I'll call you back!!

Random question but would love to know the answer to this lol. When guys say to their gf 'I'll call you back babe!' But they never do...why is that lol?

So I rang my bf after he had finished work, see how his day went etc. He answered and I asked him how he was, what he was up to. He said, just at my friends house, I'll call you back later babe. That's fair enough. Not bothered by it. He never called back haha. And I was actually looking forward to speaking to him on the phone as it has been a few days.

I rang his mum after that phonecall to catch up and hoping to get a call from him. And he ends up ringing her! Lol. In my head I thought, cool he's gonna call me now. Haha. But he didn't.

I'm not fussed by it but why does that happen. I'm intrigued to know lol.
He's a scorpio and I'm Aqua even though that may not make a difference, just thought I'd add that in!

Idk because I have Aquarius moon and idc but I do like conversations alot. And I happen to fret if I get told that and it takes along time to get back at you..

As long as I hear from you sometime...my polar opposite sign of Scorpio. Is like hm you said.you would call, a- he got busy for real, b- he sped home, rushed to bed, and forgot to call, c- he's out doing something totally wrong, or he's at a bar with the guys.

I wouldn't worry about it. He just got busy with his friends. He did tell you where he was and what he was doing, assuming you'd understand.

At times you think your in the mood then its eeeehhhhh all do it later.. later becomes a week. You don't want to feel like its a chore and you want the time to be right.

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Posted by Weeds
At times you think your in the mood then its eeeehhhhh all do it later.. later becomes a week. You don't want to feel like its a chore and you want the time to be right.

HAhaa. You're a saggie right?? Yeah... I get that.

At least shoot off a text and say it though. "Hey, don't feel like talking yet but I'll call when I do, don't want to leave you hanging" would suffice.

Without it you look like you don't care. Which creates insecurity and walls start being built to protect yourself.

100% transparenency is a must! For me at least.

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Lol Yh a text like that would be great!

I rang him again today and he was busy with something. He said to me 'I know I've been saying I will call you back and I haven't done so, but later on I will defintely call you.' That's sweet of him to say. He didn't call but he sent me a text message instead. Would of preferred a call lol he might call later. Who knows!

I just feel like I'm doing all the initiating at the moment.

Stop chasing (aka initiating all the contact). If he wants to talk to you he will call. If he doesn't want to he won't.

Posted by Arielle83
Just call him if u want to talk. You're the creator of your own destiny. Now you waited for nothing.

Well, she's called him twice and both times he said he'd call back and he didn't. I'm thinking he doesn't want to talk to her. So if she keeps calling him, well, that's just irritating. Before long he won't even be answering his phone.

I agree. Being ignored is horrible.

I stopped the initiating. Usually on the weekend we make plans to meet. I didn't hear from him. I phoned him which I felt awkward doing lol but found out he was asleep.

Later on in the day he text me saying can we meet during the week instead. I have a day off. It would of been nice if he called to say it. I called him. No answer. He called me back.

He said he had been working a lot recently and it's been tiring him out. I said to him so that's the reason you disappered on me. He felt bad and said he tried to avoid me cos he's been stressed out due to work and didn't want to take it out on me - typical scorpio lol.
He has done this in the past so I wasn't worried that I didn't hear from him but being ignored is really frustrating. If I knew he was stressed, I would of left him alone lol and I said that to him.
He said to me, it's not nice me saying to you I want space or I'm stressed.

Things seem normal and I can't wait to see him 🙂 such a girl lol.

to be honest, that's really inconsiderate and rude. What if you had done that? You'd be up shit creek. Fucking ridiculous. *smh*

I'm mutable.

later = 5 minutes or 5 years

well not as dramatic as 5 years but mutables have a warped idea of time. we seem to go through our lives without paying attention to it.

i need a lot of space and sometimes my mind gets so exhausted even hearing some other person talking is draining me. no matter how much i love them. but in an emergency, you won't hear me go "talk to you later".

Posted by jellybaby
He has done this in the past so I wasn't worried that I didn't hear from him >

Yes you were, otherwise, you wouldn't have created this thread.

Posted by beautifuldiaster
Psssssssssssh.

I get people become busy, but I am never to busy to give adequate attention to someone I truly and deeply care for.

I call bullshit. And as much as I would want to see him I would wait till the last minute and cancel.

OPPS. sorry.

+1

She says things are normal because she talked to him. The next time he's a no show or doesn't call her back, she's going to be thinking the same thing again.

Hun, smarten up. He's inconsiderate to your thoughts and feelings. No shows without prior notice are a DEAL BREAKER for me.

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Posted by lisabethur8
to be honest, that's really inconsiderate and rude. What if you had done that? You'd be up shit creek. Fucking ridiculous. *smh*

Who me?

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no. i was talking to jelly chick. Always so unsure and scared not to confront him.

if he did that to you, you gonna take it?? you gonna let him DOORMAT you to the ground?? shheeeesh.

some men out there are really strong, and they give the impression they're gonna kill you if you say anything. So you get scared but if they are not the ABUSIVE type, then you should put your foot down. don' t be the long doormat, no matter how pretty it is.

never mind. -_-

past is past.
just confront him.

Hmm ok I understand where ure all coming from. Obviously I don't want to be a doormat!!

Confront him..how?

I did mention to him that he was off the radar...his reply was that he was stressed with work and didn't want to take it out on me.

I'm not scared of him and I'm not in an abusive relationship.

I wonder how long u have been together?

I'm surprised that u wrote about working a lot as it comes across that you didn't know that? Usually couples in a committed relationship pretty much know each others schedules

Know matter how much you want to reach out when he says he's stressed please don't. I'm super stressed at work and at the moment I have this guy who keeps annoying me asking if I'm ok like every other day. It's truly irritating and makes matters worse.

You two just seem very casual if you are not meeting up or contacting much..

Posted by AriesGirl74
I wonder how long u have been together?

I'm surprised that u wrote about working a lot as it comes across that you didn't know that? Usually couples in a committed relationship pretty much know each others schedules

Know matter how much you want to reach out when he says he's stressed please don't. I'm super stressed at work and at the moment I have this guy who keeps annoying me asking if I'm ok like every other day. It's truly irritating and makes matters worse.

You two just seem very casual if you are not meeting up or contacting much..

We have been together for four years. He has recently started a new job so he's still in the process of training. He's not allowed to use his phone at work so we usually talk after work or whenever one another is free.

Since he told me he's been stressed out I've left him to it and given him his space. It probably gets annoying having someone call when you just want to be left alone. He has been texting me here and there.

We usually see each other once a week usually weekends due to our schedules and the fact we live about one hour away makes it harder to see one another weekdays.

Posted by jellybaby
Hmm ok I understand where ure all coming from. Obviously I don't want to be a doormat!!

Confront him..how?

I did mention to him that he was off the radar...his reply was that he was stressed with work and didn't want to take it out on me.

I'm not scared of him and I'm not in an abusive relationship.

Sigh....I don't see why it's so hard. Grow some balls. Those knots on your chest aren't there for decoration.

You tell him in no uncertain terms that the next time he is a no show you will no longer be available to him.

Then. You observe. If he cares about you, he doesn't do it again. If he doesnt care, he does it again. Either way you have your answer