Not trying to Play the Race Card..But DAM!!

Disclaimer: P-Angel. This has NOTHING to do with the Virgo who I am dating. This is merely an observation.

I am a 27 year old African American woman who lives in Los Angeles. I have girlfriends from all different cultural backgrounds. All of my friends including myself, are well educated, independent, attractive (a few are average, the rest above average), with awesome personalities. I have noticed that all of my black girlfriends are single. Single as in not married or dating anyone exclusively. Single as in IF they do have a man in their life, he is not worth two pennies to rub together! Lol. My cousin is the only exception to this. She married a wonderful man and they just had a baby. BUT she had to get him when he was fresh and ripe for the picking at 17 years old. She took his virginity. So, that was a sealed deal. Lol. All of my friends who are White, Asian and Latina are either married or in a relationship. We all live in (roughly) the same area.

A few months ago, Oprah had an episode about this. The percentage of single Black women (between the ages of 25 - 45) is almost double to that of White women. Is it our (Black) men— Black men who are in gangs? In jail? Gay? Do not want to date Black women? Losers?

What is really going on? I have made a promise to myself. If I am not married or seriously dating (on the fringe of getting married) someone by the time I turn 35, I am going to get artificially inseminated. I REALLY want a family. I WANT to be a mother. I might not be able to control these foolish men. Lol. But I can control having a baby...dammit! Lol. Oh Lordie.

Well...obviously I don't know you, so this may be a moot point, as you may already be doing this, but my recommendation would be (if you aren't) to date outside of your race. There are a lot of BEAUTIFUL men out there that just love women; regardless of their race, etc, so if you aren't I'd recommend doing it and putting out that "vibe" that you are open to it! It's amazing what will happen...trust me 😉

Posted by USCTaurusGal
Well...obviously I don't know you, so this may be a moot point, as you may already be doing this, but my recommendation would be (if you aren't) to date outside of your race. There are a lot of BEAUTIFUL men out there that just love women; regardless of their race, etc, so if you aren't I'd recommend doing it and putting out that "vibe" that you are open to it! It's amazing what will happen...trust me 😉

Judging by your name I am guessing that you either currently attend USC or used to attend USC. Not trying to get in your business. But if you live in LA as well, you know how segregated it is in LA. Unfortunately, I really do not run in circles where there are a lot of men who are not Black. Let me stop lying, I really do not run in circles where there are ANY men. Lol. Where are the men!?!?! Not at least men that I am attracted to. I do not feel as though I am overly picky. I am definitely open to interracial dating. Love come in all shades!!! For the last 2 months I have not been on the look-out (so to speak) b/c I am dating someone, who I hope I have a future with. I guess I was not specifically speaking for myself. Just in general??_

Lol, no worries. Yes, I did live in L.A., when I was in school and thereafter, but I haven't lived there for several years, but I am there often, as I have a lot of friends that live there. I definitely am sympathetic to your plight because I have friends who are 27-37 and they all complain of the same things and they live all over the U.S. from L.A to NYC , and they are bright, beautiful, articulate, and highly educated women who either own their own businesses or have good jobs. Yet, they are single with no real, tangible dating choices. Out of about a couple dozen or so of my female friends, more than half are willing or have dated outside of their race. There are about 6/7 of them that I am still working on! It's interesting because all of us that aren't seriously dating anyone right now (for whatever reasons) - none of us have ever been married (most of us have been engaged at least once or twice, but nothing stuck 😉); and none of us have any children. Most of us have high standards and don't just settle for anything!
Nowdays there are a lot of places to meet people, and I'm not just talking dating sites. There is this site called meetup.com that has a lot of different groups for all types of people to join - book clubs, dog clubs (NOT fighting the dogs), cooking, wine clubs, etc. I've found that when you do things you love, you tend to find like minded people, and at least you know you will have at least one thing in common. Sometimes it's about making yourself accessible to the possibilities and venturing to places you never thought you would go. For instance, I've taken up golf, and there are a LOT of men that play golf, and when they see I am serious about learning the game they ALWAYS strike up conversations with me and it goes on from there. I'm not in a place where I want to be in a relationship right now, so just doing my thing works for me - I'm in NO rush to be in a relationship again.

"For the last 2 months I have not been on the look-out (so to speak) b/c I am dating someone, who I hope I have a future with."

btw, good luck w/your Virguy 🙂

Damn, forgot to add too, that I have friends of all races and I tell them ALL to broaden their horizons and date whomever! LOL, because singledom reallhy isn't just relegated to black women; contrary to what the news and media would like you to think. I have many friends who are non-black that are in perpetual singledom!

I think the option to date whomever you love crosses all color barriers. I have friends of all races, and backgrounds, so my recommendation is to all of them to broaden their horizons; HOWEVER, everybody has the choice to be with whomever they prefer. It's none of my business nor concern who anybody dates, but when people are looking for suggestions in the dating realm, I do like to offer options. Ultimately, people are going to do whatever they want and/or are comfortable with - which they should.

natural25 "I might not be able to control these foolish men. Lol. But I can control having a baby...dammit! Lol. Oh Lordie."

Please. My opinion may mean nothing to you, but do me a big favor and NOT have a baby for this reason alone...PLEASE.

FLeo Lives On: "The common with that attitude thing is ONLY BLACK MEN complain about the attitude thing so, what is it about black men then that brings out that attitude in women he's with no matter what her race, creed or colour is is?? Ahhh, will the brothas have an answer to that?! I think not. There must be something he's doing, b/c non-black men do not complain of this. Perhaps what it is is if brothas act stupid, disrespectful, negligent and the like toward a woman of any race, creed or colour, in one way or another, she's gon give his arse some attitude."

Hmm...is there anything else I should know about myself? I'm a pure 100% black man raised around these black women with "attitudes" and nothing anyone here said on this topic has said anything that made sence or even related with me and how I feel about women of ANY color. Since others seem to know exactly what I think and how I feel, I guess my opinion isn't necessary at all...soo sad.

Anyway, like natural25 said, I believe that love comes in ALL colors. If this is really true in your heart, color and all that other ignorant thinking wouldn't factor in why there are issues in your love life.

USC - Thank you for your suggestion about meetup.com and the feedback. I do agree with you in regards to (if a person wants to) broadening their horizons. The thing about it is that me and any of my Black friends are never approached by non-Black men. Another issue is that my friends and I typically tend to go to the places with the same kind of crowd. Perhaps, not the best idea. IF things do not work out with the new Virgo, (I hope this is not the case), I am definitely going to expand my options. Also, thanks for the well wishes with the Virguy.

FLeo - Thank you for your feedback as well. Some Black women are open to dating outside of their races and others are not. I think Black woman are often raised with the notion of "stand by your BLACK man". This is engrained in us at a very early age. If it is not done so verbally, it is done by following the example of our mothers. And yes, the story behind what is wrong or what is lacking with some brothas is for a whole other thread. Lol. It is a sorted and twisted topic that deserves its own attention separate from this thread. Lol. Mainly, because there is such a deep disconnect that exist between Black men and women. To add insult to injury, most Black men are completely oblivious to this. Hmph. As you stated, many Black children are being raised in single-family homes with no male role model. This only perpetuates the cycle. These children will go onto to emulate what they see...so on and so forth. It is all very sad. But I will continue to fight the good fight. Lol. It will all work out, I know God has a plan for us all. Lol. 🙂

Depressed - I am not sure I understand what you mean. Who is —you guys"? Also, the issue is not how far society has moved from racism and social inequality. I am Black; believe you me, I KNOW it was not that long ago when people were fighting tooth and nail for social justices. In fact, to an extent, the fight continues today. However, that is not the topic of this thread. The topic of this thread is the high percentage of Black single woman. I am not sure I follow the relevance of your comment.

Big - I stated in my post that I WANT children. My point is that I cannot control if I get married, etc, but I can control if I have children. I WANT children. So, I will allow my relationship status or lack there of to stop this from coming into fruition.

Of course, we are not speaking for ALL Black men. we are speaking with regards to OUR experiences with our Black friends and the Black men who WE know. Not you. Of course, there are exceptions to this, as there is with everything. we are merely speaking based on what we have experienced.

Yes, love should see no color. Unfortunately, in some cases it does. This is a fact of life. I am not saying that this is right, but it's truth. If you do not believe that there is a breakdown in the Black community between men and women, I encourage you to look up the statistics. Do your research and then maybe you will gain a greater perspective as to why race plays a role in this topic. I ask that you not just base your opinion on a WORLD issue off you, your peers and your direct experiences. Educate yourself on this topic, and then we can have a real discussion about this. ??_

Dy aka No1 - ALWAYS a pleasure to hear from you! Lol. Hmph! Okay, so lets break it down.

"where the black guys are?" "I've heard some black women talk about how hard it is to find a "good" black man, and if they won't marry outside their race, I can see them winding up single for life..."

Now, if a White man (Dy) can at least sense the disconnect, the issue, the breakdown..whatever you want to call it, but a Black man (Big) cannot, ladies and gents, we HAVE a problem. Lol. This is exaclty what I am talking about. Many Black men are completely oblivious to this and this is a perfect example of that.

Dy, I do not think you are a biggot at all. Lol. You are telling the sad truth. Barak Obama did a speech on Father's Day about this exact issue. The issue of the absent Black male. Let's face it. This is why many Black women are going it alone. Many of the Black men are absent. Not all, but enough to make a difference. Enough to garner the attention of the President of United States and enough for non Black people to take notice. Yes, there are stereotypes that the media projects about the "trifflin brothah". But let's be honest, many Black men help to perpetuate and confirm these stereotypes. I am not trying to bash all Black men. I think there are some terrific Black men. My father, the Virgo who I am dating, men in my family, some of my friends. The list goes on. This is not to bach all Black men at all. But it is to say that there is a problem. We can act like it is not there. We can say "what does race have to do with it" if we want. But that is merely fanning the flames. Black people need to get real with themselves, the issues at hand and examine why this is happening.

Oh Lordie. Dont get me started. My Scorpio passion is starting to come out! Lol. It's a problem. Thank you Dy. You made me day.

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Posted by DepressedAngel
Sometimes I think you guys are not only living in different countries, but also on a different planet... it's not so long ago that people were being murdered over here simply because of their religion. Hatred of outsiders, different colour of skin, different religion, is deeply embedded. That doesn't change over night.

I agree with what USCTaurusGal said.

That's exactly what I meant when I said it's a long story that I don't want to go into. People say BUT THIS IS 2009 with the implication *so the racial ish should be fixed by now*, but b/c of the deep embeddedment (sp), THAT is why though there's been alot of progressive change, the issues, b/c deeply embedded, ARE STILL THERE.

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This is the thing. I realize that issues of prejudice still exisit. I get that. BUT that should not tear apart the Black community, it should bring us closer. Unite us. Not make Black men not want to take care their childen, or marry Black women, or go to college. It SHOULD make us work harder, smarter and as a more cohesive unit. Futhermore, I understand why a White man might not want to date me. Because America was founded on slavery. I get it. Lol. But for a Black man to not want to date me! Thats what I am talking about here. Lol.

Good luck natural25, as you stated, perhaps this won't be an issue for you in the future if you stay with mr. Virguy 😉. In keeping w/your original post, I think for me, I chose based on what I want and need, versus what society (past, present or future) dictates. There is an old expression that there is "more than one way to skin a cat." I believe, for me, that we create opportunities for ourselves, whether it be relationships, jobs, etc. That's not to imply that it is easy going, but we make our own choices and decisions in life, and they are constantly in flux, but it is our individual responsibility to do everything we can to secure our own success and opportunities. In the dating world there are people who sit and wait for the opportunity to come to them...it works for a few, but that is the exception and not the rule. If you have a personal preference for a type of person you want to date, you don't have to forsake your ideals and/or standards, but sometimes if you continue to get the same results time and time again, it may be time to do something a little different and outside of your original course and scope. What works for one person may not work for another. I know there is a lot of press out there about black men not getting education, marrying outside of their race, going to jail, being gay, etc. But, I know A LOT of black men who are educated, married to black women, support their families and are not in jail nor gay - so they aren't the lochness monsters - they have been spotted (just trying to lighten the mood a bit 🙂). I know there is somebody for everybody, sometimes it just may not be in the package you originally thought it would be in - just my .02 cents.

USC - Yes, I agree with you completely. And Like I said, I am not at all trying to bash Black men. I personally know several wonderful Black men. You are right. Everyone has the right to make choices in their lives. Our (people in general) options are only as big as we allow them to be. 🙂

This has really turned into a great discourse. At least for me it has. Lol. 🙂

I think black women who refuse to 'date outside their race' has some misplaced loyalty to black males. I don't even begin to know why!

On the flip side - I can barely stand it when black males say "I don't date black chics because they are loud and full of attitude" No dice! This type of behaviour isn't exclusive to black women. Don't justify your preference to date outside your race by putting down your own.

Posted by LibrasRule36!
I think black women who refuse to 'date outside their race' has some misplaced loyalty to black males. I don't even begin to know why!

On the flip side - I can barely stand it when black males say "I don't date black chics because they are loud and full of attitude" No dice! This type of behaviour isn't exclusive to black women. Don't justify your preference to date outside your race by putting down your own.

Unfortuntately some people think by putting someone else down, it somehow builds them up. To the contrary, people usually see right through that and the person doing the "dissing" just comes out looking like an a $ $ . There are cheaters, liars, racists, meanies, etc, in any race, class, culture of people.

Natural25 - I learn something new every time I am on this site! LOL!

Posted by Prince_Pisces
well around here, i always see black guys with white girls. Not just any white girl, but a fat and ugly one lol. I guess they are into the beached whale look? I dont know LOL.

Same here LOL!

Posted by Prince_Pisces
well around here, i always see black guys with white girls. Not just any white girl, but a fat and ugly one lol. I guess they are into the beached whale look? I dont know LOL.

Hahahahaha!!!

Posted by Prince_Pisces
well around here, i always see black guys with white girls. Not just any white girl, but a fat and ugly one lol. I guess they are into the beached whale look? I dont know LOL.

You are so bad but correct - Most black man/ white gal couples I see - the woman is large. On the contrary, when I see a white man/ black chic couple - she appears to be poised, classy, and beautiful somewhat like a barbie doll.

I noticed this trend a while ago wheneve I made a conscious effort to take notice - something to make you go hmmm? Maybe cherry-picking.

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Posted by LibrasRule36!
I think black women who refuse to 'date outside their race' has some misplaced loyalty to black males. I don't even begin to know why!

On the flip side - I can barely stand it when black males say "I don't date black chics because they are loud and full of attitude" No dice! This type of behaviour isn't exclusive to black women. Don't justify your preference to date outside your race by putting down your own.

Unfortuntately some people think by putting someone else down, it somehow builds them up. To the contrary, people usually see right through that and the person doing the "dissing" just comes out looking like an a $ $ . There are cheaters, liars, racists, meanies, etc, in any race, class, culture of people.

Natural25 - I learn something new every time I am on this site! LOL!

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Yep.

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Posted by LibrasRule36!
I think black women who refuse to 'date outside their race' has some misplaced loyalty to black males. I don't even begin to know why!

On the flip side - I can barely stand it when black males say "I don't date black chics because they are loud and full of attitude" No dice! This type of behaviour isn't exclusive to black women. Don't justify your preference to date outside your race by putting down your own.

Unfortuntately some people think by putting someone else down, it somehow builds them up. To the contrary, people usually see right through that and the person doing the "dissing" just comes out looking like an a $ $ . There are cheaters, liars, racists, meanies, etc, in any race, class, culture of people.

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I completely agree. At the end of the day, I really do not care who a Black man chooses to date. i just do not like when I have heard Black women used as the excuse or rationale behind their resoning. It's like, own up to your decision! Do not put Black women down in the process of explaining your choice. And really there is no need for an explanation.

Posted by Prince_Pisces
well around here, i always see black guys with white girls. Not just any white girl, but a fat and ugly one lol. I guess they are into the beached whale look? I dont know LOL.

Lol. OMG! Out here in Cali i see a mixture. I have seen some with women who look like they are fresh out of a music video (butt poked out and all) and some who are pleasantly plump.

natural25 LA is a very big city and well...its just not enough men to go around.

Maybe date outside of LA?

I am a black female and I live in atlanta....its like 20 woman to one guy....i too had the problem of finding a good man...well i finally did find my soulmate and he was not easy to find...with all these horny,desperate, willing to do anything to get a man woman....thats why its so hard...its too easy for guys...i think

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Posted by LibrasRule36!
I think black women who refuse to 'date outside their race' has some misplaced loyalty to black males. I don't even begin to know why!

On the flip side - I can barely stand it when black males say "I don't date black chics because they are loud and full of attitude" No dice! This type of behaviour isn't exclusive to black women. Don't justify your preference to date outside your race by putting down your own.

Unfortuntately some people think by putting someone else down, it somehow builds them up. To the contrary, people usually see right through that and the person doing the "dissing" just comes out looking like an a $ $ . There are cheaters, liars, racists, meanies, etc, in any race, class, culture of people.

Natural25 - I learn something new every time I am on this site! LOL!

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im sorry to say...i DONT date outside my race...

i take that back...im not sorry to say

Posted by Prince_Pisces
What was Coco famous for anyway? Just being his wife?

LOL!! I think so!

Posted by Prince_Pisces
I have seen some with women who look like they are fresh out of a music video (butt poked out and all) and some who are pleasantly plump.

Oh! that reminded me of Ice-T and Coco lol. I forgot about them. . .they gross me out though LOL!

C'mon, Prince, you know you like their mac-hoe style ! Just teasing. Coco has a nice pair of gams...just saying.

I've observed the following at Wal-Mart and other big stores: If a white girl has half-black children, I rarely see the daddy with her - sometimes her mother, or other female relatives / friends. On the other hand, I often see black girls with their white boyfriends / husbands in tow. This is nowhere near a scientific study, but I have to wonder where the black guys are?

You know DY, I have to say that I see the same thing -- the differences between genders and all that ... Exactly the way you put it.

I had to comment on it because I thought it was interesting because when I go to Walmart, Target, and Meijers (I love them all 😉) I tend to see things this way. I've never really questioned it but I always wondered, what's the matter here, why isn't the guy around or if he is around he doesn't seem like he wants to deal with his children :/



And before y'all start calling me a racist or a bigot: I've dated interracially; and, my baby sister has been married to a black man for going on 20 years now -- they have two sons. I get along great with him - much better than I do with my older sister's white husband...

lol, OMG no way, thats just making an observation -- I do it all the time, its just they way I word things when I talk to people hahahaha

If you get called racist or whatever for what you've said above then whoever calls you that is deeply, deeply, deeply, deeply troubled.


On another note: Hmmm, you know, I go to Walmart too 🙂 Awesome place, especially the Super-Walmart -- I can get everything there without having to spend almost $ 200.00 Thats so awesome 😄 and the taxes aren't that high there either. I know there are some politics or whatever with Walmart but I'm a college student and I need stuff.

Posted by No1delete2

LR: I noticed this trend a while ago wheneve I made a conscious effort to take notice - something to make you go hmmm? Maybe cherry-picking.

I hinted at it before... Social Status.

A white woman loses some by being with a black man, so odds are, the ones who will go outside their race are already lower on the social ladder than their peers...

A white man already has a higher relative status, which would be a plus to an attractive black woman. He may lose a little status, but if she's really a knock-out, he may actually gain status among his peers -- men are so competitive about their women...

Except... some teenage white girls will date black guys as a form of rebellion - but those relationships tend to be flings, not marriage...

I grew up close to an Army base - lots of white GI's with Asian wives... My Mom used to say, "Those men just want a doormat!" My Dad used to say, "Those men want a small woman who can't beat them up!" (Leo vs Virgo)

Hey, now that you point that out I can see how it would happen - social status thing. It's not like Thomas Butler III would be picking up chicks in West Compton hollering at Pookie (no offence if your name happens to Pookie).

Posted by Prince_Pisces
well around here, i always see black guys with white girls. Not just any white girl, but a fat and ugly one lol. I guess they are into the beached whale look? I dont know LOL.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh Prince, you are terrible but you are funny xD!!!!!

OMG I'm crying here

Posted by FLeo Lives On

I know exactly what you're talking about -- you're 25?? very young, you don't understand what I'M TALKING ABOUT and because it's a long story, I don't want to go into it here.

This country was brainwashed to hate black, to believe that black is bad, ugly, stupid, worthless, etc. As a result of that, there's ALOT of self hate embedded within the black community. This is why the black community doesn't band together -- the spirit of hate is in the soil of the ground they walk on. B/c of that racism ish, not only do non-blacks have issue with blacks, BUT BLACKS HAVE ISSUE WITH BLACKS. This is what's meant when we say it's embedded in the land of this country.

I am 27. I understand the self-hatred that exists within the Black community in both the women and the men. I am well aware of the images that society has projected as aesthetically pleasing to the eye and what these projections/images have done to the minds of the community. I did not want to get into all of that b/c I get way too worked up, but I am well aware of its power and presence. For example, Big said he did not even KNOW what race had to do with it (no offense Big). Prime example. He does not even realize what is going on. It is so much engrained in our community, many do not notice it. In fact, I am doing my dissertation on this very subject and how it affects at risk youth for the masters program that I am in

My point is that there has to be a better way. There has to be a way to reject these notions of beauty and acceptance. There has to be a way where we can teach the further generations that it is okay to be Black. That he or she does not have to have a narrow nose, light skin or long hair. There has to be a solution to teach them that they can be ANYTHING that they want to be. There has to be way to put Black men back in their homes and out of the streets. That is my concern. It is obvious that there are many members of the community who have been affected by a certain level of "brain washing". But do we just lie down and take it?

I digress. Sorry for the detour. I had to get that out. I am back on topic.

chics
to be

Posted by No1delete2

SF225: ain't nothing like a brother..

... or a Cousin - if you're from Arkansas!

LOL! That was cute

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Posted by No1delete2

SF225: ain't nothing like a brother..

... or a Cousin - if you're from Arkansas!

LOL! That was cute

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LMAO!!!

Lol @ LR. Pookie!

Posted by Starfish225
"im sorry to say...i DONT date outside my race...

i take that back...im not sorry to say"


dward: Sweetie I am right there with you..I have nothing against other races and from time to time I see very attractive men of other races, but uh ain't nothing like a brother..

okay?

so my thing is stick with your guns....stick with what you want and forget about finding a man...let him find you


believe it is some decent hardworking brothers out there

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Posted by USCTaurusGal

Posted by LibrasRule36!
I think black women who refuse to 'date outside their race' has some misplaced loyalty to black males. I don't even begin to know why!

On the flip side - I can barely stand it when black males say "I don't date black chics because they are loud and full of attitude" No dice! This type of behaviour isn't exclusive to black women. Don't justify your preference to date outside your race by putting down your own.

Unfortuntately some people think by putting someone else down, it somehow builds them up. To the contrary, people usually see right through that and the person doing the "dissing" just comes out looking like an a $ $ . There are cheaters, liars, racists, meanies, etc, in any race, class, culture of people.

I completely agree. At the end of the day, I really do not care who a Black man chooses to date. i just do not like when I have heard Black women used as the excuse or rationale behind their resoning. It's like, own up to your decision! Do not put Black women down in the process of explaining your choice. And really there is no need for an explanation.

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Thats a good point, I agree with you. I've noticed that its easier to speak badly about someone when you are doing something you aren't really sure about yourself, you know what I mean?

Like its easier to use someone else as an example for doing something, whatever it may be.

Posted by No1delete2

SF225: ain't nothing like a brother..

... or a Cousin - if you're from Arkansas!

Stop it will ya! I just puked a little...

Dating one race could lose your chance of finding the one, if your into to men then just date other men i don't see the problem with dating other races jeez, one day this world would be full of mixed people.

Posted by dward417
natural25 LA is a very big city and well...its just not enough men to go around.

Maybe date outside of LA?

I am a black female and I live in atlanta....its like 20 woman to one guy....i too had the problem of finding a good man...well i finally did find my soulmate and he was not easy to find...with all these horny,desperate, willing to do anything to get a man woman....thats why its so hard...its too easy for guys...i think

Girl, I have looked outside of LA. Trust me. Lol. But I am happy to hear your story. That is very exciting! I actually might have already found my soul mate. My skepticism will not allow me to confirm it yet. 🙂 I know there is hope. It is just a little disheartening when I constantly her all my friends preach the same sermon of not having a man or finding one and he turns out to be something from Don't Be A Menace To Society While Drinking Your Juice in the Hood. Lol. Jk. let me stop.

Posted by Starfish225
SF225: ain't nothing like a brother..

... or a Cousin - if you're from Arkansas!


No, I am not..:-) I guess you know that brother is a term if indearment for black man/ sistah for black woman..

OOPS!

LOLOLOLOLOL!!!!! Damn it! I feel stupid, my find didn't even go in that direction either. OMG! I feel dumb lol!!!

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Posted by Prince_Pisces
What was Coco famous for anyway? Just being his wife?

LOL!! I think so!

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That and her fake behind. Lol.

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Posted by Prince_Pisces
What was Coco famous for anyway? Just being his wife?

LOL!! I think so!

That and her fake behind. Lol.

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Fake boobs too!!

Posted by Prince_Pisces
he was joking Starfish LOL.

I still feel dumb 😛


lol, its the coffee, stuff I should know ... I don't know right now. I really need to quit ...

Posted by DepressedAngel

Posted by natural25
Depressed - I am not sure I understand what you mean. Who is —you guys"? Also, the issue is not how far society has moved from racism and social inequality. I am Black; believe you me, I KNOW it was not that long ago when people were fighting tooth and nail for social justices. In fact, to an extent, the fight continues today. However, that is not the topic of this thread. The topic of this thread is the high percentage of Black single woman. I am not sure I follow the relevance of your comment.

I spoke about the happenings in my own country, not about America. It is still no option here to go mixed. It is not even an option to choose the wrong side of the street in certain areas. What I wrote was in reference to what USCTaurusgal said. It's great you guys can do that, but no - maybe in the next 25 years (we just had 25 years without a lot of change).

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Where are you from?

Posted by The-Dream

Posted by cappysweetie

Posted by No1delete2

SF225: ain't nothing like a brother..

... or a Cousin - if you're from Arkansas!

LOL! That was cute

LMAO!!!

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LOL! Funny.

Posted by Shaks
Although it would be fair to ask ourselves if women are really that fair themselves when choosing a guy 😉

I agree with Shaks.

I may get heat for this statement but ... whatever, its not like its never happened before right 😉


I don't think its wise to choose a guy based on race. So what if the men do it, there men lol Women are suppose to be a bit smarter when it comes to relationships. Don't get me wrong, if thats what you want to do, then thats perfectly okay, but its very limiting.

I don't know, thats what I think anyway.


Don't throw too many arrows my way 🙂

Posted by dward417

Posted by Starfish225
"im sorry to say...i DONT date outside my race...

i take that back...im not sorry to say"


dward: Sweetie I am right there with you..I have nothing against other races and from time to time I see very attractive men of other races, but uh ain't nothing like a brother..

okay?

so my thing is stick with your guns....stick with what you want and forget about finding a man...let him find you


believe it is some decent hardworking brothers out there

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You guys are right! I am not opposed to dating outside of my race, but I will say it again, there is NOTHING like a Black man. Lol. I have to admit it.

Let him find you...

Posted by Starfish225
"Dating one race could lose your chance of finding the one"

Well according to alot of ppl there is more the just the one, and whats for you won't get away because its for you..and if you have a preference you have a preference..live and let live..

Race isn't a preference, physical and characteristics attributes are preference.

Posted by Prince_Pisces
I don't think its wise to choose a guy based on race.

But people cant help what they're attracted to lol.

Well, yes thats true.

I love men who where glasses 🙂 I just love glasses on a man. I'm not sure why, its something about a guy who where's glasses.

It just makes them look ... well, intelligent ^_^. I like that look.