There's no point in...

:😛LAYING MIND GAMES with someone to get what you want. Here's why:

1. Most people can't maintain long-lasting respect from someone they have to constantly manipulate
2. You may never even get the results you wanted, thus YOU will be the 1 drained when you finally realize that
3. If you actually get the results you want, there's NO victory in knowing that you can only obtain happiness through means of manipulating others.
4. If that person discovers you've been manipulating them the whole time, they'll resent you & never trust you again, thus you did all that "work" for nothing. The TRUE victory is when you can be yourself & yet still be ENOUGH for the other person.

::MAKING SOMEONE JEALOUS TO GET THEM BACK. Here's why:

1. They almost always know that you're trying to make them jealous, thus they'll purposely react the opposite of what you wanted
2. If your plan works, 99% of the time, they're only flocking back to you for all the WRONG reasons
3. It'll only make them chase you with the "I don't want her/him but I don't want anybody else to have him/her either" mindset, thus there's NO true victory in this nor are you getting that person back for the right reasons.
4. Once the jealousy wears off (b/c it WILL), they'll go back to remembering just why they decided to leave you alone in the 1st place.
5. You should want someone who will do right by you AND want you b/c you're special, right along with someone who can cherish you WHILE they have you, not those who only want to "get it right" once they see that someone else actually wasn't dumb enough to let a good thing like you get away

::GETTING REVENGE. Here's why:
1. It never erases the pain that drove you to want to get the revenge in the 1st place
2. If your plot isn't strong enough, the person won't feel the effects of the revenge (defeats the purpose)
3. If your plot IS way too strong, there will 99% of the time be more consequences for YOU moreso than them (cough: jail time)
4. Although you're hurt, you more than likely still want that person OR you still want that person to still want you--Getting revenge on that person is the FASTEST way to get them to lose all respect for you, laugh at you & justify why they did you so wrong in the 1st place (Obviously this is NOT the mindset you'd want them to have b/c them having that mindset in the 1st place is what got you so hurt & ready for revenge in the 1st place)
5. Karma is a B! (don't get a war started b/c once the cycle starts, it never ends; and when it does YOU end up being the main 1 crying & in the hole ONCE AGAIN)

::HIDING CERTAIN TRAITS JUST TO GET/KEEP SOMEONE AROUND. Here's why:
1. That person will eventually discover those traits anyways. It's better for you to be dumped after 4 months than it is after 2 years
2. You're the "WHOLE PACKAGE" which means that if you truly want someone to love you for who you are, that requires them knowing & seeing ALL of you (not bits & pieces) before they can make that kind of decision
3. There's NO victory in knowing that the person you're in love with for who they are as a whole, only loves the person you're pretending to be OR the person that you wish you were
4. Put yourself in their shoes: Would you even still want that person if you knew that they purposely took away your rights to know who/what you're getting yourself into, all so that they could selfishly have you?
5. You'll drain yourself. It takes 10Xs more energy to be someone you're NOT vs. who you really are, flaws & all
6. Not everyone will like your "whole package" BUT have enough confidence that someone eventually WILL. Without confidence in yourself, you have NO business looking for or being in love in the 1st place!
7. You attract what you fear. If you make it a habit to always conceal your true colors, don't be surprised when you notice the pattern that you've been attracting like-minds too

::GETTING BACK WITH AN EX RIGHT AFTER THE BREAK UP. Here's why:

1. If they hurt you, the WORST thing you can do is show someone that it's OK for them to come back into your life BEFORE they fix whatever problem led them to the exit in the 1st place
2. If that person was truly meant for you, taking a break to get yourselves together will NOT jeopardize or change that fact.
3. If you've broken up more than twice, that's an indication that you both are too selfish & unwilling to solve the initial problem(s), thus you probably experience more pain & drain while you're WITH that person moreso than you do when you're NOT with them. (The whole point is to hurt LESS)
4. You're getting back with them for all the wrong reasons. Ill intentions can ruin something before it even gets started. This logic doesn't only apply to 2 people who 1st start out dating; it also applies to couples who keep going back to eachother. If this logic was wrong, then your relationship wouldn't be on "Breakup #4"
5. Ok so they may go try to find a rebound OR you may fear that the longer they're apart from you, the more they'll remember that there's other fish in the sea. TRUE, BUT why would you be so in a hurry to rush back to someone whom you know is 1. More focused on finding your replacement & 2. Someone who will lose love for you after 2 weeks?
6. Whatever you fear that the other person may do is probably exactly what they'll do. And in that case, you'll probably LOSE more than you'll gain if you get back with them
7. Remember WHY that person is your ex. This saying may be cliche BUT it's very true & is still around for a reason
8. The more times you break up, the more likely you're jeopardizing your "Relationship stability board."