The Lady Scorpio
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L.O.V.E ?
Its a hard lesson to truly love unconditionaly. And in loving someone whom can lay waste to you. Better to have loved and lost.
Wow that is really well written.
That is how you really love..
Always to think of the other first..
To not take from them..
Not manipulate or persuade love just enjoy love for what it is while it lasts. But have the trust and faith that it will last.
That is how you really love..
Always to think of the other first..
To not take from them..
Not manipulate or persuade love just enjoy love for what it is while it lasts. But have the trust and faith that it will last.
People have been trying to define what "love" means for ages.
What 1 person believes to be "love" is what another person swear is the opposite of love
Love means different things to different people.
There are plenty of people who are possessive (for example) that swear AND believe that they are experiencing love. However, there's another person across the street claiming that the simple fact that there is possession involved at all means that it is clearly not love. But if you ask both couples if they believe they love each other, BOTH will say yes. And BOTH will believe what they're saying.
That's why I hate the term "puppy love." As adults, we knock the youngins who are going about love for the 1st time. We minimize their feelings w/o realizing that how they feel is VERY real & very much so feels just as fulfilling & like "love" as the people/couples who are 20 years older than them.
We mess up the minute we try convincing ourselves that love isn't love unless it's unconditional. There's no such thing as unconditional love b/c "conditions" start when you 1st meet someone. They have to be your type, or say the right things or have things about them that attract you to them. Those are called "conditions," ...i.e meaning that if certain factors aren't there, love let alone a romantic spark would not even have been established or able to get off the ground
They have to treat you right, open up to you, trust you/show they're trustworthy, etc. Those are conditions.
If unconditional love was possible then physical, emotional, spiritual & sexual attraction wouldn't matter. But they do matter b/c there are absolutely "conditions" that need to be there in order for a connection to be established, let alone for love to build
And there's nothing wrong with that! Why are we so afraid & apologetic for sometimes not wanting to put up with or accept certain things? Some things are just not ok. Some things are just not acceptable.
If everyone accepted everyone for their flaws & all, you'd have a lot more broken relationships/people in the world b/c not ever having to be held accountable or suffering consequences for being/doing something negative would give no incentive to those who need to change. The worst thing you can do is enable a Narcissist to continue being narcissistic by telling them that who they are/what they do is Ok (just an example)
Love can be fulfilling w/o the 2 people in it being perfect.
What 1 person believes to be "love" is what another person swear is the opposite of love
Love means different things to different people.
There are plenty of people who are possessive (for example) that swear AND believe that they are experiencing love. However, there's another person across the street claiming that the simple fact that there is possession involved at all means that it is clearly not love. But if you ask both couples if they believe they love each other, BOTH will say yes. And BOTH will believe what they're saying.
That's why I hate the term "puppy love." As adults, we knock the youngins who are going about love for the 1st time. We minimize their feelings w/o realizing that how they feel is VERY real & very much so feels just as fulfilling & like "love" as the people/couples who are 20 years older than them.
We mess up the minute we try convincing ourselves that love isn't love unless it's unconditional. There's no such thing as unconditional love b/c "conditions" start when you 1st meet someone. They have to be your type, or say the right things or have things about them that attract you to them. Those are called "conditions," ...i.e meaning that if certain factors aren't there, love let alone a romantic spark would not even have been established or able to get off the ground
They have to treat you right, open up to you, trust you/show they're trustworthy, etc. Those are conditions.
If unconditional love was possible then physical, emotional, spiritual & sexual attraction wouldn't matter. But they do matter b/c there are absolutely "conditions" that need to be there in order for a connection to be established, let alone for love to build
And there's nothing wrong with that! Why are we so afraid & apologetic for sometimes not wanting to put up with or accept certain things? Some things are just not ok. Some things are just not acceptable.
If everyone accepted everyone for their flaws & all, you'd have a lot more broken relationships/people in the world b/c not ever having to be held accountable or suffering consequences for being/doing something negative would give no incentive to those who need to change. The worst thing you can do is enable a Narcissist to continue being narcissistic by telling them that who they are/what they do is Ok (just an example)
Love can be fulfilling w/o the 2 people in it being perfect.
- a delicate balance between independence and desire. two individuals who are in love should maintain their individuality, or you lose what inspired love in the first place.
-love isn't all a bed of roses. it can be a meditation on pain as much as it is cloud nine.
-just like time, love isn't something you can possess. you can only thrive or be defeated within it.
that's how i understand that excerpt. and i agree with it. it's very poetic, thanks for sharing!
to me... love, in general, is like a public event. you go, hoping it will be great, but the experience all depends on the company, the attitude of the company and their contributions, emotional or physical ??_including your own. it's not anything we can control singularly. for love to be great, we look to ourselves and the company. we do what we can and hope the company holds up their end. i don't mean for this analogy to suggest polyamory??_ i'm just talking about two entities.
however, i think it's easy to forget that love is also something we have the ability to create within ourselves and to give from ourselves. our own love we have all the control over??_ and if we wanted, it could be a wellspring. love doesn't always have to be an exchange.
-love isn't all a bed of roses. it can be a meditation on pain as much as it is cloud nine.
-just like time, love isn't something you can possess. you can only thrive or be defeated within it.
that's how i understand that excerpt. and i agree with it. it's very poetic, thanks for sharing!
to me... love, in general, is like a public event. you go, hoping it will be great, but the experience all depends on the company, the attitude of the company and their contributions, emotional or physical ??_including your own. it's not anything we can control singularly. for love to be great, we look to ourselves and the company. we do what we can and hope the company holds up their end. i don't mean for this analogy to suggest polyamory??_ i'm just talking about two entities.
however, i think it's easy to forget that love is also something we have the ability to create within ourselves and to give from ourselves. our own love we have all the control over??_ and if we wanted, it could be a wellspring. love doesn't always have to be an exchange.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Interesting perspectives to but share. . .
—Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.??
?? Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet
Your thoughts?
This part very much spoke to my Venus. It fears the thought of losing its freedom, but desires a deep connection that moves and continues to flow.
The rest---a scary truth that requires more reflection.
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?? Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet
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