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Can people fake being in love with someone for years on end?
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by bad_at_usernames
My best friend thinks that my boyfriend is faking being in love with me all because he and I don't talk on the phone too often, instead we text most of the time. She thinks I'm innocent and naïve and he could be faking it all this time not truly being in love with me and just using me.
I posted all about the problems we had a few months ago. I gave him the space I thought he needed and slowly but steadily things have gotten back to normal between us. He reaches out to me himself, he talks lovingly with me, he has been planning to come see me soon since we last met in March right before corona hit, he apologizes when I get mad. All he doesn't do is talk on the phone with me too often. Does this mean he doesn't love me and is using me? We've almost been together 3 yrs. Could he be using me all this time? Should I listen to my friend or my heart that tells me his love is true?
Does your friend see the resin for him to fake it? Is he living off of your financial support?
We text until sometimes I want to talk about shit that too long to text.
Ok. What would be his profit from faking?click to expand
I do help him when he's short on money
Posted by bad_at_usernames
My best friend thinks that my boyfriend is faking being in love with me all because he and I don't talk on the phone too often, instead we text most of the time. She thinks I'm innocent and naïve and he could be faking it all this time not truly being in love with me and just using me.
I posted all about the problems we had a few months ago. I gave him the space I thought he needed and slowly but steadily things have gotten back to normal between us. He reaches out to me himself, he talks lovingly with me, he has been planning to come see me soon since we last met in March right before corona hit, he apologizes when I get mad. All he doesn't do is talk on the phone with me too often. Does this mean he doesn't love me and is using me? We've almost been together 3 yrs. Could he be using me all this time? Should I listen to my friend or my heart that tells me his love is true?
Yes!
My husband did it for 13 YEARS!
He's an Oscar Winning actor in that department!
Having said that though, he called and texted and spent loads of time with me, when we met 17yrs ago.
Since divorce, I've realised that he faked everything he is, just to hold on to me. I always knew there was something missing in my marriage but ignored it because of all the good things.
Its taken divorce to realise he was pretending to be everything he is Not!
Maybe your boyfriend doesn't like talking in the phone!
Have you asked him why he doesn't call?
I haven't read your other posts sadly so i dont know the issues.
Posted by BlueStarPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by bad_at_usernames
My best friend thinks that my boyfriend is faking being in love with me all because he and I don't talk on the phone too often, instead we text most of the time. She thinks I'm innocent and naïve and he could be faking it all this time not truly being in love with me and just using me.
I posted all about the problems we had a few months ago. I gave him the space I thought he needed and slowly but steadily things have gotten back to normal between us. He reaches out to me himself, he talks lovingly with me, he has been planning to come see me soon since we last met in March right before corona hit, he apologizes when I get mad. All he doesn't do is talk on the phone with me too often. Does this mean he doesn't love me and is using me? We've almost been together 3 yrs. Could he be using me all this time? Should I listen to my friend or my heart that tells me his love is true?
Does your friend see the resin for him to fake it? Is he living off of your financial support?
We text until sometimes I want to talk about shit that too long to text.
Ok. What would be his profit from faking?
Is that why you stayed with the Capricorn for so long? Had to wait until you had some other source of financial support before you could leave him?click to expand
It's the same guy. And I help him
Posted by pooface222Posted by bad_at_usernames
My best friend thinks that my boyfriend is faking being in love with me all because he and I don't talk on the phone too often, instead we text most of the time. She thinks I'm innocent and naïve and he could be faking it all this time not truly being in love with me and just using me.
I posted all about the problems we had a few months ago. I gave him the space I thought he needed and slowly but steadily things have gotten back to normal between us. He reaches out to me himself, he talks lovingly with me, he has been planning to come see me soon since we last met in March right before corona hit, he apologizes when I get mad. All he doesn't do is talk on the phone with me too often. Does this mean he doesn't love me and is using me? We've almost been together 3 yrs. Could he be using me all this time? Should I listen to my friend or my heart that tells me his love is true?
Yes!
My husband did it for 13 YEARS!
He's an Oscar Winning actor in that department!
Having said that though, he called and texted and spent loads of time with me, when we met 17yrs ago.
Since divorce, I've realised that he faked everything he is, just to hold on to me. I always knew there was something missing in my marriage but ignored it because of all the good things.
Its taken divorce to realise he was pretending to be everything he is Not!
Maybe your boyfriend doesn't like talking in the phone!
Have you asked him why he doesn't call?
I haven't read your other posts sadly so i dont know the issues.click to expand
He's always too busy to talk on the phone. On text, not so much. I got too angry a few minutes ago and sent him many texts saying how this makes no sense on his part to not talk to me on call. He said he'll talk later??!!
Posted by BlueStarPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by BlueStarPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by bad_at_usernames
My best friend thinks that my boyfriend is faking being in love with me all because he and I don't talk on the phone too often, instead we text most of the time. She thinks I'm innocent and naïve and he could be faking it all this time not truly being in love with me and just using me.
I posted all about the problems we had a few months ago. I gave him the space I thought he needed and slowly but steadily things have gotten back to normal between us. He reaches out to me himself, he talks lovingly with me, he has been planning to come see me soon since we last met in March right before corona hit, he apologizes when I get mad. All he doesn't do is talk on the phone with me too often. Does this mean he doesn't love me and is using me? We've almost been together 3 yrs. Could he be using me all this time? Should I listen to my friend or my heart that tells me his love is true?
Does your friend see the resin for him to fake it? Is he living off of your financial support?
We text until sometimes I want to talk about shit that too long to text.
Ok. What would be his profit from faking?
Is that why you stayed with the Capricorn for so long? Had to wait until you had some other source of financial support before you could leave him?
It's the same guy. And I help him
I was asking Gemi about her situation.
And this is the Cap dominate Sag right? Or am I getting mixed up.click to expand
Yes he is.
Posted by BlueStar
Yes people can fake shit for 30+ years.
Have you had any doubts prior to your friend brining this up? Or did they start once your friend spoke up?
It’s not that hard for some people who are calculating and narcissistic. They prioritize their own needs and as long as those are getting met they’ll put out what they need to keep it going.
I'd convinced myself that's it's all good, probably doesn't mean anything but then my friend started saying things and he said to not call him at night. What's that supposed to mean. Got me all fired up and I lashed out at him.
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by bad_at_usernames
My best friend thinks that my boyfriend is faking being in love with me all because he and I don't talk on the phone too often, instead we text most of the time. She thinks I'm innocent and naïve and he could be faking it all this time not truly being in love with me and just using me.
I posted all about the problems we had a few months ago. I gave him the space I thought he needed and slowly but steadily things have gotten back to normal between us. He reaches out to me himself, he talks lovingly with me, he has been planning to come see me soon since we last met in March right before corona hit, he apologizes when I get mad. All he doesn't do is talk on the phone with me too often. Does this mean he doesn't love me and is using me? We've almost been together 3 yrs. Could he be using me all this time? Should I listen to my friend or my heart that tells me his love is true?
Does your friend see the resin for him to fake it? Is he living off of your financial support?
We text until sometimes I want to talk about shit that too long to text.
Ok. What would be his profit from faking?
I do help him when he's short on money
Now I am siding with your friend.
How often is these...shortages happening?
But! If you want to test - tell him you do t have no square to spare...and mean it!
It’ll tell you everything...click to expand
When he's travelling. He lives about 1000 miles away from both me and his family for work. So travelling expenditure is too much + he's only started working + covid stalled his increments.
Posted by BlueStar
Yes people can fake shit for 30+ years.
It’s not that hard for some people who are calculating and narcissistic. They prioritize their own needs and as long as those are getting met they’ll put out what they need to keep it going.
Have you had any doubts prior to your friend brining this up? Or did they start once your friend spoke up?
I'd convinced myself that's it's all good, probably doesn't mean anything but then my friend started saying things and he said to not call him at night. What's that supposed to mean. Got me all fired up and I lashed out at him.
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by bad_at_usernames
My best friend thinks that my boyfriend is faking being in love with me all because he and I don't talk on the phone too often, instead we text most of the time. She thinks I'm innocent and naïve and he could be faking it all this time not truly being in love with me and just using me.
I posted all about the problems we had a few months ago. I gave him the space I thought he needed and slowly but steadily things have gotten back to normal between us. He reaches out to me himself, he talks lovingly with me, he has been planning to come see me soon since we last met in March right before corona hit, he apologizes when I get mad. All he doesn't do is talk on the phone with me too often. Does this mean he doesn't love me and is using me? We've almost been together 3 yrs. Could he be using me all this time? Should I listen to my friend or my heart that tells me his love is true?
Does your friend see the resin for him to fake it? Is he living off of your financial support?
We text until sometimes I want to talk about shit that too long to text.
Ok. What would be his profit from faking?
I do help him when he's short on money
Now I am siding with your friend.
How often is these...shortages happening?
But! If you want to test - tell him you do t have no square to spare...and mean it!
It’ll tell you everything...
When he's travelling. He lives about 1000 miles away from both me and his family for work. So travelling expenditure is too much + he's only started working + covid stalled his increments.
It never happened before? Just while pandemic?
Nevermind texting vs calling. Your friend can kiss your ass...unless you kind of feeling that she might be right...DO YOU?
And if this conversation started - let’s keep finger on pulse and watch...click to expand
No it's happened before and about what I feel, idk really. As much as I want to believe that it's nothing, it just doesn't make sense to not talk to one's girlfriend on the phone.
You boyfriend is the sag?
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by BlueStarPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by BlueStarPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by bad_at_usernames
My best friend thinks that my boyfriend is faking being in love with me all because he and I don't talk on the phone too often, instead we text most of the time. She thinks I'm innocent and naïve and he could be faking it all this time not truly being in love with me and just using me.
I posted all about the problems we had a few months ago. I gave him the space I thought he needed and slowly but steadily things have gotten back to normal between us. He reaches out to me himself, he talks lovingly with me, he has been planning to come see me soon since we last met in March right before corona hit, he apologizes when I get mad. All he doesn't do is talk on the phone with me too often. Does this mean he doesn't love me and is using me? We've almost been together 3 yrs. Could he be using me all this time? Should I listen to my friend or my heart that tells me his love is true?
Does your friend see the resin for him to fake it? Is he living off of your financial support?
We text until sometimes I want to talk about shit that too long to text.
Ok. What would be his profit from faking?
Is that why you stayed with the Capricorn for so long? Had to wait until you had some other source of financial support before you could leave him?
It's the same guy. And I help him
I was asking Gemi about her situation.
And this is the Cap dominate Sag right? Or am I getting mixed up.
If you asking me...there my exes chart but I don’t see what you getting out of it...
Sun Capricorn 3° 48' in house 10
Moon Taurus 24° 44' in house 2
Mercury Capricorn 16° 3' in house 11
Venus Aquarius 2° 35' in house 11
Mars Scorpio 17° 45' in house 8
Jupiter Virgo 1° 23' in house 6
Saturn Scorpio 28° 18' in house 8
Uranus Leo 1° 22' in house 5
Neptune Scorpio 0° 2' in house 7
Pluto Leo 28° 27' in house 6
North Node mean Saggitarius 16° 23' in house 9
North Node true Saggitarius 17° 18' in house 9click to expand
Nice chart there..
Yeah, people can fake anything for any amount of time
Posted by SagInTheSun898
You boyfriend is the sag?
Yes
i think the problem starts when you replace your friend's judgement in place of your own.
no one can truly know what a relationship is like except the two people involved.
he says he loves you. you feel loved. all other opinions are moot. tell your friend to keep her opinions to herself.
no one can truly know what a relationship is like except the two people involved.
he says he loves you. you feel loved. all other opinions are moot. tell your friend to keep her opinions to herself.
Posted by jeane
i think the problem starts when you replace your friend's judgement in place of your own.
no one can truly know what a relationship is like except the two people involved.
he says he loves you. you feel loved. all other opinions are moot. tell your friend to keep her opinions to herself.
Him not calling does bother me but I always let it slide. My friend saying things made me speak up about it.
Posted by Pulsy
Yes I faked loved
When I got married I knew there was something better but he got all the check boxes m I thought he loved me. Months after marriage my soul died n was depressed when I should have been happy. But now I’m it I had to finish it through so I fake loved
I think many marriages are sustained like that becoming bussiness transactions . I thought often is this love. No it wasn’t
You said your soul died months later. We've been together for almost 3 yrs. Is it possible to fake for that long. You also said you didn't feel the love but I do. Thank God I do. Should I keep trusting him then?
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by jeane
i think the problem starts when you replace your friend's judgement in place of your own.
no one can truly know what a relationship is like except the two people involved.
he says he loves you. you feel loved. all other opinions are moot. tell your friend to keep her opinions to herself.
Him not calling does bother me but I always let it slide. My friend saying things made me speak up about it.
Is your friend in rship? If yes how happy?click to expand
She is in a relationship but sometime last Nov - Dec her boyfriend kind of cheated on her (she doesn't know what exactly happened between her bf and that other girl that night but he admitted to spending the night with her) and another similar thing happened in Feb of this year. I don't know it's details however. So she is paranoid of everyone. I never said this to her but it was her fueling that led me to accusing my boyfriend of cheating on me in March this year. It took us months to get back on track. But thank God we did. I don't know if I should've listened to her today either but I feel like all this anger of him not calling me and acting weird about it was building up inside of me and was bound to come out one day.
Everyone has an opinion. Listen to your gut. I don’t know what you mean by faking love. Saying you love someone can just be words, acting like you do .. that’s a bit more telling. Thing is everyone has a different way to love aka love languages. That’s why you need to go with your gut. But giving him money is concerning in my view. Enabling..
Posted by PuzzlePieces
Everyone has an opinion. Listen to your gut. I don’t know what you mean by faking love. Saying you love someone can just be words, acting like you do .. that’s a bit more telling. Thing is everyone has a different way to love aka love languages. That’s why you need to go with your gut. But giving him money is s it concerning in my view. Enabling..
What do you mean by enabling? Sry I don't understand some slangs or you know whatever that is.
Posted by PulsyPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by Pulsy
Yes I faked loved
When I got married I knew there was something better but he got all the check boxes m I thought he loved me. Months after marriage my soul died n was depressed when I should have been happy. But now I’m it I had to finish it through so I fake loved
I think many marriages are sustained like that becoming bussiness transactions . I thought often is this love. No it wasn’t
You said your soul died months later. We've been together for almost 3 yrs. Is it possible to fake for that long. You also said you didn't feel the love but I do. Thank God I do. Should I keep trusting him then?
8 years I faked n never would have broken up. U married till death do us part, I realized to late. I felt his love not sure how he felt about mine. I was kind loyal so who knows on his end. The question is don’t lie to yourself if you are not happy with the situation don’t make excuses if you are happy no issue. One can never truly know
I think my ex used me as well financially so we used each other married thinking this is what u do . Because who is over heels in love in adults hood right ? That is the lie I told myself
No I will never settle I should have butterflies n moved by love n every one deserves that kind of loveclick to expand
I totally get butterflies, he says he does too. I guess this is it then.
Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by PuzzlePieces
Everyone has an opinion. Listen to your gut. I don’t know what you mean by faking love. Saying you love someone can just be words, acting like you do .. that’s a bit more telling. Thing is everyone has a different way to love aka love languages. That’s why you need to go with your gut. But giving him money is s it concerning in my view. Enabling..
What do you mean by enabling? Sry I don't understand some slangs or you know whatever that is.click to expand
Giving him money, instead of him figuring it out himself. It enables him to depend on you. Then you put yourself in a position of being taken advantage of or having someone there because they need you not because they love you just for you. It’s not slang.
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by jeane
i think the problem starts when you replace your friend's judgement in place of your own.
no one can truly know what a relationship is like except the two people involved.
he says he loves you. you feel loved. all other opinions are moot. tell your friend to keep her opinions to herself.
Him not calling does bother me but I always let it slide. My friend saying things made me speak up about it.
Is your friend in rship? If yes how happy?
She is in a relationship but sometime last Nov - Dec her boyfriend kind of cheated on her (she doesn't know what exactly happened between her bf and that other girl that night but he admitted to spending the night with her) and another similar thing happened in Feb of this year. I don't know it's details however. So she is paranoid of everyone. I never said this to her but it was her fueling that led me to accusing my boyfriend of cheating on me in March this year. It took us months to get back on track. But thank God we did. I don't know if I should've listened to her today either but I feel like all this anger of him not calling me and acting weird about it was building up inside of me and was bound to come out one day.
For the close friend who tells you how to end your rship she doesn’t tell you much about her shit does she?
What you need to do hon is starting to tell her more positive stories about your bf and maybe cut ‘dating’ time with her to minimum like...my bf and I took your advice and we having phone sex tonight...7pm to 7am tomorrow...yeah...it’s been a while and he is SO horny! Lmao
She isn’t completely healthy for you.click to expand
I guess I know she isn't healthy for me. And you're right she never tells me too much, I never thought of this until now. She caught her bf cheating or almost cheating, dk what it was, she's still with him and she goes on to hype me up to stand up to my boyfriend and fills my head with shit. You know I feel like what I said to my boyfriend today was bound to come out one day. Hope we get back to normal asap🙏🤞🙏🤞 so may b today wasn't my friend's fault but I'm gonna have to stop letting her get to my head. I don't why all the 'best' friends I've had always try to bring me down while I always say the best about their boyfriends. I promised myself not to take her advice ever again, today also I told her stuff thinking no way she can say too much negative stuff with this but she somehow did and I lashed out on my boyfriend. Bt that was also his fault. I wouldn't have said anything if he didn't specifically ask to not call him at night. What is that supposed to mean? He said that disturbs his sleep but seriously he's gonna forbid me from calling him at night??!!
if he does it for years and you don't see the difference, then what's the problem?
Posted by tiziani
Invalidating his feelings isn't a way to get him to call more.
Stand your your ground and for what you want. As long as the relationship is going somewhere you should both see middle ground on the phone calls.
But don't take the manipulative route by questioning someone's feelings or calling them fake. Even if they temporarily give in and start calling you more, they'll only feel resentful in the long run.
Hey no I never said I think he's fake. My friend said so, I ended up questioning though. I only told him its weird on his part, that it's hurtful since he knows I miss his voice and that he acts like he lives with his parents. Hope I didn't offend him too much🤞🙏🤞🙏
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by jeane
i think the problem starts when you replace your friend's judgement in place of your own.
no one can truly know what a relationship is like except the two people involved.
he says he loves you. you feel loved. all other opinions are moot. tell your friend to keep her opinions to herself.
Him not calling does bother me but I always let it slide. My friend saying things made me speak up about it.
Is your friend in rship? If yes how happy?
She is in a relationship but sometime last Nov - Dec her boyfriend kind of cheated on her (she doesn't know what exactly happened between her bf and that other girl that night but he admitted to spending the night with her) and another similar thing happened in Feb of this year. I don't know it's details however. So she is paranoid of everyone. I never said this to her but it was her fueling that led me to accusing my boyfriend of cheating on me in March this year. It took us months to get back on track. But thank God we did. I don't know if I should've listened to her today either but I feel like all this anger of him not calling me and acting weird about it was building up inside of me and was bound to come out one day.
For the close friend who tells you how to end your rship she doesn’t tell you much about her shit does she?
What you need to do hon is starting to tell her more positive stories about your bf and maybe cut ‘dating’ time with her to minimum like...my bf and I took your advice and we having phone sex tonight...7pm to 7am tomorrow...yeah...it’s been a while and he is SO horny! Lmao
She isn’t completely healthy for you.
I guess I know she isn't healthy for me. And you're right she never tells me too much, I never thought of this until now. She caught her bf cheating or almost cheating, dk what it was, she's still with him and she goes on to hype me up to stand up to my boyfriend and fills my head with shit. You know I feel like what I said to my boyfriend today was bound to come out one day. Hope we get back to normal asap🙏🤞🙏🤞 so may b today wasn't my friend's fault but I'm gonna have to stop letting her get to my head. I don't why all the 'best' friends I've had always try to bring me down while I always say the best about their boyfriends. I promised myself not to take her advice ever again, today also I told her stuff thinking no way she can say too much negative stuff with this but she somehow did and I lashed out on my boyfriend. Bt that was also his fault. I wouldn't have said anything if he didn't specifically ask to not call him at night. What is that supposed to mean? He said that disturbs his sleep but seriously he's gonna forbid me from calling him at night??!!
Ok. Made up some story and call him. Cry, tell him you fell and your leg hurt and you do t want to go to the hospital and you need him to virtually kiss the booboo and be girlish and after all you don’t do it ever so one time - see how is he going to react...
You can also tell him how great it would be if you came over to see him. Make sure he thinks you have it in your mind...let mtfker blood boil a bit...
I do understand so t call at night but I also understand he might be doing shit...find out!click to expand
Yeah I tried the going over to see him shit once. He said yes you can come over but there was no heart in it. He figured out I said it to test him coz we both know there's no way I can travel that far by myself especially during this time coz I'm at home and my parents are gonna ask things. He knows me too well to know when I'm trying to pull shit. About faking getting injured - how is him caring going to prove he isn't pulling shit behind my back. I know he does care about me that much atleast.
Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by jeane
i think the problem starts when you replace your friend's judgement in place of your own.
no one can truly know what a relationship is like except the two people involved.
he says he loves you. you feel loved. all other opinions are moot. tell your friend to keep her opinions to herself.
Him not calling does bother me but I always let it slide. My friend saying things made me speak up about it.click to expand
then take that as a lesson that communication is important. if something bothers you talk to your partner about it. don't talk to your friends. the relationship is between you and him, not you and him and your friends...and his friends...and your parents...and his parents....
Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by tiziani
Invalidating his feelings isn't a way to get him to call more.
Stand your your ground and for what you want. As long as the relationship is going somewhere you should both see middle ground on the phone calls.
But don't take the manipulative route by questioning someone's feelings or calling them fake. Even if they temporarily give in and start calling you more, they'll only feel resentful in the long run.
Hey no I never said I think he's fake. My friend said so, I ended up questioning though. I only told him its weird on his part, that it's hurtful since he knows I miss his voice and that he acts like he lives with his parents. Hope I didn't offend him too much🤞🙏🤞🙏click to expand
"weird" is subjective. what's weird to you might be completely normal to him. rather than communicate negatively, encourage him by speaking positively. "i miss hearing your voice. it makes me happy when we speak on the phone." is a much nicer way then saying it's weird and accusing him of acting like he lives with his parents. and then may be call him or see when he might be free to have a chat with you.
Posted by jeanePosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by tiziani
Invalidating his feelings isn't a way to get him to call more.
Stand your your ground and for what you want. As long as the relationship is going somewhere you should both see middle ground on the phone calls.
But don't take the manipulative route by questioning someone's feelings or calling them fake. Even if they temporarily give in and start calling you more, they'll only feel resentful in the long run.
Hey no I never said I think he's fake. My friend said so, I ended up questioning though. I only told him its weird on his part, that it's hurtful since he knows I miss his voice and that he acts like he lives with his parents. Hope I didn't offend him too much🤞🙏🤞🙏
"weird" is subjective. what's weird to you might be completely normal to him. rather than communicate negatively, encourage him by speaking positively. "i miss hearing your voice. it makes me happy when we speak on the phone." is a much nicer way then saying it's weird and accusing him of acting like he lives with his parents. and then may be call him or see when he might be free to have a chat with you.click to expand
I've said that to him so many times. Didn't work.
Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by jeanePosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by tiziani
Invalidating his feelings isn't a way to get him to call more.
Stand your your ground and for what you want. As long as the relationship is going somewhere you should both see middle ground on the phone calls.
But don't take the manipulative route by questioning someone's feelings or calling them fake. Even if they temporarily give in and start calling you more, they'll only feel resentful in the long run.
Hey no I never said I think he's fake. My friend said so, I ended up questioning though. I only told him its weird on his part, that it's hurtful since he knows I miss his voice and that he acts like he lives with his parents. Hope I didn't offend him too much🤞🙏🤞🙏
"weird" is subjective. what's weird to you might be completely normal to him. rather than communicate negatively, encourage him by speaking positively. "i miss hearing your voice. it makes me happy when we speak on the phone." is a much nicer way then saying it's weird and accusing him of acting like he lives with his parents. and then may be call him or see when he might be free to have a chat with you.
I've said that to him so many times. Didn't work.click to expand
did he tell you why he doesn't like talking on the phone?
Posted by jeanePosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by jeanePosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by tiziani
Invalidating his feelings isn't a way to get him to call more.
Stand your your ground and for what you want. As long as the relationship is going somewhere you should both see middle ground on the phone calls.
But don't take the manipulative route by questioning someone's feelings or calling them fake. Even if they temporarily give in and start calling you more, they'll only feel resentful in the long run.
Hey no I never said I think he's fake. My friend said so, I ended up questioning though. I only told him its weird on his part, that it's hurtful since he knows I miss his voice and that he acts like he lives with his parents. Hope I didn't offend him too much🤞🙏🤞🙏
"weird" is subjective. what's weird to you might be completely normal to him. rather than communicate negatively, encourage him by speaking positively. "i miss hearing your voice. it makes me happy when we speak on the phone." is a much nicer way then saying it's weird and accusing him of acting like he lives with his parents. and then may be call him or see when he might be free to have a chat with you.
I've said that to him so many times. Didn't work.
did he tell you why he doesn't like talking on the phone?click to expand
No. Always says he's working rn, will talk later.
Posted by bad_at_usernames
My best friend thinks that my boyfriend is faking being in love with me all because he and I don't talk on the phone too often, instead we text most of the time. She thinks I'm innocent and naïve and he could be faking it all this time not truly being in love with me and just using me.
I posted all about the problems we had a few months ago. I gave him the space I thought he needed and slowly but steadily things have gotten back to normal between us. He reaches out to me himself, he talks lovingly with me, he has been planning to come see me soon since we last met in March right before corona hit, he apologizes when I get mad. All he doesn't do is talk on the phone with me too often. Does this mean he doesn't love me and is using me? We've almost been together 3 yrs. Could he be using me all this time? Should I listen to my friend or my heart that tells me his love is true?
Learn to listen to neither your friends or your heart because both are biased. Listen to his actions. If you want to know the truth stop responding to his text until the day is ending or not at all. If he cares at all he will have to make up the difference in your lack of interest. That's a course of action where you're given the unspoken truth. All of us gravitate towards the nouns(people, places, and things) that we want in our lives. His behaviors to your lack of interest will tell you the whole truth. Stop responding to his texts and learn some truth.
Posted by jeane
i think the problem starts when you replace your friend's judgement in place of your own.
no one can truly know what a relationship is like except the two people involved.
he says he loves you. you feel loved. all other opinions are moot. tell your friend to keep her opinions to herself.
All of this 👆 right here.
Plus when you (OP) were going through rough patches I’m guessing you confided in this friend. The problem is your friend only knows about the bad the stuff you vented and sees your relationship through a negative lens. Your friend will always feel like this guy isn’t good enough for you since he only sees the picture you painted.
I don’t see anything wrong with your bf not wanting you to call him while he’s at work. Seems like solid reasoning to me.
Why don’t you ask him to find a time when he’s free from work to call you. If he really cares about you and loves you and isn’t (points at thread title) faking it, he will make an effort to meet your request but on his terms aka when he is free from his work responsibilities.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by jeane
i think the problem starts when you replace your friend's judgement in place of your own.
no one can truly know what a relationship is like except the two people involved.
he says he loves you. you feel loved. all other opinions are moot. tell your friend to keep her opinions to herself.
All of this 👆 right here.
Plus when you (OP) were going through rough patches I’m guessing you confided in this friend. The problem is your friend only knows about the bad the stuff you vented and sees your relationship through a negative lens. Your friend will always feel like this guy isn’t good enough for you since he only sees the picture you painted.
I don’t see anything wrong with your bf not wanting you to call him while he’s at work. Seems like solid reasoning to me.
Why don’t you ask him to find a time when he’s free from work to call you. If he really cares about you and loves you and isn’t (points at thread title) faking it, he will make an effort to meet your request but on his terms aka when he is free from his work responsibilities.click to expand
You know that is so true. You know I promised myself a million times to not discuss anything with this friend and to not let anything she says get to my head but turns out I always end up telling her things and she does get to my head too. Sometimes you just need to vent to someone and she's my closest friend right now. I'll have no one to discuss this with if not her but I also knows she isn't good for my relationship. Idk what to do about that.
Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by jeane
i think the problem starts when you replace your friend's judgement in place of your own.
no one can truly know what a relationship is like except the two people involved.
he says he loves you. you feel loved. all other opinions are moot. tell your friend to keep her opinions to herself.
All of this 👆 right here.
Plus when you (OP) were going through rough patches I’m guessing you confided in this friend. The problem is your friend only knows about the bad the stuff you vented and sees your relationship through a negative lens. Your friend will always feel like this guy isn’t good enough for you since he only sees the picture you painted.
I don’t see anything wrong with your bf not wanting you to call him while he’s at work. Seems like solid reasoning to me.
Why don’t you ask him to find a time when he’s free from work to call you. If he really cares about you and loves you and isn’t (points at thread title) faking it, he will make an effort to meet your request but on his terms aka when he is free from his work responsibilities.
You know that is so true. You know I promised myself a million times to not discuss anything with this friend and to not let anything she says get to my head but turns out I always end up telling her things and she does get to my head too. Sometimes you just need to vent to someone and she's my closest friend right now. I'll have no one to discuss this with if not her but I also knows she isn't good for my relationship. Idk what to do about that.click to expand
You gotta be careful who you vent to tho. And better to communicate with your partner before you get to the point where you need to vent to avoid exploding inside.
It’s exhausting to have to defend your relationship to a friend. Just that alone could kill some of your love for the person. Not a fun time.
This woman faked it for 7 years. Ouch.
Imagine being named Gemini and you fall for someone literally two faced. RIP
Imagine being named Gemini and you fall for someone literally two faced. RIP
I don't think you could fake being in love I do think you can deceive a person who is not paying close attention to the signs. A sure way to find out is ease back if you financially support him or do more in the relationship than he does. People who use people start growing distant once you're no longer giving them what they want. Do you feel like he's using you? Does your gut try to tell you something is off frequently?
In a relationship there should be more calls than texts. Couples should make time for each other to talk. Thats how I see it.
I hate talking to someone when I can’t see their face. Even Zoom is awful....like talking to a cat trying to sniff a mouse....on the rare occasion they appear to look at me, they actually don’t see me at all, they just look into the camera!😝
Face-to-face conversations and elaborated emails for me.
Face-to-face conversations and elaborated emails for me.
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