Can you be independent in a relationship?

How do people like being in these things? I recently got in a romantic relationship (first one ever) and I don't know if I can handle it when most of me wants to grow on my own. It wasn't supposed to happen but she fell for me and feel bad. This goes with every aspect in my life, I think I just want follow my goals more than close bondings at least close ones.

date girls who are also more independent. draw your boundaries and don't be afraid to hurt someone's feelings if you have to cut them loose. if being independent is important to you right now, just be honest from the beginning.

Posted by AbbyNormal
date girls who are also more independent. draw your boundaries and don't be afraid to hurt someone's feelings if you have to cut them loose. if being independent is important to you right now, just be honest from the beginning.

What if my goals are more humanitarian where I want to connect with others yet I don't want to at the same time ? I'm a walking paradox because of this

Posted by Narcissus

Posted by AbbyNormal
date girls who are also more independent. draw your boundaries and don't be afraid to hurt someone's feelings if you have to cut them loose. if being independent is important to you right now, just be honest from the beginning.

What if my goals are more humanitarian where I want to connect with others yet I don't want to at the same time ? I'm a walking paradox because of this

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try peace corp or something. find a woman that shares humanitarian values as well. that way if you are helping many, you'll have plenty of brief interactions to keep you interested. a woman who enjoys people would probably be good.

or maybe a very career oriented woman. just a woman who has a grander focus than one man lol.

Posted by Narcissus
How do people like being in these things? I recently got in a romantic relationship (first one ever) and I don't know if I can handle it when most of me wants to grow on my own. It wasn't supposed to happen but she fell for me and feel bad. This goes with every aspect in my life, I think I just want follow my goals more than close bondings at least close ones.

You've GOT to continue to be yourself. I was talking to an Aries (widower); he told me he and his wife would go EVERYWHERE! Damn! I told him, "Well, if things go well for us, and we continually see one another, I want to tell you the truth. I LIKE going out with my girlfriends (girl's night out) and he, of course, could do the same. That I wanted him to trust me and vice versa". He said he couldn't do that. Before I realized this guy wasn't the one for me I tried AGAIN during our telecom. "You mean to tell me you will NOT attend a bachelor party unless I am with you?" He said, "Yeah, we will do things together; like I did with my wife before she passed away."

I bounced (or swam away). You HAVE to communicate with her. Just like my ex-bf of almost two years (Saggy) who chastised my son. I will inform my new SO that my son comes first! If he EVER disrespects my son, I will bounce (or swim away). I ALWAYS tend to inform the guys what I want in the relationship; and they always *FU*ck it up! My ex-bf's friends (two of them) told him, "David, don't *FU*ck it up with, Eva" (I was in the SAME room, arm in arm w/the dude when his friend(s) told him this! and what did he do?! Yep! He *FU*cked it up! Now this dude to this day calls me at work, listens to my office salutation, and then hangs up 😡

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva