Friendships. How a friend treats others.

Have you ever had a friendship who you've witnessed treating others w disrespect? Did that change your perception of him/her? Would you feel like it's your place to address it? Is disrespect towards OTHERS, a deal breaker for your friendship?

Then it's pretty obvious that person is not friendship material if he/she disrespects others and not me. This is why I do what they call "observe".

maybe?

why would a friend disrespect someone else? is that someone else a piece of shit? is that behavior warranted?

I need context

Posted by Endless

maybe?

why would a friend disrespect someone else? is that someone else a piece of shit? is that behavior warranted?

I need context

I witnessed this "friend" disrespect her mother via tone and wording because her mother didn't gift her a bathing suit from her vacation.

Heard her talking down to others.

I created space between she and I. She inquired about it. I told her that her disrespect was too much. Her response: Have I disrespected you? She hadn't, but I didn't see her the same.

Posted by sweetpea2977

Posted by Endless

maybe?

why would a friend disrespect someone else? is that someone else a piece of shit? is that behavior warranted?

I need context

I witnessed this "friend" disrespect her mother via tone and wording because her mother didn't gift her a bathing suit from her vacation.

Heard her talking down to others.

I created space between she and I. She inquired about it. I told her that her disrespect was too much. Her response: Have I disrespected you? She hadn't, but I didn't see her the same.

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If it’s towards family, I don’t judge because you never know the whole story. Maybe her mom never considers anyone else’s feelings.

If it’s to a stranger then I’d be concerned.

Though I will say this: My Taurus bff was letting her Virgo friend crash on her couch until he could save enough money to get his own place. He would help with the bills, but she would have to ask him to pay and that upset her because she felt like he should automatically offer to pay bills as a sign of gratitude. Eventually she had enough of him, and kicked him out of her apartment and said some mean things to him about his character.

When she was telling me all this I will admit I have never in my life felt more inclined to reach out to someone I barely know to make sure they’re okay. I just wanted to message him and tell him “Sorry she did that to you. I feel like you didn’t do anything wrong. I’ve been on the other side of her wrath and I know it feels like shit, but I hope you didn’t take anything she said to heart”.

Buuuut I didn’t reach out to him because I was worried he would tell her and she would then get mad at me for siding with the enemy. It was tough and that was one of the few times I’ve ever reconsidered my connection with her.

Posted by sweetpea2977

Have you ever had a friendship who you've witnessed treating others w disrespect? Did that change your perception of him/her? Would you feel like it's your place to address it? Is disrespect towards OTHERS, a deal breaker for your friendship?

when I was young I didn't think much of it. Looking back it makes since. "Your not special, it's just not your turn". Explains a lot.

Sure sometimes it's understandable what they are doing and why. I'll let it slide after pointing out what they are doing to them. That's after seeing both sides and understanding what happened. Regardless, However they responded to it, I do take into account.