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Child-support: Is she being greedy or no?
Posted by AnarejectVirgoI agree with that... I don't press for support from my ex because 2. We don't need it and 2 because he needs it more than we do. So allow him to be able to take care of himself I never put him on child-support.
I've had full custody for 10 years of my daughters and have never received any financial support from their mother.
She will forever be a part of my daughters' family and they will forever be a part of mine, and so I still help support her if she asks when it comes to her sustaining her self-sufficiency. That's what family does...
Yes, your cousin is greedy...
Posted by cheekyfaerie
I don't get child support either. He *does* carry her on his insurance tho, which is helpful. But, I have nothing against child support. If the court ordered him to pay, he needs to pay. Sounds like your cousin cut her nose off to spite her face and now she regrets it. Ego, man. It's a killer.
That's exactly what she did. I tried to tell her but she doesn't agree. She feels that he should pay her a check and still give her extra when she asks for it. Mind u, what she gets a month is more than enough to help support their child.
Posted by blackphase
Quite greedy.. the whole point of going to court is to determine how much they will pay you.. end of story. That's the amount you get.. how can anyone expect more? :/
Exactly... That's the point of Child-Support. What they determine is what u get.
Posted by cheekyfaeriePosted by LadyTateMaybe her line of thinking was that she needed to make sure her kids got theirs, since he was about to be spread more thinly. Regardless, her current actions speak otherwise. Sounds like she's just pissed and trying to make him pay, any way she can. He's doing what he's supposed to. She's being a bitter stereotype.Posted by AnarejectVirgoI agree with that... I don't press for support from my ex because 2. We don't need it and 2 because he needs it more than we do. So allow him to be able to take care of himself I never put him on child-support.
I've had full custody for 10 years of my daughters and have never received any financial support from their mother.
She will forever be a part of my daughters' family and they will forever be a part of mine, and so I still help support her if she asks when it comes to her sustaining her self-sufficiency. That's what family does...
Yes, your cousin is greedy...
But maybe I'm wrong. I've been wrong before. Either way, she's not being fair tho.click to expand
I mean with him paying her mortgage, car note and insurance, he was giving far more than she's receiving in child-support. I understand wanting to make sure her kids are taken care of but if it's not broke, why try to fix it? Why not wait until he stops paying? To me, that oils have been the smart thing to do.
Posted by blackphasePosted by LadyTateYeah.. that's what I always thought.Posted by blackphase
Quite greedy.. the whole point of going to court is to determine how much they will pay you.. end of story. That's the amount you get.. how can anyone expect more? :/
Exactly... That's the point of Child-Support. What they determine is what u get.
Who actually feels entitled to more? That's ridiculous..click to expand
Someone who is greedy... Child-support helps u SUPPORT the CHILD, not the mothers life style !
Posted by LadyTatePosted by cheekyfaeriePosted by LadyTateMaybe her line of thinking was that she needed to make sure her kids got theirs, since he was about to be spread more thinly. Regardless, her current actions speak otherwise. Sounds like she's just pissed and trying to make him pay, any way she can. He's doing what he's supposed to. She's being a bitter stereotype.Posted by AnarejectVirgoI agree with that... I don't press for support from my ex because 2. We don't need it and 2 because he needs it more than we do. So allow him to be able to take care of himself I never put him on child-support.
I've had full custody for 10 years of my daughters and have never received any financial support from their mother.
She will forever be a part of my daughters' family and they will forever be a part of mine, and so I still help support her if she asks when it comes to her sustaining her self-sufficiency. That's what family does...
Yes, your cousin is greedy...
But maybe I'm wrong. I've been wrong before. Either way, she's not being fair tho.
I mean with him paying her mortgage, car note and insurance, he was giving far more than she's receiving in child-support. I understand wanting to make sure her kids are taken care of but if it's not broke, why try to fix it? Why not wait until he stops paying? To me, that oils have been the smart thing to do.
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Yeah he's being very generous. She needs to get a job or learn how to manage her finances. She's definitely being an ingrate brat.
Posted by blackphasePosted by LadyTateYeah.. that's what I always thought.Posted by blackphase
Quite greedy.. the whole point of going to court is to determine how much they will pay you.. end of story. That's the amount you get.. how can anyone expect more? :/
Exactly... That's the point of Child-Support. What they determine is what u get.
Who actually feels entitled to more? That's ridiculous..click to expand
True, true ... Sad to say tho, she's 38
I pray for the children - she sounds immature and very greedy and should be grateful that the baby's father has the means to pay her any support at all
Posted by blackphaseUnfortunately she's a grown ass woman. If she was in her 20's then yea I could kind of forgive her but she is banging 40 in the head.Posted by LadyTateOh.. so she is not even among all the children with children.. lolPosted by blackphasePosted by LadyTateYeah.. that's what I always thought.Posted by blackphase
Quite greedy.. the whole point of going to court is to determine how much they will pay you.. end of story. That's the amount you get.. how can anyone expect more? :/
Exactly... That's the point of Child-Support. What they determine is what u get.
Who actually feels entitled to more? That's ridiculous..
True, true ... Sad to say tho, she's 38click to expand
Posted by blackphasePosted by LadyTateAhh geez.. gotta be a better role model for your kids 😢Posted by blackphaseUnfortunately she's a grown ass woman. If she was in her 20's then yea I could kind of forgive her but she is banging 40 in the head.Posted by LadyTateOh.. so she is not even among all the children with children.. lolPosted by blackphasePosted by LadyTateYeah.. that's what I always thought.Posted by blackphase
Quite greedy.. the whole point of going to court is to determine how much they will pay you.. end of story. That's the amount you get.. how can anyone expect more? :/
Exactly... That's the point of Child-Support. What they determine is what u get.
Who actually feels entitled to more? That's ridiculous..
True, true ... Sad to say tho, she's 38click to expand
Tell me about it. I've tried reasoning with her but she doesn't see it my way.
Posted by LadyTate
Prior to her putting him on childsupport, she got all the help and assistance she needed.
He payed her mortgage, vehicle note and insurance and also helped out with whatever the kids wanted and needed.
Which of course is all second hand information ....
1. said by a person who is jaded, and ranting, likely angrily
2. interpreted by a person who has no respect for boundaries, nor any respect for mother's wishes with her own children
Neither party is here to speak for themselves ... so, it would be prudent for your own energy not to make derogatory comments about them and/or their character
Posted by Impulsv
FYI I know of a man who supported all along but when t mother went to court claiminhe never did guess who got screwed. These matters need to be legally address I'm not sure why your boyfriend's not on it
Idk what state u live in but the state I live in, long as u keep track of what u spend the courts will take that in consideration. But the point I was making was she was receiving more from him off child-support then she is getting with him on child-support. Off topic... my boyfriend is on childsupport for his son. Matter of fact, he's the one who put it on himself so that she couldn't use that as an excuse to keep his son from him.
Posted by LadyTatePosted by Impulsv
FYI I know of a man who supported all along but when t mother went to court claiminhe never did guess who got screwed. These matters need to be legally address I'm not sure why your boyfriend's not on it
Idk what state u live in but the state I live in, long as u keep track of what u spend the courts will take that in consideration. But the point I was making was she was receiving more from him off child-support then she is getting with him on child-support. Off topic... my boyfriend is on childsupport for his son. Matter of fact, he's the one who put it on himself so that she couldn't use that as an excuse to keep his son from him.
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If u were referring to my kids father, he's not on child-support because I chose not to put it on him. My kids and I are fine financially. Long as he spends time with them and gets them what they want when they are with him then I'm fine with not receiving a monthly check from him.
Posted by Impulsv
Then he's.taken care of it n choosing from his own will to give her money
Seems ur not ok with that guess u tell him that
But u can put the blame on her
He's allowing it
What are u talking about? Did u read the full thread or just skimmed they it?
Interesting topic.
I don't have kids so this is interesting.
I hate being at the mercy of anyone. Especially financially.
I don't have kids so this is interesting.
I hate being at the mercy of anyone. Especially financially.
u have absolutely lost me Hun. This thread has nothing to do with my ex or my current boyfriend. So idk why their part of this discussion...?
Posted by DMVThat I understand and that's why I've always made sure I was able to take care of my kids with or with out help from their father. But my point with this post was like another posted stated "she cut of her nose to spite her face" only to hurt herself. He was paying well over $ 2500 monthly in bills (house note, car note, insurance and the household bills) now she gets about $ 1200 a month and he will not give her anymore than that because that is what the courts told him he had to pay.
Interesting topic.
I don't have kids so this is interesting.
I hate being at the mercy of anyone. Especially financially.
Posted by ImpulsvOk... He was doing all those things before she put him on child-support. Now that she has him on court ordered child-support, he only pays her the amount set and nothing more.
So u see he is choosing to give her more than just the child support he put himself on.
Can't blame her for asking if his a willing participant
He can tell her to kick sand I'm paying child support already. Screw her mortgage car payment evt
Posted by Impulsv
Well who's ever example he wants to pay her more than court allowed
That was all prior to the courts setting an amount. Please go back and read the full story.
Posted by LiveAndLoveExactly... I know some dead beat dads who does nothing for their kids and I thank God that he has allowed me the resources to be able to provide for my kids on my own. However, their father does support them when they call him with no problem so I never saw a reason to put him on childsupport. For example, our oldest child wanted to spend the summer with my brother in Fla. I paid for her to get there and back, her father gave her spending money and everyone was happy. But for me to get the courts to decide how much he should give and still ask for more? That's the crazy part for me.
Yikes, that's a bit much. I'd be eternally grateful if my children's father actually paid anything to help support the children he brought into this world. Currently working with my lawyer because the court messed it up during the divorce and set up child support as alimony, not actual child support. So nothing gets enforced.
She should be relieved and feel secure with all that he did and continues to do still for there kids.
Posted by LadyTate
He was paying well over $ 2500 monthly in bills (house note, car note, insurance and the household bills) now she gets about $ 1200 a month and he will not give her anymore than that because that is what the courts told him he had to pay.
You can't state facts, because this is all second hand information.
I have no clue why any of you are treating her as if she is stating facts to you.
this is gossip that she's spreading.
I notice that only the newbies and dumbfucks are actually responding to this ... so, I'm done here.
Posted by LadyTatePoor man, hope she doesn't trap another man to get herself another baby..
I've been a single mother, raising my kids on my own without financial help from their dad. So I know the struggle. I've just been blessed enough to always have a hustle in me to make ends meet. Was it hard? Of course! But I lived thru it and now money is not an issue for me and my kids.
All that to rant about this: woman who feel they are entitled to a state issues child-support check plus more!
My cousin and I were talking about this yesterday and I listened to her rant on and on about how her kids father doesn't want to support the kids financial and how he always tells her NO when she asks for money. So of course my first response was, maybe u should think about placing him on court ordered child-support. Then she says "I already have him on child-support, I get "X" amount a month." So then I asked her, how is he not supporting his kids financially if u get a check (pretty large amount) every month? She said because when she asks for anything over that amount he says no! So I sat there trying to understand how him not fiving her more than he is ordered to pay equivalent to him not wanting to support his kids. Now mind u... Prior to her putting him on childsupport, she got all the help and assistance she needed. He payed her mortgage, vehicle note and insurance and also helped out with whatever the kids wanted and needed. Which was far more than what she's getting monthly from him now. Oh and the reason she put him on court ordered child-support was because he got another woman pregnant.
So what do u think? Do u think a man should pay court-ordered child-support plus extra?
Posted by atearthMe either...Posted by LadyTatePoor man, hope she doesn't trap another man to get herself another baby..
I've been a single mother, raising my kids on my own without financial help from their dad. So I know the struggle. I've just been blessed enough to always have a hustle in me to make ends meet. Was it hard? Of course! But I lived thru it and now money is not an issue for me and my kids.
All that to rant about this: woman who feel they are entitled to a state issues child-support check plus more!
My cousin and I were talking about this yesterday and I listened to her rant on and on about how her kids father doesn't want to support the kids financial and how he always tells her NO when she asks for money. So of course my first response was, maybe u should think about placing him on court ordered child-support. Then she says "I already have him on child-support, I get "X" amount a month." So then I asked her, how is he not supporting his kids financially if u get a check (pretty large amount) every month? She said because when she asks for anything over that amount he says no! So I sat there trying to understand how him not fiving her more than he is ordered to pay equivalent to him not wanting to support his kids. Now mind u... Prior to her putting him on childsupport, she got all the help and assistance she needed. He payed her mortgage, vehicle note and insurance and also helped out with whatever the kids wanted and needed. Which was far more than what she's getting monthly from him now. Oh and the reason she put him on court ordered child-support was because he got another woman pregnant.
So what do u think? Do u think a man should pay court-ordered child-support plus extra?
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All that to rant about this: woman who feel they are entitled to a state issues child-support check plus more!
My cousin and I were talking about this yesterday and I listened to her rant on and on about how her kids father doesn't want to support the kids financial and how he always tells her NO when she asks for money. So of course my first response was, maybe u should think about placing him on court ordered child-support. Then she says "I already have him on child-support, I get "X" amount a month." So then I asked her, how is he not supporting his kids financially if u get a check (pretty large amount) every month? She said because when she asks for anything over that amount he says no! So I sat there trying to understand how him not fiving her more than he is ordered to pay equivalent to him not wanting to support his kids. Now mind u... Prior to her putting him on childsupport, she got all the help and assistance she needed. He payed her mortgage, vehicle note and insurance and also helped out with whatever the kids wanted and needed. Which was far more than what she's getting monthly from him now. Oh and the reason she put him on court ordered child-support was because he got another woman pregnant.
So what do u think? Do u think a man should pay court-ordered child-support plus extra?