im bored

cause we're not having enough sex for me. it seems like he is okay with once or 2x a week and im just pulling my hair out. i dont want to be in a relationship anymore.

its like a recurring theme with the men i go out with. they figure out that i really like to have sex and they pull back and ration it out with some twisted belief that when they give it too me, i am so desperate that i will take the crumbs that they give me.

i knew there was a problem when i had to ask him for sex. what kind of world are we living in when the woman has to ask her man for sex? after only 3 weeks?? the lack of sex is an issue...its like we sit on the couch and i feel like an old married fogey couple that just holds hands. boring.

i feel like the biggest douche and horn dog. why am i always the horniest person in the room 😢

nope your not I remember my last g/f was like 2 or 3 times a day after a few weeks I was happy to see her go home lol..

I dont know what the average is but once a week is maybe a bit stingy for only 3 weeks in a relationship.

you just have a higher sex drive then some guys ask him what the problem is and that you need a bit more lovin then what your getting now . See what he says.

3 weeks into a new relationship I would think other people would be throwing buckets of cold water on you 2 🙂

god, i would give anything just to start everyday with a great little happy time 😛

Posted by capgirl75
I have been there. I do not think you are terrible.

Just my 2cents from my own experience:
I have changed since I met the Scorp. I realized ever since I met him that the reason I wanted sex so much was that I was not getting enough affection. I was like a starving woman, which I am tempted to lol, but really it is sad. I just wanted someone to hold me, pet my hair, tell me things were going to be okay. I only got that from men after sex. I thought I was just a horn dog, but really I was looking for something deeper. I was never satisfied, I would want it multiple times a day. If I didn't get it all the time, I was feeling frustrated and angry.

With him, he holds my hand all the time, he holds me all the time, and I do not feel like I am going to go crazy after a few days anymore.

yeah i do feel angry and frustrated and a bitch. all that intimacy shit is okay but its not enough. i dont always need bear hugs or kisses. i just want to have sex.

Posted by lblibra
nope your not I remember my last g/f was like 2 or 3 times a day after a few weeks I was happy to see her go home lol..

I dont know what the average is but once a week is maybe a bit stingy for only 3 weeks in a relationship.

you just have a higher sex drive then some guys ask him what the problem is and that you need a bit more lovin then what your getting now . See what he says.

3 weeks into a new relationship I would think other people would be throwing buckets of cold water on you 2 🙂

maybe im being selfish. i just want the kind of relationship where your always ripping each others clothes off all the time. like i should not be coming up for air.

at times, i rather take a guy who has a high sex drive than a guy with a great career, life etc.

i should see what he says. it just feels weird as the woman complaining about sex. i wont get to do it for awhile because im in ignore, frustrated mode.

Posted by ladybliss
You shouldn't have to feel bad about your needs and what you need, nonsense DMV. Did you talk to him about this? Do you sense maybe have a feeling he is intimidated by your high sex drive?

i do think he admires my sex game but i keep telling him that im good in bed when i have a good partner; so he is apart of the process.

i just cant bond with someone if im not having consistent sex. it actually makes my mind wander.

Omg.. I'm feeling the exact same way. I practically have to let him know I want to bone n we should b in rip each others clothes off mode still, I mean it's only been 3 months! He's 30.&.I'm 25. He does give me lots of affection which settles me down a bit but I just wanna fuck like animals instead of sitting on his couch n socializing with his roommate n his gf.

Ugh.

Wow now I dont feel so bad some of the girls I,ve dated threated to cut it off If i didn't leave them alone for sex lmao

lol

Posted by Peanutbutter
Omg.. I'm feeling the exact same way. I practically have to let him know I want to bone n we should b in rip each others clothes off mode still, I mean it's only been 3 months! He's 30.&.I'm 25. He does give me lots of affection which settles me down a bit but I just wanna fuck like animals instead of sitting on his couch n socializing with his roommate n his gf.

Ugh.

..

+1

ive had some men tell me that sex isnt important to them and couples shouldnt be having sex every day because it weakens its values. i settle temporarily but i end up blowing up because i cant blow my load.

i just dont feel like i "do it" for him.

What I don't get is the guys are worried not having enough sex with someone they decide to commit, but then, it is man who ends up giving us less.

I think they just relax.

Unfortunately, that's been the case often with me too. I ended up looking like a sex addict. Even wondered if that is the Scorpio side of me.

Posted by DMV
i just dont feel like i "do it" for him.

that was complaint of my aqua ... and I always want more sex from her too though. It's weird, our style s were just different. I remember one time I was cooking supper when she came home and she tried to give me bj right there in the kitchen. I wasn't into it because 1. I was hungry 2. I had a reasonable amount of effort invested in the meal and 3. it was almost ready and ready to eat.

geeze, why couldn't the bj wait 'til after dinner and we share a bottle of wine? ...or even better, at 5am the next morning

...hmmm, ok seeing how some of this was my fault

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Posted by DMV
i just dont feel like i "do it" for him.

that was complaint of my aqua ... and I always want more sex from her too though. It's weird, our style s were just different. I remember one time I was cooking supper when she came home and she tried to give me bj right there in the kitchen. I wasn't into it because 1. I was hungry 2. I had a reasonable amount of effort invested in the meal and 3. it was almost ready and ready to eat.

geeze, why couldn't the bj wait 'til after dinner and we share a bottle of wine? ...or even better, at 5am the next morning

...hmmm, ok seeing how some of this was my fault

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yeah "timing" of sex is tricky.

urgh... I don't like morning sex.

or.. when there is some 'wait!... let's have sex Saturday'.

It has to be spontaneous; in the moment of heat. Just switch your priorities quickly. The food will taste even better thereafter. The wine will taste better. The sleep will be even sweeter...

Posted by DMV

i just cant bond with someone if im not having consistent sex. it actually makes my mind wander.

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Exact same here!

If it takes too long of a time in between, I lose my comfort with that person. The more comfort and familiarity, the more playfulness and faster climax for me. I'm sure the guy would like that too.

ok, this is good thread for me to read ... started learning this lesson with aqua too, but it's probably too late. there was one morning i was about to pour milk on cereal and she walked past me and said she was horny. I followed her straight back to bedroom ... but, earlier in our relationship i would have poured the milk, eaten the cereal, then gone back to bedroom ... and we would both end up frustrated and disappointed at that point

....so learning

perhaps you should just explain it to your guy ... and show him my aqua saga, and tell him that's what will happen if he doesn't get with the program.

perhaps you should just explain it to your guy ... and show him my aqua saga, and tell him that's what will happen if he doesn't get with the program.

LOL well... it's too late now.

I partially contributed to the situation by giving out some bad news. Then I didn't hear from him, like 12 days or so. When he showed up again, *I* wasn't in the mood to get my head back to lightweight, fun sex. I felt secondary and disrespected.

Thanks. Will keep in mind for next time. 😉

i think he fucks with me tbh. he knows what i want when he turns me down.

Posted by FUM
or.. when there is some 'wait!... let's have sex Saturday'.

It has to be spontaneous; in the moment of heat. Just switch your priorities quickly. The food will taste even better thereafter. The wine will taste better. The sleep will be even sweeter...

sex should never be scheduled.

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Posted by DMV
i think he fucks with me tbh. he knows what i want when he turns me down.

I was thinking about that too. Sounds like a watery Sag thing to do. You said his chart has a bit of Pisces/Scorp if I remember? Maybe that was the other sag though.

Not really related, my Scorpio did that for a while. I'd be ready to launch myself on the closest pole like object and he'd be so detached, it'd make me frantic. Oh those days... lol.

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yep. he's the watery sag. endless psychological battles.

Posted by DMV
i just dont feel like i "do it" for him.

I know exactly how you feell :/

But it's all about timing... Unfortunately it has to be *his* timing.. unless of course you tease n seduce him n pretend you're not doin it intentionally. Men need to feel like they're chasing you so you gotta find ways to passive aggressively chase them n make thembthink they're the ones who want it LOL. It's all about subtlety.

My cancers crazy about me it shows, n that's why I choose to understand that he's either beat from work, stressed about life, or something.. if he starts fucking me once or twice a week I'm gunna have to find someone on the side or someone else who can keep up n that sucks cus I really like my Cancer guy.

He's supposed to be the one who begs for it n I felt horrible the last (and first time I might add) that I asked for it... Makes me think he's just fucking with me n not in the good way..

The last couple of times he passed on sex n was like let's do it in the morning... wtf no I wanna do it now AND in the morning. When did this turn into either/or when it used to be BOTH before!

Ok. I'm done complaining LOL. Sorray.

Posted by Peanutbutter
He's supposed to be the one who begs for it n I felt horrible the last (and first time I might add) that I asked for it... Makes me think he's just fucking with me n not in the good way..

The last couple of times he passed on sex n was like let's do it in the morning... wtf no I wanna do it now AND in the morning. When did this turn into either/or when it used to be BOTH before!

im sorry, have we met? haha i couldnt have written this better. i feel what you saying about having him chase. sometimes he prefers me to be aggressive and to be the party starter. but your right, he is going to have to be the initiator.

i also feel like he should be the one begging to dig for my gold. must be the feminine personal planets. im masculine, so im used to being the aggressor.

when i ask for it, i feel strong and confident. when i ask for it and get turned down, i feel defeated and embaressed. i mean if he asked me for sex, my legs would spring open.

it does make u think that theyre using sex as a reward system.

in his true pisces nature, he is nocturnal and im only that way during the weekends. he is that way 24/7. i cant stay up with him on a tuesday till 3 am and then screw till 7am. when im ready to screw which is 5pm, 7pm, 11pm he is focused on other things and i think he enjoys turning me down.

Posted by Peanutbutter
My cancers crazy about me it shows, n that's why I choose to understand that he's either beat from work, stressed about life, or something.. if he starts fucking me once or twice a week I'm gunna have to find someone on the side or someone else who can keep up n that sucks cus I really like my Cancer guy.

im bout this close to a facebook hookup. your right, he does show his caring side, spends time with me, etc etc but sex is very important to me. i should ask him how he views sex. as a sport or religion?

Posted by Ligeia

Posted by DMV
cause we're not having enough sex for me. it seems like he is okay with once or 2x a week and im just pulling my hair out. i dont want to be in a relationship anymore.

WOW talk about a quitter!

You're in a RELATIONSHIP now. Have you TALKED

to him directly about the frequency you need

to have pipe layed? If things don't work out

or there is no compromise after that then back

to the drawing board. And find you someone more

suitable with your libido.

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if he loved blowjobs and i told him that i dont give them, he wouldnt wait around to change my mind.

sex is just important to me. if its not important to him, we shouldnt waste both our times.

Posted by Ellybean

Posted by DMV
i think he fucks with me tbh. he knows what i want when he turns me down.

I was thinking about that too. Sounds like a watery Sag thing to do. You said his chart has a bit of Pisces/Scorp if I remember? Maybe that was the other sag though.

Not really related, my Scorpio did that for a while. I'd be ready to launch myself on the closest pole like object and he'd be so detached, it'd make me frantic. Oh those days... lol.

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My Libra admitted he would sometimes withhold because of "supply and demand"

Children's games! *smh*

I have no advice, but I know how annoying it is.

Posted by DMV

Posted by Ligeia

Posted by DMV
cause we're not having enough sex for me. it seems like he is okay with once or 2x a week and im just pulling my hair out. i dont want to be in a relationship anymore.

WOW talk about a quitter!

You're in a RELATIONSHIP now. Have you TALKED

to him directly about the frequency you need

to have pipe layed? If things don't work out

or there is no compromise after that then back

to the drawing board. And find you someone more

suitable with your libido.

if he loved blowjobs and i told him that i dont give them, he wouldnt wait around to change my mind.

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Exactly! Though mine prolly would cus it's very likely he won't find anyone who treats him this good in and out the bedroom... Lol.

How can women go about bringing this sex talk up without being confrontational tho? That's what I need to know.to.set.things straight.

Posted by brianafay
Children's games! *smh*

I have no advice, but I know how annoying it is.

Yeah, damn games.. They need to feel like they're holding out n torturing us because they need balance. They were the ones begging for it first, got us hooked, n now wanna feel like they can hold out on us to make up for the begging. Makes them feel all big n powerful to be able to sway our emotions that way... Grr.

Every man's dream is to get fucked silly n these guys, our guys, r slippin....

Posted by Peanutbutter
Every man's dream is to get fucked silly n these guys, our guys, r slippin....

thank you! I tell him this all the time

Any guy would appreciate a girl that's always down...but him...acts like he could care less sometimes.

I have a watery sagg and he always holds out till the point where I will blow up on him.....
it's like a game to him, he likes to make me suffer, he is lucky I want to be true to him cause a girl has so many other options....

Posted by Peanutbutter

Posted by brianafay
Children's games! *smh*

I have no advice, but I know how annoying it is.

Yeah, damn games.. They need to feel like they're holding out n torturing us because they need balance. They were the ones begging for it first, got us hooked, n now wanna feel like they can hold out on us to make up for the begging. Makes them feel all big n powerful to be able to sway our emotions that way... Grr.

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its all about power

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Posted by Peanutbutter
Every man's dream is to get fucked silly n these guys, our guys, r slippin....

thank you! I tell him this all the time

Any guy would appreciate a girl that's always down...but him...acts like he could care less sometimes.

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makes me pull my hair out!!

Posted by scorpdiva
I have a watery sagg and he always holds out till the point where I will blow up on him.....
it's like a game to him, he likes to make me suffer, he is lucky I want to be true to him cause a girl has so many other options....

pa pa pa preach!

Posted by Ellybean
Mine hasnt done so in a while.

Idk. I think a lot of it is my sun/Venus inconjunct mars. I want something WAY more when it isn't available. Add Scorpio obsessiveness.

My scorp has that aqua mars though so he works similar. He wants it more when I pursue less. And whenever he used to hold out majorly all I'd have to do is throw something different or a bit wild out, aqua mars cannot resist trying something that is a)new b)unexpected and c)a bit taboo. Even just talking about fantasies.

The bedroom is really the only place me and the scorp have ever "played games" so to speak. And it's never been so bad that its caused a real problem, it's all foreplay mainly.

I'd imagine a watery sag man might get his tickles watching someone like DMV struggle a bit. That and the schedule differences you mention DMV. It's hard when you live on two different time clocks.

you are right on both accounts. air signs like more when you give them less. i will have to play that part up. on the flipside, when i do get pissed and shut him out, i immediately feel horrible afterwards and after a day or so, i miss him and come screaming back.

this sag is a virgo mars, but that virgoness only goes so far. he is so damn piscerian i like it and it kills me at the same time. virgos seem to like a chase as well.

he does get his rocks off watching me be pissed off. i get mine off by being a bitch but i soon after greatly regret it.

LOL ya know being a highly influenced water

for it a bit lol.

+1

i make him sweat by ignoring him for days at a time.

If he's a watery Sadge with Pisces influence

he doesn't.

....sigh

Posted by Sutekh
yall are insane

i bet u ration out your provisions 2 🙂

Posted by DMV

Posted by Sutekh
yall are insane

i bet u ration out your provisions 2 🙂

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Right? dude could be learning a lot from this thread 😛

Posted by Wynter

Posted by DMV

Posted by Sutekh
yall are insane

i bet u ration out your provisions 2 🙂

Right? dude could be learning a lot from this thread 😛

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word up