is it a turn off

for a guy if a girl expresses feelings first? even if you actually have feelings for her too? is a lack of chase a turn off?

feelings lead to blowjobs

a male friend once told me don't tell a guy directly that you have feelings instead just give hints and let him pursue if he is interested.

Posted by moondust

Posted by firebunny
feelings lead to blowjobs

is the opposite true?

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damn IDK i'm sorry I have no answer

Posted by firebunny
feelings lead to blowjobs

guy trying to trick girl using her feelings?

Posted by tiziani
Anyone can talk about feelings, really. I don't think it makes that much of a difference. Better to show it (in my personal opinion).

yes, I mean anyone can talk about feelings, but what are chances of guy responding with a yes.

Posted by puhleeze

Posted by firebunny
feelings lead to blowjobs

guy trying to trick girl using her feelings?

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even if he wasn't trying to trick you that's where the road leads

Posted by Shashkay
Two people on either end of a line who want to be together who cares who walks to who if they end up where they both want to be...beside each other.

yes I agree if feelings are strong express them even if just to make you feel good that at least the other person knows, but not sure if a guy is waiting for a girl to express herself like a girl waits for a guy.

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Posted by firebunny
feelings lead to blowjobs

is the opposite true?

damn IDK i'm sorry I have no answer

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sounds like BJs are the END of it all lol

Posted by Shashkay
I told the cappie first. He said it back. :-P

good to know. I know a married couple where the girl expressed first.

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Posted by Shashkay
I told the cappie first. He said it back. :-P

good to know. I know a married couple where the girl expressed first.

Yep, same in every committed relationship I've ever had.

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lol good one. but I liked guy married the girl who expressed first. maybe it is not as rare as I think but in general girls are programmed to wait for the guy to make the first move so are nervous to make it. I think for me at least if it comes to now is your only chance to tell him, or I can't keep my feelings to myself anymore and I know he is interested too, I would go for it because at that point I just want him to know whatever his answer. maybe that's the key, not worrying about the answer but just about letting the other person know.

Posted by tiziani
Also I wasn't making fun of you with post about my relationships. It's just the way it turned out for me. Anytime I was serious about a woman, she was always the first to express how she feels.

sometimes we get our happy endings.. i haven't yet but there's always hope.

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Posted by Shashkay
I told the cappie first. He said it back. :-P

good to know. I know a married couple where the girl expressed first.

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I said it first (three years ago) and we're getting married.

I told him factually and had no expectations. I felt it so I said it. I owned it and did it confidentially. "I love you - get used to hearing it".

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Posted by Shashkay
I told the cappie first. He said it back. :-P

good to know. I know a married couple where the girl expressed first.

I said it first (three years ago) and we're getting married.

I told him factually and had no expectations. I felt it so I said it. I owned it and did it confidentially. "I love you - get used to hearing it".

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congratulations! you followed your heart.

Posted by Ellycakes
Whether it was like or love I always have been the one to express feelings first. Which was fine with the ex scorp. We didn't exchange I love you's till 8 months in I think?

I'm sure I told him how much I liked him before that though, just not as strong as love. It never seemed like a big deal, I can't remember it being so anyways. Which that approach hasn't worked so well this time around. Last person I said that to broke things off right after.

Which I guess you win some lose some. I think the crab I dated recently told me he liked me first actually. It seemed like it was a big deal to him when he did, as there was a lot of build up and he seemed nervous. He probably felt that he did like me more than I liked him though.

To me it doesn't seem like a big deal to tell someone I like them, because I always feel it's pretty obvious at that point as we are spending tons of time together, talking and seeing each other a lot. So to me it's like 'Well duh I like you otherwise I wouldn't be spending time with you.'

when feelings are mutual and both show interest it seems easier, but when there is subtle hinting or indirect interest showing then you think should i, shouldn't i. does he, does he not.