codependent relationships

It's often obvious that a needy, demanding woman who clings to a man has codependent tendencies. ??However, a relationship consists of two people, and HE is no less responsible. ??In fact, his behavior can also be labeled "codependent." ??Two people who have codependent tendencies may act in opposite ways: While one is needy and drains her partner, the other may have a enlarged sense of responsibility to his partner, and is overly sensitive to her needs and demands.

In fact, people with opposing codependent style s tend to attract each other. ??These opposing psychological profiles have been termed "takers" and "caretakers."


Codependent relationships are complicated, and they're often characterized by manipulation, lack of boundaries, repressed emotions, emotional volatility, jealousy??issues, verbal abuse, etc. ??Both partners tend to have complicated back-stories, which often serve to justify abnormal behavior. ??If you're a man feeling stuck in a codependent relationship, realize that your happiness is worth the effort it takes to move on.

First, take a look at this list, which identify just some of the signs to look for:

You feel that you're responsible for her, and it's your job to make her happy and solve her problems

You suppress your emotions and avoid confrontation

You have the sense of sacrificing the life you want so that you can be with her and take care of her

You feel trapped at times, and have the sense that you are planning an eventual escape

You feel tremendous guilt at the thought of abandoning her

She is extremely jealous and makes it difficult for you to interact with other females or have female friends

She has an intense fear of rejection and abandonment

She lives her life in way that depends on you for many of her needs, as opposed to being independent and having a variety of fulfilling relationships

She has expressed that she wouldn't be able to live her life if you betrayed or abandoned her

She depends almost exclusively on you as her source of happiness and validation

She dominates and manipulates you through her emotional response, which is often too extreme

These are just some of the signs that are easiest to spot from the man's point of view. ??If you feel that you may be in a codependent relationship, or you feel as if you're trapped and there's no way out, most like. ??Being in a codependent relationship makes for a stressful and unhappy life style . ??And yet, your avoidant tendenc

i recently got out of a codependent relationship about 4 months ago. we were together for 3 years. before i met her i had lots of friends. i was happy and led an active social life. i met her through an online dating site and when we met i thought it was love at first sight and was happy because i thought i had finally found a woman who gets me. she was mysterious and i was very intrigued by her. i just wanted to know more about her and then before i knew it she was moving in with me.
3 years later i now realize the beginning was all an act and her way of manipulating me into a relationship with her. what she projected in the beginning was not who she was at all and eventually her true colors started to show.
it was a slow process so i didnt realize it was happening at the time but gradually i started to lose all my friends one by one. she drove all of my female friends away with her controlling/jealous behaviour. she was always suspicious of them and making crazy/paranoid accusations all the time. and the sad part is. at the time i believed her. ??i feel like she has manipulated me and pushed everyone who used to be close to me away and now that i have woken up from this mess. now ??i am alone. just not sure what to do now. i just want my old life back. do you think if i contacted my friends they would hear me out?

What blood type was she? (and why are you dating online?)

calthrope im not sure of her blood type or it that matters. i tried out Internet dating as i was lonely. never again lol

25thDecan i want to try to call them but i dont know what to say

is any1 able to help me with her astrology chart. ive seen threads on this board with them being done. or can someone point me in the right direction?

Decan is right. Just call them and tell them what you just said here. Tell them you are sorry you lost touch and you are sorry for the way it happened. I know the details of each "way" will differ but if you are calling these people your regret will be the same. I went through the same thing recently. Over the course of the years with my ex I lost almost all my friends. Some at the beginning through direct accusations or constant simple comments of "she has a crush on you" or "she likes you", some over time through a slow process...

I moved away so I haven't seen a few of my old friends again but I have talked to several of them and we're cool again. I am traveling to stay Thanksgiving with one of them and visit some family up there with the kids. I have seen a few others on other trips and plan to see many again this time. In my experience, the guys are definitely more forgiving. Some of them have been there before too. I always hung out with more females than guys but more of the real friends were guys so it worked out for me.