He's mad at me. What to do next?

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LittlePisces
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13 Years

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I'm a Pisces (don't know anything about charts).
I met this Saggitarrius online two months ago. We have excellent chemistry between us. I was quite surprised that I would let it go that way but I really enjoyed it.

He didn't want to be friends but didn't want to give us a title.
I played his game and have very little expectation from this. I want him to happy so I give him freedom without pressuring him too much. He always disappear and come back again. Every time he does that I thought I was "dumped" even though we weren't really a couple. That's fine, I thought. As long as I don't expect anything out of it and just enjoy the moment.

Almost every time we met, I was asked to go to his place and hang out and I guess that's how our "relationship" (or whatever you call it) got really steamy very quickly.

I confronted him that I don't feel respected (after being ignored for days 3 times) and loved. The lack of communication is making me upset and I wanted to move on. He apologized and I forgave him very quickly.

We haven't had a face-to-face talk about what's going on with us after the apology. He asked me if if we are a couple and I wanted to leave that for our next talk in person. Our text always seem to leave both of us in question. Maybe I'm not good at texting... perhaps.


What happened was..
He asked me to come over again but this time at 11pm while I have work the next day. I find that a bit selfish but I asked him what he has plan for us. I can compromise under circumstances.. but let's hear what he had to say, I thought.
He said that's a silly question.
So I told him honestly (I am a very blunt person.. stupid too) that I haven't seen him for so long so I want to hang out but if he's only going to ask me to give him a booty call then that's not what I wanted.

He was offended and said we're not on the same page

Even at this point, I thought "not on the same page" means he didn't want to hang out and he only wanted sex.

He elaborated that I totally wronged him for thinking he's that type of guy and that he wanted to make me breakfast in the morning..

I really don't know how to read him... but I think he's pissed off at me, big time.
I know I wronged him (maybe??) and I asked for his forgiveness but he hasn't replied me yet and it's bugging me so much.


What should I do?
.... I could barely sleep cos of it...
I hate to admit it.. but I'm really falling for this archer.
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Cat34
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13 Years

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ok, one thing pisces have to learn is us sags are not very emotional or sensitive until we really really like you, now getting us to like you is the hard part. I will say from the woman perspective a guys always get me attention if he is smart and actually sounds smart and when they go hot/cold on me bc I can't figure them out I get all weirded out, but become very intrigued. If the guy tells me he likes and makes me feel cramped I will run so fast it isn't funny. If you keep being all emotional and clingy he is gonna run, that sensitive stuff is for caps! be his friend first, we usually fall for people we can be friends with.
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LittlePisces
@LittlePisces
13 Years

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Thank you for your advice, everyone.

Note taken:
Run while I still have my sanity.. I guess I needed that smack in the face.
Don't be emotional.. yes.

I've been playing it cool in front of him but the emotional side is hard to hide and the times when I let it slip actually ticked him off. Thus lead to ... what's happening.
It's the worse 😢

This is the only place where I become really up front so I get the proper advice I need... or proper smack in the face.

He's talking to me again...
and he told me what I did wrong.....
note taken.

Thanks, everyone.
You've been really helpful.
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beautifulsoul74
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Posted by MzSag
Seriously, you knew he didn't want to get serious... and you said you expected little from him. If that's true, then him disappearing for days at a time and not contacting you shouldn't be a big deal. He made his intentions clear right from jump start... That bullshit about him saying he's "Not that type of guy..." is a load of shit. He just did that to guarantee the ass.

Yes... Technically, you wronged him. You got attached and caught feelings... That's the thing I don't get about some people. He made it crystal clear that he didn't want a relationship with you. In other words, you're ass! Why can't you just accept being some ass?! I don't get it. Either take it or leave it, but sitting there catching feelings for him and expecting him to call you and "respect" you is your fault. You shouldn't have gotten involved if you couldn't accept the fact that he didn't want a commitment.

Instead of figuring him out, you need to figure out what you want.



"accept being the ass"...fucking hilarious!! Imma have to use that one. You need to put a patent in this and make it into a ringtone lol
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Posted by TheLadySagittarius
It pisses me off when guys sleep with women, usually sweet, clean girls and then get angry when she catches feelings. So this Sag should be picking up the skank whores around that f**ck everything that moves. Then he won't have to worry about them catching any feelings for him.



but the sweet girls are sooo much sweetier. plus the skank whores are like doorknobs
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GodMadeBeauty
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13 Years

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Ok so I noticed that people saw the OP contradict herself by saying she was cool with it being nothing then gained feelings but did you also notice that the man contradicted himself by accepting them being nothing but sex and then getting mad at her because she said thats all he was looking for? WAIT WHAT? how can you get mad at me for assuming that the 11pm date would be nothing but sex if thats what they'd agreed it was in the beginning.

So technically they are both in the wrong, her because she said it was fine for it to just be FWB, and then he said the same but in the end they both are acting like and saying things that makes it seem as if it is more.
I can see her confusion.

To LittlePisces, you can once again put the ball in your court if you turn off those feelings which is hard for you I am sure. I would back away from him and see how he reacts.
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LittlePisces
@LittlePisces
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Posted by GodMadeBeauty
Ok so I noticed that people saw the OP contradict herself by saying she was cool with it being nothing then gained feelings but did you also notice that the man contradicted himself by accepting them being nothing but sex and then getting mad at her because she said thats all he was looking for? WAIT WHAT? how can you get mad at me for assuming that the 11pm date would be nothing but sex if thats what they'd agreed it was in the beginning.

So technically they are both in the wrong, her because she said it was fine for it to just be FWB, and then he said the same but in the end they both are acting like and saying things that makes it seem as if it is more.
I can see her confusion.

To LittlePisces, you can once again put the ball in your court if you turn off those feelings which is hard for you I am sure. I would back away from him and see how he reacts.



Thank you.
I messed up for catching feelings on a saggi.
You absolutely read the problem accurately.... we're both contradicting ourselves a bit.
Maybe I read it wrong from the start when he told me he is looking for a relationship.
When I asked him about how we're doing he told me that he does not want to rush into titles.
It was then I prepared myself for the crash...
You're right. I'm confused over what he's shown me and what he's telling me.
I can see why he's mad if he slowly developed something for me over time but I'm still stuck on what he last told me.

Anyho...
I like him so I'm willing to step out of my box and see where this go.
It's rare for me to have feelings for anyone and I consider this saggi to be someone very special and.. yeahh
I'll step back emotionally and see what happens.
Time will tell, right?

Thanks everyone else for your comments...
LOL @ some of your comments here..
Nice....