Common denominators of Online Dating **** 4 girls*

I felt like writing about this because, In an effort to go on by my life and move on from things that have been consuming my attention and energy, I've recently join online dating website... luckily I have no expectations, can meet guys for friendships or maybe I found someone that catch my eye and my heart, who knows...

Today is my fist week and I've been contacted for quite a few guys, some are not my type or simply as shallow as it sounds I'm not attracted to them (physically) if Im not interested I don't reply... because I don't own anyone anything... anywise the reason I opened this thread is because I will like to ask all the girls doing online dating (no judgment) there are certain things I've been noticing around all the profiles I've seen on quickmatch (setting) and I wonder if any of those things work for other girls...

Obviously Im shooting for my equal as man, young professional, who lives in the city, with similar interest and so and so... but after flipping though almost 100 profiles tonight (bored) I noticed all this things... the paretics are my personal thoughts on the matter...

1- Guys posting their cars or motorcycles (Im looking to date your car)
2- No picture, ban face or blurry profile picture (As shallow as it sounds online dating is about image first why not showing your face)
3- Pictures of chest and abs only (is clear looking for sex, but WTF yeah cool you are proud of your equipment, but is there anything out there?)
4- WTH with the bathroom selfie—? (is there a guide book or something that tells guys they should at least post selfie holding your phone?)
5- The thug pic.... (is that really attractive— like are there girls who like that? rapper looking golden teeth etc)
6- pics with the kids (honestly is fine and appreciate that you list you have kids... why do you post pics of your kids is dangerous)
7- Only dog pics (again Im looking to date a guy not your dog)
8- Not a single word or the typical "I'm not good at writing" on describe yourself section (Honestly if you cannot sell yourself, who is going to take you— no one is good at that crap, but at least made an effort)
9 - Why is blacks, latinos, asian, indian, etc list themselves as white or caucasian? (excuse me if I sound racist, but we all have preferences, and obviously you are not part of that demographic group)
10 - Hunting, fishing, ATV pics... why— (Im pretty sure I didn't sign for farmers.com)
11- Why is with all those men who use as their

So you are on OKcupid. Good luck..

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
So you are on OKcupid. Good luck..

HAHAHAHAHAHA nice!!!

It's ok really just always have to stay alert, and pick the good ones from the bad ones. And I won't even read a profile that says, I'll fill this out later or any screen name related to sex.. but I like that most people put their zodiac sign on there too.

There's alot of fwb types, open relationship on there, and a few guys that want long term. So you have to pick carefully...and I do sometimes look at all the pics along with a brief short description of what you represent in your life.

Seriously good luck I've been on there a few times. Actually its still active. Lol..

Posted by DonJohnson
pseudo intellectual joins a community then proceeds to over-analyze every little detail then put everyone in a box.

Pseudo girl respond on a thread it was clearly not mean for a guy (unless your dick is just for decoration)

If this offended you is probably because you fit any of the above description, get over yourself over analize or not... Everybody does, judgemenr is what online dating is mostly about, you judge by looks, by race, demographics, by descriptions by likes we judge and get judged...

Get lost!!

What i asked the girls on this forum is that if they find any of this things attractive? I dont, and i wonder if it works or not.

My thread got chopped before point 12 which was about all those guys just like you who will like to beat the girl in question self esteem to make them feel bad about their likes and call them names to lower them to their level because otherwise they are totaly out of their league... I got this messages but all i feel is 2 seconds of pity, delete and keep flipping...

And this thread is about to get trolled in 3... 2... 1

Thats funny very good observation!!!

Also beware of anyone who says I don't like drama or I don't want any drama. I came to the conclusion, after to talking to some that put that in their profile, they feel the need to post that because they are the drama and cause it in their relationships...and yes this is men's profiles I'm talking about.

^^^^ OMG totally agree!!! never thought about that on online dating but more like in general of people who try avoid "drama"

I think you're going into it all shallow with a bit of superficiality yourself.
You're ridiculing guys because they are expressing themselves through pictures. Pictures tell a lot about someone's personality. They are showing they like dogs, work out, like to go have adventures and you're ruling them out because of this.

Think about this, what pictures are you posting that would cause someone to rule YOU out?

The whole point is to find someone who has the same interests, right?

P.S.
The pic of the guy with the dog, a nice truck, riding an ATV, hunting, or fishing - That's MY kind of guy!!! I wouldn't rule that out. He's showing he's kind, has a decent income and enjoys going out and being active and loves adventure. Who WOULDN'T want to date that guy.
- Just sayin'

But I agree with the Taurus, avoid the sexy user names and the guys who are shirtless. And whoever said avoid the ones who state they don't want drama.

If they're posting a dating profile, that should be a common denominator to avoid.

As I've said before, online dating profiles reek of desperation- same with the old school ones. Relationships and romance should happen organically. When you go looking for it, it doesn't always fare as well as if something naturally happened.

Yeah, yeah, there ARE people who have made this garbage work, but the percentages are pretty low.

All online dating profiles do is match desperation to desperation. When you get those combined, it creates a lot of crazy. I know of someone who uses his dating profile for the sole purpose of collecting options. Even his profile gives that away, even though he's not aware of it. It's kinda sad and red flag worthy.

Also, if you want to demean your self worth by whoring yourself out on a listing of individuals advertising themselves for dates, go with a paid site. We just talked about this recently in another thread and they've found that paid dating sites tend to have more serious prospects than free ones. Free ones invite all the mentally unstable and ax murderers.

Another thing pointed out was that more successful pairings seem to happen when you meet someone via a medium that involves mutual interests. It makes more sense because you're meeting while doing something involving that interest- not the sole purpose of faking your personality to keep someone around for dating.

I don't think everyone on a dating site is desperate. But, I do agree, go with the paid ones. If someone has to pay, they'll take it more seriously than the free ones. Free ones tend to have more losers, in my opinion.

Posted by Redbull
Not that there's anything necessarily inherently wrong with it but it is what it is. People you dont know on a computer.

Exactly. I always hear the argument of "well people can fake who they are in regular dating too!"

Yes, but you can pick up SO much more when you're face to face. People can craft themselves behind that screen and you can't always pick up on usual red flags irl that would tell you the person isn't the best in the world.

....And it's gotta suck to invest so much time prior to actually meeting those people, only to find out they're lying/pervs/whatever bs was hidden behind that screen.

At least in face to face dating, you can weed out these freaks with much more efficiency.

In regard to the OP's points, it makes me lol when guys post some of these things on their profiles. The ab shots especially. It's like "honey, you're doing it wrong. Get off of the computer."

Nevermind cheesy lines to attempt to pique interest when all it does is invite lolz haha.

The guy I mentioned prior- he has down something like "here for making friends, short term dating, long term dating." It kinda screams "I'm here for whatever I can get." I'd think any sane women would see that and go "nope. He has no idea what he wants."

Overall, the idea of cataloguing yourself for others to choose from is just... so stupid.

Posted by truecap
I don't think everyone on a dating site is desperate. But, I do agree, go with the paid ones. If someone has to pay, they'll take it more seriously than the free ones. Free ones tend to have more losers, in my opinion.

You will be surprised of how much people do to match.com and don't event make serious profiles, but yeah the price tag chance a bit the game...

I was comparing notes with a friend of mine the other night about this guy.... who despite being super hot, after talking to him, I've realized he was just looking for hook ups... just the wrote the right things... he offer for the first date, his house to watch movies if you know what I mean... case of not even owning a TV (not that I went there, but that is what I've imagined).... turns our my friend was on a couple of the paid ones... and my story sounded oddly familiar to her... turns out she went out with the same guy, she did went to her house... turned out to be a creeper.... so paid will not change much...

Thinking as a guy... if you paid $ 40 a month to get laid at least 5 times a month is way cheaper than a cheaper hooker...

Posted by truecap

The whole point is to find someone who has the same interests, right?

P.S.
The pic of the guy with the dog, a nice truck, riding an ATV, hunting, or fishing - That's MY kind of guy!!! I wouldn't rule that out. He's showing he's kind, has a decent income and enjoys going out and being active and loves adventure. Who WOULDN'T want to date that guy.
- Just sayin'

No, I've think you have misunderstood me a bit...

I don't have an issue with the guy with his dog pictures, I do have one with mine is actually good thing.... What I've meant is only pictures of the dog as your profile.... excuse me is a dating site for people... not dating your dog...

The thug pic is not personality....

Pictures of your kids only? Ok fine you have kids, nice that you mentioned, but who am I dating? you or your kids?

Posing to much attention of your propriety is putting to much emphasis on your belongings and speak as you don't value yourself enough to be yourself, who ares what car you drive... besides in america everybody can drive whatever fancy car (credit baby). again posting more pictures of your house, car, boat, then complain that you only get hit by gold diggers... I mean hello!!!?

The obligatory mirror selfie it has to be some sort requirement for guys... lame sorry.. lack of originality... use a fucking selfie stick and take a descent pic...

I value more the guys who take pics with their friends, or on their trips, practicing a sport... it means they have a life... maybe the hunting and fishing maybe is because I don't like any of that... I'm such a city girl...

Posted by fullwaterpisces
The obligatory mirror selfie it has to be some sort requirement for guys... lame sorry.. lack of originality... use a fucking selfie stick and take a descent pic....

Lmao @ a guy owning a selfie stick.... 😆 That if anything should send red flags.

Posted by fullwaterpisces

Posted by truecap

The whole point is to find someone who has the same interests, right?

P.S.
The pic of the guy with the dog, a nice truck, riding an ATV, hunting, or fishing - That's MY kind of guy!!! I wouldn't rule that out. He's showing he's kind, has a decent income and enjoys going out and being active and loves adventure. Who WOULDN'T want to date that guy.
- Just sayin'

No, I've think you have misunderstood me a bit...

I don't have an issue with the guy with his dog pictures, I do have one with mine is actually good thing.... What I've meant is only pictures of the dog as your profile.... excuse me is a dating site for people... not dating your dog...

The thug pic is not personality....

Pictures of your kids only? Ok fine you have kids, nice that you mentioned, but who am I dating? you or your kids?

Posing to much attention of your propriety is putting to much emphasis on your belongings and speak as you don't value yourself enough to be yourself, who ares what car you drive... besides in america everybody can drive whatever fancy car (credit baby). again posting more pictures of your house, car, boat, then complain that you only get hit by gold diggers... I mean hello!!!?

The obligatory mirror selfie it has to be some sort requirement for guys... lame sorry.. lack of originality... use a fucking selfie stick and take a descent pic...

I value more the guys who take pics with their friends, or on their trips, practicing a sport... it means they have a life... maybe the hunting and fishing maybe is because I don't like any of that... I'm such a city girl...

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I get what you're saying. I just meant that what is a turn off to you, may be interesting to someone else.

The thug pic does say something about personality, though. He's a wanna be thug...thinks that stuff is cool. My response.....Next!!! lol!
And yeah, the dog as a profile pic, I agree with you on that.
The kids in the pic? No, you're not actually dating his kids, but you WILL be dating his kids if things get past the first stages. So, yeah, he's upfront that he has kids that are important and need to be

considered.
The boat? Well, if you're not into fishing or skiing then pass him up. That's his life and what he's into. If you're not into that, yall won't be happy.
The overly priced car...well, I look at that and thing "he's in debt up to his eyeballs....Next!!"
The bathroom selfie..yeah. I admit. That's lame.

You just have to learn to read between the lines and how to cull out those you don't want.

I met my Aqua on match. We're from the same home town and knew who each other was. Had we not been on there, we wouldn't have known each other were single. So, it's been a blessing for us.

It's each to their own I guess, what works for one person may not work for another. I actually found myself nodding along to the original post lol

I tend to steer clear of guys that only have one profile picture, especially one that's too professional.

I dislike pictures with children, it's fine that you have kids and you obviously love them but don't use them to pull a new girlfriend... Just seems wrong.

I hate hypocrites too, I decided to contact a guy who stated in his profile not to just say hi as an effort should be made when contacting him... He stated it was boring just to say hi, he was cute and we had things in common so I contacted him, he replied with dead end answers each time, I ended up telling him I'd had better conversations with a toll booth operator he was so uncommunicative.

Posted by Nightcap
I think it's a good option if only it serves to meet compatible people you otherwise wouldn't have a chance to meet. It wasn't too long ago where many, married people from their home town or not very far out of their area. The internet has changed that for good. On the flip side, Rocky makes some good points about pitfalls. One serious example is the 'location' pitfall, a perfect example demonstrated by our duplicitous, proclaimer of 'moral courage', enfant..

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Posted by fullwaterpisces
The obligatory mirror selfie it has to be some sort requirement for guys... lame sorry.. lack of originality... use a fucking selfie stick and take a descent pic....

Lmao @ a guy owning a selfie stick.... 😆 That if anything should send red flags.

You should be in favor of it. It allowed you to cheat on your live-in girlfriend of 8 years with girls on this site and meeting them at an outside location without bringing them to where you live...That is, until your gf checked your phone, saw what you were doing on this site, and created an account (never posted though) for the sole purpose of PM-ing users here to let them know what was going on .

Red flag indeed.

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lolz

Oh, the shit behind the scenes is hilarious.

Posted by Nightcap
You should be in favor of it. It allowed you to cheat on your live-in girlfriend of 8 years with girls on this site and meeting them at an outside location without bringing them to where you live...That is, until your gf checked your phone, saw what you were doing on this site, and created an account (never posted though) for the sole purpose of PM-ing users here to let them know what was going on .

Did this go down the way you envisioned it when you practiced in front of the mirror? Or would you say it's been a let-down so far?

Srsly dude, no one cares, even if you knew half of it. Ties are broken, new ones are formed, lessons are learned, life goes on until it doesn't.

But by all means, have your little Jerry Springer moment. I imagine you're used to those by now.

Sugarbear I live 15 minutes away from Corona.. Lol

You can't even get one or the better half of your own life sorted out in your head, to even speak of mine. Gossiping via PM's like some passive-aggressive old hag. The thing is, at the end of the day I will have learned and progressed from my past mistakes and shortcomings, while sadly, you will always remain the emotional retard you are today. Why change a winning concept when it's obviousely working for you?

"Common denominators of Online Dating **** 4 girls*"

It's very simple...............DON'T DO IT.

Get off your lazy asses, get out there and meet men in person....and NO not in a bar. Unless you're looking to get laid and dumped.

a friend of mine has been using eharmony for years. she told me a lot of men she dated either wanted sex fast, weekend romance only, or her money. some of them wanted all 3 of course lol. well, too giving is an enabler.

she said if you say no, there are many girls who would say yes so you lose lol. it sounds like a competition to be used LOL

Posted by GetMisted
Guys..

Why not take this off the board? You really want to air out your dirty laundry for all to see?

Enfant and Nightcap have alot of tension going on.