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Posted by Starfish225
"Race isn't a preference, physical and characteristics attributes are preference."No hon, that maybe for you but for me RACE is a preference as well..I need/want a brotha and thats what I will be having..Thankyou..
Well, EXCUSSSSEEE MEE!!
Posted by Starfish225
"Race isn't a preference, physical and characteristics attributes are preference."No hon, that maybe for you but for me RACE is a preference as well..I need/want a brotha and thats what I will be having..Thankyou..
Too funny.
Posted by Starfish225
"Well, EXCUSSSSEEE MEE!!"Uh hun your excused!!!
HAHAHAH..... i guess..
Posted by Prince_Pisces
Well, yes thats true.I love men who where glasses I just love glasses on a man. I'm not sure why, its something about a guy who where's glasses.
It just makes them look ... well, intelligent ^_^. I like that look.
LOL. You love Wal-Mart, and you love men with glasses. . . .dont worry, i still love you 🙂 lol!
I dont like glasses on my men. . .that looks dorky and ugly LOL. Sunglasses are fine though. My Leo wears his alot LOL!
LOL! YAY, I know all that goes totally against your grile Prince 🙂, but I grew up humble so I've grown to love Walmart ... although it has its issues but I still need stuff, you know lol.
I like Target too, I should at least get 'sweetie' points for that 😉
Now men with glasses, OMG, I don't know what it is but once I see the glasses, its all over for me. I was talking to a guy this morning who wear glasses, and I thought he was heaven ~sigh~ I mean, he was good-looking too, but the glasses made him look better ^_^.
I love sunglasses too, I wear them and I think I look pretty darn sweet in them ^_^.
Posted by Starfish225
"Well, EXCUSSSSEEE MEE!!"Uh hun your excused!!!
HAHAHAH..... i guess..
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Wait, what happened?
Posted by Shaks
Ive never had a black gf but Ive definitely been attracted to quite a few, the last one being a cappy last year 😛 (no, its not my current cap gf)
Oh yeah, I remember that ^_^.
Thats when you finally started seeing that we capricorn girls aren't so bad. I mean, yes there are a few bad apples but thats with all signs. However, some signs have more bad apples than others 😛
Love the thread.
As someone that is as American as it gets but isn't —white??, I understand some of what you're going through. I can't say I necessarily agree with labeling it as a social issue specific to the —Black Man?? as much as by-product of our American society. For me, it's never really mattered. If she's hot, she's hot 😛
When I was younger, I had SEVERAL experiences where I was chasing someone white and when she introduced me to her parents, they had to excuse themselves and question their daughter on —What are you thinking being with that boy!??
Similarly, when I was younger, I remember when there was this one girl who had a thing for me, she was black, and we were hanging out together with a bunch of her friends. From what she told me is that her friends gave her crap for not being with a —brotha??.
Anyways, I'm responding not to make a social commentary but perhaps have you look at it from a different point of view.
—Yes, love should see no color. Unfortunately, in some cases it does. This is a fact of life. I am not saying that this is right, but it's truth. If you do not believe that there is a breakdown in the Black community between men and women, I encourage you to look up the statistics. Do your research and then maybe you will gain a greater perspective as to why race plays a role in this topic. I ask that you not just base your opinion on a WORLD issue off you, your peers and your direct experiences. Educate yourself on this topic, and then we can have a real discussion about this.??
I don't disagree with this and I acknowledge the —disconnect?? as shown in my above experiences but at the end of the day??_Unless you plan on dedicating your whole life's work to some epic social change, realistically you can only focus on YOU. How YOU turn out and how YOU treat others. And in that focus, cause change on an individual basis on how they see you as a confident, attractive, woman that got their through her own self rather than hoping the world changes for you. I'm a firm believer you create change one person at a time. This is no exception.
Going back to myself, I could let the above experiences and social stereotypes embitter and consume me, OR I could focus on not letting the bullshit get to me and just being the best frakkin person possible. I chose the latter.
I hinted at it before... Social Status.
Pretty much. Not to be a dick but I'm not going to go out of my way to date a "Bag Lady" lol
Where are you from?
Northern Ireland.
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Is it more of a racial divide or social stauts divide in N. Ireland? Or, a combination of both?
Posted by Starfish225
"Well, EXCUSSSSEEE MEE!!"Uh hun your excused!!!
now thats funny
Posted by Starfish225
"Well, EXCUSSSSEEE MEE!!"Uh hun your excused!!!
HAHAHAH..... i guess..
Wait, what happened?
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LOL!!!
Posted by Prince_Pisces
I don't think its wise to choose a guy based on race.But people cant help what they're attracted to lol.
Shoot, it's not wise to choose a man with a ring on his finger either, but people do it. 🙂
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OMG! LMAO! Cappy you have to admit that was a good one. Lol.
I don't disagree with this and I acknowledge the —disconnect?? as shown in my above experiences but at the end of the day??_Unless you plan on dedicating your whole life's work to some epic social change, realistically you can only focus on YOU. How YOU turn out and how YOU treat others. And in that focus, cause change on an individual basis on how they see you as a confident, attractive, woman that got their through her own self rather than hoping the world changes for you. I'm a firm believer you create change one person at a time. This is no exception.
Going back to myself, I could let the above experiences and social stereotypes embitter and consume me, OR I could focus on not letting the bullshit get to me and just being the best frakkin person possible. I chose the latter.
Very well said VirgoHero, I knew there was a reason why I thought you were cool.
I believe change is a very individual too and it is one person at a time. Change also starts with you. Yep, very insight and intelligent. I really like your perspective on the OP.
Well according to alot of ppl there is more the just the one, and whats for you won't get away because its for you..and if you have a preference you have a preference..live and let live..
Oh I agree with this wholeheartedly ma'am!
But going back to the original topic, is it then okay for a Black man to have a preference for Non-Black women without it becoming a social issue?
Posted by Prince_Pisces
I don't think its wise to choose a guy based on race.But people cant help what they're attracted to lol.
Shoot, it's not wise to choose a man with a ring on his finger either, but people do it. 🙂
OMG! LMAO! Cappy you have to admit that was a good one. Lol.
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HAHAHAHAHA!!! Yeah, it was. Didn't you noticed that I shut the hell up after that comment. lol, I totally didn't have a comeback because its so true ... unfortunately lol
Posted by Starfish225
"Well, EXCUSSSSEEE MEE!!"Uh hun your excused!!!
HAHAHAH..... i guess..
Wait, what happened?
LOL!!!
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lol, yeah. I got lost until I went back and read and now I know. ooops ..
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Ive never had a black gf but Ive definitely been attracted to quite a few, the last one being a cappy last year 😛 (no, its not my current cap gf)Oh yeah, I remember that ^_^.
Thats when you finally started seeing that we capricorn girls aren't so bad. I mean, yes there are a few bad apples but thats with all signs. However, some signs have more bad apples than others 😛
Hehe, I think that was ANOTHER one 😛 (I think I mentioned her too) but this one Im talking about is one I know from childhood and we regained contact last year after like 14 years or so, the flirting was getting heavy hehe 😛 she was pretty forward, which surprised me for a cappy 😉
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Wasn't she the one you danced with? lol, or maybe that was another one, or maybe that was that other one or the one from another —?
AHHHH, don't confuse me lol
VH: is it then okay for a Black man to have a preference for Non-Black women without it becoming a social issue?
Why not?
Some white guys prefer Asian women.
Some Jewish guys prefer non-Jewish women.
Some guys like 'em Big & Busty.
Some guys like 'em Sweet & Petite.
Diff'rent strokes, for diff'rent folks...
Shit! Some DXPers have said they wouldn't date a person just because of their Sign...
Bingo! If we're going to "live and let live", then we have to be okay with the fact that someone of your own race may not have a preference for you.
Well according to alot of ppl there is more the just the one, and whats for you won't get away because its for you..and if you have a preference you have a preference..live and let live..
Oh I agree with this wholeheartedly ma'am!
But going back to the original topic, is it then okay for a Black man to have a preference for Non-Black women without it becoming a social issue?click to expand
Of course, at least thats what I say.
I think what made it a social issue is all those idiots who would go on talk shows back in the 90s.
Do you know what I'm talking about. I think Ricky Lake was one of the main ones where all the sparks flew. I would watch alot of the talk shows when I would be on break from school when I was younger and thats the kind of stuff I watched. My mom didnt care as long as I watched them with my dad because she thought he would change the channel when things got ugly -- especially on Jerry Springer ..... but he never ever did LOL! I watched it all ^_^.
I learned about social issues early, before touching on it in school.
Ahh, talk shows 🙂
VH: is it then okay for a Black man to have a preference for Non-Black women without it becoming a social issue?
Why not?
Some white guys prefer Asian women.
Some Jewish guys prefer non-Jewish women.
Some guys like 'em Big & Busty.
Some guys like 'em Sweet & Petite.
Diff'rent strokes, for diff'rent folks...
Shit! Some DXPers have said they wouldn't date a person just because of their Sign...
Bingo! If we're going to "live and let live", then we have to be okay with the fact that someone of your own race may not have a preference for you.
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Right, like I said, those trashy people on the talk shows is what blow things all out of portion. lol, it was funny however, even with the over-sensationalize of it all.
Natural,
Another thing to add. As a whole, its just a fucking pain in the ass to just meet "QUALITY" people to date. (I stress the world QUALITY, not my Friday night jump-off caliber). Try not to let it get you down.
@ Depressed Angel - I was in Vegas a few years ago and I met some Irish Rugby Players ... Rest assured they had no problem with me not being white; especially one in particular 😉 they all said I need to go to Ireland! I agree with them and can't wait to go!
Hehe, I think that was ANOTHER one 😛 (I think I mentioned her too) but this one Im talking about is one I know from childhood and we regained contact last year after like 14 years or so, the flirting was getting heavy hehe 😛 she was pretty forward, which surprised me for a cappy 😉
Wasn't she the one you danced with? lol, or maybe that was another one, or maybe that was that other one or the one from another —?
AHHHH, don't confuse me lol
lol, the one I danced with is my current gf 😄 thats how we met. This other one I was seriously considering back in those days too, but then I fell for my gf 😄 😄 so I had to stop that "sort" of contact with the black cappy 🙂
Ooops, see I knew I screwed up somewhere. I knew it was one of the cappies, one of them. And stopping that sort of contact with the other cap girl makes you a good guy ^_^.
VH: "I'm a firm believer you create change one person at a time. This is no exception."
I agree. Sometimes, I tend to think I can solve the problems of the world. Which obviously, I cant. 😢 If you do not mind me asking, what ethnicity are you?
SHAKS:"Hehe, I think that was ANOTHER one was getting heavy hehe"
You playa! Lol. Jk.
Posted by natural25
VH: "I'm a firm believer you create change one person at a time. This is no exception."I agree. Sometimes, I tend to think I can solve the problems of the world. Which obviously, I cant. 😢 If you do not mind me asking, what ethnicity are you?
Pacific Islander.
Island style , baby!
Oh and for whatever the hell its worth, Natural...
I'm assuming your avatar is a picture of you. You're pretty! You just need to meet better men and stop finding boys.
I'm so glad this thread hasn't went to pieces yet.
Thats a first for a social topic like this.
Usually someone comes on here and their all passionate about all of this stuff and arguements start and all that jazz.
Next thing you, the thread is deleted or dxp makes it disappear all together -- I've seen it too many times.
This is the first time I've seen such cordial comments made and nothing hostile been thrown out there.
I like this ^_^. An issue thats finally being discussed without all the bs. *Stamp of approval*
VH: You just need to meet better men and stop finding boys.
True... but if you read that article I posted, a lot of the under 30 guys are just Big Boys...
What's a gal to do??
This is true. I didn't pull my head out of my ass until I hit my 30's
Posted by cappysweetie
I'm so glad this thread hasn't went to pieces yet.Thats a first for a social topic like this.
Usually someone comes on here and their all passionate about all of this stuff and arguements start and all that jazz.
Next thing you, the thread is deleted or dxp makes it disappear all together -- I've seen it too many times.
This is the first time I've seen such cordial comments made and nothing hostile been thrown out there.
I like this ^_^. An issue thats finally being discussed without all the bs. *Stamp of approval*
You just JINXED it. LE SIGH lol
Posted by cappysweetie
I'm so glad this thread hasn't went to pieces yet.Thats a first for a social topic like this.
Usually someone comes on here and their all passionate about all of this stuff and arguements start and all that jazz.
Next thing you, the thread is deleted or dxp makes it disappear all together -- I've seen it too many times.
This is the first time I've seen such cordial comments made and nothing hostile been thrown out there.
I like this ^_^. An issue thats finally being discussed without all the bs. *Stamp of approval*
You just JINXED it. LE SIGH lol
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lol, awww VirgoH, I'm good luck ^_^.
Posted by cappysweetie
I'm so glad this thread hasn't went to pieces yet.Thats a first for a social topic like this.
Usually someone comes on here and their all passionate about all of this stuff and arguements start and all that jazz.
Next thing you, the thread is deleted or dxp makes it disappear all together -- I've seen it too many times.
This is the first time I've seen such cordial comments made and nothing hostile been thrown out there.
I like this ^_^. An issue thats finally being discussed without all the bs. *Stamp of approval*
Yeah, most topic be either disturbing and "HUH?" LOL, i like this topic.
lol, awww VirgoH, I'm good luck ^_^.
LOL, of course you are, dearest.
I give it about an hour before the "usual suspects" show up and stink the joint up.
VH: is it then okay for a Black man to have a preference for Non-Black women without it becoming a social issue?
Why not?
Some white guys prefer Asian women.
Some Jewish guys prefer non-Jewish women.
Some guys like 'em Big & Busty.
Some guys like 'em Sweet & Petite.
Diff'rent strokes, for diff'rent folks...
Shit! Some DXPers have said they wouldn't date a person just because of their Sign...
Bingo! If we're going to "live and let live", then we have to be okay with the fact that someone of your own race may not have a preference for you.
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I'll let FLEo go into if she wishes to. Lol. But, trust me that there are some social implications behind the topic of this thread. It requires a very lengthy and intricate discussion.
Posted by VirgoHero
Oh and for whatever the hell its worth, Natural...I'm assuming your avatar is a picture of you. You're pretty! You just need to meet better men and stop finding boys.
Aw. Why, yes it is me. Thanks!
Posted by cappysweetie
I'm so glad this thread hasn't went to pieces yet.Thats a first for a social topic like this.
Usually someone comes on here and their all passionate about all of this stuff and arguements start and all that jazz.
Next thing you, the thread is deleted or dxp makes it disappear all together -- I've seen it too many times.
This is the first time I've seen such cordial comments made and nothing hostile been thrown out there.
I like this ^_^. An issue thats finally being discussed without all the bs. *Stamp of approval*
I conquer!
Posted by Starfish225
"I give it about an hour before the "usual suspects" show up and stink the joint up."Yep, its coming..
Oh, no. I hope not b/c I was enjoying the informative/peaceful banter. I hope no one comes in here with his/her stinking thinking!
VH: You just need to meet better men and stop finding boys.
True... but if you read that article I posted, a lot of the under 30 guys are just Big Boys...
What's a gal to do??
Lol. Say it aint' so!
Posted by Starfish225
"I give it about an hour before the "usual suspects" show up and stink the joint up."Yep, its coming..
Well we will just have ot give them the boot! Lol.
Posted by VirgoHero
Love the thread.As someone that is as American as it gets but isn't —white??, I understand some of what you're going through. I can't say I necessarily agree with labeling it as a social issue specific to the —Black Man?? as much as by-product of our American society. For me, it's never really mattered. If she's hot, she's hot 😛
When I was younger, I had SEVERAL experiences where I was chasing someone white and when she introduced me to her parents, they had to excuse themselves and question their daughter on —What are you thinking being with that boy!??
Similarly, when I was younger, I remember when there was this one girl who had a thing for me, she was black, and we were hanging out together with a bunch of her friends. From what she told me is that her friends gave her crap for not being with a —brotha??.
Anyways, I'm responding not to make a social commentary but perhaps have you look at it from a different point of view.
—Yes, love should see no color. Unfortunately, in some cases it does. This is a fact of life. I am not saying that this is right, but it's truth. If you do not believe that there is a breakdown in the Black community between men and women, I encourage you to look up the statistics. Do your research and then maybe you will gain a greater perspective as to why race plays a role in this topic. I ask that you not just base your opinion on a WORLD issue off you, your peers and your direct experiences. Educate yourself on this topic, and then we can have a real discussion about this.??
I don't disagree with this and I acknowledge the —disconnect?? as shown in my above experiences but at the end of the day??_Unless you plan on dedicating your whole life's work to some epic social change, realistically you can only focus on YOU. How YOU turn out and how YOU treat others. And in that focus, cause change on an individual basis on how they see you as a confident, attractive, woman that got their through her own self rather than hoping the world changes for you. I'm a firm believer you create change one person at a time. This is no exception.
Going back to myself, I could let the above experiences and social stereotypes embitter and consume me, OR I could focus on not letting the bullshit get to me and just being the best frakkin person possible. I chose the latter.
Posted by natural25
VH: "I'm a firm believer you create change one person at a time. This is no exception."I agree. Sometimes, I tend to think I can solve the problems of the world. Which obviously, I cant. 😢 If you do not mind me asking, what ethnicity are you?
Pacific Islander.
Island style , baby!
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Lol. You live in the OC! Myfather lives in Costa MEsa right across the street from the South Coast Plaza. I love that place!
they say when you turn 30 a light comes on...but if if doesnt check your bulb
Posted by dward417
they say when you turn 30 a light comes on...but if if doesnt check your bulb
LMAO!! You got that from somewhere but i can't think of the movie!!
Posted by Starfish225
"im sorry to say...i DONT date outside my race...i take that back...im not sorry to say"
dward: Sweetie I am right there with you..I have nothing against other races and from time to time I see very attractive men of other races, but uh ain't nothing like a brother..
okay?
so my thing is stick with your guns....stick with what you want and forget about finding a man...let him find you
believe it is some decent hardworking brothers out there
Just wanted to say I know they're out there, and that's because we can never put ALL on anything. No one can say ALL brothas are not good. They are definitely out there. Just don't ask me where -- you'd just have to put yourself out there and when you do, leave the desperate look HOME!! lol
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Oh.my.goodness - you made me laugh when you wrote leave the desparate look at home!
DWAR😱 "they say when you turn 30 a light comes on...but if if doesnt check your bulb"
I love it! lol..
FLeo: "leave the desparate look at home."
OMG! I missed that one. Hilarious!
Lol. You live in the OC! Myfather lives in Costa MEsa right across the street from the South Coast Plaza. I love that place!
click to expandHah right on 🙂
See! Try getting out of L.A. a bit.
Posted by dward417
they say when you turn 30 a light comes on...but if if doesnt check your bulbLMAO!! You got that from somewhere but i can't think of the movie!!
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tyler perry...LOL
Posted by dward417
they say when you turn 30 a light comes on...but if if doesnt check your bulbLMAO!! You got that from somewhere but i can't think of the movie!!
tyler perry...LOL
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Oh madea!!!
Posted by dward417
they say when you turn 30 a light comes on...but if if doesnt check your bulbLMAO!! You got that from somewhere but i can't think of the movie!!
tyler perry...LOL
Oh madea!!!
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OMG, that woman (aka guy) is so funny xD!!!
We are talking about the guy who dresses up like a grandmother right? She's the one with the gun xD!
hahahahahahaha!!!!!
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I have tried my best to keep my mouth shut and not "aire out dirty laundry". But I cant take it anymore. I had to take it tothe forum. Lol. Lol @ "when they go black, they dont go back"