It's not about the sex, or cheating, or secrets...

it IS about having an intimate relationship with another person. It is about sharing a life together so intertwined that the two are as one. The aries responds to that, yeah, that's what my husband wants too. She thinks she can fake it by being nicer to him at home. I'm listening and thinking that there is no way to fake what he wants. I've been there and done that. I tried to live with my ex-wife as an acquaintance ... harboring my secret life. It was not a satisfactory situation to either of us, and destined to be a failed relationship.

the aries was pretty shaken at the last convo ... she always hides and suppresses her emotions and always acts happy around me, but I saw her almost cry for a split second before she pushed it back. I think it's unexpected that two guys want some intimate tight honest relationship and we meet up with girls who can't let their inner walls down. I'm referring to the aries and her husband and then me and my ex-aqua.

well, i was guilty of holding onto my autonomy in my marriage, i just know better now. well, actually, i've been guilty of it with everyone until the aqua and that was only because she could see through me is why i couldn't keep secrets from her. Oh well, i can't preach ... i just know what my goal is.