What to think?

He initiates. He flirts. He admits he likes you. Friends know he likes you. But he doesn't really act like he likes you. :/

He asks "when are we hanging out?" but never pursues further...
Turns out you'll be in the same place one night, so you suggest the two of you meet up. He agrees and tells you to text him. You do. He never meets up. You shrug it off. But he texts you after the fact to see what's up... ?

He continues to initiate and flirt. You're stand-offish. He doesn't seem to notice/care.


Consensus: He likes you. But that's all. He really isn't that into you.




Just some thoughts 🙂
If only I could see inside a dudes head...even for just a day. Wannabe players? What's the deal??
I thought I was a complex being.

Have you split with your man BF— Or is this someone playing with you knowing you have a significant other?

We split a while ago, but we're still half in half out if that makes sense....? It's what we always do. Depends on the day how in we are. He's a libra. :/

This guy is a leo. (The same one I was talking about before in another thread recently.)
To recap...we had a little thing going on for a short time a while back, but I ended up reuniting with the libra and lost touch with him. But it wasn't like I just blew him off, he started dating another girl himself at the same time.

I flirt for fun too...so the flirting isn't what bothers me. (I'm not reading into it and getting giddy.)
What bothers me is that he thinks he's some type of player. Like he's hot shit/
My impression was that same as all of you have suggested - that this might be a little ego game he's playing & I'm not into playing games.


We're FB friends. I posted about having to take a spanish class in Fall. He replies that he's taking spanish too and asks me to take it with him. So I'm like sure why not, and we sign up for the same class. (He's half puerto rican, so he's fluent...I'm thinking he's going to do my homework. Lol.)
He starts messaging me every day after that. Gives me his number and tells me to text him. I don't. So, the next time I talk to him he tells me to text him later (again.) So I make a point to tell him I already lost his number. 😄 He gives it to me again. I finally text him the next day while I'm at work bored...nothing to comment on.

So this continues for a couple weeks. He keeps asking when we're gonna hang out and asking me what I'm doing over the weekends. SO one weekend I'm going out with my friends, and turns out he's going out with his friends and we're gonna be in the same place. I'm like maybe we can meet up then? He's like yeah just text me and let me know where you're going to be and we'll swing by. So I do. He never shows up. I don't pursue the matter. I did my part...I feel like if he really wanted to hang out he would have came.
So he texts me later that night to find out whats up. I'm over it by then. I don't reply.

He messages me a few days later like nothing. I'm not upset or mad about it but I just realize he's playing games and I don't really feel like playing. So I'm short with him...this makes him more talkative and flirtatious. (He probably did notice actually, now that I think about it.)

My head hurts now.

& as for friends knowing he likes me, I was referring to his. His best friend started messaging me recently too and kept bringing him up to me and asking what happened between us...was I still with my bf...when we were all going to hang out again, etc. This is the same friend who was always trying to get us together in the first place.

Anyways I have been avoiding contact with him for over a week. He hasn't tried that hard to contact me obviously.
I'm considering switching classes actually. Lol. He's irritating me...wannabe player.


Doesn't make sense. Astrologically we have sick ass compatibility and in reality too...we clicked from the first moment we met.
We joked that it was love at first sight...but really we do have strong chemistry.
That's what makes this whole thing so aggravating. Normally I'd be like fuckkk youuuuu. on to the next one. I wouldn't even be talking about it.
But he is really getting under my skin. It's like borderline obsession. I'm always thinking about it. WTF

^^ I can't see what you posted I'm at work...it must be blocked. !!!!!!!!😢

Lol are you playing my swanky single hit again

lmao. He's not smelling the love in the air apparently

Maybe I should waft it in his direction?

aries style

Yeah wannabe player. I'm saying.......
So over it. :/





He just liked my facebook status....I would like to dislike his face in response but that's not possible.
Suggestion to facebook maybe?

LOL with a message...play on playa

Lol. The fitted trousers might work. Why are you singlee—? You're very charming. You just need to put yourself out there.

Lol don't do the ex thing. Freshen it up. It's spring after all

Lol @ KFC.

I don't think I've ever taken a guy on a date. I did buy movie tickets one time. It was awkward as fuck. I beat him to it. 🙂

But you're right. It's really not fair that it's all up to men

You're doing the right thing, let him know you are interested and you would go out with him if he asked and then leave it up to him...

The one thing that I get is that a player would be full speed ahead...this guy seems to have some reservations so maybe a bit of confirmation on your behalf...so he knows you are approachable 🙂

Oh I flirt back... like it's my job. Plus I was the one who initiated meeting up. He's stupid. :/

It all comes down to he isn't into me the same way I'm into him. What-EV-errr
He doesn't see and feel what I do. So typical really.

lol @ bling trying to figure out how to get a woman to take him on a date!!

i think you're fighting a losing battle, tbh. i have yet to take my bf on a date, although he's taken me on several. you've given me a really great idea though, because i know he would appreciate it, so thanks!

i'm a fan of the direct approach so i'd probably just go up to the object of my attraction and say, "so when are you going to take me on a date?" assuming there is a reasonable chance of success, or at least a "that wasn't creepy and i think you're cute" laugh.

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Posted by brianafay
Lol @ KFC.

I don't think I've ever taken a guy on a date. I did buy movie tickets one time. It was awkward as fuck. I beat him to it. 🙂

Do it !!
Liberate yourself 🙂
Plus you can kinda tell the dude after a meal or whatever "So, what am I getting in return for this?" or some shit, see where the evening leads ? 🙂

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hahaha I'm gonna so use that 😄

Wheels! 🙂

You're all booed up now so you're too good for DXP anymore, huh? 😛

Chiming in really late here. You said he's a LEO. Ugh. That's why you aren't getting what you want in return. Leo's want you to chase and fawn and put them on a pedastal and talk about how great you think they are ad nauseum. You'll NEVER get the same in return. Of course, I'm a little biased and perhaps not all leos are like this—

Posted by MsPisces.
Wheels! 🙂

You're all booed up now so you're too good for DXP anymore, huh? 😛

hey ms.p 🙂 no, not at all! lots on my plate at the mo. just finished finals last wk, now i have a week mini-vacation before doing a summer internship/classes. then the bf thrown in (he does seem to demand some of my time 😛) and i barely have time to check.

but rest assured, dxp is never far from my heart 😄

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i'm a fan of the direct approach so i'd probably just go up to the object of my attraction and say, "so when are you going to take me on a date?" assuming there is a reasonable chance of success, or at least a "that wasn't creepy and i think you're cute" laugh.

I can be pretty direct too. I start out all coy and cute. But at some point I'm like K. Let's stop fucking around and dragging this out... "you're sexy, let's do this." 🙂

Which is why when he asked "so when are we hanging out" I thought he was being direct and that was his way of asking me to hang out. But apparently not...so WHY then? WTF. FTW.

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briana where did you find this guy?

Haha! I met him through a friend. Did you not read my other thread? (don't know why I even asked that...lol)
He chased me hard from the beginning & at first I wasn't really having it. I thought he was pretty cute, very entertaining...but I wasn't looking for all that nonsense at the time.
He was so persistent though, after a while I decided to give him a chance. He's quite lovable so I started to like him. We ended up having a little mini love affair, hooked up, whatevaaa. We were never serious or exclusive. We both just kind of had fun together.
I heard he liked this other girl and his friends were kind of pimping him out to her. Soooo I stopped talking to him.
I was talking to my Libra again anyways and I saw that it wasn't going anywhere for SEVERAL reasons. He ended up dating that girl.

We didn't talk for a longgggg time. Until he added me on FB...lol duh.

& he's not a dick at all...he's actually REALLY nice. I've never seen him be rude to anyone.
But that makes it even more annoying actually...I have no reason not to like him. :/

Haha Tasha

but I don't want to play anymore 😢
I saw he was on FB the other day so I messaged him all childish (like himself) and called him a "lamo." Lol, I'm so ashamed of myself.
The btch tried to spell-check me and was like "are you lmao-ing? or trying to call me lame...because it's lameo in that case."
I told him it wasn't even a word, he can't tell me how to spell it... but I really didn't like his e-tone honestly. I felt all this attitude coming from him?

B-Fay: im sorry to hear about you and the libra 😢 did it happen during some kind of cosmic event like an eclipse so we can blame it on that 😄


when is the last time you actually saw this leo in person or actually heard his voice? over the years i've communicated/texted/facebooked a number of guys i've known over the years or met from college and they would seem into me but it always died out because communication was so informal and superficial. i think for fire signs like us, actually seeing and flirting and touching and being around another person is such a big part of attraction because conversation via facebook and text messages are too easy and they don't stick out as anything important to us. we're fire and we're intense and we want to be direct and make spicy comments to see the reaction that we're gonna get out of the other person. we hate obsessing and waiting and slow communication that isn't responded too RIGHT NOW! that puts us at the mercy of somebody elses time lol and thats torture for a fire sign.


to be honest, i don't think the leo is reading too much into what's been going with you 2 and i highly doubt that anything will progress unless you physically see each other. im like you and i wouldnt want to be the initiator of the first meet up for fear or looking overly eager. i guess all you can really do is hope really hard that the universe will randomly bring you 2 together, or you're just gonna have to throw a really bitchen birthday party for a gemini or cancer friend this month and invite him 😉

Lol! That's not what I meant Ian

If we just met, had crazyhot fire sex, and then went our separate ways there would be nothing left to say. But that's not what went down.
Maybe unfortunately? :/ Hahaha

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B-Fay: im sorry to hear about you and the libra 😢 did it happen during some kind of cosmic event like an eclipse so we can blame it on that 😄


when is the last time you actually saw this leo in person or actually heard his voice? over the years i've communicated/texted/facebooked a number of guys i've known over the years or met from college and they would seem into me but it always died out because communication was so informal and superficial. i think for fire signs like us, actually seeing and flirting and touching and being around another person is such a big part of attraction because conversation via facebook and text messages are too easy and they don't stick out as anything important to us. we're fire and we're intense and we want to be direct and make spicy comments to see the reaction that we're gonna get out of the other person. we hate obsessing and waiting and slow communication that isn't responded too RIGHT NOW! that puts us at the mercy of somebody elses time lol and thats torture for a fire sign.


to be honest, i don't think the leo is reading too much into what's been going with you 2 and i highly doubt that anything will progress unless you physically see each other. im like you and i wouldnt want to be the initiator of the first meet up for fear or looking overly eager. i guess all you can really do is hope really hard that the universe will randomly bring you 2 together, or you're just gonna have to throw a really bitchen birthday party for a gemini or cancer friend this month and invite him 😉

Me & the Libra just have a lot of history & it's hard to completely let go, even when we both know it's just not working.

Honestly though, this situation really makes me think more and more I should be with the Libra. I've never liked anyone the way I like him. & it's really easy for us to be together. Not all complicated and confusing.
This leo is the only other person I've come close to liking like that...except it's very confusing, and probably not worth it at all.

But you're right about the physical presence...and he doesn't seem too interested in meeting up either. I'll see him in August, we already signed up for the same spanish class. We'll see then I guess.

Good for him, probably not so much for me 😛

Lol if only it were that uncomplicated

*bump*

The class we're taking together started this week.

First time I saw him in almost a year... *butterflies* it was disgusting, I wanted to puke.




We finish each others sentences...and it's not a silly coincidence. It's been really random stuff...like no one else even says these things except for us. At the same time, apparently.


Is there a such thing as too compatible—
😢 *wimpers* why me

*nods* :/

How embarrassing. I was like fanning myself...cause I was straight overheating. Lol

He's like are you hot?
>.

If it was anyone but him I would have been slick enough to respond
Idk, am I? 😉

But I lose my mind around him...a lot of mumbling on my part I'm afraid.

I should drop the class.

Yeah right. 😢

I doubt he sees it. He's a Leo...& especiall goofy.

especially*

There's this cute mixed latin girl in the class (the moment I spotted her, I knew he'd think she was cute...)

She was sitting in front of us last night & we had do some group activity, so she turned around and asked to be in our group.

Everyone responded immediately...like 5 seconds delayed I'm like "oh sure." :/ Haha.
I could tell he liked her. He was all nervous like when he first met me.



Complete bullshit.

*sigh*

Thanks. 🙂

I just wish I could stop obsessing. I never obsess. This is disgusting.

Lol no. I don't "fancy" many guys in general. I'm stupidly selective...probably one of my numerous problems.

Posted by brianafay
He initiates. He flirts. He admits he likes you. Friends know he likes you. But he doesn't really act like he likes you. :/

He asks "when are we hanging out?" but never pursues further...
Turns out you'll be in the same place one night, so you suggest the two of you meet up. He agrees and tells you to text him. You do. He never meets up. You shrug it off. But he texts you after the fact to see what's up... ?

He continues to initiate and flirt. You're stand-offish. He doesn't seem to notice/care.


Consensus: He likes you. But that's all. He really isn't that into you.




Just some thoughts 🙂
If only I could see inside a dudes head...even for just a day. Wannabe players? What's the deal??
I thought I was a complex being.

I have so been there. I feel your pain.

Hay pie go easy on us rift raft

I didn't really talk to him over the summer. I was really trying to ignore him.
He messaged/texted me a few times but I didn't initiate any contact. I was pretty proud of myself.

He did text me and tell me he was excited to see me once...inside I was like "OH MY GOD SO AM I" like a fucking school girl... *shakes head* Lol. But I got a hold of myself and played it off and just sent him a 🙂 instead.



Now I see him twice a week in class. & I'm starting to get all stupid again.
The first day I sat by him...but the second day I walked in and saw him sitting there with an empty seat next to him and decided nah, and purposely sat on the other side of the room.... He was trying to get my attention, so I was pretending I was texting. Haha I felt like such a child. :/

But he ended up getting up and coming to sit by me anyways. 😄 so, I win. LOL

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Posted by brianafay
Thanks. 🙂

I just wish I could stop obsessing. I never obsess. This is disgusting.

I, too, am obsessing.
I, too, feel disgusting.

😢

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aw. Where do you live? We should meet up and drink our sorrows away and throw darts at their pictures! 😛

Lol 😄

He was like psst! and coughing my name.....
I just kept pretend-texting, never looked up until he sat next down next to me.


Hahahaha what a high school move.