Asking for some advice

Posted by EnjoyLife

Posted by EnjoyLife
Hi:

I am new here so hello. I have been friends with a Sagittarius lady for about 5 years. So I am looking for advice more so from the female side of the road. I really could not begin to explain how much fun it has been. This person enjoys helping people out, is intelligent, cares, has a lot of old-fashion values, will remember things that I say only once but will recall them back to me (a memory like a sponge as I tell her), she is a nut and I can listen to her talk for hours and we do that too. Most of the time, I am more like the listener but I give my opinion when I feel like she is asking. She really does not come right out but you need to get a sense that she is asking. She feels inferior at times with some people. She needs to feel that people are listening to her or wanted and if not she rebels in her own way. She calls when this occurs and I just listen and offer my ear. My way is just to be honest and stress the positive that she has and she does have a lot. But I just listen. This person is terrific. She just sometimes lacks a little confidence in herself. She is a little impatience too - wants things done now and quick.

Now, here is the problem. Recently in a conversation, she stated that she was going somewhere. I had asked where and she said I am going to do something this WE and that was it. I was curious about it (asked a few times) but she said I am not telling where I going for the WE and stated enough about it - though she brought it up first. I will let you know but don't ask anymore !!! It was just the way she talks sometimes that she makes me feel weird. I mean in 5 years, this occurred about 5 times. After each time, I feel I did something or said something but what I don't know so I ask she says I worry too much, nothing is wrong. However, this time she wrote back and said quit worrying, I am fine !!!!! - So I am asking a Sagittarius lady what is going on?

Now, I am going to give more details and please no prejudices. My friend is married, I am single. She has been married for over 2 years. This has been nothing more than a great friendship and that is all it is. She probably calls me 7 times/week and talks about everything, work, her marriage, family, friends etc. - thank you for any help

Well we sagis are rarely secretive, but for me I usually don't tell someone I'm gonna do something when I'm really serious about it. I feel like if I talk about it I will risk not putting it into action, so I just do it.
I also do things secretly when I want to do something special for someone. I wouldn't pry because she's probably trying really hard not to give away what shes up to. It's hard for us to keep secrets hehe

thank you happykitsune - I appreciate your response. Our friendship is a blast - but with everything in life it has it's issues as well. I just need to learn from it so it can get better. I will not pry - and need to remember that next time. I also will try to refrain from a followup email that I am concern. Maybe she doesn't want to feel that someone is worried about her.

You know when someone calls as often as she does and we can talk about a lot and laugh etc, it is really hard when there is a downer in the friendship. Especially when they don't occur too often.

Wish there were more saga's like my friend

Take care and EnjoyLife