Which Single Girl Are You?

The Soul-Mate Seeker: Someone who is doing everything she can to find The One.

The Phoenix: A woman who recently had a painful breakup and is doing everything she can to rise from the ashes in better shape.

The Organic: She prefers to leave things up to destiny and live her own life rather than hunting for men in any methodical or calculated way.

The Princess-in-Waiting: She is waiting to be rescued by a prince (who sure is taking his royal time).

The Late Bloomer: The rest of her life is on hold while she waits for her future husband to appear.

The Free Spirit: She worries that she can only have one or the other - her independence or a committed relationship. (And she thinks the former is better.)

The Wedding Wisher: She suddenly finds herself fantasizing about marriage after a lifetime of not caring about it.

The Town Rebel: She no longer aspires to live the cookie-cutter life style of everyone else in her community, though she once used to.

The Ritual Re-inventor: A woman who wants to get hitched but also feels very strongly about having an unconventional marriage (right down to the wedding ceremony).

The Someday-Mom: She would like to have babies someday, but wishes she didn't feel so much biological pressure to figure it out fast.

The Slow & Steady: A woman who hopes to marry when the time is right. Meanwhile, she does her best not to cave to the massive pressure she feels from friends, family, and society.

The Trailblazer: A woman who knows married life is not for her, so she's trying to break a new kind of path to happiness.

I was the Organic single girl. Never really cared. Went with the flow. I let life come to me.

I'm still the Organic committed girl too, haha.

a mixture of the Phoenix, and the Town Rebel, have never been any of the others.

I am "The Organic." On another note I can't believe how much the "Free Spirit" applies to my mom.

I see myself as The Organic.....it dosen't mean that I don't care though. I just don't seek out relationships, I like to let things happen naturally. 🙂

Posted by capgirl75
I think both of these apply to me.
The Free Spirit: She worries that she can only have one or the other - her independence or a committed relationship. (And she thinks the former is better.)
The Slow & Steady: A woman who hopes to marry when the time is right. Meanwhile, she does her best not to cave to the massive pressure she feels from friends, family, and society.

i feel the same way. i picked those 2 as well.

Mix:

The Phoenix: We'll use "recent" loosely as it relates to "a painful breakup", The Organic, The Slow & Steady and The Ritual Re-inventor

Toss up between the free spirit and the trailblazer

The Organic

Posted by DMV


The Free Spirit: She worries that she can only have one or the other - her independence or a committed relationship. (And she thinks the former is better.)
. . .

The Trailblazer: A woman who knows married life is not for her, so she's trying to break a new kind of path to happiness.

I was once married, eleven enjoyable years, then he departed this earth.
Before my marriage, that was what I wanted, to be married.

Now, I can identify myself as the "free spirit", liking my independence,
with an undercurrent of "trailblazer" wanna-be.

It may have to do with getting older, more than anything else.
Been there, done that. Getting set in our likes, dislikes, habits.

I'm a mixture of the Phoenix, the Town Rebel and the Soul-Mate Seeker (only because I want the whole package next time around and that includes a soul mate). 🙂

the organic/free spirit

Couple of these contradict each other but they all seem to fit me in some way.

The Phoenix: A woman who recently had a painful breakup and is doing everything she can to rise from the ashes in better shape.

The Princess-in-Waiting: She is waiting to be rescued by a prince (who sure is taking his royal time).

The Free Spirit: She worries that she can only have one or the other - her independence or a committed relationship. (And she thinks the former is better.)

The Wedding Wisher: She suddenly finds herself fantasizing about marriage after a lifetime of not caring about it.

Right now im The Phoenix: A woman who recently had a painful breakup and is doing everything she can to rise from the ashes in better shape.

I miss being the organic girl
The Organic: She prefers to leave things up to destiny and live her own life rather than hunting for men in any methodical or calculated way.

I am an Organic Wedding Wisher. Does that sound like an oxymoron? It's not.

When I was younger I was a Freespirit and a Soul-Mate Seeker at the same time. That meant I spent my youth dating as many men as possible then running violently away from them. Then I was in a committed relationship which had some serious dysfunction, and was a Soul-Mate Seeker who thought I had found my soul mate but then had to be a Phoenix and rise from the ashes.

I did some more pathetic Freespirit and Soul-Mate Seeking clusterfuck when I started to heal from that relationship, being a little too focused on "replacing" him, all the while being terrified it would happen again...so um yeah.

Now I know I am ready to settle down. I really am. Which means Wedding Wisher after lifetime of being a Freespirit. But no longer a Soul Mate Seeker, I want it to happen Organically...I am not going to assertively seek a relationship with anyone, because that shit does not work, it just leads to a string of energy wasting relationships or crushes.

Ironically I was aggressively seeking romance while being terrified first of being tied down, and then when older terrified of being in a dysfunctional relationship again.

Now that I know I am ready to settle down, I'd rather it happen organically. That's the only way it's going to happen "right" without me wasting time and emotional energy on guys who are wrong for me. I have to focus on me and my life, and since deep down I am ready for it, it will happen eventually.