Ending a Relationship

When do you all get to the point where you want to end a reltionship? And Do you end the relationship or just go cold turkey on the person?

I am friends with Sagg #2 as I mention here before and I told him about Sagg#1 meanwhile Sagg#1 I wish he would just tell me let's just be friends or I wish he would break up with me in a sense cause it's not working, it seems like everything I say or do pisses him off and then he is mean and then I get mean and this process just continues. Last Tuesday he was off wrk and I txt him that night since I was at wrk all day and then I had class that night and I say Hey I guess you are not taking to me until May since I haven't heard from you today (inside joke between us and I was just joking) He got so upset and said I have been off all day you are just now texting me now I am about to go hang out I said well I was at wrk and school all day so go ahead you do what the fu_k you want to do anyway so it doesn't matter and he said well Fu_k you too I mean he was just so angry for no reason his schedule changes so I can't keep record of his off days. I went a week without talking to him and we just talk last night and I ask him Is this the end? he says you tell me? I told him I don't want it to be but I can't deal with his attitude and he says I make him have that attitude by what I say and do. Last night our phone conversation ending badly I know he got upset so I am thinking let's just call it one but I don't want to be the first to say it.

why dont you just break things off.

dont go cold turkey. face the music.

I want to but I don't want to regret it so I figure if he does then It will be easier cause then I know that it's not what he wants so he not going to work on the relationship. If that makes sense I can give up easier knowing the other person doesn't want the relationship.

The other thread is the right one, I accidentally posted twice but no I have nothing to hide...

Oh and to make things worse it a retrograde or what eva and the communication is not good right now.

forget the retrograde, you and sag#1 been having miscommunication long b4. dont be scared of being the bad guy. so your saying if he breaks up with you, you wont regret it?

i think your trying to cop out. if you dont want to be with him, dont do him any favors.

Posted by DMV
forget the retrograde, you and sag#1 been having miscommunication long b4. dont be scared of being the bad guy. so your saying if he breaks up with you, you wont regret it?

i think your trying to cop out. if you dont want to be with him, dont do him any favors.

I broke things off with him the first time and I regretted it so this time I would like it to be him, It might be a cop out but why can't he be like you DMV and just break things off or let me know how he really feels. I try to talk to him and let him know how I feel but when the convo gets serious he chicken out and away from the conversation. Maybe I should just end it so DMV how would you end things with him if it were you and apparently I think he is upset with me and I wouldn't want to txt him that and I don't think he wants to talk to me right now.

Posted by Starfish225
What would be the deciding factor here is if I am happy #1 and #2 how long has this been going on. #3 Can I do better..Those are all the things that would be in my head. If all we do is fight and tell each other to f*ck off what is the point. This is just me I have no patience for this kind of stuff I would have been told him kick rocks..Thats what I would have done. I need peace and to feel like the man that I am seeing wants to be with me. I start to see and feel otherwise and I am not waitng for him to do anything the door will be closed and I am not going to ever feel guilty about making a decision that eventually will lead me to some peace and allow someone new to come in.

Starfish I see your point of view this has been going on for a year back and forth, and why I have been still going on with my life doing my own thing the feelings I have for him are real and when he is sweet he can pull me back in. I am not happy in this relationship and yes I know I can do better so at this point I need to just break away and continue to date other people which I have been doing, I just need to tell him cause it's a waste of time to keep going back and forth and catching feelings when I could be done with this already........

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Posted by DMV
forget the retrograde, you and sag#1 been having miscommunication long b4. dont be scared of being the bad guy. so your saying if he breaks up with you, you wont regret it?

i think your trying to cop out. if you dont want to be with him, dont do him any favors.

I broke things off with him the first time and I regretted it so this time I would like it to be him, It might be a cop out but why can't he be like you DMV and just break things off or let me know how he really feels. I try to talk to him and let him know how I feel but when the convo gets serious he chicken out and away from the conversation. Maybe I should just end it so DMV how would you end things with him if it were you and apparently I think he is upset with me and I wouldn't want to txt him that and I don't think he wants to talk to me right now.

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saggis dont like to be the bad guy. basically how i ended things was he got on my nerves one day and i used it as an excuse to end things.

but thats no way to break up WITH a sag. just call him up and tell him that its not working for you. explain why and thats that.

I also have a moon in scorpio and i took my opportunity

That's me too, I don't like being the bad guy.... Last time I tried to break things off he said he was having family problems and I bring up this and I felt bad, but then again I feel bad when I go on like he doesn't exist anyway until he txts me or I happen to txt him.

Exactly if I wanna make it out alive 😄 he is always trying to threaten me, I am moving in June and I kinda want to wait till then to really break it off LBVS.............

Let me clarify he has never put his hands on me and he is probably just joking........... but yes he has made comments about doing things to my car, or pulling me out of this one club by my ear, and other little threats which are funny to me.

Oh yeah I work at a bank and funny enough he is going to ATL on the 22nd so he says and he is coming into my bank to get 200 in singles for the strip club....... So it might happen then if he steps foot in there.

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Posted by DMV
forget the retrograde, you and sag#1 been having miscommunication long b4. dont be scared of being the bad guy. so your saying if he breaks up with you, you wont regret it?

i think your trying to cop out. if you dont want to be with him, dont do him any favors.

I broke things off with him the first time and I regretted it so this time I would like it to be him, It might be a cop out but why can't he be like you DMV and just break things off or let me know how he really feels. I try to talk to him and let him know how I feel but when the convo gets serious he chicken out and away from the conversation. Maybe I should just end it so DMV how would you end things with him if it were you and apparently I think he is upset with me and I wouldn't want to txt him that and I don't think he wants to talk to me right now.

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I would just say to him "I'm not happy with our relationship as it is. Are you?"

That could be a good place to start since it doesn't appear either of you are ready to throw in the towel. There's a reason why neither of you wants to be the first to say goodbye. I know that sounds cliche, but you need to find the reasons for whats wrong and what's right then you can make more lasting decisions -- instead of make/up to break/up sagas.

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forget the retrograde, you and sag#1 been having miscommunication long b4. dont be scared of being the bad guy. so your saying if he breaks up with you, you wont regret it?

i think your trying to cop out. if you dont want to be with him, dont do him any favors.

I broke things off with him the first time and I regretted it so this time I would like it to be him, It might be a cop out but why can't he be like you DMV and just break things off or let me know how he really feels. I try to talk to him and let him know how I feel but when the convo gets serious he chicken out and away from the conversation. Maybe I should just end it so DMV how would you end things with him if it were you and apparently I think he is upset with me and I wouldn't want to txt him that and I don't think he wants to talk to me right now.

I would just say to him "I'm not happy with our relationship as it is. Are you?"

That could be a good place to start since it doesn't appear either of you are ready to throw in the towel. There's a reason why neither of you wants to be the first to say goodbye. I know that sounds cliche, but you need to find the reasons for whats wrong and what's right then you can make more lasting decisions -- instead of make/up to break/up sagas.

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I am writing that down, I think that's a great way to start the conversation.

I usually wait for people to dump me. I just can't dumped people because if I ever want them back later it'd look silly.

But I have dumped a few people

I usually am the one being dumped, or it's mutual. I think there was only one I dumped because the relationship got boring. That one was actually with another sagi and he actually felt the same way about it...guess two of the same don't always work.

I usually don't do the dumping because I always feel like it can work out. I have a very high tolerance so I can adjust myself to get comfortable in the relationship, which hasn't proved good in the long run. Oh well.. I'm learning

Posted by happykitsune
I usually don't do the dumping because I always feel like it can work out. I have a very high tolerance so I can adjust myself to get comfortable in the relationship, which hasn't proved good in the long run. Oh well.. I'm learning

I know what you mean

i do the dumping round these parts.

Well I have no news to report, I haven't talk to him since our last conversation and at this point I refuse to be the first one to say something. So he is ignoring me and I am doing the same but we will see I Dont want to be the bad guy nor does he probably so who knows what will happen. I need to just break things off with him but I have to build up the nerve.

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Posted by scorpdiva
I need to just break things off with him but I have to build up the nerve.

And what better way to do that than by sleeping with a Libra! Your place or mine?

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LOl 😉 my place cause I have to feel comfortable, but there is a libra I dated in 7th grade that found me on FB and is trying his damnest to get with me.

Posted by scorpdiva
Well I have no news to report, I haven't talk to him since our last conversation and at this point I refuse to be the first one to say something. So he is ignoring me and I am doing the same but we will see I Dont want to be the bad guy nor does he probably so who knows what will happen. I need to just break things off with him but I have to build up the nerve.

Maybe you guys won't ever talk again and that'll settle it lol

Posted by scorpdiva
Well I have no news to report, I haven't talk to him since our last conversation and at this point I refuse to be the first one to say something. So he is ignoring me and I am doing the same but we will see I Dont want to be the bad guy nor does he probably so who knows what will happen. I need to just break things off with him but I have to build up the nerve.

sigh scorpios.....make a move already

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Well I have no news to report, I haven't talk to him since our last conversation and at this point I refuse to be the first one to say something. So he is ignoring me and I am doing the same but we will see I Dont want to be the bad guy nor does he probably so who knows what will happen. I need to just break things off with him but I have to build up the nerve.

Maybe you guys won't ever talk again and that'll settle it lol

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This is what will probably happen, and who would be in the wrong? nobody because neither of us had the nerve to end things. He is a scorp-sagg Nov 23rd so he could feel the same way I do........

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Probably.

you want me to call him for you? i will break up with him for you.

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Well I have no news to report, I haven't talk to him since our last conversation and at this point I refuse to be the first one to say something. So he is ignoring me and I am doing the same but we will see I Dont want to be the bad guy nor does he probably so who knows what will happen. I need to just break things off with him but I have to build up the nerve.

Maybe you guys won't ever talk again and that'll settle it lol

This is what will probably happen, and who would be in the wrong? nobody because neither of us had the nerve to end things. He is a scorp-sagg Nov 23rd so he could feel the same way I do........

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your justifying your own "lack of nerve"

this is one of the many reasons why scorps get a bad rap. they just drift off quietly into the sunset hoping things will just go away. saggis have this horrible quality 2. so be the bigger person.

Posted by DMV
you want me to call him for you? i will break up with him for you.

Yes Can you please 🙂

I do have a tendency to just act like things are okay and hope they will go way, I am thinking I will try one last time to call even though I haven't in like a week and if I get his voice mail then I will send him a email. I need to put an end to it though so when I talk to others guys I don't feel like yeah I am kinda single I guess but I still love this guy and he might love me so we can talk for now type of thing.

I mean I have been moving on with my life so why not put closure on it, we can always love each other as friends and that is what I would like if all else fails........

ok, if he doesnt answer, break up with his voicemail. be prepared to realize that he may not want to be friends with you after this.

See, Voicemail seems so cruel. Why wouldn't he still want to be friends?

Posted by DMV
this is one of the many reasons why scorps get a bad rap. they just drift off quietly into the sunset hoping things will just go away. saggis have this horrible quality 2. so be the bigger person.

Yes we do, but sometimes I still gotta have that closure cus then I'll wonder what they were thinking...always that wondering.. well at least until I find someone else, then I could care less unless they come back into my life again and I get curious.

If I can I do drift away though. Idk if it's the best idea to disappate..kinda weak, but your decision

Posted by DMV
this is one of the many reasons why scorps get a bad rap. they just drift off quietly into the sunset hoping things will just go away. saggis have this horrible quality 2. so be the bigger person.

Hahahaha so true. You know MUTABLE SIGN 😛

Well I just came from lunch, I called him and got no answer so I just went on and text him my exact words
"This Sh-t is Crazy, what's the point we might as well be friends cause obviously this relationship is not working for neither of us"

I got no reply yet so we will see........

nope, your text left room for debate. you should have clearly stated that you no longer wanted to be in a relationship.

he probably thinks your still blowing hot air. thats why hes not responding. he probably thought to himself "here we go again."

Posted by Starfish225
S😱 You have to close the door. You know that saying? "Always close one door before opening another one.

Somebody said they hate to be the dumper bc they may want to go back..Thats crazy as hell, if your not happy and being treated right why would you go back!! Cutting and keep on moving..

Hahaha I did. I am crazy as hell

He replies "Do what you want"

should I respond? or just let it go

I responded " I will, take care."

Now I deleted his number and txt outta my phone............

I just don't feel like going toe to toe, I think he won't contact me anymore you see I had to contact him first. So I think it should be fine if I let this go I know he will.

Sounds like it's taken care of. At least from my stand point

Yeah it should be he txt back " You take care to"

he texted u that vague response to mirror your initial vague text. well, now that thats over...whats next? who else wants to get single for summer!

Posted by DMV
he texted u that vague response to mirror your initial vague text. well, now that thats over...whats next? who else wants to get single for summer!

HAHAHAH

Posted by DMV
he texted u that vague response to mirror your initial vague text. well, now that thats over...whats next? who else wants to get single for summer!

Lol not a thought that really crossed my mind :3

boo up in the winter time. its time for summer lovin

Posted by DMV
boo up in the winter time. its time for summer lovin

Exactly. I'm not warm enough on my own to spend winters alone. 😢 Summer I'm too hot, get away from me >.< I'm going nekkid

hahah YES!

Me and my sister was saying the same thing, like no relationship for the summer then when winter come whoever still in the running might get boo up for winter. My sister who is a libra and I have our whole summer plan.......