Saggitarius broke my heart in a zillion pieces.=(

So...thank God im able to type this n you guys cant see me crying while typing. Crazy thing is...this happen 3 months ago and i'm still fugged up over it...smh. forgive me everyone. However in a couple weeks it would have been our 1yr anniversary. He was my first love,and its been really hard letting go. He dumped me 3 months ago when i found out he had a gf the whole 1st 6 mths of our relationship. He was supposedly not in love with her, and had been cheating on her since they met, he claimed he was only with her because she made everything so easy and she was nice to him and he didn't think he was capable of falling in love after his 1st love broke his heart, until he met me. So naturally at first i wrote him off as an asshole and i dumped him. But he begged and pleaded for 2 weeks like clockwork for me to give him a chance to break things off with her. I did. Things were good, we even went apartment shopping and picked one, signed on the waiting list and everything. But...i could never get over the fact that he lied in the first place, i was on his head every minute. I tried to calm down, but he could still tell how hurt i was. So he dumped me, saying that i was an excellent woman and he couldn't do that to me anymore. I cried that whole day. I dont know what im expecting you people to tell me or say to me...im so messed up i guess im just venting. I feel so stupid and im tired of talking to family and friends about it. Quite frankly i think they're tired of hearing it. I was gona text him happy b-day when it comes up in a few weeks but everytime i think of buring the hatchet i get pissed all over again...my God its been 3 months yall would think i would be over him by now...smh...this is so not fair. He lied. I know myself. I wouldn't have NEVER fell for a guy with a gf. Im not that kind of person. Guess i deserve this for not leaving right away when i found out. Guess love had me twisted...i guess ~signed a broken heart~ 😢

I am sorry this happened to you Pink. It sounds like he loves you but is not ready for a serious commitment right now. He may change his mind down the road. Try to move on and keep busy. I know how hard that is but you may come to realize that he wasn't even worthy of you after time. And I say that because he isn't. You deserve more of a man.

You're just lucky that he realized that you were too good for him, tbh.

Thank You so much both of you.I feel better today. My mom said the same thing LadySagg...and FancyPants you sound just like my bestfriend. I've been very busy almost pushing him out of my memories, but like i said with so much happening to remind me that he did exist and he did break my heart...lets just say im taken back into the that dark and cruel tunnel of emotions. The craziest thing that happen recently was the apartment agent we spoke with calling to see if he and i were still looking to move in this month. I damn dropped my phone in a near by puddle when he said my name attached to his last name like we were married or something...lol

Ahhh, yes.
It's terrible when there are so many reminders of break-ups or painful thing overall.
Since you are a Libra (I'm guessing from your username, hahah.) you probably let that stumbling Sagittarius man walk allover you!
'Tis a shame.
Hope you start feeling better about it soon!

LOL. no lovebucket, i haven't. we're still cool tho. FancyPants actually i sort of hand the upper hand at first..however im not afraid to admitt that once i fell in love i lost my grip. But whenever i was pissed at him, he curled up like ball and turned sweeter than a homemade hunnybun...always afraid i was gonna leave, then he left.lol. go figure...

if i were you i would have stayed away from him from the beginning as he was cheating on his gf so that would have been a good reason for you to not even think about him as a bf for you. i think like this if he cheats on his gf he will cheat on you.

so i am not sad for, i am actually happy as you would have been more hurt if you got him to be your bf for longer. you would only find out that he cheated on you several times and i think that hurts even more.

always try to hold on and not fall in love too fast. be sure that he is a good guy and meet his friends and ask about him and stuff. you can never be 100% but try to get to know the guy as much as you can before falling. i know it can be hard but do it to protect your heart from idiots.

take this as a lesson and learn from it and be happy. if you do not learn from these mistakes you will only get hurt again and again.

@ Lovebucket, YES! What you read about them is 100% true.lol. I had everything and i do mean EVERYTHING under control AT FIRST, butonce i fell in love with him, it was a wrap. All i wanted to do was make him happy, make US happy. He claimed he never loved anyone as much as me, thats why he didn't know how he was gonna break the news about his bf... but all of you might wanna know, although he didnt willingly tell me about her but when i found out and asked him he confessed everything. Anyway, it doesn't justify anything...im still jus venting.lol. But Lovebucket, he always told me what a wonderful woman he thought i was. He even asked me to marry him like 3x (A SAGG MAN MENTION MARRIAGE! YEA RIGHT!)LOL. I dunno if he meant it, i never so a ring so..yea.lol.But my mom says if a man know's he's no good he will always "spare" the one he truly cares about at least until he's ready...Unfortunately for most men, they're almost ALWAYS too late. 😉

@DynamitePerfect, thank u soooo much for your insight. Its nice to know that i can talk to others and you guys dont even know me and you can at least try to understand what im going through. i have my moments when i miss our good times, or when im sad about the way things played out. But i have tell ALL OF YOU, it beats the hell out of worrying if he's going to do me the we he does her, or if he truly means the things he says, or if he's going to call or whatever. Its easier to miss him and the good times, than to be with him hoping the good times will stay.

@RomainianSagg, your right. But surely you must understand that what you suggested would've been easier said than done. I tried to leave. But picture it being your very FIRST true love.You've met all of his fam, they love you, he adores you, everything seems perfect. Then BOOM! He has a gf, goodbye to all hopes, dreams and fu* your feelings time to give him up. Its not that easy. In my eyes i met a single man that loved me dearly..thats the "fake" image he gave me to work with. True, once i found out it was fake i should've left and "stayed gone" but....i just didnt...and my hearbreak was the consequences. 😢

whoops i meant break the news bout his "GF"!LOL. sorry yall typo in my post above.

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whoops i meant break the news bout his "GF"!LOL. sorry yall typo in my post above.

I understand you 🙂 it is very hard and especially if it is the first time. but this is natural and all of us go though this so that we can get stronger. next time you will automatically be more careful. and every time you get hurt the more cautious you become. you will be more prepared and you will not get as hurt as you did the first time but you never know.

just think of the bad things he did too you and how he lied too you and learn too hate him as that will make it easier 🙂

i dunno if i can hate him. i dont hate any of my ex's. usually i give myself time to get over the situation until im too tired of missing them, then i get over them. However the big test to truly see if im over them...im able to become really cool with my ex's once im over them. As you guys can guess...i haven't bumped into him yet, n honestly i dont want to. im afraid im not where i need to be with this whole thing. otherwise i wouldn't be writing this thread huh...lol

i meant the big test to see if im over them, is when i see them in the flesh face to face after the break-up. If their presence has no effect, im cured of my love-sickness.lol. If i get goosbumps, wanna run and hide, or my stomach starts to feel like i just got on the fastest craziest ride at Cedar Point, then we still have work to do and you people will be hearing from me 4 a couple more weeks.lol

Women always have the upper hand. And libras aren't pushovers. They are very wise people, I've known alot. Scorpios are the ones who are push overs and deep as a puddle.

Also, I'm really sorry to hear this pink libra😢 I think libras and sags can have the most amazing connection. I hope you can meet another and have it go the right way. But you live you learn. So I guess there is the lesson!

I had a fall out with a libra too, but after time went by we re connected and became really close friends. Time will heal🙂

Wow after writting that I realized how much I miss him...

Pink I feel your pain ...literally. I went thru a very similar situation with my Sag but worst. But if I offers you any comfort I think us libra women are able to have a special hold on sag men even when they don't show it. Only time will heal your wound but my advice to you is too live your life to the fullest (even tho your hurting inside). I don't kno if yall have common friends but if you do make sure that he knows you're not at home crying over him. My venus is in leo so my pride would never let me show him how depressed I was without him. Dating a lot helps too. Even tho most of them are prob duds it helps to keep your self occupied. be mindful not to get caught up on what u wish he could be and deal with the reality of the situation. he can't be trusted. Sag men are very good at turning themselves into the victim then pretending that their so remorseful for what they did that they should let YOU go because you deserve better. He may love you but he's not ready to do the right thing although he knows that he should. Keep your distance for a awhile(because they tend to go back and forth for a lot and us libras tend to be very forgiving) give yourself time to heal from the situation. If you get the chance to get the upper hand again make sure u keep it. And if its meant to be it will. But only when your ready and on your own accord. If not consider yourself lucky. You'll laugh about this one day.

Hey everybody i want to thank u guys soooo much for helping me through this...sorry i haven't replied i have to use the computer at work becuz my internet at home stopped. ;p

@Saggitarius89...i would agree that time heals all wounds. I really want someone i can call my own, but i CANNOT get over the instant attraction i felt with this saggitarius man. He and I were like magnets with super glue. For a minute we couldn't leave one another alone no matter how hard we tried. But in the end he was stronger for both of us. Because although you guys are right libra women are very strong, we tend to hold out when we are truly in love until the bitter end...that way, when its all said and done we can honestly say "we gave it our all"

@Kuniniosmile...u couldn't be more dead on, i've had the pleasure of being involved with aquas i think i like them more for friendship, but there's a connection there too. However it couldn't hold a candle to the connection between sagg man and libra woman. Opposites attract like crazy here.

@Playswithfire83...OMG!U hit it right on the nosle when describing my sagg guy.FINALLY,another survivor from the sagg sting.lol. And its funny you mentioned if we have mutual friends because actually during our time together he had me around alot of his friends and especially his family.So im friends with alot of them on fb.Just recently like this past weekend i ran into his brother at the club he gave me a really big hug and invited me over to his table to eat with them.My bestfriend said that if "he"(meaning my ex)was there,then in no way should i go over to "his" table. Make them all come to us. Besides she and my other friend wasn't budging off that dance floor.lol.But i must say i was looking really cute i had jus got my hair done.His brother n cousin wound up coming2 the dance floor and dancing and partying with me n my girls.Everyone had a really good time. He wasnt there tho. At first i was sad that he wasn't there, but then i realized that it wasnt such a bad thing but rather good becuz i was in no way ready to face him. Plus my ex is the type to bring his gf to the club,(we did it all the time, i dunno how he treats ole girl) but he and i partied all the time together. If he woulda been there with her, im sure i woulda lost it.So i was glad.Pluse my bestie says, its good he wasnt there becuz his brother is going to tell him how cool i was n how good i looked, plus it will show that after 3 mths im not at home crying over him 🙂

the same effect happens with libra men and sag woman....

lol. i wouldn't know...but i would believe it dmv