DMV
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i called it quits. Im just not getting my needs fulfilled. i dont feel his spark anymore. it feels old and stale.
i feel like an after thought. i feel low on his totem pole. i just dont feel desired. i think he lost interest and doesnt want to be the bad guy.
Nah, don't feel like that. You know you're hot! Sexually your rhythms just didn't mesh well. Trust me, for this had experience you'll have a few great ones. The universe will balance yor libidou out in due.time 😉.
Posted by NovLady
What if it not really about sex for you? What if there is a deeper need not being fulfilled and it is beyond the sexual realm? Hmmm...I think that would be powerful to explore.
yep ive thought about the deeper side of a relationship. the spiritual side, the intimacy. really learning about someone. merging two souls.
sex is how i bond with my mate. its where i learn about the other person, how interested they are in me, how they cant keep their hands off me, their desire level. imo, without great sex a relationship is destined to fail.
the whole soul merging thing that everyone is hoping to attain happens during sex.
when we were having sex, i felt connected and in tune. when he stopped, i felt rejected, a disconnect, i felt like i didnt know him anymore. i lose focus, a bond is broken. i dont think about a future with him anymore. i get mad and lash out. i dont feel desirable. in my mind its simple. if you really like someone, you have sex with them. if you dont like someone, you dont have sex with them.
sex is the foundation of a relationship. all of that other stuff is a bonus.
with many of the men, its the same tune. we start having this awesome sex and im connecting. then they start holding back. one guy told me that people in relationships should only be having sex maybe once a week to keep it special. thats like a deathwish. they think that the long periods in between makes me want it more and keeps me around. actually, its quite the opposite.
i mess with a majority of plutonian men and they have issues with sex & control. i dont view sex as a control mechanism.
Posted by SutekhPosted by NovLady
What if it not really about sex for you? What if there is a deeper need not being fulfilled and it is beyond the sexual realm? Hmmm...I think that would be powerful to explore.
^ This.
Its obviously(IMO) the intimacy itself that is missing, and that you also feel is missing. Water is about intimacy with sex not sex itself.click to expand
we had intimacy, just no sex. i want both, at the same time. i liked the intimacy but without sex i feel lost.
attention span weakens and i get bored.
also, let me just say that i understand intimacy and sex. what i think happened here is i keep getting turned down for sex and he starts to determine when we have sex. after a while, i stop asking for it and take it when its given which is when he decides to give it to me. so im at his mercy.
then after, he starts to call the shots on everything else and ive totally lost my voice and control. im less likely to disagree because i know he will start to hold back on sex. < this didnt happen but i know its next.
then after, he starts to call the shots on everything else and ive totally lost my voice and control. im less likely to disagree because i know he will start to hold back on sex. < this didnt happen but i know its next.
Posted by Peanutbutter
Nah, don't feel like that. You know you're hot! Sexually your rhythms just didn't mesh well. Trust me, for this had experience you'll have a few great ones. The universe will balance yor libidou out in due.time 😉.
thanks 🙂 i know he is out there and is just as frustrated as i am lol
yep. i know it comes from within which is why i dont hang around trying to convince them. they have an inner need to be fulfilled and so do i. i wouldnt want someone else to convince me to change, so i wont do it to them.
i know im a great catch and i dont want someone else determining my self worth. whenever that happens its bye bye time.
your moon is in gemini so that would make sense if the communication is lost, you have an emotional reaction that you spoke about. my moon is in scorpio, so whenever money, sex, or intimacy is threatened, there is an emotional reaction that i spoke of.
quick question, does your moon aspect uranus?
its ironic that you spoke about how to handle the emotional reactions. he was the first guy who i actually told him why i run hot and cold with him. i felt safe enough to really express my fears and tell him my insecurities as dumb as they may be as psychotic as they may sound. but they are real insecurities. ive learned to open up my mouth more instead of letting the other person assume incorrectly.
i know im a great catch and i dont want someone else determining my self worth. whenever that happens its bye bye time.
your moon is in gemini so that would make sense if the communication is lost, you have an emotional reaction that you spoke about. my moon is in scorpio, so whenever money, sex, or intimacy is threatened, there is an emotional reaction that i spoke of.
quick question, does your moon aspect uranus?
its ironic that you spoke about how to handle the emotional reactions. he was the first guy who i actually told him why i run hot and cold with him. i felt safe enough to really express my fears and tell him my insecurities as dumb as they may be as psychotic as they may sound. but they are real insecurities. ive learned to open up my mouth more instead of letting the other person assume incorrectly.
Posted by SutekhPosted by DMV
yep. i know it comes from within which is why i dont hang around trying to convince them. they have an inner need to be fulfilled and so do i. i wouldnt want someone else to convince me to change, so i wont do it to them.
i know im a great catch and i dont want someone else determining my self worth. whenever that happens its bye bye time.
your moon is in gemini so that would make sense if the communication is lost, you have an emotional reaction that you spoke about. my moon is in scorpio, so whenever money, sex, or intimacy is threatened, there is an emotional reaction that i spoke of.
quick question, does your moon aspect uranus?
its ironic that you spoke about how to handle the emotional reactions. he was the first guy who i actually told him why i run hot and cold with him. i felt safe enough to really express my fears and tell him my insecurities as dumb as they may be as psychotic as they may sound. but they are real insecurities. ive learned to open up my mouth more instead of letting the other person assume incorrectly.
you need a hobby dude.click to expand
? speak your mind dude
Posted by NovLady
My moon is opposite/sun conjuncts Uranus AND I have Uranus in the 7th/8th.
I attract Scorpios and Aquarians often.
To be fulfilled, yes, we need to be aware of what our needs are. But, I think its so we can attract and cultivate something with someone who can have the opportunity to enhance the "already feelings of fulfillment" that we have cultivated in ourselves.
Being a Scorpio sun with other Scorpio placements, I get the needs that you may need as far as intimacy and the fears that come up with those. Its great you are vocal about them more now, because you are right- we can't assume someone will know.
How long were you dating this guy?
lol, thats the thing...3 weeks! way too soon to be all "i dont wanna have sex"
my moon also conjuncts uranus. i feel like if my needs arent fulfilled i.e. sex, the abandonment i feel comes from uranus. here one day, gone the next.
this is so shallow.
Posted by SutekhPosted by DMVPosted by SutekhPosted by DMV
yep. i know it comes from within which is why i dont hang around trying to convince them. they have an inner need to be fulfilled and so do i. i wouldnt want someone else to convince me to change, so i wont do it to them.
i know im a great catch and i dont want someone else determining my self worth. whenever that happens its bye bye time.
your moon is in gemini so that would make sense if the communication is lost, you have an emotional reaction that you spoke about. my moon is in scorpio, so whenever money, sex, or intimacy is threatened, there is an emotional reaction that i spoke of.
quick question, does your moon aspect uranus?
its ironic that you spoke about how to handle the emotional reactions. he was the first guy who i actually told him why i run hot and cold with him. i felt safe enough to really express my fears and tell him my insecurities as dumb as they may be as psychotic as they may sound. but they are real insecurities. ive learned to open up my mouth more instead of letting the other person assume incorrectly.
you need a hobby dude.
? speak your mind dude
I just did. Find a hobby, you're like a lost soul looking for something but not sure where to look. Start by trying new things other than relationships as a hobby to pass time.click to expand
Don't you understand? She doesn't need a hobby. She just likes to fk.
I think that's cool, but I don't understand why you analyze this so much? It seems like you search for all this reasons....bla bla bla...sex is a sport...bla bla bla...it's how you get to know someone better....bla bla bla...you feel desired...bla bla bla.
Sex is addictive. Like nicotine, alcohol. The more you do it the more you need it. It's a mind trick. When you lack it your whole state of being drops and you feel that itch that something is missing, and you have a craving. Like a depression. When you get it, that feeling goes away and you feel great.
Do you love your boyfriend btw?
Sex is addictive. Like nicotine, alcohol. The more you do it the more you need it. It's a mind trick. When you lack it your whole state of being drops and you feel that itch that something is missing, and you have a craving. Like a depression. When you get it, that feeling goes away and you feel great.
Do you love your boyfriend btw?
Posted by SutekhPosted by DMVPosted by SutekhPosted by DMV
yep. i know it comes from within which is why i dont hang around trying to convince them. they have an inner need to be fulfilled and so do i. i wouldnt want someone else to convince me to change, so i wont do it to them.
i know im a great catch and i dont want someone else determining my self worth. whenever that happens its bye bye time.
your moon is in gemini so that would make sense if the communication is lost, you have an emotional reaction that you spoke about. my moon is in scorpio, so whenever money, sex, or intimacy is threatened, there is an emotional reaction that i spoke of.
quick question, does your moon aspect uranus?
its ironic that you spoke about how to handle the emotional reactions. he was the first guy who i actually told him why i run hot and cold with him. i felt safe enough to really express my fears and tell him my insecurities as dumb as they may be as psychotic as they may sound. but they are real insecurities. ive learned to open up my mouth more instead of letting the other person assume incorrectly.
you need a hobby dude.
? speak your mind dude
I just did. Find a hobby, you're like a lost soul looking for something but not sure where to look. Start by trying new things other than relationships as a hobby to pass time.click to expand
i have plenty of hobbies, but i dont see how this topic has anything to do with me appearing to not have hobbies. im only talking about one topic; a sag man and lack of sex. if i had a topic about my hobbies, they wouldnt include a sag man and lack of sex. one has nothing to do with the other.
further, im not a lost soul.
Posted by OvS
I think that's cool, but I don't understand why you analyze this so much? It seems like you search for all this reasons....bla bla bla...sex is a sport...bla bla bla...it's how you get to know someone better....bla bla bla...you feel desired...bla bla bla.
Sex is addictive. Like nicotine, alcohol. The more you do it the more you need it. It's a mind trick. When you lack it your whole state of being drops and you feel that itch that something is missing, and you have a craving. Like a depression. When you get it, that feeling goes away and you feel great.
Do you love your boyfriend btw?
my mars does square neptune. nope, i dont love him.
Posted by NovLady
Well, with three weeks that seems a bit fast. With my own Moon/Uranus combo (not to mention being a Scorpio), I've been finding that its best to temper my abruptness, my all or nothing composure. Sometimes, there is this need for stimulation or this strong impulse to 'do' something or 'cut off'. Its really good to examine that.
Also, intimacy is cultivated, I feel. Three weeks seems rather short to cultivate a deep, meaningful intimacy. And, when I say intimacy- I mean, true communication (relating, sharing), getting to know each other outside of the bedroom, too, knowing each other's character and goals, and allowing time to demonstrate one's behavior and even, their character.
If sex is all you want and loads of it, I don't doubt you can find a surplus of it anywhere. But, true intimacy requires time and vulnerability. All things worth having are worth working for and towards.
you see, thats your definition of intimacy. mine happens simultaneously with sex (sun conj moon). hence the problem, im a different kind of gal who needs a different kind of man.
maybe its time to buy a dog lol
Were back to having sex a minimum of 4 times a day, everyday.
I've learned that sometimes u can't always get what you want. Not because the other person is mind fucking u but because they have a life LOL. My man's been tired.n stressed.from work, thankfully I didn't throw a sissy fit his way ir else I would have felt like a selfish self centered bitch. He explained the issue without me.having to ask (i guess I weathered it.long enough,.kept calm, n such) n he came out with it.
All I can say is that if u.like this guy, think jes.worth it, then be patient.
I've learned that sometimes u can't always get what you want. Not because the other person is mind fucking u but because they have a life LOL. My man's been tired.n stressed.from work, thankfully I didn't throw a sissy fit his way ir else I would have felt like a selfish self centered bitch. He explained the issue without me.having to ask (i guess I weathered it.long enough,.kept calm, n such) n he came out with it.
All I can say is that if u.like this guy, think jes.worth it, then be patient.
Excuse the typos. My cell is a piece of crap.
Posted by Peanutbutter
Were back to having sex a minimum of 4 times a day, everyday.
I've learned that sometimes u can't always get what you want. Not because the other person is mind fucking u but because they have a life LOL. My man's been tired.n stressed.from work, thankfully I didn't throw a sissy fit his way ir else I would have felt like a selfish self centered bitch. He explained the issue without me.having to ask (i guess I weathered it.long enough,.kept calm, n such) n he came out with it.
All I can say is that if u.like this guy, think jes.worth it, then be patient.
i am so jealous!! 4 times a day everyday. always the bridesmaid, never the bride lol. good for you. im happy for you both.
you are right that he may have other things going on. i can be pretty selfish when it comes to nookie.
I am too, I mean this guy knows what he is doin in the sack n I get bummed when I can't get that certain high on the reg! Patience isn't a strong point for you fire signs lol so just remember to breathe n the next time you get in the sack make sure you make your demands known n maybe give him a little something new (a new position?) That he won't soon forget 😛. Make his ass beg for that little trick only you know how to do 😉.
Man, when I sleep over its twice or so at night and a few more times before he's off to work! It's fucking amazing, no exaggeration...
Like NovLady mentioned, you guys might need a bit more time to get into the swing of things.. maybe become more familiar with one another's schedules n such bla bla bla...
Like NovLady mentioned, you guys might need a bit more time to get into the swing of things.. maybe become more familiar with one another's schedules n such bla bla bla...
Posted by Peanutbutter
Were back to having sex a minimum of 4 times a day, everyday...........................
All I can say is that if u.like this guy, think jes.worth it, then be patient.
Bullshit! I don't believe you.
^ And why is that?
1. Cuz you would not loose so much time on this forum. 😛
2. You can put up with that only when you are 16 and you discovered sex.
3. I have this device called bullshitmeter.
He may have done you 4 times one day. I did that too, but not every day. Not even a performance athlete would pull that up.
It's ok, I exaggerate sometimes what I say too, to maximize the effect of the statement. 🙂
2. You can put up with that only when you are 16 and you discovered sex.
3. I have this device called bullshitmeter.
He may have done you 4 times one day. I did that too, but not every day. Not even a performance athlete would pull that up.
It's ok, I exaggerate sometimes what I say too, to maximize the effect of the statement. 🙂
Posted by Peanutbutter
Man, when I sleep over its twice or so at night and a few more times before he's off to work! It's fucking amazing, no exaggeration...
Like NovLady mentioned, you guys might need a bit more time to get into the swing of things.. maybe become more familiar with one another's schedules n such bla bla bla...
i already ended it. not only this but there were some other things that werent my cup of tea. so he got the deuces.
DMV, I'm curious. Why did you get in this relationship?
Posted by OvS
DMV, I'm curious. Why did you get in this relationship?
check out "im off the market" blog. i dont feel like rehashing it or reliving it, so if u want to learn more have at it. if not, thats cool 2.
Posted by OvS
1. Cuz you would not loose so much time on this forum. 😛
2. You can put up with that only when you are 16 and you discovered sex.
3. I have this device called bullshitmeter.
He may have done you 4 times one day. I did that too, but not every day. Not even a performance athlete would pull that up.
It's ok, I exaggerate sometimes what I say too, to maximize the effect of the statement. 🙂
Every day for the past couple of days.. And about the same before aunt Flow came to town. LOL.
I could barely walk 😉.
Idk, we both really enjoy fucking each other. I'm just lucky to have met someone who likes sex as much as I do!
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