How many men...

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by lildol on Wednesday, May 29, 2013 and has 15 replies.

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@lildol
16 Years5,000+ Posts

Play the games (if you want to call it that) that women (are supposed to) play... ya know, don't text right away, don't take the call, make him chase you, blah, blah, blah. And wtf is this 3 day rule? Something like men shouldn't call a woman for 3 days or some shit like that after meeting them. I'm confused. Why all the BS??

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@sweethearts
20 Years5,000+ Posts

Personally I don't think they actually play the game as such.

From experience I have always had guys contact me constantly and straight away but that was because they were very keen. If they take their time or hold out, it just tells me they aren't really that interested. And in turn, they don't interest me.

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@Scorpio72
13 Years

I agree how frustrating it is for people to play games and manipulate...it's wrong and a huge turn off for me. I suggest reading "Why Men love Bitches".

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

I should think from reading all these threads in dxp, a person would come to realize that most females do participate in gaming .... so then when a woman comes along with maturity and wants to have a normal relationship, the guys think she is just like the rest of her kind ..... and visa versa.

it's a generational thing, really

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@jessgoogoo
13 YearsLibra

I don`t got time for men who don`t have time for me, simple as that...I got plenty of more important things to do then wait for a man..hmmmm guess this is why I am single...dammit...

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@truecap
14 Years10,000+ Posts

Well, if you really are out doing your thing, going places and living an exciting life, and text/call back when you get a chance to catch your breath, how is it a game?
It's only a game if you're pretending to be doing those things so you "appear" interesting.
And, in truth, a man or woman living the busy life really isn't going to care or notice if someone calls or not - and that, in itself, makes them more attractive.

Only problem is it's hard to distinguish the difference: Is she an interesting, fabulous person? Or is it just a game?

And yes, I think the generational issue has a lot to do with it. We tend to do things the way we were taught and always have. For example: A 50 year old man will think differently about a woman calling him all the time than a 22 year old man would. A 50 yo will expect to be the one to do the calling and wouldn't like or understand a woman being that forward, but a 22 year old man would expect a woman to be that way. Of course, this is a generalization.

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@truecap
14 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by PotHeadVirgo22
Because I don't call you the first day of obtaining your number, I'm playing games? GTFOH

No.

I think women expect a call on the 4th day now - it's just how it is.

I think it makes you more attractive to me if you wait. If you called me immediately, I'd think 1) you are really interested in me, but I'd be on guard, or 2)that you have nothing better to do or 3) you're needy and desparate.

After five days, you get written off and 1) you're not interested or 2) you're playing a game and then I'm no longer interested. And don't dare call Friday for a meet up on Friday.

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@wateryram80
13 Years

I like a little bit of chase and "games". But I also get bored easily and will move on if you make me chase too much or come on too strong.

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@Undine
13 Years5,000+ Posts

Yes to tailor-made games and tests! Show me that you are fun, creative, smart and interested in me.

No to rudeness! Do I expect you to call me the day after? I expect you to call me a few minutes after, you moron 🙂!