Making Things Right with a Sag...

Making Things Right with a Sag...

So I'm finally poppin' my cherry on the Sag board and creating my first thread.

I'm not one for apologizing. I am more of a "acknowledge I stepped in "it" and then I make d*mn sure I don't do it again" type of person. However, I realize some folks are different and an apology would go a long way in smoothing things over.

If someone has offended you or rubbed you the wrong way with something they said....

Need an apology?
Don't need an apology, but feel an apology would help smooth things over?
Say screw the apology, just make that sh*t right by not doing it anymore.

Also, do you hold a grudge or let it go?

Can you also post your Moon and Merc please 😄.

TIA Saggies!

I think an apology CAN bring people closer, if the person was hurt and the incident revived and old feeling in them. But more generally Im with you, just acknowledge and dont do it again. You didnt hurt them on purpose, right?!
Cap moon, aries merc...my moon is in 7th though.

I'm a sag moon and mercury in cancer and I know it dont really mean that much but I can tell you that I dont hold grudges... I forgive pretty easily. Im guessing thats due to the mutable nature of the sag. My sun is in Leo and I've often heard about how leo's can be pretty damn unforgiving but my sag moon doesnt let me hold on to petty grudges.

As for needing an apology, nah, apologies really don't mean anything nowadays. Actions speak louder than words.

Welcome welcome!

scorp moon and mercury conjunct uranus in the 5th house.

burn me once, shame on you. Burn me twice, well we have nothing to talk about.

All depends on how petty I feel at the moment and the brevity of the snafu. A snafu occurs, I open your file and I go through all your good deeds. If the good deeds outweight the snafu and the whatever "ship" has future gains, benefits, I can over look, but you will be treated differently going forward, noticeably.

if I really see no future benefit, I dont give 2 shits about an apology. Its like an "are you still talking?, who are you again" Moment.

If the snafu is so ridiculous that a toddler knows better, dont even waste your breathe. Especially if I know you aint dumb.

! I do and dont hold grudges. I dont ever forget a wrong.

If someone is supposed to be my friend or family and you treat me with such disregard and try to pretend ain't nuthin happen. We got a big problem. Acknowledge what you did. If you dont, dont be surprised if I remove you from my life.

with my aries friend, geez countless apologies from her messy ass. I only decided to stop icing her out because it made our virgo friend uncomfortable being in the middle.

Sometimes I do what I have to do, for the greater good...but dont expect bff status no mo.

I grudge.

And whatever was said that was so harsh that they feel it deserves an apology, was probably something true.

In that case they don't need to apologize, because I'll probably be gone.

For minor shit, no grovelling please. I don't want to help you help yourself feel better.

Capricorn Moon
Capricorn Mercury

i dont hold on to anything i just remember what you did too me. A lot of people in this life try to sweep things under the rug and act like nothing has happened and that for me is an issue . if we have a conversation and address both each others point of view then i can let it go . lets address it and move on !

Virgo Moon
Gemini MErcury

If their comment hit a soft spot then I would continuously think about it until I decide to confront the person.
I would want for both of us to speak our minds to clear the air so we don't run into the same kind of problem again!
Depending on how it all ends, I'd still want the person to be in my life if they were important to me

sag moon 3rd house
sag merc 2nd house

Posted by Wynter
I grudge.

And whatever was said that was so harsh that they feel it deserves an apology, was probably something true.

In that case they don't need to apologize, because I'll probably be gone.

For minor shit, no grovelling please. I don't want to help you help yourself feel better.

Capricorn Moon
Capricorn Mercury

🙂 Wynter, you truly never gave me the impression you were a person that held a grudge.

So if I'm understanding what you wrote, if it requires an apology it was probably true therefore....no apology, but you'd stop talking to the person because of what reason now?

The statement was true, however I have a slick mouth when I'm pissed and a hot temper when people get smart with me. My issue to work on though. I should have left the sledge hammer at home.

We both share Mars in Scorp placements.

Thanks everyone. Really good feedback.

I'm gonna address it with the knowledge I need to learn to control my tongue while still speaking my peace. I'll just leave it to the person to decide how we proceed after that point. If we don't, my life lesson.

Posted by DMV
Welcome welcome!

scorp moon and mercury conjunct uranus in the 5th house.

burn me once, shame on you. Burn me twice, well we have nothing to talk about.

All depends on how petty I feel at the moment and the brevity of the snafu. A snafu occurs, I open your file and I go through all your good deeds. If the good deeds outweight the snafu and the whatever "ship" has future gains, benefits, I can over look, but you will be treated differently going forward, noticeably.

if I really see no future benefit, I dont give 2 shits about an apology. Its like an "are you still talking?, who are you again" Moment.

If the snafu is so ridiculous that a toddler knows better, dont even waste your breathe. Especially if I know you aint dumb.

See the challenge with your post is your Scorp bits are screaming through loud and clear. I can relate to all of this because of it. The person is loaded with Sag placements minus Mars and a few others. At times we're like oil and water because of all of my Scorp placments. We approach things very differently. Still a lot to consider though. Thanks 🙂.

Posted by PhoenixRising
Wynter, you truly never gave me the impression you were a person that held a grudge.

So if I'm understanding what you wrote, if it requires an apology it was probably true therefore....no apology, but you'd stop talking to the person because of what reason now?

Oh yes, I'm mad at and wont talk to a few people from shit that happened long ago. I can't rightly remember what the offense was, but I remember my feelings at the time.

I think that's why I will withdraw from a person - to avoid the feelings. Which is usually indignation, rejection and butt-hurtedness.

To me you can do whatever. You're forgiven anyway.

But independet from what you do, good or bad, I'll be fearful anyway.
Because Cat is fearful and Moon n Pi is fearful.

Also criticism functions destroying for Cat and Sag.

On the other hand I have empty 7th and 11th houses. So I don't depend on our friendship. If I have energy, you see me with you. If energy is low, I escape from you (and others).

But there is one boy to whom I never talked again at all, no matter how he tried to see it as snows of yesteryear. The reason is that he did me wrong physically.

Posted by thinktoomuch
Even though I'm not officially a sag....😄

😛 Thanks for the feedback hon.

Posted by DwellingOnMove
To me you can do whatever. You're forgiven anyway.

But independet from what you do, good or bad, I'll be fearful anyway.
Because Cat is fearful and Moon n Pi is fearful.

Also criticism functions destroying for Cat and Sag.

On the other hand I have empty 7th and 11th houses. So I don't depend on our friendship. If I have energy, you see me with you. If energy is low, I escape from you (and others).

But there is one boy to whom I never talked again at all, no matter how he tried to see it as snows of yesteryear. The reason is that he did me wrong physically.

You do realize I will need to read this over a couple of time. And then a few more.

I tease...but not really....😄

^^^^ how so?

Posted by DwellingOnMove
^^^^ how so?

I was teasing. It took me a few to understand Cat meant Leo and Pi was Pisces.

I'm also not astro saavy. Still learning.

You have an interesting style of writing. I like it.

summary:

1. I forgive you.

2. I fear you.

3. I may come to your party. or not.

yet it is heart warming if you try something similar to an apology. cause I am a moralist as predicted for late degrees of sag. your try to apology is then for me one point for team ethics.
hence heart warming.

I'm on my phone btw, so I can't see anything but you name. I have no idea if you have your placements, gender etc under yor avi.

*your

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by DwellingOnMove
^^^^ how so?

I was teasing. It took me a few to understand Cat meant Leo and Pi was Pisces.

I'm also not astro saavy. Still learning.

You have an interesting style of writing. I like it.

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nice, thank you.

cat is cat not leo. 2011, 1999, 1987, 1975, 1963, 1951, 1939 etc. chinois.

female. sag sun, merc, venus, mars, ac. MoonPi, JupAr, AqSat, NN Cc...

tiger : chinois

cat : chinois

Leo : Hindou

As others have said...it depends on the offense and how many times I've let it slide before this.

Worst case scenario I'm just done with it and I'll accept your apology and harbor no hard feelings for you (really, not just saying that) but we'll never be friends like before.

I don't consider it holding a grudge either...I consider it not being insane and letting someone make me feel like shit over and over again...intentionally or not.

I didn't fully answer your question...but also just like as others have said an apology isn't as necessary as just acknowledging it.

Good luck with whatever you choose to do! I can't speak for your friend of course, but you'd probably really have had to fucked up for her to write you off completely. You saying something that rubbed her the wrong way shouldn't constitute that. (I think Sagis of all people know what it's like to say some fucked up shit and immediately regret it)

Posted by thinktoomuch

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by thinktoomuch
Even though I'm not officially a sag....😄

😛 Thanks for the feedback hon.

I THINK I'm more like a sag in most of my relationships, exept romantic ones. And I don't think you're referring to a romantic one, so I thought it??d be okay to answer🙂

Good luck🙂

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Of course it's okay. I was just poking fun at your Cusper disclaimer.

Posted by DwellingOnMove

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by DwellingOnMove
^^^^ how so?

I was teasing. It took me a few to understand Cat meant Leo and Pi was Pisces.

I'm also not astro saavy. Still learning.

You have an interesting style of writing. I like it.

nice, thank you.

cat is cat not leo. 2011, 1999, 1987, 1975, 1963, 1951, 1939 etc. chinois.

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Lol. Okay, forgive my ignorance.

no ignorance. most likely just a little distracted.

Posted by DwellingOnMove
To me you can do whatever. You're forgiven anyway.

But independet from what you do, good or bad, I'll be fearful anyway.
Because Cat is fearful and Moon n Pi is fearful.

Also criticism functions destroying for Cat and Sag.

On the other hand I have empty 7th and 11th houses. So I don't depend on our friendship. If I have energy, you see me with you. If energy is low, I escape from you (and others).

But there is one boy to whom I never talked again at all, no matter how he tried to see it as snows of yesteryear. The reason is that he did me wrong physically.

that is indeed very cat like

Posted by DwellingOnMove
female. sag sun, merc, venus, mars, ac. MoonPi, JupAr, AqSat, NN Cc...

You are very saggggggg

"that is indeed very cat like"

it's even worse than that.
on the dxp "chinese board" I learned that my hour and month is Cat too. So if that theory is right I am tripple Cat. Like I am multiple Sag.

Cat is watery like Pisces. You see my fire is not as big as it could be. but ok.

Posted by DwellingOnMove
no ignorance. most likely just a little distracted.

You're right. *squints... tilts head*

Hmph.

Posted by DwellingOnMove
summary:

1. I forgive you.

2. I fear you.

yet it is heart warming if you try something similar to an apology....your try to apology is then for me one point for team ethics.
hence heart warming.

I am picking up this energy from the person I wrote about. I opened up a bit without expectation that the offense would be forgiven and we would move on. No update to give on that front as of yet.