@Rainbow87
7 Years
Would you end a relationship if your SO insults you?
Should You End a Relationship Over Insults
Ending a relationship due to insults depends on the severity and frequency. Consistent verbal abuse can harm emotional health and may warrant reconsideration. Healthy relationships require respect and communication. If insults happen rarely and are addressed, it might be manageable, but ongoing disrespect suggests a need to evaluate your boundaries and well-being.
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Tell him to stop if its hurting you
How bad are the insults?
I definitely don't appreciate to be disrespected even if they're angry. I don't treat someone I care about like that even if I'm angry and I always cringe when I see people do it. Friends who have behaved like that I've never trusted and they don't stay friends for long. Worst with those that use what you've told them in the past in confidence against you. 👎
I can always insult someone a lot worse than they can insult me. People call it insults, I call it foreplay.
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I'd probably end it with you if you couldn't take an insult lol
Depends on what they said and their intention.
This. I'm sensitive asf, so I try to take time to evaluate what the slight was before I react. However, if the insults are constantly belittling comments, that's a red flag. I draw the line at emotional abuse.
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Do you know how many times today I’ve read your posts thinking it was Ands and thought wtf is Ands on lately? 😂 wooo I was getting nervous.
Insults when mad hold a grain of truth/resentment from the other person.
So if we're not gonna address the source of the anger and why the go to reaction is insults then why stick around? I'm not here to be torn down.
Either we work on a healthier way of communication or we go our separate ways. Someone lashing out and using you as an emotional punching bag is not ok. Been there, done that.
Well, my boyfriend is Mexican so the insults were in Spanish and I understand because I’m Latina as well. While we were arguing he suddenly looked at me and said: “you’re a piece of shit”. And the most recent time he insulted me was when we were arguing about something insignificant and he said: “are you listening to me dumbass?” But he said it all in Spanish. But I think it’s pretty offensive.
It’s not fair because I treat him with respect even if I’m angry. I might yell but never insult
He called you a piece of shit
That’s how I’d describe a child abuser, rapist etc .... the lowest of the low
And you’re still with him.....why?
run
Maybe its about the intent. Theres things to be said that insult far worse. Sometimes the truth hurts. Sometimes you can tell a woman the same thing as an insult but in nice words and they will take it.
It's all about the intent. I can say mean things too but as a joke.
Maybe its about the intent. Theres things to be said that insult far worse. Sometimes the truth hurts. Sometimes you can tell a woman the same thing as an insult but in nice words and they will take it.
It's all about the intent. I can say mean things too but as a joke.
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i sometimes play too hard, i can agree here.
but if it's serious then i think eventually one of you will probably end it
Well, my boyfriend is Mexican so the insults were in Spanish and I understand because I’m Latina as well. While we were arguing he suddenly looked at me and said: “you’re a piece of shit”. And the most recent time he insulted me was when we were arguing about something insignificant and he said: “are you listening to me dumbass?” But he said it all in Spanish. But I think it’s pretty offensive.
It’s not fair because I treat him with respect even if I’m angry. I might yell but never insult
burn it down.
Hi
I just want your feedback in this situation. I love my boyfriend but lately when he gets mad he insults me. I believe we’re all human and we can say things we don’t mean out of anger. It’s ok if it happens once or twice but my SO is really offending me. I’m the type of person that thinks it’s stupid to let someone insult you and act as if nothing happened. My parents have insulted each other over and over and I always told myself I was not going to ever allow that or be like them.
The thing is that I know relationships can be complicated and no one is perfect. Would ending the relationship over this be too dramatic? I’m a Cancer so I’m sensitive and I take things personal. But I don’t know if I’m overreacting or if it’s wrong to stay when someone starts to insult you. I’m not perfect either but I don’t offend people unless they really provoke me.
Ugh.
My ex Leo was white Italian and I’m black.
One day he made a comment and called my lips “n*gger lips.”
Yes, yes I would leave my partner if they insult me.
That’s how it begins with abusers. It’s temperature checking. Toddlers do it. It starts with verbal abuse and then psychological and then physical.
It’s true what they say, you teach people how to treat you.
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This
He called you burra! Yeah I’d have a talk with him how even if mad it’s unacceptable
My ex Leo was white Italian and I’m black.
One day he made a comment and called my lips “n*gger lips.”
Yes, yes I would leave my partner if they insult me.
That’s how it begins with abusers. It’s temperature checking. Toddlers do it. It starts with verbal abuse and then psychological and then physical.
It’s true what they say, you teach people how to treat you.
Horrible
My neighbour is with an Italian Leo man ... she tells me he rages and shouts at her and her sweet dog. The neighbour is one of the most sensitive people I ever knew .... Pisces sun/Taurus moon
Oh it’s the same guy that can’t provide for you, doesn’t even sleep with you nor respect you. Yes it’s. A reason to break up
Maybe not instantly, but my ego wouldn't be able to take that. At the same time if I truly feel I deserved it I would act upset, but accept it on a deep. I might secretly feel this, be completely open about it, or even be open about it way later down the road after the fact. It's really hard for me to say how I would feel. My Leo sun can't handle insults whatsoever, and my Scorpio moon does weird shit to my head. I can either end up passive and accepting, feel its kind of karmatic or even end up feeling masochistic, or if I already disrespect you I'll end up spiteful and vengeful. Sometimes I might think it's funny and throw one right back for fun. Insulting me is literally like rolling dice.
Well, my boyfriend is Mexican so the insults were in Spanish and I understand because I’m Latina as well. While we were arguing he suddenly looked at me and said: “you’re a piece of shit”. And the most recent time he insulted me was when we were arguing about something insignificant and he said: “are you listening to me dumbass?” But he said it all in Spanish. But I think it’s pretty offensive.
It’s not fair because I treat him with respect even if I’m angry. I might yell but never insult
How did he react when that cast iron skillet bounced off his forehead? Did he have a change of attitude?
My ex Leo was white Italian and I’m black.
One day he made a comment and called my lips “n*gger lips.”
Yes, yes I would leave my partner if they insult me.
That’s how it begins with abusers. It’s temperature checking. Toddlers do it. It starts with verbal abuse and then psychological and then physical.
It’s true what they say, you teach people how to treat you.
Horrible
My neighbour is with an Italian Leo man ... she tells me he rages and shouts at her and her sweet dog. The neighbour is one of the most sensitive people I ever knew .... Pisces sun/Taurus moon
Maybe the dog did a whoopsie in his slippers.
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Hope so
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
NYC men are arseholes?
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
NYC men are arseholes?
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Mostly.
The nice ones are tourists, visitors and transplants.
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
NYC men are arseholes?
Mostly.
The nice ones are tourists, visitors and transplants.
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Arrogant?
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
NYC men are arseholes?
Mostly.
The nice ones are tourists, visitors and transplants.
Arrogant?
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Yea
Lol
Hi
I just want your feedback in this situation. I love my boyfriend but lately when he gets mad he insults me. I believe we’re all human and we can say things we don’t mean out of anger. It’s ok if it happens once or twice but my SO is really offending me. I’m the type of person that thinks it’s stupid to let someone insult you and act as if nothing happened. My parents have insulted each other over and over and I always told myself I was not going to ever allow that or be like them.
The thing is that I know relationships can be complicated and no one is perfect. Would ending the relationship over this be too dramatic? I’m a Cancer so I’m sensitive and I take things personal. But I don’t know if I’m overreacting or if it’s wrong to stay when someone starts to insult you. I’m not perfect either but I don’t offend people unless they really provoke me.
Okay, so this is where the questions about abuse is coming from....
"Sensitivity" has nothing to do with how you feel about being called a piece of sh*t and a "dumba**". Wanting to be treated with kindness and respect in a relationship, the bare minimum really is not asking for "perfection". Jesus, how low are we setting the bar?
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
NYC men are arseholes?
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Not the point.
Can't use heritage and a "lack of exposure to black people" (aka "I'm European) to not know that term would be offensive. Even if dude just got off the plane and flew in all the way here from 1940, he knew better.
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
NYC men are arseholes?
Mostly.
The nice ones are tourists, visitors and transplants.
Arrogant?
Yea
Lol
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I dated one from NYS....he was very arrogant
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
NYC men are arseholes?
Not the point.
Can't use heritage and a "lack of exposure to black people" (aka "I'm European) to not know that term would be offensive. Even if dude just got off the plane and flew in all the way here from 1940, he knew better.
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I was asking/repeating what D wrote. Did i misunderstand her?
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
You are what you eat.
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On a roll again
What did you have for dinner?
Don't answer that 😂😅
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
NYC men are arseholes?
Not the point.
Can't use heritage and a "lack of exposure to black people" (aka "I'm European) to not know that term would be offensive. Even if dude just got off the plane and flew in all the way here from 1940, he knew better.
I was asking/repeating what D wrote. Did i misunderstand her?
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I believe you did Star. And that wasn't so much directed towards you as it was more about highlighting what I believe DMV meant.
If he was born and raised in North America (NYC), stating his heritage and lack of knowledge on "some issues" to excuse his comment is basically that, an excuse. I highly doubt people that do not live in North America live under a rock and they have a good idea of what is and isn't offensive given the current social/political climate. I mean what would have been wrong with saying "you have beautiful full lips" if he was truly intending to give her a compliment? Meh. I'm not buying it either, even if he wasn't a NY native.
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
NYC men are arseholes?
Not the point.
Can't use heritage and a "lack of exposure to black people" (aka "I'm European) to not know that term would be offensive. Even if dude just got off the plane and flew in all the way here from 1940, he knew better.
Right, ain't no way in hell anyone who has been immersed in a Western Culture for any extended period of time can be completely oblivious to not using that phrase.
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*like*
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
You are what you eat.
On a roll again
What did you have for dinner?
Don't answer that 😂😅
Sausage roll.
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Thanks for coming out about that 😀
Insults = foreplay. Insult me and the pants come off not the gloves.
Verbal foreplay, shit talking, teasing when the other is in on the joke = Banter. Always fun finding someone you can do this with. I miss it.
Unfortunately in her case this is not Banter. She isn't being over sensitive either. Her other post give a better context showing it's malicious.
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
NYC men are arseholes?
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The previous user thought that the Leo being from Italy may have been oblivious due to his culture.
However the Leo in question is from the United States, specifically NYC.
He knows better.
What he said is what an asshole would say
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
NYC men are arseholes?
The previous user thought that the Leo being from Italy may have been oblivious due to his culture.
However the Leo in question is from the United States, specifically NYC.
He knows better.
What he said is what an asshole would say
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Yes it is
How long were you with him D?
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
NYC men are arseholes?
The previous user thought that the Leo being from Italy may have been oblivious due to his culture.
However the Leo in question is from the United States, specifically NYC.
He knows better.
What he said is what an asshole would say
Yes it is
How long were you with him D?
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Way too long
3 years.
First and last relationship of my life.
20 years single
Thank you Jesus
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
NYC men are arseholes?
The previous user thought that the Leo being from Italy may have been oblivious due to his culture.
However the Leo in question is from the United States, specifically NYC.
He knows better.
What he said is what an asshole would say
Yes it is
How long were you with him D?
Way too long
3 years.
First and last relationship of my life.
20 years single
Thank you Jesus
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Wow a long time
How long did he act like an arsehole?
Insults = foreplay. Insult me and the pants come off not the gloves.
Verbal foreplay, shit talking, teasing when the other is in on the joke = Banter. Always fun finding someone you can do this with. I miss it.
Unfortunately in her case this is not Banter. She isn't being over sensitive either. Her other post give a better context showing it's malicious.
I've just re-read the thread. I've also realized I said pretty much the same nearly a year ago. You're right it is abuse
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Do you find yourself holding back with someone new or wait until they start talking shit themselves? I'm always holding back until I get a solid feel for them before I start running my mouth 😂
Hi
I just want your feedback in this situation. I love my boyfriend but lately when he gets mad he insults me. I believe we’re all human and we can say things we don’t mean out of anger. It’s ok if it happens once or twice but my SO is really offending me. I’m the type of person that thinks it’s stupid to let someone insult you and act as if nothing happened. My parents have insulted each other over and over and I always told myself I was not going to ever allow that or be like them.
The thing is that I know relationships can be complicated and no one is perfect. Would ending the relationship over this be too dramatic? I’m a Cancer so I’m sensitive and I take things personal. But I don’t know if I’m overreacting or if it’s wrong to stay when someone starts to insult you. I’m not perfect either but I don’t offend people unless they really provoke me.
Honestly, telling me to fuck of is a good ground to end a relationship.
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
NYC men are arseholes?
The previous user thought that the Leo being from Italy may have been oblivious due to his culture.
However the Leo in question is from the United States, specifically NYC.
He knows better.
What he said is what an asshole would say
Yes it is
How long were you with him D?
Way too long
3 years.
First and last relationship of my life.
20 years single
Thank you Jesus
Wow a long time
How long did he act like an arsehole?
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Too long
He taught me that second chances are for the birds.
Do things right the first time
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
NYC men are arseholes?
The previous user thought that the Leo being from Italy may have been oblivious due to his culture.
However the Leo in question is from the United States, specifically NYC.
He knows better.
What he said is what an asshole would say
Yes it is
How long were you with him D?
Way too long
3 years.
First and last relationship of my life.
20 years single
Thank you Jesus
Wow a long time
How long did he act like an arsehole?
Too long
He taught me that second chances are for the birds.
Do things right the first time
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Yes true for sure
How did he take it when you finished with him D?
Love and respect go hand in hand. Stick around long enough and you'll begin to believe those insults. Ive been there. Thank god I left but it was too late because we have a child together. Took me a while get my confidence back but im 100 now.
And no you're not overreacting. Its called boundaries. You wouldn't feel upset for no reason. Do whats best for you put I can tell ya it will never stop
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
NYC men are arseholes?
The previous user thought that the Leo being from Italy may have been oblivious due to his culture.
However the Leo in question is from the United States, specifically NYC.
He knows better.
What he said is what an asshole would say
Yes it is
How long were you with him D?
Way too long
3 years.
First and last relationship of my life.
20 years single
Thank you Jesus
Wow a long time
How long did he act like an arsehole?
Too long
He taught me that second chances are for the birds.
Do things right the first time
Yes true for sure
How did he take it when you finished with him D?
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That cancer Mars was angry and he got physical.
He still reaches out from time to time
He tries to use past memories as a way to reconnect.
I don’t respond to his demands to answer the phone.
Naw not buying if.
He was born in nyc
An asshole is an asshole
NYC men are arseholes?
The previous user thought that the Leo being from Italy may have been oblivious due to his culture.
However the Leo in question is from the United States, specifically NYC.
He knows better.
What he said is what an asshole would say
Yes it is
How long were you with him D?
Way too long
3 years.
First and last relationship of my life.
20 years single
Thank you Jesus
Wow a long time
How long did he act like an arsehole?
Too long
He taught me that second chances are for the birds.
Do things right the first time
Yes true for sure
How did he take it when you finished with him D?
That cancer Mars was angry and he got physical.
He still reaches out from time to time
He tries to use past memories as a way to reconnect.
I don’t respond to his demands to answer the phone.
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Does he have Mars Pluto?
Yes best to ignore him ...
Babe you have to STOP being a doormat. I love cancer ♋️ women but the stuff I’ve seen y’all put up with 🤦🏽♀️. This married cancer at work sticks with her husband, although he has a side chick (for like 3 yrs), that she knows about…talking about she’s trying to figure out what his role in the marriage is 😳.
Please 🙏🏽 don’t waste the rest of your youthful years on this dude, bc inevitably you’ll split, and you’ll just be resentful that you’ve wasted so much time on something that you knew wouldn’t work in the long run. You can’t get your time ⏰⏳ back. Why wait for him to leave?
Babe you have to STOP being a doormat. I love cancer ♋️ women but the stuff I’ve seen y’all put up with 🤦🏽♀️. This married cancer at work sticks with her husband, although he has a side chick (for like 3 yrs), that she knows about…talking about she’s trying to figure out what his role in the marriage is 😳.
Please 🙏🏽 don’t waste the rest of your youthful years on this dude, bc inevitably you’ll split, and you’ll just be resentful that you’ve wasted so much time on something that you knew wouldn’t work in the long run. You can’t get your time ⏰⏳ back. Why wait for him to leave?
I’ve known several Cancer women stay in abusive relationships .... the dark side of the moon.
Babe you have to STOP being a doormat. I love cancer ♋️ women but the stuff I’ve seen y’all put up with 🤦🏽♀️. This married cancer at work sticks with her husband, although he has a side chick (for like 3 yrs), that she knows about…talking about she’s trying to figure out what his role in the marriage is 😳.
Please 🙏🏽 don’t waste the rest of your youthful years on this dude, bc inevitably you’ll split, and you’ll just be resentful that you’ve wasted so much time on something that you knew wouldn’t work in the long run. You can’t get your time ⏰⏳ back. Why wait for him to leave?
I’ve known several Cancer women stay in abusive relationships .... the dark side of the moon.
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Smh 🤦🏽♀️! Being patient and forgiving should be good thing, but not when it’s to your own detriment. I feel sorry for women that stay in these situations, and end up damaged, questioning their own self worth, by the end of it. I always pray that I never end up being this naive and gullible, bc love will have you doing some stupid sh $ t 😂🤦🏽♀️.
I have a cancer ♋️ associate who this happened to, dealt with so many toxic relationships, being a doormat, that she just settled for and married someone that does not allow her to be her affectionate authentic self. 😕She complains but doesn’t do anything to change it.
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Hi
I just want your feedback in this situation. I love my boyfriend but lately when he gets mad he insults me. I believe we’re all human and we can say things we don’t mean out of anger. It’s ok if it happens once or twice but my SO is really offending me. I’m the type of person that thinks it’s stupid to let someone insult you and act as if nothing happened. My parents have insulted each other over and over and I always told myself I was not going to ever allow that or be like them.
The thing is that I know relationships can be complicated and no one is perfect. Would ending the relationship over this be too dramatic? I’m a Cancer so I’m sensitive and I take things personal. But I don’t know if I’m overreacting or if it’s wrong to stay when someone starts to insult you. I’m not perfect either but I don’t offend people unless they really provoke me.