Submissive or weak... What's ur take?

If a "HUSBAND" tells his wife he does not like her to wear makeup and so she doesn't, do u call her weak or just being submissive to her husbands request. I personally don't think the woman is being weak.

Posted by LadyTate
If a "HUSBAND" tells his wife he does not like her to wear makeup and so she doesn't, do u call her weak or just being submissive to her husbands request. I personally don't think the woman is being weak.

Relationships at their core are about compromise.

I'm sure she requests things of her husband that he accomadates. She is only weak or submissive if it is one sided demands in which his voice is the only voice in the relationship. Imo.

Posted by badgalbee
If my husband told me not to wear makeup id be like okay compromise for interviews work okay? Day off its fine.

That I understand...

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Posted by LadyTate
If a "HUSBAND" tells his wife he does not like her to wear makeup and so she doesn't, do u call her weak or just being submissive to her husbands request. I personally don't think the woman is being weak.

Relationships at their core are about compromise.

I'm sure she requests things of her husband that he accomadates. She is only weak or submissive if it is one sided demands in which his voice is the only voice in the relationship. Imo.

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Agree... Relationships are about compromise. And To me... There is a difference in being weak and being submissive.

Posted by starlover
How much does *she* like to wear it?

It was just a scenario... Not about a specific person but we'll just say that she usually wears it daily.

Posted by TerramineLight
I think it's stupid is what it is. Guys try to control that because they are insecure and feel as though it's a sign of you being unfaithful/you'll attract unwarranted attention. It's one thing when one of my Exs just all of the sudden dressed like a hooker for no apparent reason. Like literally all she was wearing for a bottom was transparent stockings over panties. But make up? That's nothin.

Lol... I can see where ur coming from. I know my boyfriend would prefer me not to wear makeup but it doesn't bother him if I do or don't. I think he just really hate the process of me putting it on. He be ready to go and I'm still fumbling in the bathroom to put it on.

It is obviously a symbolic representation of millennium of oppression, control and rebellion. If this type of behavior continues it is surely an affront to all we stand for. A stand MUST be made or else it will only get worse.

It depends.

If she truly enjoys wearing makeup and discontinues just to please him (even though it secretly makes her feel dissatisfied), then yeah, I'd consider that weak. But if she stops wearing it because it pleases him, and because she couldn't care less on top of that, then no.

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Posted by starlover
My ex loved watching me put my eye make up, he always used to say how feminine and sexy it was 😛

I would not allow any man to tell me what to do or wear, as I wouldn't do the same to him

What if he decided to just run around in a thong like Quagmire from family guy?... I'm not sure how a guy dresses provocatively lol

Anyways if you want to tell people what to do. Pursue a career in management lol

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Lol... Let my man even look at a thing to long. Kmsl...

That's a bit much but I could offer something like trying it for one week.. But if I feel like I want to go back to it afterwards whether I make any changes or not he better be fine with it. E for effort and drop it.

Posted by AriElla7
That's a bit much but I could offer something like trying it for one week.. But if I feel like I want to go back to it afterwards whether I make any changes or not he better be fine with it. E for effort and drop it.

Lol... @ E is for effort! I understand. Like I said, my boyfriend prefers me natural but he won't complain if I do or don't wear makeup. He just complains about the time I spend on it.

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Posted by AriElla7
That's a bit much but I could offer something like trying it for one week.. But if I feel like I want to go back to it afterwards whether I make any changes or not he better be fine with it. E for effort and drop it.

Lol... @ E is for effort! I understand. Like I said, my boyfriend prefers me natural but he won't complain if I do or don't wear makeup. He just complains about the time I spend on it.

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Lol I'm pretty much always natural anyway myself. I get a lil taste for it during Fall for some reason. I would understand more if they're used to you being natural and all of a sudden you turn into a makeup artist on yourself everyday. I don't mind trying experiments to give whatever he brings up a chance. I might end up liking it. But if I don't.. Well yanno..

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Posted by AriElla7
That's a bit much but I could offer something like trying it for one week.. But if I feel like I want to go back to it afterwards whether I make any changes or not he better be fine with it. E for effort and drop it.

Lol... @ E is for effort! I understand. Like I said, my boyfriend prefers me natural but he won't complain if I do or don't wear makeup. He just complains about the time I spend on it.

Lol I'm pretty much always natural anyway myself. I get a lil taste for it during Fall for some reason. I would understand more if they're used to you being natural and all of a sudden you turn into a makeup artist on yourself everyday. I don't mind trying experiments to give whatever he brings up a chance. I might end up liking it. But if I don't.. Well yanno..

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Understandable... At least ur willing to try.

Posted by SensitiveBlues
I think its a compliment that he thinks im pretty without makeup, so many women need a face to put on to survive this world, so insecure

on the other hand id appreciate it if its suggestive and not demanded

if you demand anything of me i do the exact opposite, even my boss knows that

I'm the same way... It's all in ur delivery. That determines my reaction to whatever it is.

Posted by Explicit
WEAK!!!

She needs to find something she hates about him, and tell him the same thing.

It's not about tit for tat... Lol.

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Posted by LadyTate

Posted by Explicit
WEAK!!!

She needs to find something she hates about him, and tell him the same thing.

It's not about tit for tat... Lol.

Ugh, you're right. But it's just very annoying to me when a partner tries to control their mate. How can you ask someone to give up make up or give up certain kinds of clothes or give up something they like when you got into the relationship knowing this about them? It's so infuriating to me. lol. I don't know why but it just is.

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For example... I knew my BF smoked when I got with him. Didn't like it but I knew he did. Well after we dated for a while I told him I didn't like it and asked if he would quit. It wasn't a problem... He stopped smoking reg cigs and and started using the Vapor. I wasn't trying to control him, just voiced my want and let him make the decision to make the change. Had he not... Then it would have GONE DOWN! Lol

Posted by undefined
I would still wear makeup. Seems like a control thing. Maybe he doesnt want her looking good or desirable. Seems odd!

That may be the case for some...

Posted by SensitiveBlues
I think its a compliment that he thinks im pretty without makeup, so many women need a face to put on to survive this world, so insecure

on the other hand id appreciate it if its suggestive and not demanded

if you demand anything of me i do the exact opposite, even my boss knows that

Exactly this —

It's all about delivery. A request is always more graciously received than a demand.

When I told the Gem how sexy he looked in turquoise he started to wear that color more. And when he goes on and on about how he's all about my long hair I stop cutting it as often.

When you care about someone bringing them pleasure gives you pleasure.

In the end the woman does what she wants and has her reasons, whether its to maintain harmony or not in the relationship is up to her, the ball is in her court, she always has the upperhand, all hell could break loose if she decides to put a face on.

Why oh why do straight couples have to be so fucking beige and one dimensional in order for their relationships to work, I cringe so hard

It depends on the situation and if the husband going to dam far..my boyfriend don't like makeup either so sometimes I wear it and sometimes I dont. He like my hair pull back alot ..sometimes I wear it because I no he like it. Now there's things I just don't go for because it's not me..it's not being weak..it's being a partner..he do things I like too. It become controlling when a person is dissatisfied and can't be themselves .