Hard Candy (Strong and silent type) vs Squishy Marshmallow (emotionally detached)

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These are the two types of individuals I find are most discussed in private concerning the dating world and have caused many lives to turn into dramatic soirees. So, let’s discuss the two in some detail and explore the mindsets.

For some reason, “growth in the world” is the primary cause of people becoming hard candy. What I mean by that is underneath a hard exterior, there’s usually someone sweet and gentle on the inside hidden deeply. Most of us, after getting a little taste of the flavor want to take a deep bite through the exterior to get to the good stuff in the center. It’s often fleeting and fades just as fast as it was experienced because there really isn’t much there. Usually the inside is full of the realities about that person. Their heartaches, their problems, their childhood issues, fears of abandonment, so on and so forth. This is the typical type of person most people find themselves curious about and an air of mystery behind to only discover a person.

What I’d like to discuss is the Squishy Marshmallows out there. The ones that seem soft and get stuck in between your teeth. The ones that requires flossing for the next 6 months to undo the impact and fight of the gum disease gingivitis. Squishy Marshmallows are the people who appear light hearted and free with an overall indifference to nouns (people, places, and things). They seem preoccupied with whatever makes themselves happy, and often are smiling and laughing day in and day out. At first bite it feels almost easy and comforting, however, once your teeth attempt to penetrate, you find that there is so much effort necessary to find what lies within the soft textures. They appear the same throughout. No emotional connection. No desire for ties to anyone outside of their families. And no desire to make anything solid with anyone for any reason. These types of people “feel” beyond the confines of traditional relationships and would refuse traditions in order to protect their inner self from having any further damage inflict on them. They feel safe in their distance and with multiple options. They are not looking for love and/or find relationships to be more of a contract than a willful choice.

Some benefits of being hard candy is you are open to receive sincere deep affections, build a future, cherish another person for who they are fully (the good and the bad), and the ability to grow a world with someone to name a few. Some potential risk is heartbreak, severe loss, further mental and emotional development, experience, sadness, and occasional internal imbalance caused by another human being.

Now the flip side. For a Squishy Marshmallow, some of the benefits are emotional detachment, minimal financial or personal loss, multiple dating and intimate experiences with various people, a sense of independence, and financial and personal development focus to an extent. The potential risk is loneliness, being used by others as a tool, blindness to sincere affections, regrets (at some point looking backwards instead of looking forward), lack of emotional and mental fulfillment, various levels of detachment, and sometimes the inability to sustain real relationships in their lives.

Now there are many other types of personality traits that can be characterized by candy, but in my experience the two types which end up being discussed in private the most are hard candy and squishy marshmallow. So in order to remain focused, I would like for people to discuss your experiences with these two types of individuals. Are you a Hard Candy or a Squishy Marshmallow— And if you find similarities within yourself, what are the purposes behind your safeguards?? After an extended period of time with the disposition stated, how do you feel about your life style choices?? Since this is an almost completely anonymous website, individuals should feel comfortable enough to freely discuss.. Thanks in advance…
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😢 Too much to read for a Thursday

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I know right? I'll read that whole post when I get plenty time on my hands. I skimmed thru it and so far it sound interesting.
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It would be easier to read it with some paragraphs thrown in there lol. For now its just a wall of words.
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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

😢 Too much to read for a Thursday

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I know right? I'll read that whole post when I get plenty time on my hands. I skimmed thru it and so far it sound interesting.

It would be easier to read it with some paragraphs thrown in there lol. For now its just a wall of words.
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It's very odd for a Gemini to write long posts let alone read long posts without getting short attention spans. I would've been done quit and give up. And I still haven't find time and the attention span to read it yet.
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Posted by BlueStar

Try to put me into categories and see how I change.


Same...But, assuming they are diametrically opposed, if we put these categories at opposite ends of a spectrum where do you think you'd fall?

Or maybe these categories are not as at odds with each other as one might think and there exists other options, say Hard Candy exterior and Squishy Marshmallow interior...

Lots of ways to reason about this...not enough time though...