INTJ emotionally conflicted virgo
@coldwateryvirgo
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Afraid of marriage
I do have fear of abandonment which contribute
Im not ready for this kind of kermitment! 😂😂😂
Posted by magma2And have ye all been faithful to each other ?
I'm one of 8 siblings, all of us so far have been in lifelong marriages except one. His first marriage lasted 17 years, and his current one is right around 25 years and counting. There is very little divorce in my family for the last few generations and not very much divorce in the majority of the families we married into. The advantage to that is that we were raised in homes where we got to understand realistically what a forever relationship was.
Any of us will tell you that we started out like everyone else who had a good relationship: attraction, courtship, then marriage. Once any of us find the right person it takes on a life of its own and everyone says wow, what a great couple.
Every single one of us will also tell you that in a nutshell, it's selfishness that destroys relationships, even the best ones, and potentially, our own. That means that many marriages could have been forever if one or both partners hadn't gotten too selfish. I know, it's too simple, but it's true, we all say the same thing.
I've have quite a bit of age and experience but even now there will be a situation where I'm not quite sure what the best approach would be with someone in a certain situation, until I put myself in their shoes. Then I know because I know what would work for me. If I treat them the same as I would want to be treated, the failure rate is extremely low and even on the rare occasions when it has failed, I get to walk away with a clear conscience. It's amazing how well that one simple kindergarten "Golden Rule" works when it is consistently practiced. I hope this helps even one person.
The reason I ask is, there were two couples in my family where there was infidelity, one half of one of the couple had three affairs but I was the only one that knew. The rest of the family blabbed on about what wonderful couples they were lol
Hypocrisy
Posted by coldwateryvirgoas long as you keep your husband happy, you would have no worries of abandonment.
I do have fear of abandonment which contribute
there's that saying, happy wife, happy life.
i would think it's the same with husband too, happy husband,happy life.
if someone keeps abusing you and gaslighting you, accusing you of things constantly, hurting you,
then both of you are not happy because there's an underlying issue from the person who keeps gaslighting.
or if they are physically abusive.
i would never marry someone who didnt have their psychological shit together, but this is only after i realized from the past. same with me, if we both have underlying psychological issues that cannot be healed.
if they don't have their issues, these very very deep wounds ; underlying issues dealt with, you cannot go forward together in life in happiness.
if they don't have their issues, these very very deep wounds ; underlying issues dealt with, you cannot go forward together in life in happiness.
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by magma2And have ye all been faithful to each other ?
I'm one of 8 siblings, all of us so far have been in lifelong marriages except one. His first marriage lasted 17 years, and his current one is right around 25 years and counting. There is very little divorce in my family for the last few generations and not very much divorce in the majority of the families we married into. The advantage to that is that we were raised in homes where we got to understand realistically what a forever relationship was.
Any of us will tell you that we started out like everyone else who had a good relationship: attraction, courtship, then marriage. Once any of us find the right person it takes on a life of its own and everyone says wow, what a great couple.
Every single one of us will also tell you that in a nutshell, it's selfishness that destroys relationships, even the best ones, and potentially, our own. That means that many marriages could have been forever if one or both partners hadn't gotten too selfish. I know, it's too simple, but it's true, we all say the same thing.
I've have quite a bit of age and experience but even now there will be a situation where I'm not quite sure what the best approach would be with someone in a certain situation, until I put myself in their shoes. Then I know because I know what would work for me. If I treat them the same as I would want to be treated, the failure rate is extremely low and even on the rare occasions when it has failed, I get to walk away with a clear conscience. It's amazing how well that one simple kindergarten "Golden Rule" works when it is consistently practiced. I hope this helps even one person.
The reason I ask is, there were two couples in my family where there was infidelity, one half of one of the couple had three affairs but I was the only one that knew. The rest of the family blabbed on about what wonderful couples they were lol
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keeping up appearances.
Posted by lisabethur8Yes, Lisa....it's bullshitPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by magma2And have ye all been faithful to each other ?
I'm one of 8 siblings, all of us so far have been in lifelong marriages except one. His first marriage lasted 17 years, and his current one is right around 25 years and counting. There is very little divorce in my family for the last few generations and not very much divorce in the majority of the families we married into. The advantage to that is that we were raised in homes where we got to understand realistically what a forever relationship was.
Any of us will tell you that we started out like everyone else who had a good relationship: attraction, courtship, then marriage. Once any of us find the right person it takes on a life of its own and everyone says wow, what a great couple.
Every single one of us will also tell you that in a nutshell, it's selfishness that destroys relationships, even the best ones, and potentially, our own. That means that many marriages could have been forever if one or both partners hadn't gotten too selfish. I know, it's too simple, but it's true, we all say the same thing.
I've have quite a bit of age and experience but even now there will be a situation where I'm not quite sure what the best approach would be with someone in a certain situation, until I put myself in their shoes. Then I know because I know what would work for me. If I treat them the same as I would want to be treated, the failure rate is extremely low and even on the rare occasions when it has failed, I get to walk away with a clear conscience. It's amazing how well that one simple kindergarten "Golden Rule" works when it is consistently practiced. I hope this helps even one person.
The reason I ask is, there were two couples in my family where there was infidelity, one half of one of the couple had three affairs but I was the only one that knew. The rest of the family blabbed on about what wonderful couples they were lol
Hypocrisy
keeping up appearances.
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Posted by magma2Ok thanks...it's just your portrayal of marriage reminded me of the WaltonsPosted by MyStarsShineFrom what I understand, one of my sisters had an affair that lasted for some amount of time, but she and her husband are still together. That's all I know of.Posted by magma2And have ye all been faithful to each other ?
I'm one of 8 siblings, all of us so far have been in lifelong marriages except one. His first marriage lasted 17 years, and his current one is right around 25 years and counting. There is very little divorce in my family for the last few generations and not very much divorce in the majority of the families we married into. The advantage to that is that we were raised in homes where we got to understand realistically what a forever relationship was.
Any of us will tell you that we started out like everyone else who had a good relationship: attraction, courtship, then marriage. Once any of us find the right person it takes on a life of its own and everyone says wow, what a great couple.
Every single one of us will also tell you that in a nutshell, it's selfishness that destroys relationships, even the best ones, and potentially, our own. That means that many marriages could have been forever if one or both partners hadn't gotten too selfish. I know, it's too simple, but it's true, we all say the same thing.
I've have quite a bit of age and experience but even now there will be a situation where I'm not quite sure what the best approach would be with someone in a certain situation, until I put myself in their shoes. Then I know because I know what would work for me. If I treat them the same as I would want to be treated, the failure rate is extremely low and even on the rare occasions when it has failed, I get to walk away with a clear conscience. It's amazing how well that one simple kindergarten "Golden Rule" works when it is consistently practiced. I hope this helps even one person.
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Posted by magma2
I'm one of 8 siblings, all of us so far have been in lifelong marriages except one. His first marriage lasted 17 years, and his current one is right around 25 years and counting. There is very little divorce in my family for the last few generations and not very much divorce in the majority of the families we married into. The advantage to that is that we were raised in homes where we got to understand realistically what a forever relationship was.
Any of us will tell you that we started out like everyone else who had a good relationship: attraction, courtship, then marriage. Once any of us find the right person it takes on a life of its own and everyone says wow, what a great couple.
Every single one of us will also tell you that in a nutshell, it's selfishness that destroys relationships, even the best ones, and potentially, our own. That means that many marriages could have been forever if one or both partners hadn't gotten too selfish. I know, it's too simple, but it's true, we all say the same thing.
I've have quite a bit of age and experience but even now there will be a situation where I'm not quite sure what the best approach would be with someone in a certain situation, until I put myself in their shoes. Then I know because I know what would work for me If I treat them the same as I would want to be treated, the failure rate is extremely low and even on the rare occasions when it has failed, I get to walk away with a clear conscience. It's amazing how well that one simple kindergarten "Golden Rule" works when it is consistently practiced. I hope this helps even one person.
being selfish for eachother is quite different.
it can also work the other way, being too unselfish and giving of your time to other people and neglecting your SO.
you have to have balance.
Posted by FantumPosted by tizianiPeople freak out and claim they would NEVER EVER allow the things they hope won't happen to them in an effort to make those things unacceptable to everyone. They won't actually know until they live it.
Mostly I think it best for myself to listen to how relationships fail and accept that more than likely those will be things my relationship will go through, too. That way we've got the license to treat each other as human beings and friends even though failure and disappointment together.
I feel there's another approach that just winds up feeling like unnecessary pressure and expectation: it's the "promise perfection" / "all those other couples have failed where we won't" approach that just sets up a mountain of expectation.
It's fine to be idealistic really, I am, but I remember I used to be so idealistic about my parents and yet so unforgiving of any mistakes they made. once I saw them as human and got to know them a little more as friends, it was a much more rewarding relationship both ways, for me and them.click to expand
definitely.
no one really knows until one REALLY gets into the dirty work.
Posted by tizianiPosted by FantumI agree.Posted by tizianiPeople freak out and claim they would NEVER EVER allow the things they hope won't happen to them in an effort to make those things unacceptable to everyone. They won't actually know until they live it.
Mostly I think it best for myself to listen to how relationships fail and accept that more than likely those will be things my relationship will go through, too. That way we've got the license to treat each other as human beings and friends even though failure and disappointment together.
I feel there's another approach that just winds up feeling like unnecessary pressure and expectation: it's the "promise perfection" / "all those other couples have failed where we won't" approach that just sets up a mountain of expectation.
It's fine to be idealistic really, I am, but I remember I used to be so idealistic about my parents and yet so unforgiving of any mistakes they made. once I saw them as human and got to know them a little more as friends, it was a much more rewarding relationship both ways, for me and them.
"You never know until you've been tested"
Plus the fear of it happening will just increase the odds of it anyway.
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that's why peeps stay single.
Posted by magma2I was ribbing you, call me a cynic but I just see so much unhapppiness caused whereby people feel trapped for various reasons in r.ships that no longer make them happy. It's not so simplistic as just being selfish...people grow and grow away from each other and move on in order to grow morePosted by MyStarsShineThat's unfortunate because I don't know of any marriage including my own that is accurately represented by the Waltons program, like Camelot, sounds good on paper though.Posted by magma2Ok thanks...it's just your portrayal of marriage reminded me of the WaltonsPosted by MyStarsShineFrom what I understand, one of my sisters had an affair that lasted for some amount of time, but she and her husband are still together. That's all I know of.Posted by magma2And have ye all been faithful to each other ?
I'm one of 8 siblings, all of us so far have been in lifelong marriages except one. His first marriage lasted 17 years, and his current one is right around 25 years and counting. There is very little divorce in my family for the last few generations and not very much divorce in the majority of the families we married into. The advantage to that is that we were raised in homes where we got to understand realistically what a forever relationship was.
Any of us will tell you that we started out like everyone else who had a good relationship: attraction, courtship, then marriage. Once any of us find the right person it takes on a life of its own and everyone says wow, what a great couple.
Every single one of us will also tell you that in a nutshell, it's selfishness that destroys relationships, even the best ones, and potentially, our own. That means that many marriages could have been forever if one or both partners hadn't gotten too selfish. I know, it's too simple, but it's true, we all say the same thing.
I've have quite a bit of age and experience but even now there will be a situation where I'm not quite sure what the best approach would be with someone in a certain situation, until I put myself in their shoes. Then I know because I know what would work for me. If I treat them the same as I would want to be treated, the failure rate is extremely low and even on the rare occasions when it has failed, I get to walk away with a clear conscience. It's amazing how well that one simple kindergarten "Golden Rule" works when it is consistently practiced. I hope this helps even one person.
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I do though admire people that find true happiness in a forever and ever arrangement. 'Tis a rare thing !
Posted by FantumNoPosted by MyStarsShineSo, you are cynical that a marriage could be Walton-like, but you are looking for a marriage that is "true happiness in a forever and ever arrangement"?Posted by magma2I was ribbing you, call me a cynic but I just see so much unhapppiness caused whereby people feel trapped for various reasons in r.ships that no longer make them happy. It's not so simplistic as just being selfish...people grow and grow away from each other and move on in order to grow morePosted by MyStarsShineThat's unfortunate because I don't know of any marriage including my own that is accurately represented by the Waltons program, like Camelot, sounds good on paper though.Posted by magma2Ok thanks...it's just your portrayal of marriage reminded me of the WaltonsPosted by MyStarsShineFrom what I understand, one of my sisters had an affair that lasted for some amount of time, but she and her husband are still together. That's all I know of.Posted by magma2And have ye all been faithful to each other ?
I'm one of 8 siblings, all of us so far have been in lifelong marriages except one. His first marriage lasted 17 years, and his current one is right around 25 years and counting. There is very little divorce in my family for the last few generations and not very much divorce in the majority of the families we married into. The advantage to that is that we were raised in homes where we got to understand realistically what a forever relationship was.
Any of us will tell you that we started out like everyone else who had a good relationship: attraction, courtship, then marriage. Once any of us find the right person it takes on a life of its own and everyone says wow, what a great couple.
Every single one of us will also tell you that in a nutshell, it's selfishness that destroys relationships, even the best ones, and potentially, our own. That means that many marriages could have been forever if one or both partners hadn't gotten too selfish. I know, it's too simple, but it's true, we all say the same thing.
I've have quite a bit of age and experience but even now there will be a situation where I'm not quite sure what the best approach would be with someone in a certain situation, until I put myself in their shoes. Then I know because I know what would work for me. If I treat them the same as I would want to be treated, the failure rate is extremely low and even on the rare occasions when it has failed, I get to walk away with a clear conscience. It's amazing how well that one simple kindergarten "Golden Rule" works when it is consistently practiced. I hope this helps even one person.
I do though admire people that find true happiness in a forever and ever arrangement. 'Tis a rare thing !
No one is happy all the time. No relationship is happy all the time. That's not cynicism. It's reality.click to expand
I'm not looking for anything outside of myself....I've no need
Posted by FantumI was in onePosted by MyStarsShineSo, you prefer to not get married. That's fine. Some of us still want to be in marriages.Posted by FantumNoPosted by MyStarsShineSo, you are cynical that a marriage could be Walton-like, but you are looking for a marriage that is "true happiness in a forever and ever arrangement"?Posted by magma2I was ribbing you, call me a cynic but I just see so much unhapppiness caused whereby people feel trapped for various reasons in r.ships that no longer make them happy. It's not so simplistic as just being selfish...people grow and grow away from each other and move on in order to grow morePosted by MyStarsShineThat's unfortunate because I don't know of any marriage including my own that is accurately represented by the Waltons program, like Camelot, sounds good on paper though.Posted by magma2Ok thanks...it's just your portrayal of marriage reminded me of the WaltonsPosted by MyStarsShineFrom what I understand, one of my sisters had an affair that lasted for some amount of time, but she and her husband are still together. That's all I know of.Posted by magma2And have ye all been faithful to each other ?
I'm one of 8 siblings, all of us so far have been in lifelong marriages except one. His first marriage lasted 17 years, and his current one is right around 25 years and counting. There is very little divorce in my family for the last few generations and not very much divorce in the majority of the families we married into. The advantage to that is that we were raised in homes where we got to understand realistically what a forever relationship was.
Any of us will tell you that we started out like everyone else who had a good relationship: attraction, courtship, then marriage. Once any of us find the right person it takes on a life of its own and everyone says wow, what a great couple.
Every single one of us will also tell you that in a nutshell, it's selfishness that destroys relationships, even the best ones, and potentially, our own. That means that many marriages could have been forever if one or both partners hadn't gotten too selfish. I know, it's too simple, but it's true, we all say the same thing.
I've have quite a bit of age and experience but even now there will be a situation where I'm not quite sure what the best approach would be with someone in a certain situation, until I put myself in their shoes. Then I know because I know what would work for me. If I treat them the same as I would want to be treated, the failure rate is extremely low and even on the rare occasions when it has failed, I get to walk away with a clear conscience. It's amazing how well that one simple kindergarten "Golden Rule" works when it is consistently practiced. I hope this helps even one person.
I do though admire people that find true happiness in a forever and ever arrangement. 'Tis a rare thing !
No one is happy all the time. No relationship is happy all the time. That's not cynicism. It's reality.
I'm not looking for anything outside of myself....I've no need
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We are still best friends and have a lovely son....we are a happy family not living together ... I would not choose to live with anyone again, when we lived together it was not good
Posted by magma2Foresaking all othersPosted by RaakacThank you.Posted by magma2Well that's one kind person then 🙂 Best of luck for these 2!Posted by RaakacYes, actually it became public knowledge in that little town.Posted by magma2Does the husband know tho?Posted by MyStarsShineFrom what I understand, one of my sisters had an affair that lasted for some amount of time, but she and her husband are still together. That's all I know of.Posted by magma2And have ye all been faithful to each other ?
I'm one of 8 siblings, all of us so far have been in lifelong marriages except one. His first marriage lasted 17 years, and his current one is right around 25 years and counting. There is very little divorce in my family for the last few generations and not very much divorce in the majority of the families we married into. The advantage to that is that we were raised in homes where we got to understand realistically what a forever relationship was.
Any of us will tell you that we started out like everyone else who had a good relationship: attraction, courtship, then marriage. Once any of us find the right person it takes on a life of its own and everyone says wow, what a great couple.
Every single one of us will also tell you that in a nutshell, it's selfishness that destroys relationships, even the best ones, and potentially, our own. That means that many marriages could have been forever if one or both partners hadn't gotten too selfish. I know, it's too simple, but it's true, we all say the same thing.
I've have quite a bit of age and experience but even now there will be a situation where I'm not quite sure what the best approach would be with someone in a certain situation, until I put myself in their shoes. Then I know because I know what would work for me. If I treat them the same as I would want to be treated, the failure rate is extremely low and even on the rare occasions when it has failed, I get to walk away with a clear conscience. It's amazing how well that one simple kindergarten "Golden Rule" works when it is consistently practiced. I hope this helps even one person.
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I could not sleep with or trust anyone again that betrayed me. Everyone to their own though ....
Posted by FantumThank you. I'm not sorry now, it's all good and meant to be....the three of us are amazing friends and have so much in common . I've learned so much from those two men ❤️❤️Posted by MyStarsShineI understand. I'm sorry it didn't work out (if you are), but glad you've made decisions you feel good about.Posted by FantumI was in onePosted by MyStarsShineSo, you prefer to not get married. That's fine. Some of us still want to be in marriages.Posted by FantumNoPosted by MyStarsShineSo, you are cynical that a marriage could be Walton-like, but you are looking for a marriage that is "true happiness in a forever and ever arrangement"?Posted by magma2I was ribbing you, call me a cynic but I just see so much unhapppiness caused whereby people feel trapped for various reasons in r.ships that no longer make them happy. It's not so simplistic as just being selfish...people grow and grow away from each other and move on in order to grow morePosted by MyStarsShineThat's unfortunate because I don't know of any marriage including my own that is accurately represented by the Waltons program, like Camelot, sounds good on paper though.Posted by magma2Ok thanks...it's just your portrayal of marriage reminded me of the WaltonsPosted by MyStarsShineFrom what I understand, one of my sisters had an affair that lasted for some amount of time, but she and her husband are still together. That's all I know of.Posted by magma2And have ye all been faithful to each other ?
I'm one of 8 siblings, all of us so far have been in lifelong marriages except one. His first marriage lasted 17 years, and his current one is right around 25 years and counting. There is very little divorce in my family for the last few generations and not very much divorce in the majority of the families we married into. The advantage to that is that we were raised in homes where we got to understand realistically what a forever relationship was.
Any of us will tell you that we started out like everyone else who had a good relationship: attraction, courtship, then marriage. Once any of us find the right person it takes on a life of its own and everyone says wow, what a great couple.
Every single one of us will also tell you that in a nutshell, it's selfishness that destroys relationships, even the best ones, and potentially, our own. That means that many marriages could have been forever if one or both partners hadn't gotten too selfish. I know, it's too simple, but it's true, we all say the same thing.
I've have quite a bit of age and experience but even now there will be a situation where I'm not quite sure what the best approach would be with someone in a certain situation, until I put myself in their shoes. Then I know because I know what would work for me. If I treat them the same as I would want to be treated, the failure rate is extremely low and even on the rare occasions when it has failed, I get to walk away with a clear conscience. It's amazing how well that one simple kindergarten "Golden Rule" works when it is consistently practiced. I hope this helps even one person.
I do though admire people that find true happiness in a forever and ever arrangement. 'Tis a rare thing !
No one is happy all the time. No relationship is happy all the time. That's not cynicism. It's reality.
I'm not looking for anything outside of myself....I've no need
We are still best friends and have a lovely son....we are a happy family not living together ... I would not choose to live with anyone again, when we lived together it was not good
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Posted by FantumIt's goodPosted by MyStarsShineI wonder what to call that. I mean the marriage failed, so it's a "failed marriage" technically, but you're in a good place now and wouldn't have the son without the father.Posted by FantumThank you. I'm not sorry now, it's all good and meant to be....the three of us are amazing friends and have so much in common . I've learned so much from those two men ❤️❤️Posted by MyStarsShineI understand. I'm sorry it didn't work out (if you are), but glad you've made decisions you feel good about.Posted by FantumI was in onePosted by MyStarsShineSo, you prefer to not get married. That's fine. Some of us still want to be in marriages.Posted by FantumNoPosted by MyStarsShineSo, you are cynical that a marriage could be Walton-like, but you are looking for a marriage that is "true happiness in a forever and ever arrangement"?Posted by magma2I was ribbing you, call me a cynic but I just see so much unhapppiness caused whereby people feel trapped for various reasons in r.ships that no longer make them happy. It's not so simplistic as just being selfish...people grow and grow away from each other and move on in order to grow morePosted by MyStarsShineThat's unfortunate because I don't know of any marriage including my own that is accurately represented by the Waltons program, like Camelot, sounds good on paper though.Posted by magma2Ok thanks...it's just your portrayal of marriage reminded me of the WaltonsPosted by MyStarsShineFrom what I understand, one of my sisters had an affair that lasted for some amount of time, but she and her husband are still together. That's all I know of.Posted by magma2And have ye all been faithful to each other ?
I'm one of 8 siblings, all of us so far have been in lifelong marriages except one. His first marriage lasted 17 years, and his current one is right around 25 years and counting. There is very little divorce in my family for the last few generations and not very much divorce in the majority of the families we married into. The advantage to that is that we were raised in homes where we got to understand realistically what a forever relationship was.
Any of us will tell you that we started out like everyone else who had a good relationship: attraction, courtship, then marriage. Once any of us find the right person it takes on a life of its own and everyone says wow, what a great couple.
Every single one of us will also tell you that in a nutshell, it's selfishness that destroys relationships, even the best ones, and potentially, our own. That means that many marriages could have been forever if one or both partners hadn't gotten too selfish. I know, it's too simple, but it's true, we all say the same thing.
I've have quite a bit of age and experience but even now there will be a situation where I'm not quite sure what the best approach would be with someone in a certain situation, until I put myself in their shoes. Then I know because I know what would work for me. If I treat them the same as I would want to be treated, the failure rate is extremely low and even on the rare occasions when it has failed, I get to walk away with a clear conscience. It's amazing how well that one simple kindergarten "Golden Rule" works when it is consistently practiced. I hope this helps even one person.
I do though admire people that find true happiness in a forever and ever arrangement. 'Tis a rare thing !
No one is happy all the time. No relationship is happy all the time. That's not cynicism. It's reality.
I'm not looking for anything outside of myself....I've no need
We are still best friends and have a lovely son....we are a happy family not living together ... I would not choose to live with anyone again, when we lived together it was not good
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There is love .... that's all that matters at the end of the day
.......and where there is love, there is no failure
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Who has more power?
If you got invited to your exes wedding , would you attend the wedding?
If you were married with a child but for various reasons didn't love your husband anymore - may be he treats you like shit, but in other ways is a good provider, so you love your life with him, more than you love him; Would you throw it all away to start
Seriously
Every time one of my relationships (dating, talking etc) end the men getting into serious relationships and get married
I’m cursed you guys
A guy you knew with a serious gf and a baby on the way on a dating site what would you do
When it comes to relationships and cheating while I do agree with all the cliché's about why you shouldn't blame the other women blame him...
At what point do these women take some responsibility for their part in KNOWING?
Ex keeps telling everyone he wants me back and sending mixed signals that tell me he wants me. But won't tell me anything. He told my friends he wants me back and doesn't want to see me with anyone else, but the week before blew me off when I tried to sch
It seems like all marriage fail and divorcees preach exactly that. On top of that I grew up with .... unconventional background so parents weren’t marriage example either nor does any married people I’ve known throughout my life happy .
I want to get married but sometimes the thoughts of all the ways it can go wrong ... well makes you wonder why even bother