How you won the heart of a Sag Male

If you are or have been with a Sag man, how did you get him? I'm curious. I'll say we can be a complicated lot. It's hard to balance our animal side with the philosophical. I'm curious as to the responses. Nooo, I'm not looking for a counter strategy _— Just...um...curious lol. The floor is yours _??_

Posted by xxoommmxxoo
Worshipped the ground he walked on. I was 19.

What happened?

I see. He was a Sag/Cap cusper hence the attraction. I'm sorry it turned out that way. Have you talked to him since you two went separate ways?

Posted by beautifulsoul74
If you are or have been with a Sag man, how did you get him? I'm curious. I'll say we can be a complicated lot. It's hard to balance our animal side with the philosophical. I'm curious as to the responses. Nooo, I'm not looking for a counter strategy _— Just...um...curious lol. The floor is yours _??_

he was stuck in the airport and i was there where he was camping out. he was a frequent flyer he said he remembered me the last time. We talked a lot and about everything that night from his work to how i find the chick's ass that passed by very hot. He talked about his country and i listened and he was surprised i knew a lot about his place. he said it was the worst but his luckiest night of his life. From then on everytime he flies by he would always spend an hour or so to have and chat but he would usually end up watching me work for it would always be rush when he flies in. he would say he loves to watch me work because he would remember the night he got stranded and how i treated him differently. he felt he let me see who i was that no normal person would see. he would ask me on a date ..but sadly i can't for im not ready. until now he is persistent but he is great guy but im better off being not attached for now 🙂.he respects that but he said it doesnt he'll stop asking me.

usually some of the sags i was with , they would love their freedom. i let them for i love mine too but usually we end up drifting apart because we had too much space between us. i dont even call my relationship with a relationship but more of a deep friendship. i would not know how much they really loved me until after the breakup and they would tell me. one even said " i know i would sound gay if i say this but i wish you were clingy. i wish you were a crazy bitch that wont want me to go." their eyes wander but like horse they still go back to the stables after the end of the day.

they never told me to not leave for they respected my wishes as much as i respected theirs.

i was a local artist, he was a book store owner. i think i captured his heart because i was naive and malleable and very talented with powerful potential at the time he needed much validation. i was also, and have always been, exciting, provocative, philosophical and ride or die. we hung out 24/7.

Posted by Ligeia

Posted by beautifulsoul74
If you are or have been with a Sag man, how did you get him? I'm curious. I'll say we can be a complicated lot. It's hard to balance our animal side with the philosophical. I'm curious as to the responses. Nooo, I'm not looking for a counter strategy _— Just...um...curious lol. The floor is yours _??_

Every Sadge guy I've ended up dating we were totally

friends or friendly first. The last Sadge guy I dated

I won his heart just by being me and having the foundation

of friendship already between us was the icing on the cake

I suppose.

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The friendship route is always the best _??

@Libra08: Sounds like most of your encounters were relationships waiting to happen. We believe that actions speak louder than words. As for partners, yes we should say something before it ends but we want someone to meet us halfway and maybe say something first. It's just been my personal experience that as soon as I express my feelings things change and the games start.

Posted by msX
i was a local artist, he was a book store owner. i think i captured his heart because i was naive and malleable and very talented with powerful potential at the time he needed much validation. i was also, and have always been, exciting, provocative, philosophical and ride or die. we hung out 24/7.

Do you two still speak?

Well, I think what drew us together was the element of trust. He places such a high value on it, more than anyone ive ever seen in my life. Thats the tie that I believe holds us together. We are great friends, but I believe we are more than friends too. I really cant put a title on things actually. He knows about every aspect of my life. Who wants to potentially date me right down to what im wearing for the day. There really are no boundaries between us....time, distance, anything. If there becomes one, he will remove it. For instance, he doesnt like closed doors. If we are together and I close the door, its like he cant stand it. He will come and open it to see what I am doing behind it. That applies to everything. Its like i feel there are no secrets, no hidden doors with and "x" marked on it, nothing. Sometimes I feel very exposed here. He trusts me to tell him the truth and I trust him to tell me it as well. Consequently, the more we share, the deeper we grow together. I dont mean some shallow relationship, but a deeply spiritual one.

Its kinda how u said in one of your threads..." I stand naked before.." beautiful soul. If we are intimate, there are no boundaries, no clothes...nothing between us. This applies to other areas as well. Nothing comes between "US"

He got me.....
MADE me his woman.
Rather quickly.
the first 8 months were rough. I never dated a sag male before. took alot to get use to. but we are still together, it will be a year on 6/9. Ive learned ALOT about myself and Saggies. I wouldnt have it any other way.

oh and I won him over by being the total opposite of what he usually dates. TOTAL opposite. and my loyalty and honesty. and of course that..... (LOL)

What do u mean by MADE me cancerboo? My sagg friend will not give a title but he will not get outta the way either. If i tell him another guy wants to date or he even sniffs out another guy then he has to know all about him. Its almost like the man wants to compete. Like he has to be the best. He enjoys knowing hes the one closest to me. Its like too...he doesnt care whose around. He feels like he was here first and he wants same treatment. WHen I dated my cancer, he still wanted to come and visit and really got offended that I didnt send him care package. He will never let me live down "putting another man first" I offered to mail it when we broke up, but he wouldnt accept it because I didnt mail it before. Its like he doesnt care whose in my life...when he gets ready then i guess im supposed to hop to it. He has to have his own set of pictures personally made for him, his own id, etc.

But yes, I think its the trust that ties us.

Posted by beautifulsoul74

Posted by msX
i was a local artist, he was a book store owner. i think i captured his heart because i was naive and malleable and very talented with powerful potential at the time he needed much validation. i was also, and have always been, exciting, provocative, philosophical and ride or die. we hung out 24/7.

Do you two still speak?

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no. we live in different parts of the country.
however, we had spoken after our breakup, years after. we just checked up on each other and left it at that.
he knows not to wake this chick...lol

Posted by coldwater
What do u mean by MADE me cancerboo?

He did just that. Made me his woman. After about 3 weeks of dating. I thought we were still just dating. Until I mentioned something about "he really needs a girlfriend", I was being a lil sarcastic about his eating habits. His response" You are my girlfriend, so it sounds like u need to get to cooking". I was shocked and responded "I am?" his response "Of course. WTH did u think u were?" ummmm yea. so it just happened. but most men wont want wait around to make u his, if he really is into you like that.....

oh and I knew it was "official" when he introduced me to his closest homeboys (only people he really trusts) and family as his girlfriend......

Thank you ladies for your contributions so far. _??_They truly are touching both the good and bad. Some of the things that have been described I have done.

@CancerBoo: I did the exact same thing when I was younger lol. That story made me laugh a little. Now, I just ask and let them know how I feel.

@Ellesque: seems like quite a memory.

@coldwater: that's always the case with an Aqua and a Sag.mi feel you _??_

I'm living with my sag bf... we'll be 2 years soon. I love him to bits...it's pretty disgusting. LOL.

How did I win his heart? Hmm...
Much like one of the themes in this thread - He found me and made me his. I was myself...Open and receptive.

Keeping him is another story, lol.

Truth be told, I'm not sure how I won the sagg I was with or if I ever did. I honestly think in the beginning I was supposed be just for sex. But then his mom and family took a liking to me ( I didn't wait on him to introduce me, I happen to catch his mom putting away the groceries and boldly went into the kitchen shook her hand and told her my name and it was nice to meet her. He liked it.) So next thing I knew he was taking me to everything, his family was always saying how pretty I am and how I'm such a lady. He never told me what he fell for. I soon found out he was just selfish and that I was a trophy. Someone he could show off like a new diamond in his chain. He had someone already the whole time. How his mom let that go down I do not know. Couldn't have been my son. The other girl was nowhere near as polished as me. She dresses horribly, and I'm sorry I give credit where credit is due but this girl is NOT cute??_ not even a little. However she has her bachelors, kept a roof over his head, and her hoopty was paid for. They are now married with a child and I couldn't be more happier that she took that headache on legs off the market. The rest of the world is now safe. She's my damn hero as far as I'm concerned. lol

I think the key to getting the attention and love eventually of a sagg men is to be you, be honest, hold an decent conversation and most of all be a challenge to them. Lately, I have been meeting nothing but sagg men, none with the chart of Elle sagg which is what I need however they really attract me and it just works, two of them fell in love with me for sure and another one is falling and I am just bein me.

My first day of college, he was behind me in the ID line.
He made small talk.
We found out we lived in the same dorm.
We became friends.
He introduced me to people and invited me to parties,
He convinced me to join a sorority.
We became inseparable,
Lasted 2 years.

Sun, merc, Venus, mars in sag
Scorpio moon

I'm also a Scorp moon and I also have mars in sag. Instant attraction.

Okay, I definitely have to add my 0.02 cents. In my 30 years...I can honestly say one of the more passionate relationships was with a Sadge (the other was a cancer)...I'm an Aries and I can admit...we can come off as a bit demanding, controlling,possessive and self-centered (all about me attitude) at times....these are the very qualities my sadge disliked about me, but there was undeniable passion and excitement between us....we played hard, fought hard, and loved hard....he loved the fact that I was independent, a go getter/risk taker, and was up for anything ....I would always say....I'll try anything once...I mean the physical attraction was on some primal ish....mentally we were vibin....but sometimes you sadges tend to go off on y'all tangents when it comes to speakin on worldly things, various religions, and philosophy....sometimes you guys just take it to a whole nutha level with that,nevertheless..the convo is always enjoyable..... I absolutely loved his optimism and the fact that he partied hard (he could out drank me on any given night) and worked just as hard.....it was never a dull moment when hangin out with him....but the whole "relationship" thing was never smooth (on and off for 3 years)...I wanted a title and he didn't...he felt it would change things....yet, we behaved as though we were in a relationship just without the title (at the very least I did, not too sure if he did as sadges are known for their roving eye)...I never really understood that mentality......ultimately...I couldn't get down with the whole being in limbo and when I would end things....he would come back/stalk the heck out of me because he couldn't bear the thought of me being with anybody else, but at the same time didn't feel a title was needed if the two of us had a mutual understanding.....Now as an Aries who loved their independence and likes their freedom....sadges (well my ex sadge) took it to a whole new level....there would be times where there was just too much space in my book....so much so, I questioned if what we had was even a relationship...we saw each other once every two weeks and we would communicate...1 to 2 times (via text) a week....this didn't feel like a relationship to me at all and when I would call him out on it....he would respond back that I was becoming too clingy and he was starting to feel suffocated.....I mean it appeared he needed so much space....it defeated the point of having/being in a relationship in the first place...

4 years later...he is still trying to come back into my life....wanting to get another chance....he claims I was the best girlfriend he has ever had, but I don't think I can get down with another sadge when it comes to relationships, if you are "needing space" and having your freedom to the point where we are communicating 1 to 2 times a week via phone/text so you are not feeling "suffocated" I know me and that wouldn't work for me. I mean don't basketball wives communicate with their husband more than that? I'm just sayin. I am a typical aries in that I bore easily and well...if there is too much space....i'm an out of sight, out of mind person and more than likely I will move on to the next thing that has my attention. Time apart is good...freedom within your relationship is healthy....having space is healthy.....however, too much space and I tend to disengage and disconnect mentally. Not sure if I would be able to date another Sadge (seriously, now casually is a different story altogether) based on that experience alone.

I let my ex sag chase me. I let him in every piece of my soul. We went on waverunners, sky diving, dinners, all kind of adventures. We stayed up late watching movies. I cooked, cleaned and took care of him. I pretty much made him the center of my universe which was a VERY big mistake. Within a month he told me he loved me, 3 mos he gave me a breath taking 3 diamond promise ring while on a chicage roof top, 6 mos I moved in, 9 mos I was pregnant... then all hell broke loose. Essentially he wanted to live a carefree, bachelor life but have a family and "wife" at home. A very beautiful, well kept home, with children running about and fresh baked cookies and a "perfect" wife waiting for him in his bed. yeaaaaaa and his role was to work, drink, party, go on vacations etc. He is the worst thing that ever happened to me yet I wish I was still with him every day. But with his ScorpVen, there will always be those late night texts where he begs me to come home. At least I have that.

well I'm a sag woman being with a sag man for 18 years now. Although I must say the relationship is on its end now. My choice, but a difficult one after 18 years. I hate to break his heart, but being a sag I cannot help but to want my freedom. I think to be better off in no relationship than a bad one, just for the cause of not being alone. And although he is a sag as well I find him very possessive ever since the beginning of our relationship. Things have been stormy, we have been throwing quite a lot of mad fights in the beginning we were together. He now just drives me mad with his narrow-mindedness, his ' I know everything' attitude and the fact that he is not willing to give me my so-wanted freedom. He tries to manipulate me and acts rather mean because he feels he is on the verge to loose me. So, what I want to say about sag man:
jealous and possessive : absolutely, has been since the beginning of our relationship
romantic: no, not really
loyal and honest: i 'd like to think so, although I think saggies are very good liars, at least the men. I know I have a problem lying and feels as if it will show.
caring: yes, he has been quite caring and supportive of things I did, if it were things he'd approved...
sexually: i would say sag man is medium intense. Can be passionate and intense when he wants, but lacks fantasy and becomes stuck in a routine he won't give up, not even when I tell him it's rather boring and unsatisfactory.
But this is just my two cents. Human interactions are probably way too difficult to be captured by zodiac signs only. I merely think the zodiac can show a certain path or pattern. Which I am trying to figure out for the moment with a virgo-man.. le sigh...

maybe I should have stayed on the subject... so I won the heart of my sag man a long time ago by not being too available. He had to do a real chase on me. But if you make them chase you for too long they will move on. You have to keep feeding them little bits of hope so they keep chasing. That is, if you want the sag man.
I have no idea though how I really won his heart, as in why he loves me to be honest...