Sag woman and gem man

My advice your still young. Focus on yourself first. Always love yourself first.

A toxic relationship can drain you emotionally & mentally. Outcome not always good. I feel like you guys do have love for one another. I think it would be better focus on a friendship between one another. ( Trust me I was in a toxic relationship for two years) not fun what's so ever.

That way both of you guys can work on your issues that you have. Work on being a better person. Live your life, focus on school and don't worry about him right now. Just yourself.

That's my opinion, I wish u the best in life.

Nope

Posted by CaringSagittarius
Well yea I realized it was toxic and I was making my best effort to move on, and we still aren't together, it's not like I'm taking him back with open arms immediately. Right now technically we're both not talking to other people, and we are both working on ourselves. But he's basically working on himself, so that he can be the man he wants to be FOR me. And I can tell when someone is faking emotions and just acting, or just playing me, I'm not stupid. This is the real deal. I am focusing on myself right now, mostly on making myself happy on my own. I know I can't depend on anyone else for my happiness, but I'm asking once we work through these things on our own, I'll probably give him one last chance, and how do I prevent him from getting scared again

Nope

You can't control his feelings. If all this self improvement (on both ends) doesn't work on letting his guard down enough to be comfortable in sharing feelings and being intense, or at least in your intensity, then maybe it just isn't meant to work out. If you try, you try...can't beat yourself up over it.

My Gem and I met and got together in college. Fell fast and hard, went thru some shit, got over it, and we've been together for 6 years. But we don't ever get too intense about each other, like what you've stated about your Gem...so idk if this is good advice or not. I tried... 🙂

Posted by CaringSagittarius
Well the thing is I'm not the one getting intense like I said, I mean my actions have always proven to him that I'm there for him, and that I love him, but he's the one to always bring up marriage and how intense he feels for me. It's all in his head, I've never tried to perpetuate that idea. I don't necessarily want to control his emotions, but like eventually when we get back together, I want to make sure we take things slowly, and like calm down, instead of going 0 to 100, which is how it's been everytime we get together, even the first time things just went so quickly because we had been friends for a long period of time and already had that emotional bond.

My Gem has a tendency to be more intense than me - I blame his Cap moon lol. He's the one who wants to talk about the touchy subjects and commitment and all that. Although, we're both in agreement that marriage isn't necessary...personal and family reasons on both ends. We met and had moved in together within a couple months of meeting and starting the relationship...so I understand the going 0-100 lol. I think that instead of worrying about what the future holds (hard for me since anxiety issues as well but I deal) we try to enjoy the present and it seems to work for us.