This guy treats me like crap everytime I'm nice to him

I literally don't know what to do.

This guy I've been dating treats me good only when I'm not nice and available for him.

As soon as I open my heart to him and I'm nice he starts being rude and disrespectful.

Yesterday I asked him if he wanted some coffee. I payed for his coffee and before that happened he was treating me good. And after I did that he started getting mad for stupid things.

When I call or text he's indifferent but when I'm not all over him he starts texting a lot and even sends me smiley faces.

Do I have to always treat him bad for him to treat me right? I feel that if I'm nice he'll take advantage of me and play with my heart.

And you're dating him because....

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Texting smiley faces is a far cry from being treated ‘good’. You should up your standards.

🙃🙃

He has a warped view of love.

He doesnt feel worthy to receive real genuine love so he pushes it away.

Love to him is strife and struggle.

Struggle love.

Dont let him infect you.

Buy him a therapy session for Christmas

Give him a diaper and spank him like his momma never did

Stop doing what he should be doing. Let him call you, let him pay for your coffee, receive him but stop initiating. Some men get scared off when pursued. He may be traditional. Just try it so you can find out. If he doesn’t respond then he probably isn’t that interested, I hate to say that to you, not trying to hurt you but that’s usually what it is.

Is this the kind of relationship you want forever? Can’t change him. Either stay and deal with it or NEXT

Posted by nanorobot

Sounds like a nice guy

Definitely worth of talking about more! 🤦‍♀️

Posted by GuardianAnu

And you're dating him because....

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Usually it happens when he is the only one who is willing. Or seems like he is the only one and girl is supposed to have a bf so friends wouldn’t be talking...

Don’t you have a friend like that?

I have one who married an abuser because she wanted to come to a parties with someone...

POS tried to bed everyone in the area but no one had him because of how ugly he is! So they still together and he is still calling her every name in the book. We stopped being friends with her after first 6 years of her ‘partnership’ with this shit of a man...life is a strange thing...

This is a joke right?

This dude has issues. It's not your job to fix them or tolerate them. Walk away

The better question is WHY on earth are you tolerating that? Healthy people don't take others through a spiral of mind games and ups & downs for no reason. And if you're serious about finding love, then you should only be seeking it from individuals who are emotionally wholesome & healthy. This guy has some issues & may even borderline be narcissistic. It's only downhill from here if your response to his disrespect is to keep entertaining & attaching yourself to him. There's no need for us to give you advice on how to further keep this guy around b/c he's already shown you that he's the least likely to give you the healthy, good communication having, respecting relationship that you really want. No man will ever take you seriously if you have no boundaries or a backbone. When you see red flags, see them for what they are, trust your instincts that are telling you this is NOT ok and to run, and move on. The story never ends well when you willfully put all your eggs into a broken basket.

Just ghost him, He'll love you for it.

Yup sounds like my Libra man. However, I told him what I will and won’t tolerate. He never ignores my texts or calls anymore. He might not respond with a deep message but he responds. I know he likes conflict but seeks harmony so I give him want he wants - a hard way to go. After refusing to come to his place, he has taken the responsibility to put me at ease and comfortable with him. He told me not to stress about anything. So I’m not. The ball is in his court.