, brush yourself off, and keep moving" attitude. It works really well.Posted by jane84Sextiles are far more exciting than the astrology books claim. Everyone says date your own element, I think complimentary elements are more exciting, you learn far more and you grow in interesting ways... especially long term. I think there was a thread some time ago about sextile relationships being ideal.Posted by moondustMy Libra friend did the same thing! We went on an Italy trip together and she told me to find a Sag, that it was a great connection. Lol At the time I still was not looking for anything. That was about 7 months before I met my BF. And I didn't know he was a Sag until months after getting to know him, but there was just something different about him and the way I felt when I was around him.
I love Libra-Sag couples!!! a Libra friend of mine just settled down when she met a Sag. They've been together for almost 4 years now.
I'm Aqua Sun/Gemini Moon/Aqua Venus/Gemini Mars
I think my best connection was a Gemini...Gemini Sun/Scorpio Moon/Gemini Venus/Taurus Mars (I have a friend who has almost the same placements...she's a Virgo rising and he's an Aqua rising)
Btw there are many Aquas in my life. One of who is getting married to a Gemini this summer. They have a connection that I cannot describe. Everyone says they are made for each other. 🙂click to expand
Posted by starloverWell hey loving yourself is a good thing.
Sun Scorpio
Moon Taurus
Venus Scorpio
Mars Taurus
With myself
Seriously
It was a long time coming
Posted by jane84Yes, its just more manageable. I mean any 2 people willing will make it work but simple day to day compatabilty is most important. I always look at sun to sun and mars to mars first.Posted by CocoKatI do believe water and earth go well together..and fire and air go well together.Posted by rabidtalker+1.Posted by jane84I like boring, I would kill for boring.
I'm a leo su It's funny you describe the relationship with the Cancer as boring even though she made you feel appreciated and cared for... I wondered if anyone would feel as if that type of relationship would be boring...as you did. It makes me think do people need that up and down excitement to stay? I had that with my ex (Taurus) and a Gemini. Too much up and down in the relationship though...not knowing how they felt etc. I left both of those relationships, it threw me off balance too often. My Sag is definitely not boring though...so there is that stimulation there as well.
I hope you find a combination of what you are looking for. It seems like you know what you want in a relationship.>
This is why I prefer water or earth SUNS for relationships. We value harmony & day to day easiness, we don't need constant fights for passion. I stir mine up from bottom of my deep earth... my partner from the depths of his ocean.
I mean it could work otherwise, but there's a more simple ease to the relationship this way it seems.click to expand
Posted by jane84Yes... Like OMG. She messed me up so much. Like I'm talking to new people but I miss the I intensity. Not all of it, but it's like ... I kinda embrace others flaws now... I guess when you really comfortable with someone you start to show your TRUE TRUE colors. And sometimes we would laugh at each other crazy ways and sometimes we would hate each other for it. Like now...Posted by arose32That's how I was with the Taurus. Inseparable, but never smooth. As I've grown older, I feel like smooth is much better. It's a different kind of relationship. To each their own, but that's just how I feel.
But me and the sag was never smooth... Always something... But we were inseparable ...
Do you feel as though the "never smooth, always something" part is the reason it's hard to let go of?click to expand
Posted by arose32I understand. Yes, we were really comfortable with each other.. In fact to this day he says I knew him better than he knew himself and vice versa. But I stay away from him and rarely even talk to him. He crushed my heart...into a thousand pieces and then stepped all over it. Lol I won't explain. But he says I did the same by leaving him. Last thing he said to me is that "if it's not you, I will never get married again." In all honesty, I truly feel we weren't meant to be. Our differences just kept building a bigger wall between us. There was a lot of passion...just not the understanding needed to sustain a relationship.Posted by jane84Yes... Like OMG. She messed me up so much. Like I'm talking to new people but I miss the I intensity. Not all of it, but it's like ... I kinda embrace others flaws now... I guess when you really comfortable with someone you start to show your TRUE TRUE colors. And sometimes we would laugh at each other crazy ways and sometimes we would hate each other for it. Like now...Posted by arose32That's how I was with the Taurus. Inseparable, but never smooth. As I've grown older, I feel like smooth is much better. It's a different kind of relationship. To each their own, but that's just how I feel.
But me and the sag was never smooth... Always something... But we were inseparable ...
Do you feel as though the "never smooth, always something" part is the reason it's hard to let go of?
The last stunt she pulled. Was TOTALLY UNCALLED FOR. But I miss her so much ��'� But I know it's for the better.
Did you guys break each other's heart?click to expand
Posted by pakmaiI'm happy for you. 🙂
Pisces/Virgo/Aquarius/Pisces/Aquarius/Gemini R.
Leo/Sagittarius/Leo/Libra/Gemini/Virgo R.
I was sure our synastry would be hell but he is the best guy ever. Water and Earth signs don't stimulate me even close to where Air signs (especially) or Fire signs do. He's really dominant but so passionate and romantic. Hes very straightforward and honest, it's a breath of fresh air. We communicate about almost everything. I use to be so anxious in the past but with him.. I haven't felt any anxiety at all! And we go on so many adventures!!! I love that the most!! He's always down to try something new. He came at the right time and I'm really happy with him!
Our house compatibility is fantastic too! I think that's what makes up for our charts.
Posted by GeminiamI see a LOT of Gemini and Aries Couples. One Gemini female and Aries male couple I know have been together for years now.
I wouldn't go as far as to say I know he loves me yet, but current relationship is the most I have felt understood and cared for, smooth and healthy, easy, comfortable..definitely feel in sync. He can keep up with me, we entertain each other endlessly, but we can also be very loving and understanding.
Me: Gemini / Taurus / Gemini / Scorpio / (Virgo rising)
Him: Aries / Gemini / Pisces / Pisces / (Scorpio rising)
Posted by arose32I'm sorry. I hope you find the one for you. Everyone should be cherished in their life.
@jane84
Omg same here.. She broke my heart into a million pieces.. And took the pieces and threw them lol. I still crave her sooo much, but I'll let it end. We at the point where it's nothing else to do but be together... Ya know. And so the bad traits come out because it's too much love there, and at this time and point we can't love each other like we once did. But I know she'll do great things... I'm proud of her regardless, but she begin to fall in love with power more than loving me... And I'm thinking maybe because she felt more vulnerable than me... But who knows, I'm picking up my own pieces and getting back out there...
But yeah, it sucks... Because that passion is the best. But I don't think she can see herself with a girl for the rest of her life...



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Sun/Moon/Venus/Mars
I'm a Libra/libra/Scorpio/Sag and he is a Sag/Cancer/Cap/Scorpio.
I've been with a Taurus, Gem, and Aqua...none of those relationships felt like this.