Girl And I Cant Agree

ill make this short ok ... look my girlfriend is really upset "pissed off" with her ex-boyfriend "total fink" for reasons that are triveal to me ... but she wants too call or go and freak out on him ... but basically ... she is telling me she doesnt want me to come with her incase he gets stupid and starts freaking out back ... "i say the fact that when she was with him he was fink and choked her and whatever else, then when they were trying too be friends he got mad and got pushy and choked her worse ... when i tried getting involved at the time she told me to forget about it but i havent forgot how i felt when i was hearing this "how can a guy put his hands on a girl" i tried to relax about the fact but thing is she basically wants too go start a fight with him but dont want me there "i told her i had love for you then i love you with all my heart now your crazy too think im ok with you going alone" i think i should just go deal with him or atleast be with her but she says noooo!!!!! .... whats the views in others mind cause i dont think me wanting to be there is a bad idea

Why is SHE even going over there?

She's in the relationship with YOU now, not him. She's supposed to be entertaining & spending her time/energy on and with YOU, not any other men, & especially not her ex.

It's completely disrespectful that she's in a new relationship & is spending energy and time on him that should only be directed towards you. Her still entertaining him to this extent is a slap to your face.

Do they have a child together? I'm hoping so b/c that'd be the only logical explanation for why they're even still communicating & especially to the point where they're still meeting up, having spats, etc.

Something is fishy. Either something is missing from the story or she's def. playing the hell out of you.

Maybe she doesn't want you going over there b/c there's something she's not telling you. Clearly his violent ways haven't scared her enough or else she wouldn't put herself in harm's way.

I don't think you should put yourself in harm's way either unless you're positive that her story about this whole ex thing is completely true. Again, maybe it's just me but something is missing!

Either way, this is your time. She should be laughing, having fun & entertaining YOU!

She's not over him yet

I think if it's done with him there's zero need for her to roll up in the ex's face. NONE. That's past tense. Here and now is with you. Supposedly. If it isn't and she feels the need to wallow back there,..when she should be *HERE*, cut it loose. If there weren't still feelings rattling round somewhere she wouldn't feel the need to be pissed about anything he says or does. That is walking a fine line. I agree with what is on top of me post wise. Drama-rama.

Yeah dude she's spending time with him on YOUR dime & at your expense

She's spending quality time with the 1 person she's supposed to not spend any time with

She's got you so whipped that you don't even realize that you're encouraging her to keep dealing with him!

Instead of wondering why she doesn't want you to go, the real question is why is SHE even going (with or without you)?!!!

Dump her. Tell her to call you when she's over him & when she can give you the time/energy you earned & deserve.