Should I give up on this whole online dating thing because I'm ugly/unattractive or is it just me?

So being a Scorpio with a pisces rising and a Capricorn dominant chart, dating is a struggle for me. I'm working on my confidence and self-esteem which I've improved on considering from where I started. With that being said, I'm 20 and I've been doing online dating for a few years now. I don't know what it is. I keep an appropriate amount of pics, simply brief bio, and I always message first. I've tried everything from tinder and okcupid, to pof and others. I read multiple articles stating that African American and Asian men have the least amount of luck in the dating world, especially online in particular. Is this true? Am I unattractive physically? Or is it just me? Anybody have any ideas, suggestions, or advice? Or can anybody relate?

Posted by tiziani
I've no experience but I remember reading these just a few weeks back

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2577496/Online-dating-not-working-Youre-probably-GOOD-LOOKING-Ugly-people-MORE-likely-attention-websites.html

https://theblog.okcupid.com/your-looks-and-your-inbox-8715c0f1561e

Thanks for the advice. Yeah I've read the 2nd one already before about okcupid. It's really fucked up how the reality of online dating is. Idk, perhaps I'm better off dating the old fashioned way.

Online dating to me was horrific...

What is it exactly you are looking for?

I think you’re cute. Maybe a lot of the people who are online dating are much older I’d think at least mid 20s so they may think you’re too young. People your age are typically (not all but enough of them) still partying and find their spouses through social media vs. dating apps, the clubs/ parties, school... Friends of friends... this may be the difference. But I think this way of finding someone maybe the wrong way for someone with your placements. You may be very serious and intent on finding your forever partner that is stable and emotionally secure for you... that’d be hard to find online. Not impossible... but it’d be a lot of "swiping left" to get the right one.

You look pretty average to me, not unattractive at all. But continue working on your confidence, that's the key to taking your looks to the next level. It makes you even sexier with confidence and looks.

You're young still though. You still have a lot if growing to do. Just try and not take things personally when it comes to dating. Don't get bitter and upset. You have lots of years to meet someone and like they say. There's someone for everyone. 😉

You’re only as attractive as you feel.

Honestly confidence is attractive. Start working on that. Don’t let other people determine your worth. Present yourself as high value and don’t accept less.

Don't believe in that fake ass statistics about black and Asian men.

It's not YOU, it's your vibe.

For starters.. Start taking pictures outside the bathroom.. Outside the house... Hell, go outside and take your pictures from now on. Stand behind a tree, a statue, some art.. Hold a drink, a blunt or cigarette.. Whatever you prefer.. Not necessary, just an option too. It's just factual that pictures outdoor makes someone look more of value and interesting.

Upload pictures of things you like, things you do.. Like you playing a card game with your buddies or something. Upload pictures of you and your buddies, but don't make it a profile pic..

You see, you have a life.. But you are not looking like it.. Start sticking out or otherwise you just look like another guy just posting selfies.. It's attractive when people look like they have lives.

You focus too much on your physical.. Start learning who you are inside and share that with that ladies too.. Yeah, I'm tall dark and handsome.. But I do quirky voice impressions and tell spleen bustin jokes.. Something like that.. What do you do for a living? Do you enjoy any hobbies? Get more personal about that too.. Share yourself in the most genuine way, look outside the mirror.

Met my hubby via dating app. There you could filter what you are looking for: "friends" (yeah sure), dating or only chats.

But we both were 25 and 28 already. I guess being 20ish makes you look like you are there for booty - although all ages of men use these apps to get booty nowadays. So well - give it a try but also go outside!

And yes, like someone said: go outside and take pictures 🙂 those classic bathroom pics are a no no

Know nothing about online dating but I think you are very attractive and agree with most - it’s the age!

Are you looking for serious relashionships? Unlikely right?

And is there way to filter by age so only women of your age group will see you?

Wait...what that filter would be? 16-20?

Hmmmm

Posted by Gob_Shite
Also, it's easier for women to get results than men.

Yes, women are hounded on these dating websites, via PMs, but at least they don't have to deal with the feeling that they're in an echo chamber.

Anyone would prefer the attention that women get than getting hardly any replies to polite PMs sent...

LMAO...really man, how ugly are you?

Posted by clownloyal
sometimes I can't believe how insecure men can be when women will literally love them forever for them being themselves

if you're a good person, genuine, and have a big heart eventually someone worth while will see that as oppose to physical aspects of your outer being

Mm Eventually is a damning word.

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Posted by clownloyal
sometimes I can't believe how insecure men can be when women will literally love them forever for them being themselves

if you're a good person, genuine, and have a big heart eventually someone worth while will see that as oppose to physical aspects of your outer being

Mm Eventually is a damning word.

why? to me everything takes time, can't just expect the universe to grant wishes

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Companionship is not a certainty.

No assurance any of us will find or even have someone.

It's a gamble... Some play the game... Some invest their time elsewhere.