Do Sag guys not care after breakup?

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Its been almost a month since we broke up, and last week he sent me a text around midnight saying "hey you". I didn't answer that until the next evening saying "hey how are you", but have not heard back. We're still friends on FB and he's gone thru some training in Cali for 2 weeks & now is back in Mississippi...still couldn't he at least contact back? Being a girl I analyzed the text to mean that he was likely drunk when he sent that to me, but then again at least he thought about me...drunk or not. haha i'm a mess :/

Is it a Sag thing to just end things and not care at all, no matter the connection with someone? We dated almost 2 months and it was the strongest connection I've felt with someone. Just getting some feedback. I just don't see this sign being the type to rekindle any flames...
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Posted by simplysweet987
Its been almost a month since we broke up, and last week he sent me a text around midnight saying "hey you". I didn't answer that until the next evening saying "hey how are you", but have not heard back. We're still friends on FB and he's gone thru some training in Cali for 2 weeks & now is back in Mississippi...still couldn't he at least contact back? Being a girl I analyzed the text to mean that he was likely drunk when he sent that to me, but then again at least he thought about me...drunk or not. haha i'm a mess :/

Is it a Sag thing to just end things and not care at all, no matter the connection with someone? We dated almost 2 months and it was the strongest connection I've felt with someone. Just getting some feedback. I just don't see this sign being the type to rekindle any flames...



Hi Simplysweet-I am a Sag female and I am sorry to hear about your sadness. 😢 What sign are you btw?
I have left several exes in my wake. Pining, angry or confused that I even left in the first place. For me if I do not feel a strong "bond" or connection with you, I have no problem walking away. And I hate to say this too, but for me a two month thing is only sexual based, nothing more, nothing less. I am not saying that is your situation, I could be wrong. I hope this helps even if the last part sounds a wee bit harsh!
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a sag after a breakup is a hella different from the sag you had in the relationship. its not that he doesnt care, its just that he enjoying his new found freedom and will get back to you when he gets around 2 it. it sounds harsh as hell, but your no longer a priority that you once were. hes moved you into the friend zone.

i wouldnt wait around for him to call. hes not trying to be rude or mean. time and space mean nothing to a saggi, libras (some) and aquas alike. ive noticed with my aqua friends, just because i havent seen or talk to them in weeks, when we get together, its like nothing has changed. i dont get the "where you been, why havent you called me" shit.

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I'm a Libra!
the reason we broke up is cause he's going through navy jet school. he met me in my hometown in FL thru a dating site, then we decided to see how things would go once he moved to Mississippi (3 weeks later). And for the next few weeks they were fine! We visited each other and had a blast...Then he went to this really intense training and came back and said he didn't think a relationship was what he needed at this point in his life, needed to focus on school, and that he wouldn't be able to give me the time that I deserved. He said he didn't see it working long-term. He said he'd like to stay in touch, but he didn't want to lead me on or me wait on him.

I was a little upset cause he should've known the school would be hard, and a relationship shouldn't have been what he sought out, but he carried me along anyways.

Aside from all that, everything had been going great. For once, I did nothing that would have turned him from me...and I even asked if I had anything to do with his decision & he said no.

I'm trying not to over-think it, but it's still bothering me a tad. In my head, if he wants to talk to me, he will.
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Posted by simplysweet987
I'm a Libra!
the reason we broke up is cause he's going through navy jet school. he met me in my hometown in FL thru a dating site, then we decided to see how things would go once he moved to Mississippi (3 weeks later). And for the next few weeks they were fine! We visited each other and had a blast...Then he went to this really intense training and came back and said he didn't think a relationship was what he needed at this point in his life, needed to focus on school, and that he wouldn't be able to give me the time that I deserved. He said he didn't see it working long-term. He said he'd like to stay in touch, but he didn't want to lead me on or me wait on him.

I was a little upset cause he should've known the school would be hard, and a relationship shouldn't have been what he sought out, but he carried me along anyways.

Aside from all that, everything had been going great. For once, I did nothing that would have turned him from me...and I even asked if I had anything to do with his decision & he said no.

I'm trying not to over-think it, but it's still bothering me a tad. In my head, if he wants to talk to me, he will.



timing is a huge factor in if a relationship succeeds or not. i dont think you did anything wrong either. hes trying to save you more headache and grief. i think its kinda wrong to keep saying that theres still more he could have done. hes trying to do the admirable thing. alot of other saggis, including myself wouldnt give someone the respect that he gave you.
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Posted by Mebs
I agree with these ladies. 2 months isn't really that long. He was very gentlemanly telling you straight up how he felt. No games. That's a great thing. He also said he'd like to keep in touch, which he did. Just move on, and if you guys come back around to each other, so be it. But try not to think on it too much.



Mebs-I agree with you! Most other signs would not be as straight forward or tell you how it is-only a SAGGIE!
So do not fret and see what happens. You never know (SAGGIE trait as well!) 🙂
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Posted by simplysweet987

I was a little upset cause he should've known the school would be hard, and a relationship shouldn't have been what he sought out, but he carried me along anyways.

Aside from all that, everything had been going great. For once, I did nothing that would have turned him from me...and I even asked if I had anything to do with his decision & he said no.

I'm trying not to over-think it, but it's still bothering me a tad. In my head, if he wants to talk to me, he will.



This is not really a sign thing, most ppl in training do not realize how much of their time it will take until they are in the school. At least he did right by you once he figured out he was in over his head trying to develop more at this time in his life.

He may just not have the time; your prospective is not looking at it as him spending most of the day just doing school or refreshing on topics 24/7, it is looking at it as him having some down time he just doesn't. Accept friendship and move forward. Do not over think it, it is exactly what he stated most likely.