What signals do you need to feel comfortable

approaching someone? Can work both ways I guess.

I've seen someone around who intrigues me, the situation is at a sporting event watching on big screens, so we are pretty much glued to the screens most of the time. Well he is, my eyes are wandering around and catching up with my friends until the main event 🙂
I noticed him more this time around and held his stare for a few seconds for the first time. So I don't know anything about him, or even if he is available. He comes with a friend (these events are every 3 weeks) and leaves straight after the last fight. Where we are positioned, I look directly at him and vice versa he's seated himself there the last couple of times, approx 5 metres away.

I don't feel in this situation, he'd come and approach me because I am with a large group of people and we are in a cordoned off area...but we are there for several hours and it's aways on a Sunday afternoon at a local sports bar

So basically, you are wondering if he's feelin' the same heat?

In this case, if you feel he's not gonna make a move, you should just go for it.

It's not like you know him and have to talk to him on a regular basis like a coworker or something so if it all goes to hell, you're not making your life awkward.

Confidence is a muscle and right now you have a chance to work it out. ; )

You said "fight". Are we talkin' boxing or MMA?

He notices you noticing him lol

So you've def. done your part to show that you're interested.

You're right. He probably feels intimidated by the fact that you're surrounded by a group of people, but the interest in you is still there which is why he can't stop himself from noticing you each & every time

So remove that barrier for him. Go over & say something. Although most guys are used to rejected, it's a whole new story when he feels he's gotta get through a tribe of people in order to get to you lol

If you don't want to go over alone, 1 of your friends over with you. Just 1. Say something witty like, "I couldn't help but to come over here. There's just something about you that caught my eye. Maybe you can help me figure that out!" & then batt your eyelashes! Say something corny like that lmao

OR say something about the sports team/score to break the ice. Now if he doesn't bite the damn bait at that point, then he might have a girlfriend lol But if he's single & if he's truly interested, he'll not only bite the bait but he'll be appreciative that you removed the barrier for him

Go get him girl =)

MMA and the crowd I'm with has one of the fighters in it which is why we have cordoned off area and possibly why he wouldn't enter.

Won't be for a few weeks now because we have a live fight to go to for the next one and it'd be doubtful that I'd see him there if he has tickets, the crowd being in the 1000's but wouldn't that be a sign if it did!!

Yeah, think next time I see him, I'll go to the bar when he does and talk about my friend haha

Posted by sweethearts
approaching someone? Can work both ways I guess.

I've seen someone around who intrigues me, the situation is at a sporting event watching on big screens, so we are pretty much glued to the screens most of the time. Well he is, my eyes are wandering around and catching up with my friends until the main event 🙂
I noticed him more this time around and held his stare for a few seconds for the first time. So I don't know anything about him, or even if he is available. He comes with a friend (these events are every 3 weeks) and leaves straight after the last fight. Where we are positioned, I look directly at him and vice versa he's seated himself there the last couple of times, approx 5 metres away.

I don't feel in this situation, he'd come and approach me because I am with a large group of people and we are in a cordoned off area...but we are there for several hours and it's aways on a Sunday afternoon at a local sports bar

He's taken or married but not dead. He's allowed to look.

If a man wants to talk to you HE WILL.

I've been sitting with my friends the whole time so we haven't crossed paths at all. I noticed him sitting there once before, when his food came out 3 mini hamburgers (this is what grabbed my attention at first lol) the other day he ordered those cute little burgers again, this is when I really looked at the person.

Yes he maybe taken, and he may not have noticed me either until the other day and it would definitely take huge balls to walk into where I am sitting and start talking to me in front of a UFC fighter and all his friends but I'll break the ice when there is an opportunity and see where it goes from there. Opening the door doesn't mean I'm going to fall at his feet and do all the work, it's just showing that I have an interest as Kry has stated.

Men talk about the "girlfriend barrier" all the time when asked why they don't approach some women.

There is a HUGE difference b/w walking over to hit on a girl whose only with 1 or 2 people vs. she being around 10 people! Huge difference!

And if a guy doesn't have enough confidence, then THAT is what's lacking, not his interest.

Posted by sweethearts
approaching someone? Can work both ways I guess.

I've seen someone around who intrigues me, the situation is at a sporting event watching on big screens, so we are pretty much glued to the screens most of the time. Well he is, my eyes are wandering around and catching up with my friends until the main event 🙂
I noticed him more this time around and held his stare for a few seconds for the first time. So I don't know anything about him, or even if he is available. He comes with a friend (these events are every 3 weeks) and leaves straight after the last fight. Where we are positioned, I look directly at him and vice versa he's seated himself there the last couple of times, approx 5 metres away.

I don't feel in this situation, he'd come and approach me because I am with a large group of people and we are in a cordoned off area...but we are there for several hours and it's aways on a Sunday afternoon at a local sports bar

Sounds like you need to separate yourself from your group and mingle.

At least 20 guys and girls...all sitting and lounging around in an area getting served food and drinks.

The whole bar are there watching the UFC so most are glued to the screens and there is little time between fights. I did notice that he was very interested in the fights, watching every single one... but he has to get up to refill his drink sometime 😉

wow, if you're checking up on him in detail, i'm very very sure he knows you're very interested.

Honestly, you can totally FEEL it when someone is checking you out in real life.

If he likes that feeling that you're checking him out in detail, what he drinks ect...
he may know you are into him big time.

This doesn't sound like the best environment to start a friendship with a stanger

Why do you say that? Given that it might be a bar, it is a Sunday afternoon sharing food and drinks with friends and it's where I go regularly to watch sport throughout the whole year. If it's not the MMA with my friends then in winter I watch the football. An interest that I have so therefore a potential partner would also share. In fact my whole life revolves around either sports or gyms.

Curious whether you would think that a gym might be a better place to meet someone or what might be the best places?

Posted by sweethearts
Why do you say that? Given that it might be a bar, it is a Sunday afternoon sharing food and drinks with friends and it's where I go regularly to watch sport throughout the whole year. If it's not the MMA with my friends then in winter I watch the football. An interest that I have so therefore a potential partner would also share. In fact my whole life revolves around either sports or gyms.

Curious whether you would think that a gym might be a better place to meet someone or what might be the best places?

ohh that makes sense, sweethearts. You are into sports, so you would be attracted to men who are "sporty" or into sports. Youd have alot in common.

that's exactly similar situation a (giving an example) wife of a professional athlete. She is attracted to the most sporty men, who love outdoors and is outgoing and she always ends up with a sporty man. She ended up marrying a professional athlete.

you might meet someone who is a pro, perhaps in football or tennis, or otherwise.

good luck, sweethearts.

Posted by sweethearts

I'm exactly where I need to be Kry, there because my friends are there and because I enjoy it. It's not a pretentious ploy to meet someone. And I have no problem with the TV screaming sports all day, I very rarely watch it anyway. Most of the sport I want to watch is on pay TV and therefore it's an outing for me and my mates at a local sports bar 🙂