Did I give him too much space?

Saggis love their space, freedom and do things on their own terms...I get that! But when I met this one I was so reluctant to get involved because, I don't trust anyone as I expect a lot. We both made it clear that we didn't want a relationship and I was ok with the idea of being friends and seeing how that went. He texted me everyday and we would talk for hours. In these convos I'd let him talk so I could get an idea of the person he was. He came over and was a complete gentleman, we went on a date and he was extremely touchy feely. The texts dwindled down to every other day, where he would apologize and I would say, no problem. I wouldn't nag or stress him out! Here's where it gets confusing, at the end of the said date I leaned in to hug him and he pulled me in to try and kiss me. I moved my head away and he pulled it back so that I had to. I left thinking ok, maybe he is interested in me...fast forward to a few days later, we talk and decide to watch a movie at my place. Not only does he not show, message me back or say anything at all. Me being the person I am, I took it as a form of disrespect and deleted his number. Why the hell did he act all touchy Feely, kiss me and send me cute texts if all along he wasn't interested? I'm more irritated than anything. Can someone please shed some light. Oh and I'm 30 and he is 22. I didn't know until the date of the age difference. ?

He got bored. Remember, he's 22. People in their 20s are used to texting incessantly now and moving relatively fast. On top of that Sagittarius, like any fire sign, wants to know "are you in or out?" when it comes to romance.

My guess would be that you are typically patient when pursuing a romantic relationship, hence why you were cool with taking the "friend" approach. For a Sag they'll agree to be friends to avoid getting pinned down and losing their freedom, but that doesn't mean they are looking to be "just friends".

This Sag is also 22 years old, so he's only going to be patient for so long. As a Sag he probably has other women circling around him. This is probably why his texts dwindled after your first date. When things didn't move along with you physically, he started entertaining other options. No big deal, it's not like you two were exclusive, you were just "friends" right?

Then on your second date you leaned him to hug him, he went for the kiss, you turned away, and he turned you back. He appreciated how refined you were in the beginning, but got tired of not making any notable progress. A woman turning her head away from a kiss is seen as lack of interest. So yes he did like you because he was trying to kiss you, but he thought maybe you felt differently. The same way you were confused, he probably was too.

Also remember he's 22 and possible has other women in their 20s who are being way more direct. Generally younger men will go for more mature women in the hopes that there will be less games. When you turned your head away it looked like you were playing hard to get. He got stubborn and went for the kiss anyway.

So he ghosted on you. He figured you were too much work. The sad thing is, I can totally understand why you took things slowly. I think that as we age and become more cautious, we lose our spontaneity when we date. We become more guarded and more jaded. If you like a guy, don't be so hard to read.

As a fellow fire sign (Leo) I know that in my 20s I had no patience for women who played hard to get either, especially if she was older than me. I'm far more patient and understanding now. I would not take the "friends" route either and would have asked a woman out on a clear date. If I were to go in for the kiss and she turned her head, I'd assume she either wasn't interested OR wasn't in the present moment and following some "rule" she set up in her mind.

I wouldn't worry about this guy though. From your pic, you look like you'd have no problem catching another guy's attention. You may want to shoot for someone who is a bit more emotionally mature though.

Posted by Chuckcem
He got bored. Remember, he's 22. People in their 20s are used to texting incessantly now and moving relatively fast. On top of that Sagittarius, like any fire sign, wants to know "are you in or out?" when it comes to romance.

My guess would be that you are typically patient when pursuing a romantic relationship, hence why you were cool with taking the "friend" approach. For a Sag they'll agree to be friends to avoid getting pinned down and losing their freedom, but that doesn't mean they are looking to be "just friends".

This Sag is also 22 years old, so he's only going to be patient for so long. As a Sag he probably has other women circling around him. This is probably why his texts dwindled after your first date. When things didn't move along with you physically, he started entertaining other options. No big deal, it's not like you two were exclusive, you were just "friends" right?

Then on your second date you leaned him to hug him, he went for the kiss, you turned away, and he turned you back. He appreciated how refined you were in the beginning, but got tired of not making any notable progress. A woman turning her head away from a kiss is seen as lack of interest. So yes he did like you because he was trying to kiss you, but he thought maybe you felt differently. The same way you were confused, he probably was too.

Also remember he's 22 and possible has other women in their 20s who are being way more direct. Generally younger men will go for more mature women in the hopes that there will be less games. When you turned your head away it looked like you were playing hard to get. He got stubborn and went for the kiss anyway.

So he ghosted on you. He figured you were too much work. The sad thing is, I can totally understand why you took things slowly. I think that as we age and become more cautious, we lose our spontaneity when we date. We become more guarded and more jaded. If you like a guy, don't be so hard to read.

As a fellow fire sign (Leo) I know that in my 20s I had no patience for women who played hard to get either, especially if she was older than me. I'm far more patient and understanding now. I would not take the "friends" route either and would have asked a woman out on a clear date. If I were to go in for the kiss and she turned her head, I'd assume she either wasn't interested OR wasn't in the present moment and following some "rule" she set up in her mind.

I wouldn't worry about this guy though. From your pic, you look like you'd have no problem catching another guy's attention. You may want to shoot for someone who is a bit more emotionally mature though.

Thanks for replying. I understand that he is only 22, which speaks volumes to his behavior, so I don't think that I'd entertain a relationship with him anyway. I just got out of a 7 year relationship and know what I want out of life and a partner. He would literally just be a fling, and that's not my cup of tea these days. I guess I'm just irritated because of my pride lol. On top of it I'm your typical Taurus and for him I briefly stepped outside of my comfort zone. He taught me that it's ok not to plan things down to the last detail and enjoy some spontaneity.

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Posted by Chuckcem
He got bored. Remember, he's 22. People in their 20s are used to texting incessantly now and moving relatively fast. On top of that Sagittarius, like any fire sign, wants to know "are you in or out?" when it comes to romance.

My guess would be that you are typically patient when pursuing a romantic relationship, hence why you were cool with taking the "friend" approach. For a Sag they'll agree to be friends to avoid getting pinned down and losing their freedom, but that doesn't mean they are looking to be "just friends".

This Sag is also 22 years old, so he's only going to be patient for so long. As a Sag he probably has other women circling around him. This is probably why his texts dwindled after your first date. When things didn't move along with you physically, he started entertaining other options. No big deal, it's not like you two were exclusive, you were just "friends" right?

Then on your second date you leaned him to hug him, he went for the kiss, you turned away, and he turned you back. He appreciated how refined you were in the beginning, but got tired of not making any notable progress. A woman turning her head away from a kiss is seen as lack of interest. So yes he did like you because he was trying to kiss you, but he thought maybe you felt differently. The same way you were confused, he probably was too.

Also remember he's 22 and possible has other women in their 20s who are being way more direct. Generally younger men will go for more mature women in the hopes that there will be less games. When you turned your head away it looked like you were playing hard to get. He got stubborn and went for the kiss anyway.

So he ghosted on you. He figured you were too much work. The sad thing is, I can totally understand why you took things slowly. I think that as we age and become more cautious, we lose our spontaneity when we date. We become more guarded and more jaded. If you like a guy, don't be so hard to read.

As a fellow fire sign (Leo) I know that in my 20s I had no patience for women who played hard to get either, especially if she was older than me. I'm far more patient and understanding now. I would not take the "friends" route either and would have asked a woman out on a clear date. If I were to go in for the kiss and she turned her head, I'd assume she either wasn't interested OR wasn't in the present moment and following some "rule" she set up in her mind.

I wouldn't worry about this guy though. From your pic, you look like you'd have no problem catching another guy's attention. You may want to shoot for someone who is a bit more emotionally mature though.

Thanks for replying. I understand that he is only 22, which speaks volumes to his behavior, so I don't think that I'd entertain a relationship with him anyway. I just got out of a 7 year relationship and know what I want out of life and a partner. He would literally just be a fling, and that's not my cup of tea these days. I guess I'm just irritated because of my pride lol. On top of it I'm your typical Taurus and for him I briefly stepped outside of my comfort zone. He taught me that it's ok not to plan things down to the last detail and enjoy some spontaneity.

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Don't let it get to you. It was only two dates right?

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This was a good story.

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This was a good story.

Right...Yeah I'm not gonna feed the trolls.