P-Angel
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A Woman's feelings ......
Emotional Masochism?
Dang, I've been doing it wrong this all time!
Fact- Women are more emotional and sensitive than man, and by senstive I don't mean weak. They have slightly different priorities than men (thank god!). I don't know how you made that into "a woman wants to have her feelings in pain" .... but whatever works for you. lol
Fact- Women are more emotional and sensitive than man, and by senstive I don't mean weak. They have slightly different priorities than men (thank god!). I don't know how you made that into "a woman wants to have her feelings in pain" .... but whatever works for you. lol
Wow, Elle ♥
Words of fuckery coming from a uh...Pisces...Lmao.
Pain can do two things...weaken you or strengthen you. It's your choice.
One only has to look in dxp .... women will know full well what to do, what has happened (when using brain cells) ... but, completely forgo any usage of those cells, and call upon as many people as possible to dwell on the emotional injury.
I find it all pretty disgusting .. and actually feel sorry guys in that they have to put up with the fucking bullshit.
I find it all pretty disgusting .. and actually feel sorry guys in that they have to put up with the fucking bullshit.
Posted by SizzurpPosted by RealTalk
Words of fuckery coming from a uh...Pisces...Lmao.click to expand
Awwww, someone got their feelings hurt by a Pisces.
It's all good
Uh...yes I did. MY FUCKING BROTHER. But you thought I was talking about being in a relationship with one right— Hahahaha...NEVER THAT. My own brother did some foul shit, yes I was hurt because he's blood, & ya shouldn't do certain things to relatives in the same breath as calling them your family. So guess what? Being the VIRGO that I am...I got him right back...yup. Revenge is best served cold. I usually give people the whole bottle of medicine, not the recommended dosage. People don't like when you give them a taste of it.
Woo! Go Generalization!
I feel so understood! 😄
...I need a font for sarcasm.
I feel so understood! 😄
...I need a font for sarcasm.
Posted by P-Angel
Look all through this site .. it is loaded full of female bullshit where nothing has really happened to her, yet, she is in here all up in arms because he MIGHT not call her tonight, or maybe he likes his dog better than her, or she texted him 50 times and he hasn't responded back so now she must endure suffering for it.
Hmmmmmmmmmmm.
Posted by IntriguedScorp
What I have noticed in this crazy thing called life is that negative feeling is addictive and as such we tend to keep going back to pain because in many ways we become addicted to these thoughts. Its like--how good does it feel to relive a relationship in our mind that didn't work out and the relive the heartbreak? Once you dwell on a feeling you get used to it and draw it up almost as a comfort. For some reason painful feelings draw up easier.
Think about it: how many times have you wallowed in happy, joyful? Maybe at the beginning of a relationship and maybe during key moments in your life.
How many of us have wallowed in painful thoughts a self-pity? ALL the time. You daydream about the "one" that got away, etc. etc. or that night you passionately kissed someone only to have it not turn out right. You think you are thinking about the kiss, but inside you are feeling the pain.
I'm sure there is some biology behind this but I have neither the time nor the inclination to find out.
^^^
Posted by seraph
"The plain fact is that if you don't have a problem, you create one. If you don't have a problem you don't feel that you are living."
Seems as though very few people are able to comprehend this reality .... most seem to be oblivious
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Posted by Tora
Woo! Go Generalization!
I feel so understood! 😄
...I need a font for sarcasm.
Exactly. Once again, a load of b.s. of this site.
Posted by ellessque
It's a hot and muggy summer evening and you've been waiting to go outside and play the whole day because it's been raining. You've snuck a mason jar out of mom's cupboard and took dad's screwdriver and hammer to poke holes in the top of the lid.
It's finally time!!!!!
You throw off your shoes as soon as you hit the back porch so you can feel the wet grass in between your toes. It's not quite dark yet, but almost. You patiently wait for the sun to go ALL the way down (because no matter how many aries placements you have, you can't MAKE the sun go down any faster) You decide to distract yourself by enticing the neighbor girls to a game of tv tag.
Dusk finally turns to black and you SEE THEM!!!!!!!!!!! YES!!!!!!!!! You chase those little buggers like your life depends on it. Scooping each one up carefully so you don't "ruin it" by accidentally scraping off the light. Putting each one inside the jar until you have this magnificent jar of sparkles in front of you.
You sprawl out on the grass with the neighbor girls and just watch, so awestruck that you don't even care your shorts are all wet from the damp grass.
You hear dad call you from the back door telling you it's time to come in. You excitedly unscrew the lid from the jar and release the fireflies into the night beause your visit with them is over and it's time for them to go home too.
I guarantee, at least ONCE, everyone has forgotten to take the lid off the jar and ended up with a big old mess of stinky dead bugs. Hopefully, that experience created a memory that you are supposed to take the lid off before you go in for the night.
Women chase feelings. Okay, I can't make that broad of a statement because you don't, so I'll speak for myself. *I* chase feelings.
Feelings are like those fireflies.
There are a few times I forgot to take the lid off or didn't take it off soon enough because I was a little selfish and wanted to see MORE or stay out much longer than I was supposed to.
However, every single evening I chased those fireflies was different. Each being unique and just exciting as the previous night.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with feelings. It's what you choose to do with them that matters.
The reality of this is so close to women, that they are blinded to it .... day by day, new threads are made by women for no other purpose except to embrace how much they hurt, they ask for people to support this pain.
A current example ... we have a woman who lost her man, she said in her own words that the ending of their relationship is set in stone and she would never get him back ..... yet, she makes her debute thread in dxp to memorialize how much it fucking hurts her, and not only does she ask for others to join in her misery, she welcomes it.
Women are so fucked up, seriously. Women love injured feelings. Look around dxp and in the RW .. you'll witness more women rejoicing in how much they hurt, than how much they are emotionally happy.
Sure, they'll say they love, but, that is the tongue and it says alot ... to say you love, isn't love. I'm talking about emotional reactions. Women react to pain armoursly, and react to love bitter-sweet.
I feel sorry for men, truly .. in that they are the ones who have to put up with our emotionaly bullshit.
A current example ... we have a woman who lost her man, she said in her own words that the ending of their relationship is set in stone and she would never get him back ..... yet, she makes her debute thread in dxp to memorialize how much it fucking hurts her, and not only does she ask for others to join in her misery, she welcomes it.
Women are so fucked up, seriously. Women love injured feelings. Look around dxp and in the RW .. you'll witness more women rejoicing in how much they hurt, than how much they are emotionally happy.
Sure, they'll say they love, but, that is the tongue and it says alot ... to say you love, isn't love. I'm talking about emotional reactions. Women react to pain armoursly, and react to love bitter-sweet.
I feel sorry for men, truly .. in that they are the ones who have to put up with our emotionaly bullshit.
Posted by P-Angel
The reality of this is so close to women, that they are blinded to it .... day by day, new threads are made by women for no other purpose except to embrace how much they hurt, they ask for people to support this pain.
A current example ... we have a woman who lost her man, she said in her own words that the ending of their relationship is set in stone and she would never get him back ..... yet, she makes her debute thread in dxp to memorialize how much it fucking hurts her, and not only does she ask for others to join in her misery, she welcomes it.
Women are so fucked up, seriously. Women love injured feelings. Look around dxp and in the RW .. you'll witness more women rejoicing in how much they hurt, than how much they are emotionally happy.
Sure, they'll say they love, but, that is the tongue and it says alot ... to say you love, isn't love. I'm talking about emotional reactions. Women react to pain armoursly, and react to love bitter-sweet.
I feel sorry for men, truly .. in that they are the ones who have to put up with our emotionaly bullshit.
i opened a thread in taurus
"are you feeling good today?"
i got one response
and that was for
hunger
hey
i respect a womans feelings
what has she left, at times
she can use them
or abuse them
she can decide
what declines
i respect a womans feelings
what has she left, at times
she can use them
or abuse them
she can decide
what declines
I shouldn't go here... but I am.
P-Angel makes a very valid point... and at the very least, it IS something to ponder.
I heard once to my disbelief... that women are addicted to suffering. I cannot generalize and say it is ALL... but I could say it is a majority. Genetic... I don't know. Environmental conditioning ? Again, I don't know.
We've all seen it... Hollywood makes a killing off of it. The 'Bridges of Madison County' comes to mind for one. A story about love tasted but never to be. If she would have left her home for this man, her true love... she would have been forever content, right ? Instead, they both died alone in their own longing... only their ashes to share with the other. Just a movie, I know... but how many women here have a deep love for someone... THAT someone NOT being the person they are with. Why is this so ? How many women here are having an emotional affair with someone... knowing full well it may never be ? How many women here live their dramas, vicariously through another. "Women like to be in emotional pain", as P-angel put it. THAT emotional pain can be suffered in many ways... the need to create a delemma that was not there before... often at that moment when everything seems to rest perfectly in its place.
When a woman speaks of broken things, a man will attempt to fix them... she didn't say she wanted them fixed. "You never listen to me", she might say. She now has reason to tell her girlfriends, her mother, and/or her sister(s) (could even be another man)... that her man just doesn't get it... who all might reply with something like: "that fucking bastard ! You should leave him !" She was seeking validation... she thought her man understood. No one really knows what was really broken here... it was really HER trying to find something to break... pricking her finger on the spinning wheel. Too much of a good thing maybe... now she wants to suffer somehow or in some way... and that she will... she has fallen in the well.
Men are like dogs really... driven to please their master for a little treat. He doesn't need validation, just a reward... the proverbial 'pat on the head' that she can express in the bed. In this situation, he thinks that saving her from her suffering will make her proud. He will not be getting any treats for some time to come now.
Women and there complexities... such paradoxical creature... and me, I love them all !
P-Angel makes a very valid point... and at the very least, it IS something to ponder.
I heard once to my disbelief... that women are addicted to suffering. I cannot generalize and say it is ALL... but I could say it is a majority. Genetic... I don't know. Environmental conditioning ? Again, I don't know.
We've all seen it... Hollywood makes a killing off of it. The 'Bridges of Madison County' comes to mind for one. A story about love tasted but never to be. If she would have left her home for this man, her true love... she would have been forever content, right ? Instead, they both died alone in their own longing... only their ashes to share with the other. Just a movie, I know... but how many women here have a deep love for someone... THAT someone NOT being the person they are with. Why is this so ? How many women here are having an emotional affair with someone... knowing full well it may never be ? How many women here live their dramas, vicariously through another. "Women like to be in emotional pain", as P-angel put it. THAT emotional pain can be suffered in many ways... the need to create a delemma that was not there before... often at that moment when everything seems to rest perfectly in its place.
When a woman speaks of broken things, a man will attempt to fix them... she didn't say she wanted them fixed. "You never listen to me", she might say. She now has reason to tell her girlfriends, her mother, and/or her sister(s) (could even be another man)... that her man just doesn't get it... who all might reply with something like: "that fucking bastard ! You should leave him !" She was seeking validation... she thought her man understood. No one really knows what was really broken here... it was really HER trying to find something to break... pricking her finger on the spinning wheel. Too much of a good thing maybe... now she wants to suffer somehow or in some way... and that she will... she has fallen in the well.
Men are like dogs really... driven to please their master for a little treat. He doesn't need validation, just a reward... the proverbial 'pat on the head' that she can express in the bed. In this situation, he thinks that saving her from her suffering will make her proud. He will not be getting any treats for some time to come now.
Women and there complexities... such paradoxical creature... and me, I love them all !
sounds like you've never been free
If it hurts, use that hurt to understand what to do/or not do the next go round, but then let it go.
The problem is far too many (both women and men, but mostly women) choose to nurse it (hold it close, never let it go away) and rehearse it (talk about it all damn day and night long, every single freaking day and night). No one is exempt from pain, in life we all get a turn on the wheel of love gone wrong. However, IMO, pain/hurt/heartache is like a bad storm, and to date, I have never seen a storm that didn't end. Problem is, some people act as if this is the worst they have or ever will hurt, like it is the end to everything. In time it can and does pass...but only if you stop nursing it and rehearsing it and start reversing it. by this I mean, wave bye bye to it already. Me personally, if it was painful, I want it gone. the sooner the better. I do have that choice. I can choose to wave bye bye to it.
P-Angel was spot on when she initially created this post.
The problem is far too many (both women and men, but mostly women) choose to nurse it (hold it close, never let it go away) and rehearse it (talk about it all damn day and night long, every single freaking day and night). No one is exempt from pain, in life we all get a turn on the wheel of love gone wrong. However, IMO, pain/hurt/heartache is like a bad storm, and to date, I have never seen a storm that didn't end. Problem is, some people act as if this is the worst they have or ever will hurt, like it is the end to everything. In time it can and does pass...but only if you stop nursing it and rehearsing it and start reversing it. by this I mean, wave bye bye to it already. Me personally, if it was painful, I want it gone. the sooner the better. I do have that choice. I can choose to wave bye bye to it.
P-Angel was spot on when she initially created this post.
@ David...hey you, what's good...hope all is going okay with that other situation. I have been away for a couple weeks, but I should probably go read up on the other forum to see if there are new developments for you...🙂
Posted by David13Posted by dimitri
sounds like you've never been free
And you are... ?click to expand
your conscience
can you feel it?
Posted by dimitri
i opened a thread in taurus
"are you feeling good today?"
i got one response
and that was for
hunger
I'm not surprised in the least. Now, if you opened a thread asking who wants to share their love loss stories, you'd have every woman in the room posting so fast, you can't keep up with reading it all.
Pity, actually ....
And the part that is the saddest is that these women truly believe that it is positive energy.
Because they loved, that is all that is recognized and they believe that because of this love they are filled to the brim with positive loving energy ... when in reality, they are wallowing in negative energy .. and they have no clue to it.
That is the real tragedy here ....
Because they loved, that is all that is recognized and they believe that because of this love they are filled to the brim with positive loving energy ... when in reality, they are wallowing in negative energy .. and they have no clue to it.
That is the real tragedy here ....
sentimentality is
a vehicle for feelings
to cover all eventualities
that require reasoning
for feelings are a
bottomless pit
and therein hide all
who hide from reality
how sad the sentimentalist
that tests the water
to find
how shallow it is
a vehicle for feelings
to cover all eventualities
that require reasoning
for feelings are a
bottomless pit
and therein hide all
who hide from reality
how sad the sentimentalist
that tests the water
to find
how shallow it is
Posted by SoooGem
@ David...hey you, what's good...hope all is going okay with that other situation. I have been away for a couple weeks, but I should probably go read up on the other forum to see if there are new developments for you...🙂
YES ! WHERE have YOU BEEN SoooGem ?!! I think you have a lot of catching up to do ! Missed YOU !
people hurt me all the time
but it just doesn't stick
anymore
but it just doesn't stick
anymore
hurting leads to the soul
where it is stored in a memory bank
where it is stored in a memory bank
memory bank's full.
delete
delete
delete
delete....
delete
delete
delete
delete....
bump
Posted by P-Angel
One only has to look in dxp .... women will know full well what to do, what has happened (when using brain cells) ... but, completely forgo any usage of those cells, and call upon as many people as possible to dwell on the emotional injury.
I find it all pretty disgusting .. and actually feel sorry guys in that they have to put up with the fucking bullshit.
Amen to that. I can say I have been there and after so much hurt have steered clear of the hurt completely by dating a sweet man and cutting all ties with jerks and those who didn't respect me.
I remember going back to the ones who hurt me because the feelings were so intense. So dumb.
Lots of men choose these emotionally stunted women because they are easier to control. I don't feel sorry for these men. They know the deal from jump. I do agree with P-Angel that there are a lot of women out here manufacturing psycho drama as a way of life. I have a few female friends and they are Alpha women like myself. We never fight and we don't have drama. We are too busy exploring the world and living our lives.
Posted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
Lots of men choose these emotionally stunted women because they are easier to control. I don't feel sorry for these men. They know the deal from jump. I do agree with P-Angel that there are a lot of women out here manufacturing psycho drama as a way of life. I have a few female friends and they are Alpha women like myself. We never fight and we don't have drama. We are too busy exploring the world and living our lives.
True that. I find myself more comfortable in the company of such women, though they are few and far between where I come from.
Posted by happykitsunePosted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
Lots of men choose these emotionally stunted women because they are easier to control. I don't feel sorry for these men. They know the deal from jump. I do agree with P-Angel that there are a lot of women out here manufacturing psycho drama as a way of life. I have a few female friends and they are Alpha women like myself. We never fight and we don't have drama. We are too busy exploring the world and living our lives.
True that. I find myself more comfortable in the company of such women, though they are few and far between where I come from.click to expand
Evolved Alpha women are everywhere. They can be challenging to find because they usually don't hang out in huge cliques. Also, they are not the everyday kind of roll dawg buddy. You are lucky if you see them a couple of times a month. But, in the end they are awesome got your back won't put with crap kind of friends.
If a woman was sound enough of mind to make rational judgements for herself, then nobody else would have to.
Posted by Lenore0908
It comes down to low self esteem and a lack of confidence.
Where I disagree with P angel is judging people. You never know what happened in a woman's life that led to her developing a victim mentality.
It's easy to look objectively at people when they are not you. Instead of judging, a person could be helping.
+100
P-Angel
Perhaps you could be of great help to these types of women (and men) you speak of by offering tips/ advice on how they can face their insecurities and fears so that they can start to move forward and beyond these issues. That would be waaaaaay more effective than just judging and complaining about them...which is a form negativity by the way. Be positive and offer your aide in the matter, as I do not doubt you will be able to give common sense advice. Good luck
Perhaps you could be of great help to these types of women (and men) you speak of by offering tips/ advice on how they can face their insecurities and fears so that they can start to move forward and beyond these issues. That would be waaaaaay more effective than just judging and complaining about them...which is a form negativity by the way. Be positive and offer your aide in the matter, as I do not doubt you will be able to give common sense advice. Good luck
Posted by starlover
*feel good when hurting*
Jeeez yeah if they are screwed up/dysfunctional...i know plenty of women that arent like this at all. It is such a sweeping and huge generalisation!
Maybe you should get out more and stop stereotyping people?
::shakes head::
yep i know alot of women who aren't like this as well - i think all this has to do with a person's conditioning, some were raised to belieive that emotional pain was something to dwell on while others were raised that emotional pain was unhealthy and to let it go
It's all true.
There's a Scorpio right now who has befriended a person she doesn't want to be a friend with ... and then comes to dxp to whine about how she doesn't want this for herself, and then attempts to make it the fault of people around her.
It was never about the friend ... it was always about her enjoying suffering.
There's a Scorpio right now who has befriended a person she doesn't want to be a friend with ... and then comes to dxp to whine about how she doesn't want this for herself, and then attempts to make it the fault of people around her.
It was never about the friend ... it was always about her enjoying suffering.
Posted by P-Angel
It's all true.
There's a Scorpio right now who has befriended a person she doesn't want to be a friend with ... and then comes to dxp to whine about how she doesn't want this for herself, and then attempts to make it the fault of people around her.
It was never about the friend ... it was always about her enjoying suffering.
So true. I had to get rid of lots of friends during my early 30's because they just wanted to whine about their other friends and their crappy marriages. I am like "You have identified the problem. Next step, is seeing how you have contributed to the situation, and then take some action so that you don't have to complain about it." And their reaction to me was to go crazy and write like 10 page emails about how I am a horrible unsympathetic person etc. At the time, I was going through a major breakup, miscarriage, and the death of my father all in a 6 month period. And I brought out the proverbial Samurai sword and started cutting ties to all those crazy chicks. Now, my life is SOOO much better. My advice to women is to acknowledge that you may be in a crappy situation but, don't let it freakin' define your whole life story.
People are just trying to get the adrenal rush to numb out. Just like smoking, or drinking. It's just something to hide pain. It's not just strictly women.
I LOVE to feel good!!! I love good emotions...good feelings, BUT I will occasionally basically embrace the hurtful emotions...sadness etc. At the end of the day, Im just proud I feel something cause its all better than feeling numb imho.
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That's a fact that seems to escape most people, even women.
A woman wants to have her feelings in pain. And evidence of this is in the simple facts that get acted out as a reaction to hurt feelings every day.
For example: if her feelings are hurt, she tells everyone she knows, so that these painful memories of her emotional injury is a constant reminder, so she can continue to embrace how much it hurt her.
let's be realistic here .. if you don't like something, you veer away from it, you avoid it, you remove it from your life. BUT, if you keep it close to you via talking about hit always, hashing it out over and over = that isn't removing it from you because you don't like it ........ that's keeping it close to you because you like it.
Fact! Women like to be in emotional pain.
Another example: if something isn't broken, if something isn't an emotional slight or injury against her .. then she finds something to cry about - she will look for a reason, or an opportunity to be emotional.
Look all through this site .. it is loaded full of female bullshit where nothing has really happened to her, yet, she is in here all up in arms because he MIGHT not call her tonight, or maybe he likes his dog better than her, or she texted him 50 times and he hasn't responded back so now she must endure suffering for it.
Seriously ..... I'm so glad I'm a gay man trapped in a female body because I wouldn't be able to handle having a female mind-set