Pity Fuck? Was this sagg woman still salty that I turned down a threesome offer with her ?

Hey hey

So

In 2019 I attended this festival and met this really physically attractive woman who is a Sagg Sun and Leo Moon. She is 6’1 and honestly looks like she stepped right off of a runway…but what I found cute about her was that she was just a nerd that was into gaming and from Minnesota. I thought her midwest accent was cute and she reminded me a little of someone who I used to know and had met at the same festival 3 years prior.

I mustered up the courage at one point ( as it was low stakes..I wasn’t trying to hook up per se) and when she was naked in our camp kitchen I gave her a compliment on her shoulder blades or earobes. I don’t remeber.

The point I was trying to be weird but funny. Anyway she giggled.

Flash forward …it’s about the last night of the festival and I am hanging out with one of my campmates and I encounter her. Apparently she had a wild night and was on some sort of drug…I think cocaine. I don’t remember exactly but basically she invites me and the campmate I am with back to her tent for a threesome. After telling us about the crazy things she had done earlier that night.

I of course freak out. She feels judged and immediately goes cold.

She barely makes eye contact with me the next day even though I try to salvage the awkwardness by being overly nice. I wasn’t trying be judgemental. It was just a knee jerk reaction. I was suprised.

Flash forward to 2023

We have encountered each other a few times through mutual friend group hang outs especially since she has just moved to LA. Things had seemed to be fine since reconnecting in 2022. Like no awkwardness and genuine niceness..at least initially.

Since May there has been a lot of touch and go passive agressiveness…as in I keep seemingly hurting her ego unintentionally.

In May during a group hangout we were having a convo about milf fetishes …she puts her self in the milf category

To which I disagree….to which she goes out of way to say she doesn’t give a f*ck.”

Later on she said something..and I told her that she was such a saggitarius

The next day she randomly brings it up after we had seemed to be getting along well ( having a 40 minute convo )

..saying how “astrology is Bulls*t”… and repeated my comment from the night before ”such a saggitarius…what does that even mean.”

Exactly one month later she hosts a tea pearty to which she forgets to invite me

And the next night at party

She gives me an apology…( i guess not a sincere one) before bringing up “pity fucking”

out of the blue around mutual friends ….saying how she used to do it all the time but not anymore.

In the back of my mind I assumed that it was directed towards me ( trying to playing on my insecurity and leverage how a lot of people would objectively say that she was out of my league ..i guess and make me second guess the incident that took place 4 years ago that I honestly thought or at least hoped she forgot…because well she was on drugs or so she claimed.)

Is she still salty?

Opinions needed.

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Hey hey


So


In 2019 I attended this festival and met this really physically attractive woman who is a Sagg Sun and Leo Moon. She is 6’1 and honestly looks like she stepped right off of a runway…but what I found cute about her was that she was just a nerd that was into gaming and from Minnesota. I thought her midwest accent was cute and she reminded me a little of someone who I used to know and had met at the same festival 3 years prior.


I mustered up the courage at one point ( as it was low stakes..I wasn’t trying to hook up per se) and when she was naked in our camp kitchen I gave her a compliment on her shoulder blades or earobes. I don’t remeber.

The point I was trying to be weird but funny. Anyway she giggled.


Flash forward …it’s about the last night of the festival and I am hanging out with one of my campmates and I encounter her. Apparently she had a wild night and was on some sort of drug…I think cocaine. I don’t remember exactly but basically she invites me and the campmate I am with back to her tent for a threesome. After telling us about the crazy things she had done earlier that night.


I of course freak out. She feels judged and immediately goes cold.

She barely makes eye contact with me the next day even though I try to salvage the awkwardness by being overly nice. I wasn’t trying be judgemental. It was just a knee jerk reaction. I was suprised.


Flash forward to 2023


We have encountered each other a few times through mutual friend group hang outs especially since she has just moved to LA. Things had seemed to be fine since reconnecting in 2022. Like no awkwardness and genuine niceness..at least initially.

Since May there has been a lot of touch and go passive agressiveness…as in I keep seemingly hurting her ego unintentionally.

In May during a group hangout we were having a convo about milf fetishes …she puts her self in the milf category

To which I disagree….to which she goes out of way to say she doesn’t give a f*ck.”


Later on she said something..and I told her that she was such a saggitarius

The next day she randomly brings it up after we had seemed to be getting along well ( having a 40 minute convo )

..saying how “astrology is Bulls*t”… and repeated my comment from the night before ”such a saggitarius…what does that even mean.”


Exactly one month later she hosts a tea pearty to which she forgets to invite me

And the next night at party

She gives me an apology…( i guess not a sincere one) before bringing up “pity fucking”

out of the blue around mutual friends ….saying how she used to do it all the time but not anymore.

In the back of my mind I assumed that it was directed towards me ( trying to playing on my insecurity and leverage how a lot of people would objectively say that she was out of my league ..i guess and make me second guess the incident that took place 4 years ago that I honestly thought or at least hoped she forgot…because well she was on drugs or so she claimed.)


Is she still salty?


Opinions needed.

Dear it hurt her feelings in a way that stuck with her. Most likely she was very into you and was overly open with you. So hit deeper.

How about you sit down and actually talk about it. Start with talking about your past selfs interest her and why. Your intentions towards her and what you were hoping for....

Then what she said and that's not your style so it spooked you. That you felt bad about how that hurt her but didn't know what to do.

How disappointed you were about it sour your relationship back then.

It sounds like you still like a lot of the same things about her as you did in the past right? Let her know that at the end.

Basically what you are doing is not turning back the clock and pretending it didn't happen because it did!

Instead your diving into to it and untangling the naut. You treat it as a blockage or clogged drain of your connect/relationship with each other. Does that make sense?

After that it's remembering and returning to what was before it happened and going from there.

Does that make sense?

Take her for a drink and say that you just don’t have random threesomes.

Sounds like a gross hippy festival seen. Icky, full of std's and sexual assault. So she's been doing yuck things all day, with men? probably didn't have a decent shower and then wants to do more yuck things with you. I'd be so disrespected by that.

Sounds gross. why do you even bother and she's a mother.

Call me a misogynistic incel all you want ladies you know I'm right.

She forgot to invite you? And she calls you a pity fuck?And you're not offended about it? Are you ultra submissive,is that your kink? She doesn't respect you lol.

She sounds like a nightmare 😣

Posted by dragonh0rsecvck
I think Sag sun can be pretty sensitive and ofc Leo moon has a strong sense of pride


What did you mean when you said you don’t think she fits into the milf category? If she’s a mom that would imply you find her unfuckable. But if she’s not a mom, it’s an acceptable comment


If that’s you in your 5th pic you’re way attractive

No she does not have a kid..and doesn’t look like she should.

She literally still looks like a runway model in her 20s/30s at 41 ( which I know is a milf age)

She knows she looks good. People throw themselves at her..it’s ridiculous.

You just wouldn’t cast her as a milf because she doesn’t have that surbaban housewife thing going on …or like curves…



And no that is not me haha.

That picuture is of a model who is also a pisces that I thought was cute back in the day.

I have short hair right now too…..but have even masculine/androgynous features. Think Black All American Ralph Lauren Androdgyny….meets Fuck Boi/Bro.

maybe I am cuter than I think…idk

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Hey hey

So

In 2019 I attended this festival and met this really physically attractive woman who is a Sagg Sun and Leo Moon. She is 6’1 and honestly looks like she stepped right off of a runway…but what I found cute about her was that she was just a nerd that was into gaming and from Minnesota. I thought her midwest accent was cute and she reminded me a little of someone who I used to know and had met at the same festival 3 years prior.

I mustered up the courage at one point ( as it was low stakes..I wasn’t trying to hook up per se) and when she was naked in our camp kitchen I gave her a compliment on her shoulder blades or earobes. I don’t remeber.

The point I was trying to be weird but funny. Anyway she giggled.

Flash forward …it’s about the last night of the festival and I am hanging out with one of my campmates and I encounter her. Apparently she had a wild night and was on some sort of drug…I think cocaine. I don’t remember exactly but basically she invites me and the campmate I am with back to her tent for a threesome. After telling us about the crazy things she had done earlier that night.

I of course freak out. She feels judged and immediately goes cold.

She barely makes eye contact with me the next day even though I try to salvage the awkwardness by being overly nice. I wasn’t trying be judgemental. It was just a knee jerk reaction. I was suprised.

Flash forward to 2023

We have encountered each other a few times through mutual friend group hang outs especially since she has just moved to LA. Things had seemed to be fine since reconnecting in 2022. Like no awkwardness and genuine niceness..at least initially.

Since May there has been a lot of touch and go passive agressiveness…as in I keep seemingly hurting her ego unintentionally.

In May during a group hangout we were having a convo about milf fetishes …she puts her self in the milf category

To which I disagree….to which she goes out of way to say she doesn’t give a f*ck.”

Later on she said something..and I told her that she was such a saggitarius

The next day she randomly brings it up after we had seemed to be getting along well ( having a 40 minute convo )

..saying how “astrology is Bulls*t”… and repeated my comment from the night before ”such a saggitarius…what does that even mean.”

Exactly one month later she hosts a tea pearty to which she forgets to invite me

And the next night at party

She gives me an apology…( i guess not a sincere one) before bringing up “pity fucking”

out of the blue around mutual friends ….saying how she used to do it all the time but not anymore.

In the back of my mind I assumed that it was directed towards me ( trying to playing on my insecurity and leverage how a lot of people would objectively say that she was out of my league ..i guess and make me second guess the incident that took place 4 years ago that I honestly thought or at least hoped she forgot…because well she was on drugs or so she claimed.)

Is she still salty?

Opinions needed.

Dear it hurt her feelings in a way that stuck with her. Most likely she was very into you and was overly open with you. So hit deeper.


How about you sit down and actually talk about it. Start with talking about your past selfs interest her and why. Your intentions towards her and what you were hoping for....

Then what she said and that's not your style so it spooked you. That you felt bad about how that hurt her but didn't know what to do.

How disappointed you were about it sour your relationship back then.


It sounds like you still like a lot of the same things about her as you did in the past right? Let her know that at the end.


Basically what you are doing is not turning back the clock and pretending it didn't happen because it did!

Instead your diving into to it and untangling the naut. You treat it as a blockage or clogged drain of your connect/relationship with each other. Does that make sense?

After that it's remembering and returning to what was before it happened and going from there.

Does that make sense?

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Thank you!

I appreciate your thoughtful and thorough comment!

yeah I really don’t think she was super into me ( or at all really) as again we barely had a convo if any before the threesome offer.

I think I just unintentionally bruised her ego and she probably isn’t used to being turned down because she’s super goregous.

Posted by DMV
Take her for a drink and say that you just don’t have random threesomes.

Facts!

I thought my reputation as being asexual/demi had preceeded me but I guess not in that situation.

Posted by Eggroll
What does you freaking out look like? What did you say to her exactly when she proposed a threesome? And why did you disagree with her on being a milf?


Based on limited information you sound like you’re intentionally trying to knock her down a peg. Maybe you’re insulted she didn’t like you more than just someone to have a 3some with?


“Hurting her ego unintentionally”


You sound like a bit of a hater though to be honest. If I consider you a friend and I refer to myself as a milf and you disagree ….for what reason? Why are you even debating? Especially because you’re the one who flirted with her in the beginning.


Sag is just saying “I think I’m attractive.” And you’re saying “Well, I think not”. It might be you that’s still salty.

I feel like I could see your point….I did think of this too

were it could seem like I was negging her but I really truly wasn’t.

OFC she’s attractive…no one doubts it.

But I disagreed with her being a milf because she’s like super thin and kind of edgy ( think victoria secret angel or like a vogue model) and doesn’t give milf energy.

Like if I were casting director maybe she would be like the cool aunt or older sister who modeled as a teen and lives in new york… that everyone had a crush on but not a milf as she doesn’t have curves really or like the suburban house wife thing going on.

——

But as far as being an asshole to her …I don’t think I am.

I still gave her compliments on other stuff and act like I am attracted to her at other times…especially when she’s like doing something nice for someone/looking out for someone ( those were the times I found her the most attractive).

Posted by FValentina
She forgot to invite you? And she calls you a pity fuck?And you're not offended about it? Are you ultra submissive,is that your kink? She doesn't respect you lol.

I mean I did speak up about the tea party thing to mutual friends.

And the pity fuck thing was indirect.

I don’t think I needed to call her out on the indirect pity fuck comment….she looked like a tool/douche as she elaborated on it to our group of mutual friends.

She left the party shortly thereafter…though I’m sure people just chalked it up to her being drunk.

Posted by Saturn_Returns
You've been on dxp for all these years and are still clueless...


With a fire sun AND moon, this woman is all about drama, attention and satisfying her ego. On all those past occasions, you either didn't play ball or unintentionally inflicted perceived slights. That's why she's being passive-aggressive with you all the time.


Sag women don't like being turned down, especially when they offer sex on a plate. This much I know. It really hurts their pride. Coupled with her me, me, me moon, that's not a great combination. It's pretty clear she's selfish, immature, inconsiderate and catty.


Based on the above, plus her seemingly reckless life style , I'm at odds as to why you even care about her or what she thinks about you.


Seriously, cut the cord and move on, as nothing good will come out of this association.

I really want a sweatshirt that says “I’ve been on Dxp all these years…and am still clueless.”

LMAO

dead

Does she have nasolabial folds at 41?

Posted by Saturn_Returns
You've been on dxp for all these years and are still clueless...


With a fire sun AND moon, this woman is all about drama, attention and satisfying her ego. On all those past occasions, you either didn't play ball or unintentionally inflicted perceived slights. That's why she's being passive-aggressive with you all the time.


Sag women don't like being turned down, especially when they offer sex on a plate. This much I know. It really hurts their pride. Coupled with her me, me, me moon, that's not a great combination. It's pretty clear she's selfish, immature, inconsiderate and catty.


Based on the above, plus her seemingly reckless life style , I'm at odds as to why you even care about her or what she thinks about you.


Seriously, cut the cord and move on, as nothing good will come out of this association.

Also I agree with everything you said. I’m really bad at reading people intitally. I was blinded by the random acts of altruism I saw she participated in . The attention thing I think your especially right as I’ve seen her attempts to get it in the group. She literally always gets it…which again it makes sense that she would be offended by me when she as you put offered sex on the platter.

to be honest when she offered it I didn’t take her seriously because ahain she was on drugs and it really seemed she was doing it just for the story aspect…like the continuation of wild night

( snorting cocaine off of some guy’s penis in the orgy dome and then finishing the night back at camp with a threesome with to black lesbians) *eye roll*

I guess I posted this because the pity fuck thing really bothered me.

In a way it made me feel better about not having the the threesome…not that I could ever really do something like that but yeah.

It felt good that I ultimately did not to have sex with someone that immature.

Posted by Saturn_Returns
Seriously, what is the point of this discussion when all you're seeking is validation?

For some superficial reason, you're obviously hung-up on her. But it doesn't matter how gorgeous she is, she isn't a very nice person.

Why people give slack towards those who are beautiful on the outside but ugly on the inside completely baffles me.

Even if you both sorted out your 'differences', what are you going to do when she next plays up again over yet another perceived slight?

If you're eager for a one-night stand, proceed with caution. However, if you're expecting something more from her, you're deluding yourself, as you're the only one who's going to get hurt.

Not hung up on her per se.

I feel bad that I hurt her feelings even though obviosuly she is not a nice person.

Could be because I am a pisces or maybe because I was raised by two people who are also awful

that made me put their emotional needs before theirs even and especially when they were being awful.

Lastly the point of this discussion really was just to get some clarity from outside perspectives so that I properly could process everything and make sure I got all the learning lessons out of this past scenario that I am supposed to….so again no repeats in the future.

Posted by StubbornSag
You are giving way too much credit to Sag's "feelings"😂 you seriously think we hold grudges for that long or feelings at all for someone who didn't desire us at some point in life? LMAO

Let me just tell you this - I've been rejected and I've had guys I liked to not like me back. And oh look, I'm still alive and don't give a damn about them, where they are or what they're doing! Shit happens move on. Not everyone has to desire you and that's perfectly fine and normal. Also you are way into your own feelings and are projecting it on her. She doesn't give a damn about what happened 4 years ago but she is clearly insulted by your attitude NOW which is exactly how she acted. Also, when you're in places like that what you described and people like that - how do you expect some normal course of events to happen afterwards?!

This is what I though too…

but again my current attitude I feel doesn’t warrant the passive aggressiveness.

And explain the pity fuck comment?

Like it was really out of pocket /left field.

No context/ wasn’t related to anything.

So really my initial theiry that she forgot about it/ didn’t care ….I believe was wrong.



I hurt her ego…not her feelings as she didn’t have any for me really…this I am sure.

Posted by Basic
Does she have nasolabial folds at 41?

like the pronounced lines around the mouth?



I can’t remeber ..i think so but like not that pronounced or as prononced as you would expect for her age.

I realize fillers are a definite possibility… not that any of that matters.

But I realized she did lie about her age last September when she said she was 38.

She told me she was 41 this year when we were all hanging out with others in a group that included three other people who were a similar age or even slightly older who look like they are in their 40 ( their actual age).

She could pass for mid 30s.

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Posted by Saturn_Returns
Seriously, what is the point of this discussion when all you're seeking is validation?



For some superficial reason, you're obviously hung-up on her. But it doesn't matter how gorgeous she is, she isn't a very nice person.



Why people give slack towards those who are beautiful on the outside but ugly on the inside completely baffles me.



Even if you both sorted out your 'differences', what are you going to do when she next plays up again over yet another perceived slight?



If you're eager for a one-night stand, proceed with caution. However, if you're expecting something more from her, you're deluding yourself, as you're the only one who's going to get hurt.

Not hung up on her per se.


I feel bad that I hurt her feelings even though obviosuly she is not a nice person.


Could be because I am a pisces or maybe because iIwas raised by two people who are also awful

that made me put their emotional needs before theirs…even and especially when they were being awful.


Lastly the point of this discussion really was just to get some clarity from outside perspectives so that I poperly could process everything and make sure I got all the learning lessons out of this past scenario that I am supposed to….so again no repeats in the future.

Listen, it's your life, so do whatever you see fit.

However, I'm not going to participate in this thread by giving you false hope, laced with American bullshit optimism. More often than not, that does more harm than good.

Anyway, I'll leave you now to continue processing your thoughts in public.

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I’m not doing anything. I have no plans of interacting with this person ever again..but I could not talk with people who also know her about the past situation…for obvious reasons…so I turned to the internet. haha

But yeah thanks I guess.lol

Just seems like you keep judging her unintentionally, she's taking offense to it, and doesn't care too much for interacting with you.

Leo moons have lots of pride and you seem to keep saying passive aggressive digs. It's probably annoying her.

I don't think it has much to do with the threesome, but every time you see her, you have something negative to say or just plain disagreeing with what she thinks of her self in some way or another. She seems to be choosing to keep her distance from you since you are putting out negativity directed at her.

Sagittarius are usually very defensive when verbally attacked.

You don't want to mix sexual energy with someone like that.

I think she was being sarcastic about the pity fuck, just trying to say something negative to you because of all that's been said to her.

I don't think she will be interested at all in any type of intimacy now. Negativity can leave a bad taste in anyone's mouth, it's not sexy.

You shouldn't feel bad, per say.

A sag doesn't care that much, but you keep doing things every time you see her, and so it's like what's the point in interacting with her.

It's wasted breath on your part if she doesn't talk to you and you always have something to say to her.- I don't know if her words were directed at me when she was randomly saying stuff or just said out loud in the group.

How did you show up to the party if she didn't invite you?

If she is sexually promiscuous and has threesomes with randoms on a regular basis at these events, I can’t imagine thinking that comment was directed towards you after several years. There has probably been many, many women that applies to. I don’t know/understand double fire energy to know that she would hold onto that one rejection for years.

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Posted by Eggroll
What does you freaking out look like? What did you say to her exactly when she proposed a threesome? And why did you disagree with her on being a milf?

Based on limited information you sound like you’re intentionally trying to knock her down a peg. Maybe you’re insulted she didn’t like you more than just someone to have a 3some with?

“Hurting her ego unintentionally”

You sound like a bit of a hater though to be honest. If I consider you a friend and I refer to myself as a milf and you disagree ….for what reason? Why are you even debating? Especially because you’re the one who flirted with her in the beginning.

Sag is just saying “I think I’m attractive.” And you’re saying “Well, I think not”. It might be you that’s still salty.

I feel like I could see your point….I did think of this too

were it could seem like I was negging her but I really truly wasn’t.


OFC she’s attractive…no one doubts it.


But I disagreed with her being a milf because she’s like super thin and kind of edgy ( think victoria secret angel or like a vogue model) and doesn’t give milf energy.


Like if I were casting director maybe she would be like the cool aunt or older sister who modeled as a teen and lives in new york… that everyone had a crush on but not a milf as she doesn’t have curves really or like the suburban house wife thing going on.

——


But as far as being an asshole to her …I don’t think I am.

I still gave her compliments on other stuff and act like I am attracted to her at other times…especially when she’s like doing something nice for someone/looking out for someone ( those were the times I found her the most attractive).

I guess I still don’t understand what you’re doing. You say you’re attracted to her. Why do you need to argue with anyone about hypotheticals lol. If she wants to see herself as a milf, what do you hope to get out of disagreeing with her?

You didn’t really explain the freaking out part either. When she asked you for a threesome what exactly did you say to her? You couldn’t have been that turned off by whatever she did that night because you still continue to compliment her and say you’re attracted to her.

You like her but you’re hurt her only interest in you was a hookup and not a monogamous relationship?

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I think really my ADD gets me into trouble…as I blurt out things that I shouldn’t at times ( including the milf comment). As for the freak out…..I don’t remember exactly what I said because it was almost 4 years ago. I know it wasn’t enthusiastic but at the same time I don’t think was it judgemental..at least it wasn’t my intention. I probably said something about me being a boring / square at some point as that is usually my go to when propositioned with something a little out of my element like hard drugs or in this case group sex with people I barely know.



And no I don’t like her. Yes she is physically attractive and I thought she was even more attractive when she did nice things for other people in the friend group , or when we would exchange some intellectual banter ….but she is not really my type (in terms of life style / interests).

I have a mutual friend who is a gemini that I know is at least sexually interested and I think they are a far better match.

But in general the last woman I liked / who I am a bit ashamed about ( because she was bad news) fit more of the type of women I tend to go for …..girl next door types who aren’t really into partying/ the drug and or kink scene.Open minded …yes ..but still a bit conservative or at least presents that way.

Physically…cute , and very curvy and feminine ….

The last girl I liked did actually did look like a milf/ had the hot suburban housewife thing going on.

She literally looked like she was going to bake you cookies. But she was a fuckboi*.lol

I got my heartbroken but I learned a lot.

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Posted by dragonh0rsecvck
I think Sag sun can be pretty sensitive and ofc Leo moon has a strong sense of pride

What did you mean when you said you don’t think she fits into the milf category? If she’s a mom that would imply you find her unfuckable. But if she’s not a mom, it’s an acceptable comment

If that’s you in your 5th pic you’re way attractive

No she does not have a kid..and doesn’t look like she should.

She literally still looks like a runway model in her 20s/30s at 41 ( which I know is a milf age)

She knows she looks good. People throw themselves at her..it’s ridiculous.

You just wouldn’t cast her as a milf because she doesn’t have that surbaban housewife thing going on …or like curves…


And no that is not me haha.

That picuture is of a model who is also a pisces that I thought was cute back in the day.

I have short hair right now too…..but have even masculine/androgynous features. Think Black All American Ralph Lauren Androdgyny….meets Fuck Boi/Bro.

maybe I am cuter than I think…idk

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I was about to say that sounds like the beautiful Ruby Rose, then I googled “Ralph Lauren Androgyny” and realized she was the model for that campaign (: I’m sure you’re very cute. And if Sag is such a sensitive snob perhaps her tea party wasn’t a smash hit.

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The place looked really cute and I was excited to hang out with mutual friends.

I’ve wanted to go to a high tea with company for awhile now. It seems like such a cute idea…especially somewhere like in London at The Savoy complete with champagne and those little sandwiches.

Maybe one day!!

Posted by saggurl88
I think she was being sarcastic about the pity fuck, just trying to say something negative to you because of all that's been said to her.


I don't think she will be interested at all in any type of intimacy now. Negativity can leave a bad taste in anyone's mouth, it's not sexy.


You shouldn't feel bad, per say.


A sag doesn't care that much, but you keep doing things every time you see her, and so it's like what's the point in interacting with her.


It's wasted breath on your part if she doesn't talk to you and you always have something to say to her.- I don't know if her words were directed at me when she was randomly saying stuff or just said out loud in the group.


How did you show up to the party if she didn't invite you?

It wasn’t her party. It was more like a pre game hangout before we all went out to this lesbian party in downtown.

As for the tea party meet up that happened the day before that was the only event that she came up with and organized that weekend. It was also like three miles from where her and I both luve as we live pretty close to one another.

Because a bunch of mutual friends were in town for LA Pride weekend and there was stuff / meet ups happening all weekend long and I was invited through mutual friends to the other stuff ….however I was mostly butt hurt about the tea party thing because that was actually more my scene than the other stuff I was invited to.

I am much more of a food gathering person ( like brunch ) or recreational group activity person ( like theme park with friends) than like partying/clubbing.

Posted by Walk_on_by
You don't want to mix sexual energy with someone like that.

I agree.

I just want to meet a nice girl.

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by saggurl88
I think she was being sarcastic about the pity fuck, just trying to say something negative to you because of all that's been said to her.


I don't think she will be interested at all in any type of intimacy now. Negativity can leave a bad taste in anyone's mouth, it's not sexy.


You shouldn't feel bad, per say.


A sag doesn't care that much, but you keep doing things every time you see her, and so it's like what's the point in interacting with her.


It's wasted breath on your part if she doesn't talk to you and you always have something to say to her.- I don't know if her words were directed at me when she was randomly saying stuff or just said out loud in the group.


How did you show up to the party if she didn't invite you?

It wasn’t her party. It was more like a pre game hangout before we all went out to this lesbian party in downtown.
As for the tea party meet up that happened the day before that was the only event that she came up with and organized that weekend. It was also like three miles from where her and I both luve as we live pretty close to one another.

Because a bunch of mutual friends were in town for LA Pride weekend and there was stuff / meet ups happening all weekend long and I was invited through mutual friends to the other stuff ….however I was mostly butt hurt about the tea party thing because that was actually more my scene than the other stuff I was invited to.

I am much more of a food gathering person ( like brunch ) or recreational group activity person ( like theme park with friends) than like partying/clubbing.

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Wow, you seem like fun. I'm sorry that things got off on the wrong foot with you guys. Sag can forgive pretty easily when they are butt hurt, but it has to be at the expense of you playing nicer lol

We like good times and good vibes, just like you Pisces do. Passive aggressiveness or negative energy is a mood killer and feels icky, like it's a disease trying to creep into our system and you are the root cause of it. 😬

If you want to be her friend, just be authentic, you don't have to kiss her ass or shower her with compliments (she may think they are fake and the compliment is a lie, since you have so much else to say about her), but talking in a regular way that is friendly and normal can help.

If you don't care about being her friend, she may not mind that either. just move around her in your friends circles.

I don't think Sag notice much if people avoid them.

We can be people pleasers to our friends that we care about but relieved when the ones we don't vibe with stay away.

At least that's how I can be. I'm not much for confrontation and it's easier to keep the peace by being avoidant.

Leo moons can be avoidant because they are just flat out annoyed with a person and think you don't deserve their time. They have lots of pride, double because of all that fire.

I think inviting her out and asking to "start over" is a good start if you want to be friends.

Both Sag and Leos are very forgiving and just like nice people- as shallow as that sounds.

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...Adreamuponwaking



How do you find these places?



And I do think she is salty.



I think it's getting hot though.

Like, tension, sexual tension ?











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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Hey hey

So

In 2019 I attended this festival and met this really physically attractive woman who is a Sagg Sun and Leo Moon. She is 6’1 and honestly looks like she stepped right off of a runway…but what I found cute about her was that she was just a nerd that was into gaming and from Minnesota. I thought her midwest accent was cute and she reminded me a little of someone who I used to know and had met at the same festival 3 years prior.

I mustered up the courage at one point ( as it was low stakes..I wasn’t trying to hook up per se) and when she was naked in our camp kitchen I gave her a compliment on her shoulder blades or earobes. I don’t remeber.

The point I was trying to be weird but funny. Anyway she giggled.

Flash forward …it’s about the last night of the festival and I am hanging out with one of my campmates and I encounter her. Apparently she had a wild night and was on some sort of drug…I think cocaine. I don’t remember exactly but basically she invites me and the campmate I am with back to her tent for a threesome. After telling us about the crazy things she had done earlier that night.

I of course freak out. She feels judged and immediately goes cold.

She barely makes eye contact with me the next day even though I try to salvage the awkwardness by being overly nice. I wasn’t trying be judgemental. It was just a knee jerk reaction. I was suprised.

Flash forward to 2023

We have encountered each other a few times through mutual friend group hang outs especially since she has just moved to LA. Things had seemed to be fine since reconnecting in 2022. Like no awkwardness and genuine niceness..at least initially.

Since May there has been a lot of touch and go passive agressiveness…as in I keep seemingly hurting her ego unintentionally.

In May during a group hangout we were having a convo about milf fetishes …she puts her self in the milf category

To which I disagree….to which she goes out of way to say she doesn’t give a f*ck.”

Later on she said something..and I told her that she was such a saggitarius

The next day she randomly brings it up after we had seemed to be getting along well ( having a 40 minute convo )

..saying how “astrology is Bulls*t”… and repeated my comment from the night before ”such a saggitarius…what does that even mean.”

Exactly one month later she hosts a tea pearty to which she forgets to invite me

And the next night at party

She gives me an apology…( i guess not a sincere one) before bringing up “pity fucking”

out of the blue around mutual friends ….saying how she used to do it all the time but not anymore.

In the back of my mind I assumed that it was directed towards me ( trying to playing on my insecurity and leverage how a lot of people would objectively say that she was out of my league ..i guess and make me second guess the incident that took place 4 years ago that I honestly thought or at least hoped she forgot…because well she was on drugs or so she claimed.)

Is she still salty?

Opinions needed.

Dear it hurt her feelings in a way that stuck with her. Most likely she was very into you and was overly open with you. So hit deeper.


How about you sit down and actually talk about it. Start with talking about your past selfs interest her and why. Your intentions towards her and what you were hoping for....

Then what she said and that's not your style so it spooked you. That you felt bad about how that hurt her but didn't know what to do.

How disappointed you were about it sour your relationship back then.


It sounds like you still like a lot of the same things about her as you did in the past right? Let her know that at the end.


Basically what you are doing is not turning back the clock and pretending it didn't happen because it did!

Instead your diving into to it and untangling the naut. You treat it as a blockage or clogged drain of your connect/relationship with each other. Does that make sense?

After that it's remembering and returning to what was before it happened and going from there.

Does that make sense?

Thank you!

I appreciate your thoughtful and thorough comment!

yeah I really don’t think she was super into me ( or at all really) as again we barely had a convo if any before the threesome offer.

I think I just unintentionally bruised her ego and she probably isn’t used to being turned down because she’s super goregous.

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Lmao No dear "gorgeous people" are human too with emotions, feelings, insecurities too.

As well as caring what others think ESPECIALLY from those they like and care about. In may not be a romantic connection but there was something there so it hit deep.

We can be into someone beyond romantic interest🙂



If what you said didn't matter to her she would have shaken it off long ago and ego wise get back at you like snubbing you back or ignoring you.

But no nothing like that happened. Instead you are having long friendly conversations, banter, and etc

but she is making those comments about not caring what you think like a shield 🛡️. Then you thought of a incident with her and you believe this is the origin of those comments. Given that context,

the comments she makes about not caring what you think, that's a froudeant slip.

It's her ego protecting her feelings by pushing back on the truth..She cares what you think🙂

Otherwise she would have absolutely been able to blow it all off in a sag fashion like you said, but she isn't. It's staying with her.

Lmao everything points to you mattering to her on some level.

But she shouldn't care because she is gorgous?

Lmao As a woman and someone with experience with woman you know how they can be especially fronting with emotional stuff. Just because she is attractive doesn't mean she isn't a human and a woman with all the things that come with that.

You know what's up, you said it all yourself. go bury the hatchet with this by talking about it and claim a good friend in her at the very least.

Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Hey hey

So

In 2019 I attended this festival and met this really physically attractive woman who is a Sagg Sun and Leo Moon. She is 6’1 and honestly looks like she stepped right off of a runway…but what I found cute about her was that she was just a nerd that was into gaming and from Minnesota. I thought her midwest accent was cute and she reminded me a little of someone who I used to know and had met at the same festival 3 years prior.

I mustered up the courage at one point ( as it was low stakes..I wasn’t trying to hook up per se) and when she was naked in our camp kitchen I gave her a compliment on her shoulder blades or earobes. I don’t remeber.

The point I was trying to be weird but funny. Anyway she giggled.

Flash forward …it’s about the last night of the festival and I am hanging out with one of my campmates and I encounter her. Apparently she had a wild night and was on some sort of drug…I think cocaine. I don’t remember exactly but basically she invites me and the campmate I am with back to her tent for a threesome. After telling us about the crazy things she had done earlier that night.

I of course freak out. She feels judged and immediately goes cold.

She barely makes eye contact with me the next day even though I try to salvage the awkwardness by being overly nice. I wasn’t trying be judgemental. It was just a knee jerk reaction. I was suprised.

Flash forward to 2023

We have encountered each other a few times through mutual friend group hang outs especially since she has just moved to LA. Things had seemed to be fine since reconnecting in 2022. Like no awkwardness and genuine niceness..at least initially.

Since May there has been a lot of touch and go passive agressiveness…as in I keep seemingly hurting her ego unintentionally.

In May during a group hangout we were having a convo about milf fetishes …she puts her self in the milf category

To which I disagree….to which she goes out of way to say she doesn’t give a f*ck.”

Later on she said something..and I told her that she was such a saggitarius

The next day she randomly brings it up after we had seemed to be getting along well ( having a 40 minute convo )

..saying how “astrology is Bulls*t”… and repeated my comment from the night before ”such a saggitarius…what does that even mean.”

Exactly one month later she hosts a tea pearty to which she forgets to invite me

And the next night at party

She gives me an apology…( i guess not a sincere one) before bringing up “pity fucking”

out of the blue around mutual friends ….saying how she used to do it all the time but not anymore.

In the back of my mind I assumed that it was directed towards me ( trying to playing on my insecurity and leverage how a lot of people would objectively say that she was out of my league ..i guess and make me second guess the incident that took place 4 years ago that I honestly thought or at least hoped she forgot…because well she was on drugs or so she claimed.)

Is she still salty?

Opinions needed.

Dear it hurt her feelings in a way that stuck with her. Most likely she was very into you and was overly open with you. So hit deeper.


How about you sit down and actually talk about it. Start with talking about your past selfs interest her and why. Your intentions towards her and what you were hoping for....

Then what she said and that's not your style so it spooked you. That you felt bad about how that hurt her but didn't know what to do.

How disappointed you were about it sour your relationship back then.


It sounds like you still like a lot of the same things about her as you did in the past right? Let her know that at the end.


Basically what you are doing is not turning back the clock and pretending it didn't happen because it did!

Instead your diving into to it and untangling the naut. You treat it as a blockage or clogged drain of your connect/relationship with each other. Does that make sense?

After that it's remembering and returning to what was before it happened and going from there.

Does that make sense?

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Sounds exhausting having to

Walk on eggshells

You’ve done nothing wrong they is so much apologizing u can do

Just remember those sexy models like amber heard

She acting the part too

Posted by Truemara

Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Hey hey

So

In 2019 I attended this festival and met this really physically attractive woman who is a Sagg Sun and Leo Moon. She is 6’1 and honestly looks like she stepped right off of a runway…but what I found cute about her was that she was just a nerd that was into gaming and from Minnesota. I thought her midwest accent was cute and she reminded me a little of someone who I used to know and had met at the same festival 3 years prior.

I mustered up the courage at one point ( as it was low stakes..I wasn’t trying to hook up per se) and when she was naked in our camp kitchen I gave her a compliment on her shoulder blades or earobes. I don’t remeber.

The point I was trying to be weird but funny. Anyway she giggled.

Flash forward …it’s about the last night of the festival and I am hanging out with one of my campmates and I encounter her. Apparently she had a wild night and was on some sort of drug…I think cocaine. I don’t remember exactly but basically she invites me and the campmate I am with back to her tent for a threesome. After telling us about the crazy things she had done earlier that night.

I of course freak out. She feels judged and immediately goes cold.

She barely makes eye contact with me the next day even though I try to salvage the awkwardness by being overly nice. I wasn’t trying be judgemental. It was just a knee jerk reaction. I was suprised.

Flash forward to 2023

We have encountered each other a few times through mutual friend group hang outs especially since she has just moved to LA. Things had seemed to be fine since reconnecting in 2022. Like no awkwardness and genuine niceness..at least initially.

Since May there has been a lot of touch and go passive agressiveness…as in I keep seemingly hurting her ego unintentionally.

In May during a group hangout we were having a convo about milf fetishes …she puts her self in the milf category

To which I disagree….to which she goes out of way to say she doesn’t give a f*ck.”

Later on she said something..and I told her that she was such a saggitarius

The next day she randomly brings it up after we had seemed to be getting along well ( having a 40 minute convo )

..saying how “astrology is Bulls*t”… and repeated my comment from the night before ”such a saggitarius…what does that even mean.”

Exactly one month later she hosts a tea pearty to which she forgets to invite me

And the next night at party

She gives me an apology…( i guess not a sincere one) before bringing up “pity fucking”

out of the blue around mutual friends ….saying how she used to do it all the time but not anymore.

In the back of my mind I assumed that it was directed towards me ( trying to playing on my insecurity and leverage how a lot of people would objectively say that she was out of my league ..i guess and make me second guess the incident that took place 4 years ago that I honestly thought or at least hoped she forgot…because well she was on drugs or so she claimed.)

Is she still salty?

Opinions needed.

Dear it hurt her feelings in a way that stuck with her. Most likely she was very into you and was overly open with you. So hit deeper.


How about you sit down and actually talk about it. Start with talking about your past selfs interest her and why. Your intentions towards her and what you were hoping for....

Then what she said and that's not your style so it spooked you. That you felt bad about how that hurt her but didn't know what to do.

How disappointed you were about it sour your relationship back then.


It sounds like you still like a lot of the same things about her as you did in the past right? Let her know that at the end.


Basically what you are doing is not turning back the clock and pretending it didn't happen because it did!

Instead your diving into to it and untangling the naut. You treat it as a blockage or clogged drain of your connect/relationship with each other. Does that make sense?

After that it's remembering and returning to what was before it happened and going from there.

Does that make sense?

Sounds exhausting having to
Walk on eggshells
You’ve done nothing wrong they is so much apologizing u can do

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Exactly! Why just endure it, when you can confront it and resolve it?

How much bullshit do we all deal with because we don't deal with things?

Posted by xxAjuxx
👀🍿🍿🍿



...Adreamuponwaking



How do you find these places?



And I do think she is salty.



I think it's getting hot though.

Like, tension, sexual tension ?















☽

Nah….no chance / no tension.

I do agree that she is salty though.