too good to date ?

Hello guys, as promised in my other topic"pisces needs help with capricorn guy" this is the outcome of his friend letting him know that i like him too--

a quick summary( I am friend with this cap guy for 4 years now.. always felt like something was going on... finally he lets his friend know he likes me.. i talk with the friend, telling him i like the cap guy too but i will like to talk to his cap guy and discuss it with him.)


so the friend tells me the cap guy really likes me but does not want to ruin the friendship. and specially i am "too good" "too nice" ..."too perfect" for him because he is a bad guy and don't want to get involve romantically with me because of that. if it was any other girl he wouldnt hesitate but with me he can't because i am just a too nice person.


seriously isn't that the dumbest excuse ever?? what does he mean I am too perfect( he will tell me too sometimes.. things like you are the best, i swear you are the best) .

I am kinda confused i feel like it is just an excuse but why would he tells his friend he likes me and wants to know if i do too if he is not going to have a relationship with me.

sometimes the most simple situation tend to look more complicated when your heart is involved. This is why i want your insight on this matter.

thannkkss

If he is saying this obviously he knows himself well enough to know that eventually he's going to hurt u. You can't change someone because you want to and he already knows you will not change him permanently. Listen to him he is speaking from the heart. I once had a guy say, you are too good for me and I don't want to hurt you...it meant I want you badly until somone better comes along and then I'll be off and you will get hurt. His warning kept him at arms length and saved me from pain!

I've had that happen a couple of times. Once was for being "too good a person" and the other was because I was "too pretty for them".

The friend who said I was too good a person didn't want to ruin me. He couldn't handle the thought of hurting me whatsoever (even though he could still hurt me as a friend but whatever) so he avoided a deeper relationship. The other thinking that I was too good looking for him was because he's a very jealous type and he couldn't handle me being hit on every time we go out. He said it would drive him so crazy that he would end up a clingy, possessive mess that wouldn't allow me out of his sight for a second.

I consider these confessions, and their avoidance to pursue a more intimate relationship with me, to be a blessing really. My bf doesn't necessarily like it when guys try to be all over me but trusts me enough to not let it go too far and is quite flattered that I receive as much attention as I do. It boosts his ego because he's the one who has me. Also, my being "too good" is a magnet for him and not a repellent. So screw that other noise!