krysrenee7
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11. Men are intimidated by strong, dominant and/or successful women?
12. Masculine men prefer a very feminine woman as a companion?
13. It's imposslbe to have platonic friendships with the opposite sex? (Some believe that over time, SOMETHING will eventually happen or go down)
14. (This question is directed towards the men/women who cheat on AND leave their parnters for the "other woman/man.")
What they did to the last one, they'll do to YOU too?
15. You should trust your partner at all times, no matter what? (If this is true, that means we should be able to trust our partners even while they're at their ex's house, butt naked cooking dinner. This means that we should be able to trust our partners even when they're drunk & in the company of a naked prostitute! =P If it's about trust, there is technically NO situation, OR person your partner could be in OR around that should provoke you to otherwise assume they're untrustworthy.
12. Masculine men prefer a very feminine woman as a companion?
13. It's imposslbe to have platonic friendships with the opposite sex? (Some believe that over time, SOMETHING will eventually happen or go down)
14. (This question is directed towards the men/women who cheat on AND leave their parnters for the "other woman/man.")
What they did to the last one, they'll do to YOU too?
15. You should trust your partner at all times, no matter what? (If this is true, that means we should be able to trust our partners even while they're at their ex's house, butt naked cooking dinner. This means that we should be able to trust our partners even when they're drunk & in the company of a naked prostitute! =P If it's about trust, there is technically NO situation, OR person your partner could be in OR around that should provoke you to otherwise assume they're untrustworthy.
16. Having sex too early dramatically decreases one's chances of making it to an official relationship with that person?(There is plenty of data to support claims that sex too early can sabotage things, just like there is the same amount of statistical data that proves otherwise/proves the opposite).
17. You should never start dating and/or get in a relationship with someone who just got out of one?
18. Age aint nothin' but a number? (Some believe that dating someone much younger OR older doesn't have any factor/effect on how the relationship will turn out)
19. Men should always practice chivalry. They should always open doors & pull out chairs for a woman?
20. Facebook/Myspace/or ANYof the social networking sites ruins relationships/friendships?
21. Pre-nups are necessary? (Others believe that couples who sign pre-nups are automatically AND already jinking their relationship and/or admitting that their partner is most likely to take them to the cleaners persay the relationship ends. Of course, these kinds of people are silently wondering WHY on earth you'd even be with someone whom you feel would betray you in the worst way persay the relationship/marriage didn't work out!)
22. Men think about sex every 15 seconds? Even better, men think about sex more than women do?
23. When a man 1st sees a woman, the 1ST thing he imagines is how good or not she'd be in bed?
24. Having kids (even if committed) complicates/strains the relationship marriage? (Some people believe that the added stress that comes from having a baby often is to blaim for why some relationships fail or atleast start to spoil the minute a new baby is born. They don't blaim the baby itself, no but moreso the added stress & responsibility that comes with having kids)
25. Most athletes, people in the entertainment (mostly music) industry OR people who are exposed to fame are most likely cheaters?
17. You should never start dating and/or get in a relationship with someone who just got out of one?
18. Age aint nothin' but a number? (Some believe that dating someone much younger OR older doesn't have any factor/effect on how the relationship will turn out)
19. Men should always practice chivalry. They should always open doors & pull out chairs for a woman?
20. Facebook/Myspace/or ANYof the social networking sites ruins relationships/friendships?
21. Pre-nups are necessary? (Others believe that couples who sign pre-nups are automatically AND already jinking their relationship and/or admitting that their partner is most likely to take them to the cleaners persay the relationship ends. Of course, these kinds of people are silently wondering WHY on earth you'd even be with someone whom you feel would betray you in the worst way persay the relationship/marriage didn't work out!)
22. Men think about sex every 15 seconds? Even better, men think about sex more than women do?
23. When a man 1st sees a woman, the 1ST thing he imagines is how good or not she'd be in bed?
24. Having kids (even if committed) complicates/strains the relationship marriage? (Some people believe that the added stress that comes from having a baby often is to blaim for why some relationships fail or atleast start to spoil the minute a new baby is born. They don't blaim the baby itself, no but moreso the added stress & responsibility that comes with having kids)
25. Most athletes, people in the entertainment (mostly music) industry OR people who are exposed to fame are most likely cheaters?
26. Talking about politics, religion, ex's is a big NO NO for 1st or 2nd dates? (Some people, especially those who have big deal breakers in the religion or politics area, feel it IS absolutely necessary to make sure as quickly as possible (if that means the 1st date, so be it!) that the other person is on the same page as them OR atleast shares the same beliefs/values)
27. Actions speak louder than words? (So many people believe this BUT YET so many people only pay attention to, listen to and/or choose to believe what someone SAYS more than what they're actually doing, even if their actions aren't matching up with their words)
28. If a person speaks badly about their ex, it must mean they're not over their ex yet OR that they'll dogg you out too persay the relationship ends?
29. What starts in the dark will always eventually come to the light? (What about in those situations when you never get to see the actual proof & you're stuck left only with a skeptical/suspicious intuition? People have to acknowledge that "seeing it for yourself" is sometimes the most UNlikely to happen)
30. It's what's on the INSIDE that counts? (If so, explain the conveiance in how people choose to pick whether or not to approach or get to know someone strictly based on looks? How do you know that person is a good person or has their head on straight just b/c they're sexy?!) If looks was the deciding factor in the beginning, why do people expect for looks to become non-existent in importance once the friendship or relationship gets going? For instance, if her/his beautiful green eyes was what made you go up to & approach that person in the 1st place, how can you knock someone for still placing importance on those green eyes once the relationship has been established? Same goes for weight, body type, etc.)
27. Actions speak louder than words? (So many people believe this BUT YET so many people only pay attention to, listen to and/or choose to believe what someone SAYS more than what they're actually doing, even if their actions aren't matching up with their words)
28. If a person speaks badly about their ex, it must mean they're not over their ex yet OR that they'll dogg you out too persay the relationship ends?
29. What starts in the dark will always eventually come to the light? (What about in those situations when you never get to see the actual proof & you're stuck left only with a skeptical/suspicious intuition? People have to acknowledge that "seeing it for yourself" is sometimes the most UNlikely to happen)
30. It's what's on the INSIDE that counts? (If so, explain the conveiance in how people choose to pick whether or not to approach or get to know someone strictly based on looks? How do you know that person is a good person or has their head on straight just b/c they're sexy?!) If looks was the deciding factor in the beginning, why do people expect for looks to become non-existent in importance once the friendship or relationship gets going? For instance, if her/his beautiful green eyes was what made you go up to & approach that person in the 1st place, how can you knock someone for still placing importance on those green eyes once the relationship has been established? Same goes for weight, body type, etc.)
31. Women/men who go through their partner's things or cell phone are insecure? (If they have good reason to believe some sneaky business is going on AND if they actually catch their partner doing wrong, is it fair to call that person insecure all b/c they were RIGHT after primarily assuming something? If you'll notice, people never call the woman/man insecure when they actually DO find something)
32. Playing hard to get and/or certain mind games are necessary in order for someone to chase you and/OR realize how much they admire/need you? (Even though game playing is seen as wrong, we all must admit & acknowledge that certain games actually DO work!)
33. Your companion can "complete you?" (Since you can't do everything to/for yourself, is it technically wrong to want/expect for someone else to fill certain voids that you, yourself cannot fulfill?)
34. "If it's meant to be, it'll be/happen?" (Someone please point out the magical fairy that comes down & fixes other's problems/issues w/o effort from the 2+ people in the situation?)
35. Never tell your buddies how great of a sex life you have? (Some believe that doing so gives others the open door to sleep with or atleast attempt to sleep with your partner. Of course, I'm wondering why on earth you're even friends with someone whom you believe would sleep with your partner if they had the chance. I'm also wondering why on earth you'd even be with someone whom you believe would actually fall for it persay your friend were to come onto them!)
32. Playing hard to get and/or certain mind games are necessary in order for someone to chase you and/OR realize how much they admire/need you? (Even though game playing is seen as wrong, we all must admit & acknowledge that certain games actually DO work!)
33. Your companion can "complete you?" (Since you can't do everything to/for yourself, is it technically wrong to want/expect for someone else to fill certain voids that you, yourself cannot fulfill?)
34. "If it's meant to be, it'll be/happen?" (Someone please point out the magical fairy that comes down & fixes other's problems/issues w/o effort from the 2+ people in the situation?)
35. Never tell your buddies how great of a sex life you have? (Some believe that doing so gives others the open door to sleep with or atleast attempt to sleep with your partner. Of course, I'm wondering why on earth you're even friends with someone whom you believe would sleep with your partner if they had the chance. I'm also wondering why on earth you'd even be with someone whom you believe would actually fall for it persay your friend were to come onto them!)
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Posted by QLIbraMale
basically if it seems wrong than its wrong, even if it feels right lol.
Greatly & simply put!!! lol
I guess some people don't know how distinguish right from wrong, especially if what's wrong technically feels good. Some people literally define "right" by whatever feels "right" (even if others agree it's wrong), while others define "right" by whatever the majority of society says is "right" (even if another whole nation disagrees & believes it's wrong!)
Yeah I know, that last part was really confusing!
ugh. too long.
These will take a while to answer... be back later.
Lol 35 questions? Really Krys?
there is only one thing I believe in
Yea tho I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no evil
for I am the badist mother fucker in the valley
Yea tho I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no evil
for I am the badist mother fucker in the valley
1. Once a cheater always a cheater?
Not always, but lets call it 99% . It is possible to change but usually it's just a front. If they did it before, they'll do it again eventually.
2. What goes around comes around? (Karma)
I don't believe in Karma as a big bad force out to get bad people but I do generally believe this "rule". I think it has more to do with the direct results of the person??s actions though. Nothing mystical about it.
3. Men love harder than women, it's just that women love more often?
I think men are just expected to be —tougher?? so when we get heart broken everyone thinks it was more devastating to us than it was to her... she's allowed to cry. Men only get caught showing emotion once in a while so it is assumed that the cause must have been that strong. Women are free to get emotional basically whenever they want so the cause is only assumed to be frequent.
4. Women live to love, men love to live?
I thought it was: women live to shop; men only shop to live...
5. Men are more sensitive than women?
This one is the same as #3. We aren't more sensitive we're just expected to be less sensitive. When we show any amount of sensitivity we are bashed for it, so we keep it in. When we finally do show emotion, women make a production of it and act like it's some deep dark secret that men have feelings too.
6. 2 people engaging in FWB relations for a prolonged period of time hardly ever make it to an official relationship?
It's possible but doubtful. Usually one will develop feelings and the FWB thing will fall apart.
7. Men should be automatically forced to pay child support if they're not currently in a relationship with the mother of the child?
I don't think women should automatically get the kids??_ my ex can pay me child support if she likes.
8. A man/woman that's "good enough" will make a person change their ways and/or settle down?
I don't buy this one. Even if it did —work?? that way, it would fail. Once you find the right one and decide to settle down and change your ways, you??re not the same person they were attracted to anyway. Be who you are from day one. When you find the right one you won't have to change.
Not always, but lets call it 99% . It is possible to change but usually it's just a front. If they did it before, they'll do it again eventually.
2. What goes around comes around? (Karma)
I don't believe in Karma as a big bad force out to get bad people but I do generally believe this "rule". I think it has more to do with the direct results of the person??s actions though. Nothing mystical about it.
3. Men love harder than women, it's just that women love more often?
I think men are just expected to be —tougher?? so when we get heart broken everyone thinks it was more devastating to us than it was to her... she's allowed to cry. Men only get caught showing emotion once in a while so it is assumed that the cause must have been that strong. Women are free to get emotional basically whenever they want so the cause is only assumed to be frequent.
4. Women live to love, men love to live?
I thought it was: women live to shop; men only shop to live...
5. Men are more sensitive than women?
This one is the same as #3. We aren't more sensitive we're just expected to be less sensitive. When we show any amount of sensitivity we are bashed for it, so we keep it in. When we finally do show emotion, women make a production of it and act like it's some deep dark secret that men have feelings too.
6. 2 people engaging in FWB relations for a prolonged period of time hardly ever make it to an official relationship?
It's possible but doubtful. Usually one will develop feelings and the FWB thing will fall apart.
7. Men should be automatically forced to pay child support if they're not currently in a relationship with the mother of the child?
I don't think women should automatically get the kids??_ my ex can pay me child support if she likes.
8. A man/woman that's "good enough" will make a person change their ways and/or settle down?
I don't buy this one. Even if it did —work?? that way, it would fail. Once you find the right one and decide to settle down and change your ways, you??re not the same person they were attracted to anyway. Be who you are from day one. When you find the right one you won't have to change.
9. If he/she will hit you once, they'll hit you again?
Just like #1??_ not always but for arguments sake, yes. If you are in abusive relationship, get out. It may get worse but it won't get better. Besides if he hit you once??_ who cares if he??d do it again? One time is one time too many.
10. Love is unconditional? (Is it really? Aren't we taught to NOT put up with certain behaviors/situations/personality traits, etc.? Something that is unconditional means it stays the same & never loses it's "touch" REGARDLESS of any change--good or bad--so technically, isn't it fair to say that love absolutely IS CONDITIONAL?...meaning we'll only love someone on the CONDITION that they are, will be, or will do certain things?
I have tried to answer this a few times but can't really explain it without getting more personal than I want to. I??ll just leave it at yes, I do believe in unconditional love but love is NOT all you need.
11. Men are intimidated by strong, dominant and/or successful women?
Some may be. Not me.
12. Masculine men prefer a very feminine woman as a companion?
I like femininity in a lady but like most things, too much is bad.
13. It's imposslbe to have platonic friendships with the opposite sex? (Some believe that over time, SOMETHING will eventually happen or go down)
Completely disagree. I have had several.
14. (This question is directed towards the men/women who cheat on AND leave their parnters for the "other woman/man.")
What they did to the last one, they'll do to YOU too?
n/a
15. You should trust your partner at all times, no matter what? (If this is true, that means we should be able to trust our partners even while they're at their ex's house, butt naked cooking dinner. This means that we should be able to trust our partners even when they're drunk & in the company of a naked prostitute! =P If it's about trust, there is technically NO situation, OR person your partner could be in OR around that should provoke you to otherwise assume they're untrustworthy.
Strictly speaking about trust, I agree. But actually putting yourself in some of these extreme situations raises different problems. There is something to be said for considering your partners comfort level when you make decisions. Even though I could be trusted to cook dinner naked with an ex, actually doing it??_ just why? I??d expect there to be a problem with that.
Just like #1??_ not always but for arguments sake, yes. If you are in abusive relationship, get out. It may get worse but it won't get better. Besides if he hit you once??_ who cares if he??d do it again? One time is one time too many.
10. Love is unconditional? (Is it really? Aren't we taught to NOT put up with certain behaviors/situations/personality traits, etc.? Something that is unconditional means it stays the same & never loses it's "touch" REGARDLESS of any change--good or bad--so technically, isn't it fair to say that love absolutely IS CONDITIONAL?...meaning we'll only love someone on the CONDITION that they are, will be, or will do certain things?
I have tried to answer this a few times but can't really explain it without getting more personal than I want to. I??ll just leave it at yes, I do believe in unconditional love but love is NOT all you need.
11. Men are intimidated by strong, dominant and/or successful women?
Some may be. Not me.
12. Masculine men prefer a very feminine woman as a companion?
I like femininity in a lady but like most things, too much is bad.
13. It's imposslbe to have platonic friendships with the opposite sex? (Some believe that over time, SOMETHING will eventually happen or go down)
Completely disagree. I have had several.
14. (This question is directed towards the men/women who cheat on AND leave their parnters for the "other woman/man.")
What they did to the last one, they'll do to YOU too?
n/a
15. You should trust your partner at all times, no matter what? (If this is true, that means we should be able to trust our partners even while they're at their ex's house, butt naked cooking dinner. This means that we should be able to trust our partners even when they're drunk & in the company of a naked prostitute! =P If it's about trust, there is technically NO situation, OR person your partner could be in OR around that should provoke you to otherwise assume they're untrustworthy.
Strictly speaking about trust, I agree. But actually putting yourself in some of these extreme situations raises different problems. There is something to be said for considering your partners comfort level when you make decisions. Even though I could be trusted to cook dinner naked with an ex, actually doing it??_ just why? I??d expect there to be a problem with that.
16. Having sex too early dramatically decreases one's chances of making it to an official relationship with that person?(There is plenty of data to support claims that sex too early can sabotage things, just like there is the same amount of statistical data that proves otherwise/proves the opposite).
What is too early? I don't think I agree with this. It??ll happen when it happens and that was the right time for those people. This is just an easy thing to blame as it is so easy to identify. Even when it's a —hump em and dump em?? situation, the problem isn't when they had sex (although that would be the act that directly ended it) the problem is with the person.
17. You should never start dating and/or get in a relationship with someone who just got out of one?
It depends on the relationship they just got out of. If it was a long term, important one??_ stay clear until they??ve had time to adjust.
18. Age aint nothin' but a number? (Some believe that dating someone much younger OR older doesn't have any factor/effect on how the relationship will turn out)
Large gaps in age create different problems but it doesn't mean it can't work. Every relationship is going to have weird things they have to deal with.
19. Men should always practice chivalry. They should always open doors & pull out chairs for a woman?
If they want to, yes. If not, don't. This shouldn't be done simply because you think the other person wants it.
20. Facebook/Myspace/or ANYof the social networking sites ruins relationships/friendships?
I haven't experienced this. If it happens I??d wager that the social site was the scapegoat not the true cause.
What is too early? I don't think I agree with this. It??ll happen when it happens and that was the right time for those people. This is just an easy thing to blame as it is so easy to identify. Even when it's a —hump em and dump em?? situation, the problem isn't when they had sex (although that would be the act that directly ended it) the problem is with the person.
17. You should never start dating and/or get in a relationship with someone who just got out of one?
It depends on the relationship they just got out of. If it was a long term, important one??_ stay clear until they??ve had time to adjust.
18. Age aint nothin' but a number? (Some believe that dating someone much younger OR older doesn't have any factor/effect on how the relationship will turn out)
Large gaps in age create different problems but it doesn't mean it can't work. Every relationship is going to have weird things they have to deal with.
19. Men should always practice chivalry. They should always open doors & pull out chairs for a woman?
If they want to, yes. If not, don't. This shouldn't be done simply because you think the other person wants it.
20. Facebook/Myspace/or ANYof the social networking sites ruins relationships/friendships?
I haven't experienced this. If it happens I??d wager that the social site was the scapegoat not the true cause.
21. Pre-nups are necessary? (Others believe that couples who sign pre-nups are automatically AND already jinking their relationship and/or admitting that their partner is most likely to take them to the cleaners persay the relationship ends. Of course, these kinds of people are silently wondering WHY on earth you'd even be with someone whom you feel would betray you in the worst way persay the relationship/marriage didn't work out!)
I am torn on this one. Part of me says absolutely not. A pre-nup is planning for the end of something you are saying will not end??_ it is contradictory in its very nature. However, I have been divorced??_ it would have been useful to have one of these. Also, just because I don't want something to happen doesn't mean it won't. That side of me says that planning for the possibility of something out of my control is good.
22. Men think about sex every 15 seconds? Even better, men think about sex more than women do?
False, it's every 7 seconds??_ **lost in daydreams** ??_ wait what were we saying?
23. When a man 1st sees a woman, the 1ST thing he imagines is how good or not she'd be in bed?
First thing, no.
24. Having kids (even if committed) complicates/strains the relationship marriage? (Some people believe that the added stress that comes from having a baby often is to blaim for why some relationships fail or atleast start to spoil the minute a new baby is born. They don't blaim the baby itself, no but moreso the added stress & responsibility that comes with having kids)
Yes. Kids do make things more complicated. Kids take a lot of time and there are only 24 hours in a day. Babies can be stressful. It doesn't mean that having kids = the end, just that it does change things.
25. Most athletes, people in the entertainment (mostly music) industry OR people who are exposed to fame are most likely cheaters?
I??d hope not. This is way too pessimistic for me.
I am torn on this one. Part of me says absolutely not. A pre-nup is planning for the end of something you are saying will not end??_ it is contradictory in its very nature. However, I have been divorced??_ it would have been useful to have one of these. Also, just because I don't want something to happen doesn't mean it won't. That side of me says that planning for the possibility of something out of my control is good.
22. Men think about sex every 15 seconds? Even better, men think about sex more than women do?
False, it's every 7 seconds??_ **lost in daydreams** ??_ wait what were we saying?
23. When a man 1st sees a woman, the 1ST thing he imagines is how good or not she'd be in bed?
First thing, no.
24. Having kids (even if committed) complicates/strains the relationship marriage? (Some people believe that the added stress that comes from having a baby often is to blaim for why some relationships fail or atleast start to spoil the minute a new baby is born. They don't blaim the baby itself, no but moreso the added stress & responsibility that comes with having kids)
Yes. Kids do make things more complicated. Kids take a lot of time and there are only 24 hours in a day. Babies can be stressful. It doesn't mean that having kids = the end, just that it does change things.
25. Most athletes, people in the entertainment (mostly music) industry OR people who are exposed to fame are most likely cheaters?
I??d hope not. This is way too pessimistic for me.
26. Talking about politics, religion, ex's is a big NO NO for 1st or 2nd dates? (Some people, especially those who have big deal breakers in the religion or politics area, feel it IS absolutely necessary to make sure as quickly as possible (if that means the 1st date, so be it!) that the other person is on the same page as them OR atleast shares the same beliefs/values)
They are important topics but not ones I want to get into on the first few dates. When we are first getting to know each other, let's just have fun. We can save the details for later as things progress. Those things would matter in a spouse but no where near as much in a friend. Let's see if we even get along as friends before you really start qualifying each other.
27. Actions speak louder than words? (So many people believe this BUT YET so many people only pay attention to, listen to and/or choose to believe what someone SAYS more than what they're actually doing, even if their actions aren't matching up with their words)
Yes, when in doubt watch what people do rather than what they say. It can be hard in some situations. Some people are evil and know how hard it can be, they??ll say exactly what you want to hear. Watch what they do.
28. If a person speaks badly about their ex, it must mean they're not over their ex yet OR that they'll dogg you out too persay the relationship ends?
Not necessarily. I don't bad mouth exes generally but there's one that I have very little nice to say about.
29. What starts in the dark will always eventually come to the light? (What about in those situations when you never get to see the actual proof & you're stuck left only with a skeptical/suspicious intuition? People have to acknowledge that "seeing it for yourself" is sometimes the most UNlikely to happen)
Whether it will come out or not, I assume it would. I don't do things that I would be ashamed of people finding out about. Dealing with other people, the truth may not always come out but even if I don't get the whole story I can get enough of it to tell if I'm being lied to??_ that's enough.
They are important topics but not ones I want to get into on the first few dates. When we are first getting to know each other, let's just have fun. We can save the details for later as things progress. Those things would matter in a spouse but no where near as much in a friend. Let's see if we even get along as friends before you really start qualifying each other.
27. Actions speak louder than words? (So many people believe this BUT YET so many people only pay attention to, listen to and/or choose to believe what someone SAYS more than what they're actually doing, even if their actions aren't matching up with their words)
Yes, when in doubt watch what people do rather than what they say. It can be hard in some situations. Some people are evil and know how hard it can be, they??ll say exactly what you want to hear. Watch what they do.
28. If a person speaks badly about their ex, it must mean they're not over their ex yet OR that they'll dogg you out too persay the relationship ends?
Not necessarily. I don't bad mouth exes generally but there's one that I have very little nice to say about.
29. What starts in the dark will always eventually come to the light? (What about in those situations when you never get to see the actual proof & you're stuck left only with a skeptical/suspicious intuition? People have to acknowledge that "seeing it for yourself" is sometimes the most UNlikely to happen)
Whether it will come out or not, I assume it would. I don't do things that I would be ashamed of people finding out about. Dealing with other people, the truth may not always come out but even if I don't get the whole story I can get enough of it to tell if I'm being lied to??_ that's enough.
30. It's what's on the INSIDE that counts? (If so, explain the conveiance in how people choose to pick whether or not to approach or get to know someone strictly based on looks? How do you know that person is a good person or has their head on straight just b/c they're sexy?!) If looks was the deciding factor in the beginning, why do people expect for looks to become non-existent in importance once the friendship or relationship gets going? For instance, if her/his beautiful green eyes was what made you go up to & approach that person in the 1st place, how can you knock someone for still placing importance on those green eyes once the relationship has been established? Same goes for weight, body type, etc.)
What's on the inside does count??_ so does what's on the outside. Normally, physical attraction happens first. Then you see if there's anything more.
31. Women/men who go through their partner's things or cell phone are insecure? (If they have good reason to believe some sneaky business is going on AND if they actually catch their partner doing wrong, is it fair to call that person insecure all b/c they were RIGHT after primarily assuming something? If you'll notice, people never call the woman/man insecure when they actually DO find something)
The only time I??ve ever went through a partner??s stuff was when I was gathering evidence. I don't know if anyone has ever gone through my stuff., I don't care if they do or not. I have lived with a couple exes before and they are the only ones who??d have access to my stuff without me knowing. I have nothing to hide so I don't try.
32. Playing hard to get and/or certain mind games are necessary in order for someone to chase you and/OR realize how much they admire/need you? (Even though game playing is seen as wrong, we all must admit & acknowledge that certain games actually DO work!)
I disagree with this. I??d wager that people trying to influence the other person do more damage than good. I detest mind/emotional games. While they may work on me at first, once I realize that's what happened, it's done.
What's on the inside does count??_ so does what's on the outside. Normally, physical attraction happens first. Then you see if there's anything more.
31. Women/men who go through their partner's things or cell phone are insecure? (If they have good reason to believe some sneaky business is going on AND if they actually catch their partner doing wrong, is it fair to call that person insecure all b/c they were RIGHT after primarily assuming something? If you'll notice, people never call the woman/man insecure when they actually DO find something)
The only time I??ve ever went through a partner??s stuff was when I was gathering evidence. I don't know if anyone has ever gone through my stuff., I don't care if they do or not. I have lived with a couple exes before and they are the only ones who??d have access to my stuff without me knowing. I have nothing to hide so I don't try.
32. Playing hard to get and/or certain mind games are necessary in order for someone to chase you and/OR realize how much they admire/need you? (Even though game playing is seen as wrong, we all must admit & acknowledge that certain games actually DO work!)
I disagree with this. I??d wager that people trying to influence the other person do more damage than good. I detest mind/emotional games. While they may work on me at first, once I realize that's what happened, it's done.
33. Your companion can "complete you?" (Since you can't do everything to/for yourself, is it technically wrong to want/expect for someone else to fill certain voids that you, yourself cannot fulfill?)
I don't like the term —complete?? because it implies that I was somehow lacking without them. I can do everything for myself. I'm ?_ laughing as I write that because I know someone is going to try to come up with something??_ I supply all my own needs. I don't need someone else to have a good life; I want someone to share that good life with.
34. "If it's meant to be, it'll be/happen?" (Someone please point out the magical fairy that comes down & fixes other's problems/issues w/o effort from the 2+ people in the situation?)
Nope, if you want it you have to work for it. Things don't just happen??_ not for long anyway. Sure at first it may be that easy but it takes two to make it last.
35. Never tell your buddies how great of a sex life you have? (Some believe that doing so gives others the open door to sleep with or atleast attempt to sleep with your partner. Of course, I'm wondering why on earth you're even friends with someone whom you believe would sleep with your partner if they had the chance. I'm also wondering why on earth you'd even be with someone whom you believe would actually fall for it persay your friend were to come onto them!)
Sort of??_ I have discussed this stuff with buddies before but not if the relationship was real serious. I never talked to my friends about my last ex when we were married??_ that's my wife??_ A girlfriend, sure I have talked about that. Haha, what a bad double standard.
I don't like the term —complete?? because it implies that I was somehow lacking without them. I can do everything for myself. I'm ?_ laughing as I write that because I know someone is going to try to come up with something??_ I supply all my own needs. I don't need someone else to have a good life; I want someone to share that good life with.
34. "If it's meant to be, it'll be/happen?" (Someone please point out the magical fairy that comes down & fixes other's problems/issues w/o effort from the 2+ people in the situation?)
Nope, if you want it you have to work for it. Things don't just happen??_ not for long anyway. Sure at first it may be that easy but it takes two to make it last.
35. Never tell your buddies how great of a sex life you have? (Some believe that doing so gives others the open door to sleep with or atleast attempt to sleep with your partner. Of course, I'm wondering why on earth you're even friends with someone whom you believe would sleep with your partner if they had the chance. I'm also wondering why on earth you'd even be with someone whom you believe would actually fall for it persay your friend were to come onto them!)
Sort of??_ I have discussed this stuff with buddies before but not if the relationship was real serious. I never talked to my friends about my last ex when we were married??_ that's my wife??_ A girlfriend, sure I have talked about that. Haha, what a bad double standard.
1. Once a cheater always a cheater? Yes, people don't usually change.
2. What goes around comes around? Yes I believe this for sure, but I think it can come in another form.
3. Men love harder than women, it's just that women love more often? No I don't agree with this
4. Women live to love, men love to live? I think we all live to love. Just men don't admit it as easily.
5. Men are more sensitive than women? Yes, definitely. But they also don't show it.
6. 2 people engaging in FWB relations for a prolonged period of time hardly ever make it to an official relationship? True that.
7. Men should be automatically forced to pay child support if they're not currently in a relationship with the mother of the child? Yes. They got the hanky panky too and weren't responsible enough to use protection themselves. They even make a male birth control pill now. NO excuses.
8. A man/woman that's "good enough" will make a person change their ways and/or settle down? Heck no. See —once a cheater always a cheater??
9. If he/she will hit you once, they'll hit you again?
Yes. Learned this the hard way.
10. Love is unconditional? It CAN be. You love yourself first. You CANT love someone else unless you do love yourself first, so if they go crazy and start beating you up, you better still love yourself enough to get the hell out. You can still love someone but not want to be around them.
2. What goes around comes around? Yes I believe this for sure, but I think it can come in another form.
3. Men love harder than women, it's just that women love more often? No I don't agree with this
4. Women live to love, men love to live? I think we all live to love. Just men don't admit it as easily.
5. Men are more sensitive than women? Yes, definitely. But they also don't show it.
6. 2 people engaging in FWB relations for a prolonged period of time hardly ever make it to an official relationship? True that.
7. Men should be automatically forced to pay child support if they're not currently in a relationship with the mother of the child? Yes. They got the hanky panky too and weren't responsible enough to use protection themselves. They even make a male birth control pill now. NO excuses.
8. A man/woman that's "good enough" will make a person change their ways and/or settle down? Heck no. See —once a cheater always a cheater??
9. If he/she will hit you once, they'll hit you again?
Yes. Learned this the hard way.
10. Love is unconditional? It CAN be. You love yourself first. You CANT love someone else unless you do love yourself first, so if they go crazy and start beating you up, you better still love yourself enough to get the hell out. You can still love someone but not want to be around them.
16. Having sex too early dramatically decreases one's chances of making it to an official relationship with that person? Hm I don't know. I would think it depends on the person. I pretty much decide very very quickly if I want a relationship with you or not. So, it wouldn't change my opinion of you.
17. You should never start dating and/or get in a relationship with someone who just got out of one? Depends. If they??re emotionally stable its okay, but if not over their Ex yet, not okay.
18. Age aint nothin' but a number? No. I am NOT dating someone who??s 65, no matter how bad they might want to. I??ll be your friend. Period.
19. Men should always practice chivalry. They should always open doors & pull out chairs for a woman? YES!! HELL YES!!!!
20. Facebook/Myspace/or ANYof the social networking sites ruins relationships/friendships? It helps people like me who are so busy and distracted they don't keep in touch. I think its super helpful.
21. Pre-nups are necessary? I think.. if one person has a lot of money and/or stuff, and the other has nothing, or a lot of debt, then yes. If you go in about equal, no. I have no idea how I would approach the subject however.
22. Men think about sex every 15 seconds? Even better, men think about sex more than women do? I don't know. I doubt men think about sex every 15 seconds, not every single thing in the world is sexual. Probably more than most women do though.
23. When a man 1st sees a woman, the 1ST thing he imagines is how good or not she'd be in bed? Or, preferentially, what she??d look like naked. Yep, pretty sure that's accurate.
24. Having kids (even if committed) complicates/strains the relationship marriage? Yes. It is a new obstacle that hasn't been figured out yet, just like any other obstacle. It complicates things until the details about how to do it are worked out. And then, just when that's settled, the kid grows a little and things change.
25. Most athletes, people in the entertainment (mostly music) industry OR people who are exposed to fame are most likely cheaters?
I think its probably about the same as the rest of us.
26. Talking about politics, religion, ex's is a big NO NO for 1st or 2nd dates? This is taboo? Guess I??ve royally screwed up with every stranger I??ve ever talked to then. I am who I am, take it or leave it.
27. Actions speak louder than words? Yes, but the words help.
28. If a person speaks badly about their ex, it must mean they're not over their ex yet OR that they'll dogg you out too persay the relationship ends? Yeah, I think the latter. And usually the former as well, unless the ex was really that bad.
29. What starts in the dark will always eventually come to the light? Yes, eventually. Depends if you choose to stick it out long enough.
30. It's what's on the INSIDE that counts? What's inside should count for about 80% . But yes looks matter too. It just shouldn't be AS important.
27. Actions speak louder than words? Yes, but the words help.
28. If a person speaks badly about their ex, it must mean they're not over their ex yet OR that they'll dogg you out too persay the relationship ends? Yeah, I think the latter. And usually the former as well, unless the ex was really that bad.
29. What starts in the dark will always eventually come to the light? Yes, eventually. Depends if you choose to stick it out long enough.
30. It's what's on the INSIDE that counts? What's inside should count for about 80% . But yes looks matter too. It just shouldn't be AS important.
31. Women/men who go through their partner's things or cell phone are insecure?
Insecure, and CREEPY. My cell phone, my email, my stuff. You trust me 100% or we??re done. Because I am 100% trustworthy. (*zero* sarcasm here. I truly am.)
32. Playing hard to get and/or certain mind games are necessary in order for someone to chase you and/OR realize how much they admire/need you? Gods I hope not. Because I suck at them.
33. Your companion can "complete you?" You need to be complete going in. Or you??re cheating your partner. They are not there to fix you.
34. "If it's meant to be, it'll be/happen?" LOL yes, perhaps, the door will open. But you have to walk through it.
35. Never tell your buddies how great of a sex life you have? OMG I love talking about my sex life with my girlfriends. And so do they. And I wouldn't be friends with someone who??d try to steal my man.
Insecure, and CREEPY. My cell phone, my email, my stuff. You trust me 100% or we??re done. Because I am 100% trustworthy. (*zero* sarcasm here. I truly am.)
32. Playing hard to get and/or certain mind games are necessary in order for someone to chase you and/OR realize how much they admire/need you? Gods I hope not. Because I suck at them.
33. Your companion can "complete you?" You need to be complete going in. Or you??re cheating your partner. They are not there to fix you.
34. "If it's meant to be, it'll be/happen?" LOL yes, perhaps, the door will open. But you have to walk through it.
35. Never tell your buddies how great of a sex life you have? OMG I love talking about my sex life with my girlfriends. And so do they. And I wouldn't be friends with someone who??d try to steal my man.
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Lol 35 questions? Really Krys?
Hey hey hey, calm down =P I didn't expect for everybody to answer/respond to EVERY single question. Moreso just the questions/statements they can relate to the most. And for some people, all these questions might apply! JustSayin'
In regards to the "Once a cheater, always a cheater" statement, it's not that I believe cheaters can't change. No, it's moreso that I think that any time someone has gotten away with a certain behavior before, they are more likely to repeat that behavior again. Maybe not immediately or any time soon. But once it's in you AND once you've gotten away with it before, there's a chance that they'll repeat the same behavior again. This doesn't just apply to cheating; it applies to alot of bad behaviors 1 could possibly do & get away with (crime, drugs, abuse, etc.)
Key words though are "GOT AWAY WITH IT!"
If you notice, the serial cheaters who actually DO get away with cheating the majority of the time keep on cheating merely b/c they "can." And they believe they can b/c they keep getting away with it. Most people would rob a bank if they knew they'd get away with it. Sounds horrible & immoral but it's true
Key words though are "GOT AWAY WITH IT!"
If you notice, the serial cheaters who actually DO get away with cheating the majority of the time keep on cheating merely b/c they "can." And they believe they can b/c they keep getting away with it. Most people would rob a bank if they knew they'd get away with it. Sounds horrible & immoral but it's true
That's why it's VERY IMPORTANT to let a cheater know the FIRST TIME that what they've done is NOT ok or forgiveable. Some cheaters will watch their partner's reaction & base their reaction on whether or not they'll do it again. If they have a partner that is always forgiving, there's a chance they've cheated numerous times, not just once. I don't see how people don't see that correllation
Well I would very happily rob a bank (they are robbing us don't worry) but I wouldn't cheat.
And if you cheat on me well there's the door honey.
It would have to be O.V.E.R. before I could take a roll in the hay with anyone else - and I am a card carrying Aries sex maniac🙂
And if you cheat on me well there's the door honey.
It would have to be O.V.E.R. before I could take a roll in the hay with anyone else - and I am a card carrying Aries sex maniac🙂
1. Once a cheater always a cheater?
Depends on how one defines cheating. Most people cheat because there is something lacking in their current relationship whether it be love, affection, sex, communication, appreciation, so they look for happiness elsewhere in hopes of finding a partner that will meet what he/she wants/needs in a relationship. On the flip side, it could be that persons nature to cheat.
2. What goes around comes around?
Circle gets the square. I agree with LibraSid as Karma is not meant to come back at you "just because" but I do believe in cause and effect.
3. Men love harder than women, it's just that women love more often?
What is meant by "harder"? If arguing from the evolutionary standpoint, men ARE biologically/evolutionary designed to love harder. By harder I mean as in not crying or displaying any emotions or they would be seen as weak or less than a man. However, I've known and seen a few women that can be just as rigid. Also, depends on how one defines love.
5. Men are more sensitive than women.
Some are and some are not.....we are all wired differently. ( I love a sensitive man though and is NOT afraid to show it ;P)
6. 2 people engaging in a FWB relations for a prolonged period of time hardly ever make it to an official relationship?
For the sake of this arguement I'll say it's possible, but eventually one person is going to develop feelings and that makes the contract null and void!
Depends on how one defines cheating. Most people cheat because there is something lacking in their current relationship whether it be love, affection, sex, communication, appreciation, so they look for happiness elsewhere in hopes of finding a partner that will meet what he/she wants/needs in a relationship. On the flip side, it could be that persons nature to cheat.
2. What goes around comes around?
Circle gets the square. I agree with LibraSid as Karma is not meant to come back at you "just because" but I do believe in cause and effect.
3. Men love harder than women, it's just that women love more often?
What is meant by "harder"? If arguing from the evolutionary standpoint, men ARE biologically/evolutionary designed to love harder. By harder I mean as in not crying or displaying any emotions or they would be seen as weak or less than a man. However, I've known and seen a few women that can be just as rigid. Also, depends on how one defines love.
5. Men are more sensitive than women.
Some are and some are not.....we are all wired differently. ( I love a sensitive man though and is NOT afraid to show it ;P)
6. 2 people engaging in a FWB relations for a prolonged period of time hardly ever make it to an official relationship?
For the sake of this arguement I'll say it's possible, but eventually one person is going to develop feelings and that makes the contract null and void!
7. Men should be automatically forced to pay child support if they're not currently in a relationship with the mother of the child? (Some women won't make a man pay child support strictly b/c he's still in a relationship with her, even if he's NOT financially contributing to the child)
On one hand yes because it forces the man to take ownership and responsibility for the life that was created, on the other hand no....what if the man is finanically unable to pay? Where and what are his options then? I could go on, but I'm too tired at the moment
8. A man/woman that's "good enough" will make a person change their ways and/or settle down? (We've all heard people say, "Well if the RIGHT one comes along THEN I'll change." They say this as to suggest that someone else other than themselves will transform them into commitment-worthy good men/women)
I've heard this one alot. I've also heard/seen people get married with the idea/expectation that their partner will change. I'm with LibraSid on this one......if you fell in love with them as they were/are BEFORE you got married, why expect them to change? I think this mentality is the WRONG mentality men/women take when looking for a relationship. People have to WANT to change their ways not because it is expected of them. I'm sure if most people met the one that was right for them, they would be willing to ADJUST some of their ways but to ask another person to CHANGE is just plain selfish and unfair.
10. Love is unconditional?
Again, circle gets the square. Everyone wants to be loved/accepted for who they are and it's rare to meet people that truly believe in this concept. I have more to comment on this subject too, but I'm too tired right now.
On one hand yes because it forces the man to take ownership and responsibility for the life that was created, on the other hand no....what if the man is finanically unable to pay? Where and what are his options then? I could go on, but I'm too tired at the moment
8. A man/woman that's "good enough" will make a person change their ways and/or settle down? (We've all heard people say, "Well if the RIGHT one comes along THEN I'll change." They say this as to suggest that someone else other than themselves will transform them into commitment-worthy good men/women)
I've heard this one alot. I've also heard/seen people get married with the idea/expectation that their partner will change. I'm with LibraSid on this one......if you fell in love with them as they were/are BEFORE you got married, why expect them to change? I think this mentality is the WRONG mentality men/women take when looking for a relationship. People have to WANT to change their ways not because it is expected of them. I'm sure if most people met the one that was right for them, they would be willing to ADJUST some of their ways but to ask another person to CHANGE is just plain selfish and unfair.
10. Love is unconditional?
Again, circle gets the square. Everyone wants to be loved/accepted for who they are and it's rare to meet people that truly believe in this concept. I have more to comment on this subject too, but I'm too tired right now.
13. It's impossible to have platonic friendships with the opposite sex?
I disgree, that's a personal choice. I also think it depends on the maturity level of each person.
17. You should never start dating and/or get in a relationship with someone who just got out of one?
That depends on the person. My personal take on this one is no, one should NOT enter into another relationship the after just getting out of one. Depending on the nature/duration of the relationship, I think it's important to take time to grieve and heal oneself. The person that was once important to you is no longer there so it's important to use that time to evaluate ones self and see what was learned and what you want/don't want in a new relationship. Sure, we all have baggage, but one should always pack light.
19. Men should always practice chivalry. They should always open doors & pull out chairs for a woman?
That is a personal choice. Sure, there are men out there who abide by this "rule" but if I was a man I would not want to be with a woman who EXPECTS it.
30. It's what's on the INSIDE that counts?
I agree. What is going on inside will be reflected on the outside.
35. Never tell your buddies how great of a sex life you have?
My take on this is, why invite others into the most personal area of your relationship? It's fine to share certian information with people, (for example, "Hey, my wife/husband just got promoted.... or "were thinking of having a baby" but when it comes to inviting others into your relationship... unless they are a REALLY good and TRUSTED friend, I would keep things to a minimum.
I disgree, that's a personal choice. I also think it depends on the maturity level of each person.
17. You should never start dating and/or get in a relationship with someone who just got out of one?
That depends on the person. My personal take on this one is no, one should NOT enter into another relationship the after just getting out of one. Depending on the nature/duration of the relationship, I think it's important to take time to grieve and heal oneself. The person that was once important to you is no longer there so it's important to use that time to evaluate ones self and see what was learned and what you want/don't want in a new relationship. Sure, we all have baggage, but one should always pack light.
19. Men should always practice chivalry. They should always open doors & pull out chairs for a woman?
That is a personal choice. Sure, there are men out there who abide by this "rule" but if I was a man I would not want to be with a woman who EXPECTS it.
30. It's what's on the INSIDE that counts?
I agree. What is going on inside will be reflected on the outside.
35. Never tell your buddies how great of a sex life you have?
My take on this is, why invite others into the most personal area of your relationship? It's fine to share certian information with people, (for example, "Hey, my wife/husband just got promoted.... or "were thinking of having a baby" but when it comes to inviting others into your relationship... unless they are a REALLY good and TRUSTED friend, I would keep things to a minimum.
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