physical foundation, can it ever be stable?

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just to clarify, i'm not asking whether or not a fwb can become more.
i'm just wondering, let's say you feel an intense physical chemistry with someone after only a few meetings. but you don't really know anything about them, and you haven't intimate with them before or on a regular basis. you're not sure how well you mesh intellectually or emotionally, but something physical happens anyway - just one time. then the person wants a rel with you.

for me this is kinda going in the wrong order. i tend to want to get to know someone at least fairly well before doing anything with them if it's not going to be a "hit it & quit it" situation. so being physical so early on seems kinda backwards in terms of working towards a rel.

what's your opinion on this? do you think it's possible to get to know someone properly without being distracted by the fact that the physical chemistry is totally INSANE?
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Posted by The-Dream
I believe so, i met many girls that i found really attractive but the more i bug them and ask question it kinda wasn't the fear of being unable to get to know instead on just loving how they look. Damn, i kinda confused myself, i have the sentence to say it but i don't know to say it. HAHAHA i really hope that helps.



lol dream you're so adorable.
i didn't mean simply that you have a physical attraction - obvs that's important for a rel! now i can see why you were confused.
what i meant is that you do something physical with each other before you really know each other personality-wise. and it turns out that you're very physically compatible. is it then possible to get to know them properly...do you know what i'm saying? cause once you open that door so to speak, it kinda has a tendency to become the focal point. so usually i don't do it too early on, especially when i barely know someone, if i'm interested in them.

ms.p - yeah, that makes sense. i can definitely see how it could potentially be a good thing.