Sag male. Help!

So i met this sag guy, he has a Scorp moon, scorp venus, pisces mars and i am a virgo with a scorp moon, scorp venus and cancer mars.

He asked me for my number and we texted for a few weeks, he did most of the initiating, i was kind of giving him the runaround. But i finally agreed to go out with him.

So he took me out on a few dates and he was funny and cool. And we seemed to click and he told me that he liked me and was interested in me. But i started getting distant because i love a lot of attention and i felt like he didnt give me as much as I wanted. (Im so used to guys who are interested in me texting me or calling me 24/7).
But he would hit me up asking why i wasnt texting him or letting him see me.

So I started putting in some effort. I texted him more often, but he was a horrible texter, and i hate speaking on the phone. Anyways we had sex 2 times, and i felt as if i didnt want to get attached so i became distant again. And I still felt that I needed more attention, so i broke it off.

He calls me a week later telling me that he misses me. So i go back to him but i made up this big lie and avoided him for almost a month. He found out about it and said he wanted to move on and just leave it behind us and that if I still wanted to go out with him. I didnt reply for days. He hit me up again so i was like ok sure.

But our communication was so bad and i felt that i wasn't getting the attention i wanted even after i talked to him about it. Because im scared to put in effort without any effort being put in from him because im scared of heartbreak. So i told him to leave me alone if he was wasting my time and ive tried being a bitch to him. But he wont leave me alone! Even though we hardly saw each other and havent had sex in 2 months.

Hes very stubborn he said that he doesnt want to end this, and he didnt see why i made everything such a big problem.it seems like he doesnt want to put in extra work. And i dont want to put in work because i dont want to get hurt.

I know i sound kind of selfish with the attention stuff. But is this guy genuine?

Or am i just being overdramatic and just a big scaredycat because i dont want to give someone the power to hurt me?
Exuse my grammar!

I'm at the airport so this will be some key points....

Sags...like fun ppl...they don't like to be bored and they like to do fun things..travel...always up for an adventure

Continue to go out on dates with him..make sure their fun....I personally don't suggest sexing someone who has not made a commitment to you...no benefit to you in any way...

Sags like a chase...they will hunt you down for awhile...so you being hot and cold on him is fine lol they enjoy conquering the hot and cold

They enjoy their freedom...their the sign that enjoys a relationship but don't like to feel like their actually in a relationship...

Have a very clear talk with him next time and explain that since his communication is not consistent it prompts you to take him very casually...if your dating with a purpose to settle down express that as well... let his actions speak/respond after that...

Sags date forever looking for the perfect woman...so keep that in mind...

I totally understand when you say your use to men being pressed over you...Sags get pressed over their lady...once you communicate you are favorable in regard to hearing from him more...he should oblige..

Sags are good loyal partners once they choose you...but their early dating patterns are relationship-like but also freedom like...

Good luck...😉

Thanks! I think im pretty fun im usually down to do w.e. the person im dating is down for. And i can get a little crazy sometimes out of nowhere.

Yeah you're right i shouldnt be having sex with someone whos not commited to me. But im so hornyy lol. So our conversations could turn rated x sometimes.

Should I wait for him to call me up or should i tell him i need to speak to him? Because last time i spoke to him i told him that i was kind of losing interest with the back and forth and he didnt even say goodbye to me on the phone. I think he was upset

@ aquaboy? Huh? I was never disloyal to him. Even when we were apart i never spoke to any guy. I felt like i wasnt given enough attention so i wanted to leave because i felt like i was getting attached especially since he took my virginity

I just dont want to get hurt

@aquaboy its cool

@aquaboy. Do you think i should man up and call him? I feel like he thinks im crazy

@aquaboy ill call him up. Thanks

Posted by Virgooo
Or am i just being overdramatic and just a big scaredycat because i dont want to give someone the power to hurt me?
Exuse my grammar!

Sag male here...and bingo there's your answer. Substitute the word "attention" with assurance. We mirror people. You gave this dude the runaround(because you were/are) and he kept pursuing and you gave him a chance only to turn around and make him chase again because of your fear...and hes aware of this. Him backing off is giving you space to decide what it is you want because you come off as playing games.

Keep in mind, both of your venuses are fixed and suspicious of one another but he overcomes that. It appears that he's fixed on chasing you and you're fixed on continuing to run...or see him when he's useful to you. You said it yourself...it seems kinda selfish...that's because it actually is. Also, communication is difficult between the two signs without all the extra stuff...so that only makes it worse. Decide what it is you want, let him know, and either move forward with or without him. Good luck 🙂

@ beautifulsoul74 Yeah youre right, i want assurance. I like feeling secure. Because he comes off like he doesnt really care about anything and that makes me question him. So i asked him why hes that way, and he told me that he was just a nonchalant guy. But one day he sent me a text saying that i was stressing him out even though it never appeared that way, he just seemed cool about everything.

He told me that i was playing games with him, but im really not. I just cant read him. So i feel like hes trying to play with my head. And yes i am very suspicious. Im scorpio dominant

But i want this to work

Both your moons are in Scorpio making u guys emotional and scared of abandonment, when you guys meet each other you're meant to feel each other out but if your moon is in Scorpio you anticipate rejection so you're reluctant to give in and you're both like that

Yeah im very reluctant. I thought people with strong scorpio influences were good lovers! (Or is that only for sun signs?) Im horrible!

not gonna work with 2 scorp moons

😢 😢

Posted by Virgooo
😢 😢

If it is gonna work then you two need to sit down and have an upfront and honest conversation about what your expectations are, what both of you are looking for, and what you're willing to compromise on.

@beautifulsoul74

Im willing to do that. Hope he will be too, and would be comfortable about it. Because i feel like when I start talking about real things, he gets uncomfortable he tries to joke about it and act like everything is already perfect and that nothing needs to be changed.

Well, that's a Sag's demeanor. We often express our views/seriouness through humor. Not saying its right. Have you addressed this with him?

@beautifulsoul74
No, cause I don't wanna seem pushy or seem like im always trying to start something

@blackmamba oh well, you dont have to look at it. I think its a cute pic, thats why its my profile pic. Lol

Posted by balblair
I'm at the airport so this will be some key points....

Sags...like fun ppl...they don't like to be bored and they like to do fun things..travel...always up for an adventure

Continue to go out on dates with him..make sure their fun....I personally don't suggest sexing someone who has not made a commitment to you...no benefit to you in any way...

Sags like a chase...they will hunt you down for awhile...so you being hot and cold on him is fine lol they enjoy conquering the hot and cold

They enjoy their freedom...their the sign that enjoys a relationship but don't like to feel like their actually in a relationship...

Have a very clear talk with him next time and explain that since his communication is not consistent it prompts you to take him very casually...if your dating with a purpose to settle down express that as well... let his actions speak/respond after that...

Sags date forever looking for the perfect woman...so keep that in mind...

I totally understand when you say your use to men being pressed over you...Sags get pressed over their lady...once you communicate you are favorable in regard to hearing from him more...he should oblige..

Sags are good loyal partners once they choose you...but their early dating patterns are relationship-like but also freedom like...

Good luck...😉

What's your sign? This is a good answer.