@Parkourler
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Survey (Ony answers by women please): Is not wanting to get married a red flag?
I know many people would say marriage is just a piece of paper. For me it's not. I know it's all in the head n it comes down to trust. But I can't ever be in a relationship with someone who doesn't believe in the institution of marriage. Yes, a piece of paper does make a difference to me. But it has nothing to do with looking out for my financial safety. That's not my concern.Talking about divorces n the laws relating to it, I don't even think of them. It's not like I'm sitting here thinking I'd be divorced some time n then what I'm gonna do. My thought process stops at how I'm gonna make the marriage relationship work. Can't think about how the divorce is gonna favor me financially or otherwise.
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I know many people would say marriage is just a piece of paper. For me it's not.
I agree, my point is marriage is a sacred commitment. I only if marriage is tied to I know it's all in the head n it comes down to trust. But I can't ever be in a relationship with someone who doesn't believe in the institution of marriage.
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What do you know about Marriage Laws?
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Yes, a piece of paper does make a difference to me. But it has nothing to do with looking out for my financial safety. That's not my concern. Talking about divorces n the laws relating to it, I don't even think of them.
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You should be. 50% and more of all marriages end up in divorce. Why are you and me special, that we can beat the odds? It`s a matter of being humble and realistic.
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It's not like I'm sitting here thinking I'd be divorced some time n then what I'm gonna do. My thought process stops at how I'm gonna make the marriage relationship work. Can't think about how the divorce is gonna favor me financially or otherwise.
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That`s noble. But as a man, you must ponder these things, because it`s a lifetime decision, which can you ruin you financially, and the law is clearly unfair and just dead wrong in many cases.
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Well the majority still believes in getting married.. while there are some who have moved on from that notion.
For me personally commitment does not mean a marriage certificate. However, I do want some basic stability which a marriage like setup would provide.
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THANK YOU! Will you marry me 🙂? If you are female.
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Are you asking if you not wanting to get married is a red flag for girls?
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YES EXACTLY: To many girls are not critical enough and feel betrayed, and are not willing to have a rational
discussion about marriage.
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Or someone or specifically a girl not wanting to get married is a red flag to you?
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Are you kidding me? I`d be happy.
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Well the majority still believes in getting married.. while there are some who have moved on from that notion.
For me personally commitment does not mean a marriage certificate. However, I do want some basic stability which a marriage like setup would provide.
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THANK YOU! Will you marry me 🙂? If you are female.
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Are you asking if you not wanting to get married is a red flag for girls?
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YES EXACTLY: To many girls are not critical enough and feel betrayed, and are not willing to have a rational
discussion about marriage.
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Or someone or specifically a girl not wanting to get married is a red flag to you?
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Are you kidding me? I`d be happy.
Maybe we aren't compatible so maybe hold off on that proposal?
It's your personal belief system I guess. To each their own. ☺
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Just kidding.
LOL! You think being negative is being realistic?? Ever heard this? "Realistic is seeing a situation for what it is n not for what it *maybe*" Both you n me are talking about probabilities. You're being negative n I'm being positive. Idc how the rest of the world is. I've only closely seen marriages working well. All the divorce cases are of people I dunno or of someone not related to me. I've only seen ppl trying their best to make things work. N god forbid if something happens, I know how to take care of myself. I'm self-sufficient thanks! I'm more worried about being emotionally affected.
The thing is , not what I know about marriage laws. It's about what you wanna hear from me.
N I dunno if you're talking about me or you, but I'm not a man?
N about your woes of dealing with how unfair the laws are, it's on you. Go for a prenup or something if that scares you or whatever works for you.
Yes probalities should be considered too, if you make important decisions. Preparation.
The facts are that divorced men are financially better off than married men.
However, married men have better mental health than divorced men.
I suppose from that the best might be for men to stay single.
Source?
Posted by Parkourler
Source?
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeand style /2009/jan/25/divorce-women-research
This kind of study has been repeated for decades. Results remain the same.
Its the first link that popped up. There are probably more recent studies.
I think your issues regarding marriage, which
seem to be financial, can be resolved with a
pre-nup... consult an attorney prior.
For you, it would be worth every penny.
I still believe in marriage
It is a red flag if one of you wants to and the other one doesn't
To promise your whole life to stay with one person and be faithful to that one person, to me, sounds like a tall order
Why promise something that you may have to break further down the line?
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I am not against the idea of marriage, committing to one partner for life. The laws are clearly in favor of the
women in most Countrys. You can take everydime of him, you can literally destroy the mens life.
There are unfair laws in the US for example. You must pay more when you income increases, but not less if
you earn less.
Many women still see it as turn off. They associate progress with marriage, any long term relationship is treated like a potential marriage, they are not willing to challenge the cultural notions.
What do you think?