Age aint nothing but a number

(taking a line from DJ's playbook)

But seriously, is it though?

Have you ever known a couple with a large age gap, in which it didn't eventually cause problem?

In my experience as long as the gap is around 5-6 years it's fine...but once you get closer to a 10+ year gap it starts to become an issue.

Someone I know's dad is dating a girl just a few years older than her (his own daughter) and his defense is she's "very mature for her age" :/

Waiting for that one to fall apart. It just doesn't work in the long run imo

I know a couple here in my town, he is 90 and she is 54. They have been married for just over 30 years.

Posted by Mystik_Enigma
I know a couple here in my town, he is 90 and she is 54. They have been married for just over 30 years.

Wow!!

Posted by Arrius

Posted by Mystik_Enigma
I know a couple here in my town, he is 90 and she is 54. They have been married for just over 30 years.

So when they met, he was 60 and she was . . . 24? Wow.

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:/

Someone has serious daddy issues

It does feel wrong! Like on some. Anna Nicole shit

When I was 18 in highschool I dated a few 16 year olds. Their parents didn't mind.

Though at 21 I was at a party and 16 year old was hitting on me hard, but I avoided her because it felt extremely wrong.

My dad and his girlfriend - 24 years age gap.

My mother was one year younger.

It's not the age gap that's causing problems with them. It's my dad's pattern with batshit crazy women. Both his gf and my mother are like this. Idk, maybe crazy sex is that good.

It's hilarious because she preyed on him. Utterly obsessed with him. And it's weird because she gets along with her father great so it's not daddy issues.

I was home for a week recently. At some point there was an argument and he refuses to fight so he got in the car to leave. As he was speeding she threw himself on the windshield. I haven't seen scenes like in 15 years. Bad deja vu.

But they make it work for..10 years now so...if this is happiness to both of them then good for them.

herself*

Yup, he's a Virgo.

You start yelling at him and throwing objects at him..he will sidestep or walk away.

I think drama whores are all about Virgo men because it's easily to trap them through guilt complexes "You got with me, now accept my crazy ways. I am your responsability, how dare you abandon me?". He's so put together in all other areas of life..it's just love life where he can't just abandon a woman. It's a crime in his eyes. He would accept if the women chose to part but he won't break up himself.

I asked him about the dramatic patterns and he said that's how he sees someone cares for him. Idk, I love him and he's my dad and a great human being so if that's his way...ok then.

Yeah, I love the annoying Virgo. He is just..ugh. sometimes. But then again, all us Virgos are just..ugh sometimes.

I wish the best for both him and my mother.

Posted by brianafay

Posted by Arrius

Posted by Mystik_Enigma
I know a couple here in my town, he is 90 and she is 54. They have been married for just over 30 years.

So when they met, he was 60 and she was . . . 24? Wow.

:/

Someone has serious daddy issues

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# sugardaddy

That's my observation.

Posted by Rambunctious76

Posted by Damnata
YBut then again, all us Virgos are just..ugh sometimes.

*throws stuff at you*
*throws books at you*
*throws vases and lightbulbs at you*

/runs away

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*bewildered look*

I'm in this relationship and actually just out of coincidence each man that I've dated has been at least 15 years older than me... It honestly works out better for me. I've never identified with my peer group. (I'm 24).

Posted by DeepWaterSting
I do not know why but I tend to attract younger women. I do not seek them out - they seem to find me. I agree though that their maturity matters and its rare to find compatibility when there is a huge age gap that way. Sooner or later after the sexual passion wears off you wonder if you really have anything in common.

Yeah this is what I suspect...it's hard for such a large gap to last

I had an older guy pursue me in my early 20s...he was mid 30s...over 10 year gap...it could have been I wasn't in the right place in my life, or I just wasn't that into him, but I couldn't see it going anywhere. Regardless of the fact I found him funny and attractive, I just felt like he had lived so much more than me...he even had a couple kids I think.

I didn't even look at it like he was too old...I just felt way too young and inexperienced in life compared to him.

Posted by brianafay
(taking a line from DJ's playbook)

But seriously, is it though?

Have you ever known a couple with a large age gap, in which it didn't eventually cause problem?

None of my dating situations fell apart because of the age difference. There's always been a difference in our personalities or value systems. People don't typically date people who are not in their preferred age range. Most age difference relationships are because both people have experience in such and prefer dating way older or way younger people. The ones that don't work out because of age are the ones where the person is just "trying it on for size" type of situations. There's not one younger guy who really wanted to be with me that hadn't actually dated someone who was much older than them than I was. My current bf has ALWAYS dated older women. Always. He's had trysts with younger women or women closer to his age and he's had trysts with women wayyyyyy older than him. His preferred age difference is at least 7 years older than him, but no more than like 13 years older than him. I'm 8 years older than him. I once had a fling with a guy I was 17 years older than. He watched me most of the night. I saw him in his peripheral...always sitting alone. He was great looking too. When I finally crossed his path, he made it so that I had to brush up against him to get by. When I looked up to say sorry and excuse myself, he grabbed me around the waist and asked me my name and age. When I asked him the same and realized the age difference, I tried to wiggle out of his arms. He looked me in the eye and said, "you're actually young." I thought he was joking...even though we exchanged numbers. Come to find out, he'd already been with women wayyyyyyy older than me. In his experience...I was young.

I've brought up the age difference thing with my current bf a couple of times. I even jokingly call him "Similac". He finally got tired of it and has resorted to calling me old. When I acted offended, he told me that he was tired of me referring to him as being younger. There you have it.

my bad...MY peripheral.

Posted by brianafay
In my experience as long as the gap is around 5-6 years it's fine...but once you get closer to a 10+ year gap it starts to become an issue.

Someone I know's dad is dating a girl just a few years older than her (his own daughter) and his defense is she's "very mature for her age" :/

Waiting for that one to fall apart. It just doesn't work in the long run imo

I don't think it's the gap that's the problem so much as the era and values one was brought up in. Remember, our grandparents grew up in an age where divorce was out of the question and a couple toughed it out no matter what. As future generations came along, staying together became more of an option than the rule. As for the gap, I have...noticed that the larger it is the more likely issues will arise but that's probably due to maturity.

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Posted by DonJohnson
its' a weird magnetic pull.



my saturn opposes her saturn in synastry. mine is in Libra and hers is in Aries. my saturn is stronger than hers, this plays even more into the dom/sub dynamic. she loves that tho.


interesting read about the 14 year age gap synastry. it's pretty much spot on in my case.


http://theinnerwheel.com/2010/02/23/synastry-studies-the-saturnsaturn-opposition/

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Lol

One thing we enjoy talking and laughing about is that we had the same childhood experiences, though we lived in different homes. The cultural icons, the history we've lived though, the cartoons we watched as children, the toys we played with, the activities we did, the viewpoint of our age group... It's quite bonding.
You can't get that with someone who grew up in a different generation.

Then there's the society who thinks the younger person is only a gold digger (especially if the older partner is successful). It'd be tough to have to battle that perception every time you turn a corner.

Posted by Damnata
My dad and his girlfriend - 24 years age gap.

My mother was one year younger.

It's not the age gap that's causing problems with them. It's my dad's pattern with batshit crazy women. Both his gf and my mother are like this. Idk, maybe crazy sex is that good.

It's hilarious because she preyed on him. Utterly obsessed with him. And it's weird because she gets along with her father great so it's not daddy issues.

I was home for a week recently. At some point there was an argument and he refuses to fight so he got in the car to leave. As he was speeding she threw himself on the windshield. I haven't seen scenes like in 15 years. Bad deja vu.

But they make it work for..10 years now so...if this is happiness to both of them then good for them.

Is she a Pisces?