What is wrong with people that they feel neglected by someone they only went out with once? Crazy shit.
Neglect
Some people just need to be slapped.
Desperation?
Some people like to feel neglect when you don't respond to their texts quick enough...
B/c they're not dating for the experience or for the moment. They're not interested in who a person is on the inside.
They're dating b/c they think being "wanted" validates their worth, thus explaining why even a 1-day crush rejecting them feels like the world is ending.
They're dating b/c being "wanted" is an ego boost. It's about "What can you do for me? What voids can you fill in me?" The minute someone decides not to sign up for the "I'll validate your abandonment, self-esteem & ego issues by simply wanting you & paying attention to you," they freak out, feel hopeless, feel sorry for themselves & feel like a dagger has gone through their heart.
Point being...it's not about the other person. It's not about what others do/don't do. It's about themselves & how their inner issues of ALREADY feeling inadequate, unworthy & hopeless can't stop resurfacing.
People like this shouldn't be dating or looking for anyone at all. But of course these kinds of folks are the 1st ones in the dating arena. They think others won't see through their powerful insecurities/issues. They think others will fix it "If they'd just want me." Of course that never actually happens once the person actually finds someone who won't reject them. Those very same issues will just resurface later on down the road.
Hell a lot of the people going through breakups & divorces at this very minute are doing so b/c they're just now realizing that they may have went into relations for the wrong reasons or for reasons with a foundation based on lust, desperation & an enormous need for a disposable void filler. Of course those kinds of relationships/marriages never last anyways. But the person with abandonment issues will think they'll be the rare 1% who gets lucky & who can turn an initially toxic situation into a healthy one, where all their inner issues magically vanished.
Can't tell these kinds of folks anything.
Happens every day. Unfortunately.
They're dating b/c they think being "wanted" validates their worth, thus explaining why even a 1-day crush rejecting them feels like the world is ending.
They're dating b/c being "wanted" is an ego boost. It's about "What can you do for me? What voids can you fill in me?" The minute someone decides not to sign up for the "I'll validate your abandonment, self-esteem & ego issues by simply wanting you & paying attention to you," they freak out, feel hopeless, feel sorry for themselves & feel like a dagger has gone through their heart.
Point being...it's not about the other person. It's not about what others do/don't do. It's about themselves & how their inner issues of ALREADY feeling inadequate, unworthy & hopeless can't stop resurfacing.
People like this shouldn't be dating or looking for anyone at all. But of course these kinds of folks are the 1st ones in the dating arena. They think others won't see through their powerful insecurities/issues. They think others will fix it "If they'd just want me." Of course that never actually happens once the person actually finds someone who won't reject them. Those very same issues will just resurface later on down the road.
Hell a lot of the people going through breakups & divorces at this very minute are doing so b/c they're just now realizing that they may have went into relations for the wrong reasons or for reasons with a foundation based on lust, desperation & an enormous need for a disposable void filler. Of course those kinds of relationships/marriages never last anyways. But the person with abandonment issues will think they'll be the rare 1% who gets lucky & who can turn an initially toxic situation into a healthy one, where all their inner issues magically vanished.
Can't tell these kinds of folks anything.
Happens every day. Unfortunately.
People like that are like, "HOW DARE YOU?!!!" when they get rejected!
They can't believe that the almighty them isn't considered good enough for someone else.
It bothers them. It eats them up. It makes them question themselves & their own worth as a man/woman. It makes them experience emotions that aren't even rational. It makes them think so much worse about a person that's probably not even a bad person at all.
They have abandonment issues that started long before the person that recently rejected them. And instead of dealing with those inner issues, they'd rather put the burden of "fix me" onto others, hence the reason people are immediately turned off by those who express clinginess or extreme anxiety too early on. It sends the message that the person has some ego, self-esteem or abandonment issues.
And anyone with a brain who's learned anything in life would know that their simple attention won't change or erase another person's issues. And if those issues can't be erased by their mere presence, why sign up for a situation where those issues are most likely to resurface in the future & cause problems?!
There's too many fish in the sea to purposely walk into a situation where a person is wearing their issues on their sleeves from the very beginning. Too much. Life is too short for that.
If I reject a man & he has a heart attack, that confirms for me that rejecting him was the right move! lol
They can't believe that the almighty them isn't considered good enough for someone else.
It bothers them. It eats them up. It makes them question themselves & their own worth as a man/woman. It makes them experience emotions that aren't even rational. It makes them think so much worse about a person that's probably not even a bad person at all.
They have abandonment issues that started long before the person that recently rejected them. And instead of dealing with those inner issues, they'd rather put the burden of "fix me" onto others, hence the reason people are immediately turned off by those who express clinginess or extreme anxiety too early on. It sends the message that the person has some ego, self-esteem or abandonment issues.
And anyone with a brain who's learned anything in life would know that their simple attention won't change or erase another person's issues. And if those issues can't be erased by their mere presence, why sign up for a situation where those issues are most likely to resurface in the future & cause problems?!
There's too many fish in the sea to purposely walk into a situation where a person is wearing their issues on their sleeves from the very beginning. Too much. Life is too short for that.
If I reject a man & he has a heart attack, that confirms for me that rejecting him was the right move! lol
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