Opposite personalities

I think connection can happen with anyone, but can having opposite personalities cause people to drift apart over time? Like if you are not too expressive and you connect with a person who is expressive, not in a relationship, but in a group of friends, can over time that cause frustration? Because there are other people who are similar to the person you have a connection with and they can easily express their emotions. Will this make the expressive person to gravitate towards them and move away from you? Today with social media where you have people commenting left and right over posts, it is more noticeable who have similar personalities and who don't. So then do you feel pressure to open up and express against your nature, worry about losing that connection as you are not as open with your emotions, or relax as a connection is not based on your social activity?

Posted by Wizardz

I think it becomes more apparent after time, yes, unless you really give each other what you need. I think you can easily drift apart because of different natures. Sometimes though your different natures are what attracts you to each other and can cement you but if the bond isn't strong enough I think you might find yourself gravitating to other people who fit your personality more

Yes, the reason I notice now, is because in the past we were able to connect outside the group (nothing romantic) and I never felt any pressure to react to group posts. The only reason I notice now, is it seems like is he reacting to all messages around me and ignoring mine. Well, maybe I suddenly have become aware because of that. Especially since few of my messages directly addressed him and he just ignored them. I don't want to do deep virgo analysis and start imagining things. Guess I will just let him be.

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Posted by Wizardz

I think it becomes more apparent after time, yes, unless you really give each other what you need. I think you can easily drift apart because of different natures. Sometimes though your different natures are what attracts you to each other and can cement you but if the bond isn't strong enough I think you might find yourself gravitating to other people who fit your personality more

Yes, the reason I notice now, is because in the past we were able to connect outside the group (nothing romantic) and I never felt any pressure to react to group posts. The only reason I notice now, is it seems like is he reacting to all messages around me and ignoring mine. Well, maybe I suddenly have become aware because of that. Especially since few of my messages directly addressed him and he just ignored them. I don't want to do deep virgo analysis and start imagining things. Guess I will just let him be.

I know from my personal experience that the person I talk the most with and look to be getting on best with isn't necessarily the person I like the most or am attracted to. What sign is he again? Maybe he likes you but he knows you're not too comfortable in the group setting? but that doesn't really explain why he would ignore your personal messages

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He is cancer sun and he is not available (the story of my life 😄), so no, I don't want to get attached, but still hard not to notice the ignoring. The personal messages were in group chats, so he just skipped them. Maybe he is upset, maybe he wants me to be as expressive as others with likes and such, or he is just bored. I don't know, but I don't want to get conscious and feel pressured to react. Not that he is asking me to, I think things were same before, like I didn't interact much, but since he ignored my messages I noticed. I need to go back to being myself.

Is anyone ever 100% opposites tho? You can find things in common with more or less anyone. It’s the big stuff where incompatibility drives a wedge.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Is anyone ever 100% opposites tho? You can find things in common with more or less anyone. It’s the big stuff where incompatibility drives a wedge.

But with so many options with social media, I am wondering if someone would invest that time in someone when they don't have much in common, personality wise, even when there is a connection. Can someone who is similar to them distract them from investing time in this opposite personality person. I mean I know you can't force a connection, it is there if it is there, and people who act super flirty with each other may not necessarily be serious about each other, but it can mess with the person who is quiet.

Fuck around (literally) and find out.

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I think it becomes more apparent after time, yes, unless you really give each other what you need. I think you can easily drift apart because of different natures. Sometimes though your different natures are what attracts you to each other and can cement you but if the bond isn't strong enough I think you might find yourself gravitating to other people who fit your personality more

Yes, the reason I notice now, is because in the past we were able to connect outside the group (nothing romantic) and I never felt any pressure to react to group posts. The only reason I notice now, is it seems like is he reacting to all messages around me and ignoring mine. Well, maybe I suddenly have become aware because of that. Especially since few of my messages directly addressed him and he just ignored them. I don't want to do deep virgo analysis and start imagining things. Guess I will just let him be.

I know from my personal experience that the person I talk the most with and look to be getting on best with isn't necessarily the person I like the most or am attracted to. What sign is he again? Maybe he likes you but he knows you're not too comfortable in the group setting? but that doesn't really explain why he would ignore your personal messages

He is cancer sun and he is not available (the story of my life 😄), so no, I don't want to get attached, but still hard not to notice the ignoring. The personal messages were in group chats, so he just skipped them. Maybe he is upset, maybe he wants me to be as expressive as others with likes and such, or he is just bored. I don't know, but I don't want to get conscious and feel pressured to react. Not that he is asking me to, I think things were same before, like I didn't interact much, but since he ignored my messages I noticed. I need to go back to being myself.

Is this the same guy you mentioned before, the one that you work with? I think you're just hurting yourself really. He's unavailable and it seems you have feelings for him or at least enough to feel bad if he ignores you reaching out to him. I understand, it's not always that simple but be kind to yourself and let it go.. he might even notice and start reaching out to you more - then you can let him do so but don't fall back into the same pattern all over again. Stand independent from him and he will respect you more. You might decide he's not worth it by then anyway

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This is a different guy lol, no I am not going same route as other guy, but suddenly I noticed the ignoring, and tbh, it's not that we communicated a lot before, he is a nice guy, but all of a sudden I became aware. I know I am putting myself through unnecessary stress when there is nothing to stress about. And the other guy I was writing about before, I have stepped back a little, I was turned off by his mentioning and praising other girls in front of me. In any case neither of these guys are available. 😄 I am not even sure why I am spending so much energy thinking about them. Not that I show them what I am thinking, but seriously, I need to stop. There is no point.

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Is anyone ever 100% opposites tho? You can find things in common with more or less anyone. It’s the big stuff where incompatibility drives a wedge.

But with so many options with social media, I am wondering if someone would invest that time in someone when they don't have much in common, personality wise, even when there is a connection. Can someone who is similar to them distract them from investing time in this opposite personality person. I mean I know you can't force a connection, it is there if it is there, and people who act super flirty with each other may not necessarily be serious about each other, but it can mess with the person who is quiet.

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That has more to do with someones intentions, no?

Someone can be similar to you or not similar to you. But if they are a fuc boi/girl then the best compatibility in the world isn't going to stand up to them exploring their many options.

Personally I get bored if someone is too similar to myself. I like to be exposed to new things. And either it becomes an added thing to share together, or better yet... something they can have all to themselves. I find it really healthy to have your own shit going for you in the relationship. We don't need to be up each others butts 24/7. A little space and illusion of freedom goes a long way for the longevity of things for me.

Going off topic here but... Literally one of the best things about my relationship is we can be cuddled up in the same space but not need to talk to each other, just be on our own tablets or phones watching separate things but still existing in the same space.

Comfortable silence is very underrated.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Going off topic here but... Literally one of the best things about my relationship is we can be cuddled up in the same space but not need to talk to each other, just be on our own tablets or phones watching separate things but still existing in the same space.

Comfortable silence is very underrated.

So agree with this. You know you found the right one when you can enjoy the silence together. 😁

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I think it becomes more apparent after time, yes, unless you really give each other what you need. I think you can easily drift apart because of different natures. Sometimes though your different natures are what attracts you to each other and can cement you but if the bond isn't strong enough I think you might find yourself gravitating to other people who fit your personality more

Yes, the reason I notice now, is because in the past we were able to connect outside the group (nothing romantic) and I never felt any pressure to react to group posts. The only reason I notice now, is it seems like is he reacting to all messages around me and ignoring mine. Well, maybe I suddenly have become aware because of that. Especially since few of my messages directly addressed him and he just ignored them. I don't want to do deep virgo analysis and start imagining things. Guess I will just let him be.

I know from my personal experience that the person I talk the most with and look to be getting on best with isn't necessarily the person I like the most or am attracted to. What sign is he again? Maybe he likes you but he knows you're not too comfortable in the group setting? but that doesn't really explain why he would ignore your personal messages

He is cancer sun and he is not available (the story of my life 😄), so no, I don't want to get attached, but still hard not to notice the ignoring. The personal messages were in group chats, so he just skipped them. Maybe he is upset, maybe he wants me to be as expressive as others with likes and such, or he is just bored. I don't know, but I don't want to get conscious and feel pressured to react. Not that he is asking me to, I think things were same before, like I didn't interact much, but since he ignored my messages I noticed. I need to go back to being myself.

Is this the same guy you mentioned before, the one that you work with? I think you're just hurting yourself really. He's unavailable and it seems you have feelings for him or at least enough to feel bad if he ignores you reaching out to him. I understand, it's not always that simple but be kind to yourself and let it go.. he might even notice and start reaching out to you more - then you can let him do so but don't fall back into the same pattern all over again. Stand independent from him and he will respect you more. You might decide he's not worth it by then anyway

This is a different guy lol, no I am not going same route as other guy, but suddenly I noticed the ignoring, and tbh, it's not that we communicated a lot before, he is a nice guy, but all of a sudden I became aware. I know I am putting myself through unnecessary stress when there is nothing to stress about. And the other guy I was writing about before, I have stepped back a little, I was turned off by his mentioning and praising other girls in front of me. In any case neither of these guys are available. 😄 I am not even sure why I am spending so much energy thinking about them. Not that I show them what I am thinking, but seriously, I need to stop. There is no point.

Ha ok it's a different guy, sorry thought it was the same one. Well, no one likes being ignored.. is it the ignoring that sets you off? Like did you care much when he was talking to you? because sometimes it's the mistreatment which makes us feel some attachment. Like if your parents used to ignore you a lot as a child or something similar then as soon as someone does that to you as an adult it might trigger a feeling which feels like attachment.. idk that's something I had to deal with fairly recently in a similar sort of vein

Find someone available lol will make life a lot easier 😅

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Yes, I need to find someone who is available 😄 Sometimes I feel I am fine being alone, then why am I constantly putting myself in this position, and with someone not available. Yes, with this guy, I noticed more when he ignored. We have always gone months without interacting, but then out of the blue we have connected, like when you are least expecting it. So this time when I saw him responding to others but not me, it made me notice and think about him.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Going off topic here but... Literally one of the best things about my relationship is we can be cuddled up in the same space but not need to talk to each other, just be on our own tablets or phones watching separate things but still existing in the same space.

Comfortable silence is very underrated.

That sounds like the best feeling. To get to this place there must be consistency and trust.