Dating Again...

For those of you that remember me (Christina) I broke up with Virguy some time ago...Well, It's been a few months and I'd like to start dating again but I don't really know how. You see, I've never really had to date before. I've only been in 3 LTR and all three of them I had already known. So, where do I meet decent men? I work all day and come home to my 8 year old son. Other than that I live a pretty boring life.

I'd like to hear from the guys on this one as well...

Thanks!

Christina

Im not sure if I can help because I dont even know what dating is these days....if you're not after the sleazy sorts and trust me there are plenty, avoid clubs and pubs, etc....online dating is a pain in the A $ $ and there are loads of players on there...perhaps join some clubs, maybe some that include your son, sports....loads of single dads out there that you might hit it off with. Be active and get involved is probably a great start..

Also do you have single friends or ones that are in the same boat as you? they may be able to help you "network" and mingle with different crowds of all sorts of people/genders/religions/backgrounds.

Above all, dont get too attached too soon, protect your heart and your son from the damage that can be done from getting too emotional from the word go. Dating to me = going to lunches/dinners/movies/picnics/walking/functions/watching live bands, stuff like that. But dating to many others from what I gather is spending time with several guys at the same time doing the same things as well as sleeping with multiple partners...ewwwww

Call me old fashioned but thats just me. Good luck with your search and be good to yourself. Well done for leaving it a few months before trying again 🙂

Hi Chatz,

Thanks for your advice!

I've never been one to bring home several men...I enjoy courtship - you know, "real dating." I like dinner, movies, etc...But, I'm not into the guys who try to come to my house on the first date. I'm also very much guarded due to the fact that I have a son. Which in essence makes dating a little more difficult. I've tried online sites and I've always ended up with wierdo stalker types...There is a guy at work that I'm interested in...He's a Libra and for some reason our conversations are always a little awkward - not sure why?

I've always been the type to let love find me...But, this time I feel like I need to get out and start looking before time starts passing me by - I'm not getting any younger. 🙂

Christina .... you should do what it is you enjoy, what moves you, whatever is your passion, your art, what makes you feel good about doing it .... there, doing that, whatever "that" is, is where you will find another person doing "that" also, because they love it too.

there is where you will find another person to whom you can trust will understand how your heart works, because their heart works that way too .. that's why they are there.


Whatever it is ... taking a creative writing course, joining a bowling league, studying with Shamans for self growth .. whatever it is.


This is something I don't understand about people, sometimes, to be honest. They go to places they don't enjoy themselves, and then cannot understand why the wo/men they meet aren't compatible.


If you do what you love, Christina ... then others who love the same will be there.