A couple is madly deeply in love for 2 years, picture themselves being together till they are old and grey. Arguments start in last 6 months as Man develops short temper due to current stressful employment resulting in lack of time to spend together (opposite shifts) and difficultly finding alternative employment.
Couple break up due to big argument.
Man asks woman to reconsider and get back together. Woman is not happy continuing relationship where Man is never around due to work, AND current job stress causing TEMPER. Man says wants to find alternative job and will, but may take time. Woman does not feel she can get back into relationship whilst struggling to find time for each other. Woman is settled in good job & ready to look to future and be enjoying life. Man is not quite at this stage in his life due to circumstances beyond his control. They have struggled for a year with his current job and woman feels there is no guarantee that new job will come along soon or with better hours.
Man has said he would like to remain friends (both with the intention that when Man has sorted his life out, he will have time for relationship). Woman has said that if he finds a job with regular hours she would happily consider getting back together, as she does want to be with him but unsure his future features her
Although they have said they will keep in touch in friends (have not yet had time to meet up), Man frequently gets frustrated with situation and wants them to be together. venting his frustration on phone. Woman is holding back, waiting for him to change job. Man also lives at home and this will not change as it would not be financially practical for him to live on his own right now.
One minute they are texting and it is friendly and positive. Few days later they end up arguing on phone or texts becuse man cannot be patient. They both end up hurting each other. Its like love/ hate!
Is Woman being stupid by holding back and not wanting to get back into relationship until he finds different job/life style ? What if it takes months for Man to find new job?
Surely if they weren't meant to be together they would both let it go and move on? But both keep instigating conversation which is either positive and gives hope of getting back together one day or frustration and declarations of abandonning attempt to get back together? Then both realising they were unintentionally hurting each other, and feel love again.
I read he "has a bad temper and lives at home "and alarm bells went off in my head big time. He shouldn't be taking his frustrations out on you Not at all. He needs to deal with this by either getting better employment which I don't think is all that easy right now or getting back in school and to pick up some further training to get himself not only a better pay cheque but a better job in general and not working nights. Seems like he's frustrated yet he's not doing anything about it but being ill tempered at you.
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Arguments start in last 6 months as Man develops short temper due to current stressful employment resulting in lack of time to spend together (opposite shifts) and difficultly finding alternative employment.
Couple break up due to big argument.
Man asks woman to reconsider and get back together. Woman is not happy continuing relationship where Man is never around due to work, AND current job stress causing TEMPER. Man says wants to find alternative job and will, but may take time.
Woman does not feel she can get back into relationship whilst struggling to find time for each other. Woman is settled in good job & ready to look to future and be enjoying life. Man is not quite at this stage in his life due to circumstances beyond his control. They have struggled for a year with his current job and woman feels there is no guarantee that new job will come along soon or with better hours.
Man has said he would like to remain friends (both with the intention that when Man has sorted his life out, he will have time for relationship). Woman has said that if he finds a job with regular hours she would happily consider getting back together, as she does want to be with him but unsure his future features her
Although they have said they will keep in touch in friends (have not yet had time to meet up), Man frequently gets frustrated with situation and wants them to be together. venting his frustration on phone. Woman is holding back, waiting for him to change job. Man also lives at home and this will not change as it would not be financially practical for him to live on his own right now.
One minute they are texting and it is friendly and positive. Few days later they end up arguing on phone or texts becuse man cannot be patient. They both end up hurting each other. Its like love/ hate!
Is Woman being stupid by holding back and not wanting to get back into relationship until he finds different job/life style ?
What if it takes months for Man to find new job?
Surely if they weren't meant to be together they would both let it go and move on?
But both keep instigating conversation which is either positive and gives hope of getting back together one day or frustration and declarations of abandonning attempt to get back together? Then both realising they were unintentionally hurting each other, and feel love again.
Can't let it go though,nei