So Over it

This topic was created in the Sagittarius forum by scorpdiva on Saturday, August 17, 2013 and has 28 replies.

Understanding Sagittarius Relationships and Emotional Boundaries

Sagittarius individuals value honesty and independence in relationships. When trust is broken or games are played, it can lead to frustration and emotional distance. Recognizing signs of disrespect or dishonesty helps you protect your well-being and move forward. Maintaining clear boundaries allows you to enjoy life while avoiding unnecessary emotional stress.

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@scorpdiva
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Hey all you sags, I have not been here in a while so I thought today I would come give updates and just get everyone opinions. So the Sagg that I was so in love with and those feelings are still here is just working my last nerve, we hadn't talk since Dec of 2012, then my grandmother pass in April of this year and he knew all about her so we talk about all that. So at that point we texted a little and talk but then his grandmother was in the hospital so he didn't text and I just stop texting around May and I just continue dating others you know living my life as a single women should. So two weeks ago I got a weird messages on FB as a matter of fact two messages from two random people and the funny thing is the two people were friends on there, so I did some digging and one page seem made up and the other seem real. Well the guys were messages me like are you single? you are pretty? and etc, so I did some digging and ask the one guy if he knew the other and told them both I though it was a joke, so the one profile that was fake then sent me a pic of their private area, now me and this sagg has been off and on for 3 years so of course I know how his penis look and this was it. And I was just so over it, I don't understand why he has to keep playing these games, it is so fucking stupid just be a man about it. So I just responded I know this dick and can you stop playing then I discontinue the conversation and we have not talked since then. I also for a while continue to get text messages from some random person and I think that was him too, I am just confuse at this point and I am over it. I still love him but I am enjoying life right now and if he can't be real I will pass...

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@scorpdiva
15 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by Sag89
I'm sorry scorp diva. Doesn't he have a Pisces moon? Those ppl are insane

Yes he does, thanks Sagg 89
it's really a helpless situation I just have a Taurus moon soon it takes me longer to get over relationship but his too shall pass.

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@scorpdiva
15 Years1,000+ Posts

IKR dmv, it's like REALLY.....

it most likely is that sagg, the problem with SOME sagg men is that they don't wanna face the problem head on and hide behind something less serious.

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@MsSag86
13 Years

Posted by scorpdiva
IKR dmv, it's like REALLY.....

it most likely is that sagg, the problem with SOME sagg men is that they don't wanna face the problem head on and hide behind something less serious.

Is it like a 326650 weird type number I'm getting the same weird shit

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@scorpdiva
15 Years1,000+ Posts

well I guess he finally man up, I got a txt message last night from the Sagg saying he was thinking about me and wanted to say hi.
we txt back and forth for a lil bit asking how one another was doing and that's it.. so idk how I should continue going forth any thoughts..

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@scorpdiva
15 Years1,000+ Posts

good ?
I feel like if we are not together then he doesn't give me friendship, like now I don't know what he wants but the feelings are too strong for only a friendship ifu know what I mean.

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@DMV
15 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius

Posted by scorpdiva
well I guess he finally man up, I got a txt message last night from the Sagg saying he was thinking about me and wanted to say hi.
we txt back and forth for a lil bit asking how one another was doing and that's it.. so idk how I should continue going forth any thoughts..

i think you should be willing to do whatever. forget the past and enjoy the moment.

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@DMV
15 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius

Posted by scorpdiva
good ?
I feel like if we are not together then he doesn't give me friendship, like now I don't know what he wants but the feelings are too strong for only a friendship ifu know what I mean.

i know exactly what you mean. do u give him friendship when you arent together?

at times, my scorp paralyzes me. i just want to stare at him and say nothing.

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@scorpdiva
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@dmv.. I agree, I didn't bring up any thing of the past and hopefully this long break has made us both better this time around.. we went 9 mth without seeingech other and three and four months at a time with no communication.. and I thing it got to him, it affected me to ofcourse but he changed his# not me.

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@scorpdiva
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Posted by DMV

Posted by scorpdiva
good ?
I feel like if we are not together then he doesn't give me friendship, like now I don't know what he wants but the feelings are too strong for only a friendship ifu know what I mean.

i know exactly what you mean. do u give him friendship when you arent together?

at times, my scorp paralyzes me. i just want to stare at him and say nothing.

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he doesn't talk to me when we are not together and when we do its very matter of a fact like he doesn't say much when I am being sincerely friendly.

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@DMV
15 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius

Posted by scorpdiva

Posted by DMV

Posted by scorpdiva
good ?
I feel like if we are not together then he doesn't give me friendship, like now I don't know what he wants but the feelings are too strong for only a friendship ifu know what I mean.

i know exactly what you mean. do u give him friendship when you arent together?

at times, my scorp paralyzes me. i just want to stare at him and say nothing.

he doesn't talk to me when we are not together and when we do its very matter of a fact like he doesn't say much when I am being sincerely friendly.

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he honestly doesnt know what to say. hes worried to say the wrong thing. i dont think hes hurt nemore, just a bit "i dont know what to say"

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@DMV
15 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius

Posted by scorpdiva
@dmv.. I agree, I didn't bring up any thing of the past and hopefully this long break has made us both better this time around.. we went 9 mth without seeingech other and three and four months at a time with no communication.. and I thing it got to him, it affected me to ofcourse but he changed his# not me.

so this 9 month shit is normal?? i havent slept with my scorp in over a year, but recently things have been warming between us.

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Posted by DMV

Posted by scorpdiva
@dmv.. I agree, I didn't bring up any thing of the past and hopefully this long break has made us both better this time around.. we went 9 mth without seeingech other and three and four months at a time with no communication.. and I thing it got to him, it affected me to ofcourse but he changed his# not me.

so this 9 month shit is normal?? i havent slept with my scorp in over a year, but recently things have been warming between us.

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apparently... but once we get together I know it would be on... yeah we are warming up but I gotta let him take the leave cause if not we won't be talking for another nine mths

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@scorpdiva
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a little of both but mostly to avoid conflict, I never realize how aggressive I can be a sometimes I think a men just wants or need a chance to prove his self without me being demanded..

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@scorpdiva
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and also it was so weird when I got the txt and when I read it, I instantly knew it was him he is the only men to ever spell my name right, lol..
I have a long ghetto name and he is the only one who uses it correctly and I got so excited, that shit is crazy after being apart for so long...

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@DMV
15 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius

Posted by scorpdiva
and also it was so weird when I got the txt and when I read it, I instantly knew it was him he is the only men to ever spell my name right, lol..
I have a long ghetto name and he is the only one who uses it correctly and I got so excited, that shit is crazy after being apart for so long...

gurl run with it 🙂 its good that you realize that you can pull back a bit and let him lead.

me and the scorp were at a club over the weekend and he came up to me and told me that i was the best looking chick in the club; that i killed dem bitches. i thanked him but i called him the next day to thank him again. we chatted for the next couple of hours.

that shit aint never happened.

it wasnt even superficial convo. we talked about other peoples relationships, but i know he was trying to draw a tangent.

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@Lovebeinasag
12 YearsSagittarius

The whole fake FB, is he wanted to see ur response,for some reason he feels if he asks u,it's putting himself out there ,sags feel unprotected, if r feelings r known! Feelings make u vulnerable ,we cant stand that!!But asked upfront we won't lie, but leave out important details,specifics, Wanting freedom, n,also to want meaningful love, conflicts us daily! N wht seems insane behavior to u, is a way of getting, information!N we only act that way if we care,we don't realize how ridiculous it was, n we feel guilt for it! which makes us run away, cuz ur right,sags don't want to face real problems, we like to skip that chapter n get back to the fun parts of life, never dated a Scorpio but my best friend for the last 24 years is a Scorpio n she gets mad at me constantly cuz ill go days without responding to a text or ill forget some important date, but she knows I don't mean to treat her feelings so loosely, I just generally forget her text, didnt feel like texting, or didnt think it was a big deal n meant to respond but got busy, n her needing to b so in control drives me crazy sometimes ,But whn i need someone to tell me the reality not what i want to pretend to b the reality she will! it helps whn trying to understand something's, n she knows I'm here if she needs me but if not to call whn shes in a better mood! N thats things u except over time from some1, I know u Scorpio women r strong,n will get out what u need too, n b done with a man that dosent know ur worth! But secretly wish thy would call n b upfront, a man that challenges u intrigues u, So my advice is to tell him what u need n want n if he still plays,just cut him out, nowif u do that, he may quietly try to charm a way back in, without u noticing, sags need drama or things don't seem worthwhile ,yeah its messed up! He may b crazy, if he can't understand y u don't want him, even if he knows y, in his head u were suppose to act different! or he could leave u alone n think if it's meant to b that things will work ,who knows!!ur way to beautiful,caring to waste time on who can't treat u right,n life's to short ! finding happiness with urself is hard enough, but inner peace n love can't b played with! I'm done writing my book! If it dosent make sense sorry, my rambling can sometimes be incoherent! So if its helpful great, if not just forget u read it, I won't b offended, I've already forgotten what I wrote anyway! Lol

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@scorpdiva
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@lovebeinasag you made a lot of since thanks on the advice and your take on the situation..I love him and will see where we can go this time around and I will make my intentions very clear to him and if he can't step up this time it's definitely time to move on.

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@DMV, me and my sag can talk for hours and I like how he started the convo by talking you how god you looked he knows you a little I would say and he wanted to make you feel special and open up the lines of communication.

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@Thuwaiba
12 Years

@scorpdiva I ve broken up wiv my Sagittarius man two weeks ago ! I love him so much ! He broke up with me he said he missed his freedom ! I have been thru think an thin for him fo the last 2years! I believed he love me too . Do u think he ll come back ?

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15 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius

Posted by Thuwaiba
@scorpdiva I ve broken up wiv my Sagittarius man two weeks ago ! I love him so much ! He broke up with me he said he missed his freedom ! I have been thru think an thin for him fo the last 2years! I believed he love me too . Do u think he ll come back ?

give thanks that he broke up with you when he did. i smell a cheater and so does he. he's trying to change his ways from the start gate.

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Posted by Thuwaiba
@scorpdiva I ve broken up wiv my Sagittarius man two weeks ago ! I love him so much ! He broke up with me he said he missed his freedom ! I have been thru think an thin for him fo the last 2years! I believed he love me too . Do u think he ll come back ?

Take DMV advice, he broke up with you for a reason and I always believe if it is meant to be he will come back until then it will hurt but you need to find a hobby or something to take your mind off of the situation at hand.